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#23545755 - 08/15/16 11:46 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I see them as prime opportunities for personal growth. As someone that's had lots and lots of them over the course of my life, I can attest to this. You can't get better without tearing down what you once were, without having first had the problem arisen right in front of your face, allowing you to be aware of the problem, and to know you need to fix something.
What do you guys think about meltdowns?
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Re: Meltdowns. [Re: 404]
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What exactly do you mean by meltdowns?
Like panic attacks, psychotic breaks, temper tantrums, what?
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Moonshoe said: What exactly do you mean by meltdowns?
Like panic attacks, psychotic breaks, temper tantrums, what?
melt harder brah
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#23546256 - 08/16/16 08:17 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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They don't seem to help Bodhi, he just blames alcohol and sweeps it all under the rug.
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Re: Meltdowns. [Re: 404]
#23546381 - 08/16/16 09:20 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Waves of depression keep the waters moving...
great for creativity and growth.
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Moonshoe said: What exactly do you mean by meltdowns?
Like panic attacks, psychotic breaks, temper tantrums, what?
definitely not the first two, and i don't think the third one you mentioned really exemplifies what i'm talking about. Meltdowns. getting absolutely pissed off at whatever and just losing your shit over it.
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Re: Meltdowns. [Re: 404]
#23546605 - 08/16/16 11:18 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I think nuclear meltdowns cause a lot of harm to the environment and life in general
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Re: Meltdowns. [Re: 404]
#23546608 - 08/16/16 11:20 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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So like a huge outburst of anger? Like a fit of rage?
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#23546665 - 08/16/16 11:51 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I agree but it will undoubtedly differ depending on the person experiencing the meltdown. For people like you and me and others, we can blow up and then we can look back on it and realize how ridiculous it was to get that mad or find reasons to grow from the experience and handle it better if that situation presents itself in the future because we're introspective enough to process why we felt that way or even consider why it was stupid in the first place or consider the person on the receiving end of our meltdown and their perspective making you question the way you come off to others and want to change it.
Some people don't consider anyone other then themselves or people who they aren't very close with, someone who isn't introspective or think back about their actions and feelings might just keep blowing up and never learn a thing from it, never finding fault in their own behavior or considering why it might of been overboard to get that mad over something in the first place. They just move on from it and don't consider that there may be a better way to handle it or consider the other person or instead of trying to grow from it just try to find reasons to justify that kind of behavior and why they're right to blow up like that (even though there are times when it can be justified IMO)
I don't really have meltdowns too much anymore, or it would take a lot for me to really get mad and freak out about it, got most of it out of my system growing up when I didn't realize how badly I was handling myself and my actions from day to day