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Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? 1
#23545869 - 08/16/16 01:27 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I am about to graduate in a year. a tad late for my age (I spent extra time in Community College, and took a quarter here and there off. Changed my major etc.)
Anyways, I am sort of surprised by how different of a person I am now versus in high school. I don't keep contact with anyone in high school really. Probably about 5 people. But I would say 70% of them I couldn't care less about them. The people I hung out with every weekend are not at all the people I stay in contact with
I would say I plan on keeping in contact with most of my college friends. Prolly about 75% of my friend group/circle. I would like to think that I have "found myself" more in college so I will stay the same
Brings me to the main question of this thread. tl:dr; How similar are you to the person you were in high school? What about college? out of the top 10 non-family members you associate with; approx what percent of them are from high school versus college versus "other"? what are the significant avenues through which people make friends/meet girls outside of college and high school?
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: topdog82]
#23545896 - 08/16/16 01:57 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I could give a fuck less about the vast majority i went to class with. I have a few friends that have stuck together with me, but people are transient in life. on the other hand, part of life is meeting new people and making new friends.
I'd say i've grown a lot more since i've been out of hs, college was highshool part two but better. now that i've been out of college, i know what i want to study, and i'm having a really hard time finding my way back. i need resources and people to talk to and those are hard to come by.
but yeah, i've gained a lot more confidence in myself over the years and have learned a lot about others and myself and dealing with the world. always going to be a student in life, but that's good.
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: topdog82]
#23545897 - 08/16/16 01:58 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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My circle is getting smaller and smaller the older I get. I pretty much hang out with my wife and thats about it. I have plenty of friends. I could pop into any bar in town and know somebody there, but theres not many I would choose to be around. I lost contact with most friends from high school long ago. I still talk with maybe 2-3 once or twice a year.
I remember reading somewhere that your current personality is influenced by a very small group of individuals whom you spend the most time with. After going to college and spending most of my time working and researching with professors and other professionals, I noticed an obvious personality change and soon enough, I lost all interest and contact with most of my friends. I've kinda turned into a hermit. Ive become much more career driven and I'm happy with it.
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: I_was_the_walrus]
#23545908 - 08/16/16 02:18 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I_was_the_walrus said: My circle is getting smaller and smaller the older I get. I pretty much hang out with my wife and thats about it. I have plenty of friends. I could pop into any bar in town and know somebody there, but theres not many I would choose to be around. I lost contact with most friends from high school long ago. I still talk with maybe 2-3 once or twice a year.
I remember reading somewhere that your current personality is influenced by a very small group of individuals whom you spend the most time with. After going to college and spending most of my time working and researching with professors and other professionals, I noticed an obvious personality change and soon enough, I lost all interest and contact with most of my friends. I've kinda turned into a hermit. Ive become much more career driven and I'm happy with it.
How old are you? I am told that psychology studies prove that as we get older, we tend to be more introverted and stick only to deeper connectiosn
And funny you mention that you are a hermit. I am sort of a hermit already. I am generally introverted. There are a few of my friends who basically helped me out and cheered meu up when I was on the brink of depression. I would prolly take a bullet for a handful of my college friends. Would you say that you felt the same about your friends at the time?
Also; would you say that most of your friends are like that too? introverteD?
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: topdog82]
#23545916 - 08/16/16 02:38 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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topdog82 said: Brings me to the main question of this thread. tl:dr; How similar are you to the person you were in high school? What about college? out of the top 10 non-family members you associate with; approx what percent of them are from high school versus college versus "other"? what are the significant avenues through which people make friends/meet girls outside of college and high school?
1. Almost completely different. Opposite, practically. In school I was an aggressive, lying, theiving POS who thought he was always right.
2. 0%
3. Past jobs account for 2/4 of my 'inner circle'. 1/4 from my old gym. 1/4 from growing up on the same road.
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#23545937 - 08/16/16 03:09 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I have 2 real friends from school and a couple other people I just buy drugs from here and there. One of those friends I've known since before high school though, probably since around 6th grade. That friendship all began with a really loud fart during a moment of silence on the wooden gym floor
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: topdog82]
#23545941 - 08/16/16 03:21 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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High school for me was over 16 years ago... I'm still best friends with my best friend/bandmate/tripping buddy from high school. Bros4lyfe. We went through heaven and hell together. Keep in touch with a couple others. Pretty much lost contact with everyone else. My old circle of friends is massive but these days I'm pretty much a total hermit. I spend time with my woman and that's about it. Might hang out with a friend or meet up with some people twice a month or something. I don't really have time to socialize anyway. I like it this way. I know a whole lot of people but I don't have any social obligations unless my chick forces me... I like to just do my own thing.
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: Shroomism]
#23545956 - 08/16/16 03:52 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Don't you guys feel like your wife has you by the balls? I feel like I personally need a healthy mix of both my lady (when I have one) and the bros. I would hate to just kick it with my lady all day. But then again maybe you guys really love your wives
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: topdog82]
#23545970 - 08/16/16 04:12 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I used to make an effort to talk to all my old friends from my old stomping ground when I moved to Germany. However, I soon realized all my efforts to communicate through either video chat or PMs were a one way street. People I have known since I was 16 have no urger to even say hello how are you doing anymore. So I just stopped kinda even saying hello. The people I see most knowadays are all my friends I see everyday on Tinychat.
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: topdog82]
#23545976 - 08/16/16 04:18 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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topdog82 said: Don't you guys feel like your wife has you by the balls? I feel like I personally need a healthy mix of both my lady (when I have one) and the bros. I would hate to just kick it with my lady all day. But then again maybe you guys really love your wives
You'll understand if/when you get married. Friends always will be important but as they progress with wife's/children and you progress with your own you realise you simply have fewer and fewer opportunities to get quality time in, due to your own, and their commitments. Even my closest two I only get to have a proper night with a few times a year.
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#23545991 - 08/16/16 04:46 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I have a group of friends that have all been hanging out since we were little kids....some of us even chilling while in the womb, as our moms were friends. The bond within this group is something beyond words. Truly family. And it's defintiely a rare thing. I feel bad for all folks that don't have that.
And as far wives & kids go, that's already a thing for some, and it hasn't diminished the bond at all. We all still hang out. Not as much as previously, but even those of us that are unmarried are busy. Such is life. But the wives have become a part of this group. So not much has changed.
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: Dark_Star]
#23546191 - 08/16/16 07:40 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I still have good friends from my pre-teen years, yes, but we did'nt go to the same schools. I have zero friends left from school. At the time i thought i was making good bonds but i was mistaken. For a few years after school i remained friends with a few from school, but that's probably only because i was selling them pot. When i stopped selling pot, my work friends stopped hanging out with me too. When friendship is founded on an obligation like school or work, i feel that it's likely to be much flakier than a friendship that comes about from meeting someone and having the mutual desire to chill with each other.
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: lavod]
#23546196 - 08/16/16 07:44 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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My best friend from elementary school and I still are great friends now. Not for long though - he has ALS and hes probably going to go out fast if he gives in to it.
His biggest regret is that he has to leave his family and loved ones behind and probably die before his mother
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: Asante]
#23546416 - 08/16/16 09:42 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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only maybe 2-3. High school was a bit "meh" so I didn't keep much contact after graduating. I met some good friends in college, but afterwards another big move and careers got in the way. In the years since, kids are in the way. Life is hard.
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#23546445 - 08/16/16 09:55 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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topdog82 said: Don't you guys feel like your wife has you by the balls? I feel like I personally need a healthy mix of both my lady (when I have one) and the bros. I would hate to just kick it with my lady all day. But then again maybe you guys really love your wives
You'll understand if/when you get married. Friends always will be important but as they progress with wife's/children and you progress with your own you realise you simply have fewer and fewer opportunities to get quality time in, due to your own, and their commitments. Even my closest two I only get to have a proper night with a few times a year.
It seems like the larger majority of people who posted here still have some friends they are close to. But college and high school have little to do with that. And also; I guess it was implied that when you married your wife/you guy smarried your wives that you loved each other and expected to spend most waking hours together. So I guess I should have expected that
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: topdog82]
#23546753 - 08/16/16 12:32 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I have kept in touch with one guy from my childhood and one high school friend. I spent 6 years in college/university. I kept in touch with noone
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: Patlal]
#23552308 - 08/18/16 05:45 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Patlal said: I have kept in touch with one guy from my childhood and one high school friend. I spent 6 years in college/university. I kept in touch with noone
you just make no friends? Or did all those people you were so close to just disappear from your life?
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: topdog82]
#23552311 - 08/18/16 05:46 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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what about from the 22ish years to 30ish years? Who were your friends? And where did you meet new ones?
I am pretty surprised that many of you guys just cut so many people off. I guess thats what time does?
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: topdog82]
#23552335 - 08/18/16 06:12 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I still keep in touch with a lot of people from my past. Well the ones worth keeping around. People moving forward. That's why hate in Facebook all you want but there is no way I'd still be in relative contact with a lot of people. I can go to all over the lower 48 and find an old friend.
The people I grew up with in Alaska just scattered. Cool stuff.
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Re: Still keep contact with your high school friends? College friends? [Re: Enjoywho]
#23552556 - 08/18/16 08:12 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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The only person that I really keep in touch with is my GF....her and i were just friends in HS and hadn't seen each other in 35 yrs. It's funny how those things go...when we met again, it was like we were never apart. She is now my BFF and my lover.
Three of my best friends in school died before they hit 21. Two suicides and a car wreck...I moved away and never kept tabs with any of the others although I do see friend requests on fb occasionally which I mostly ignore.
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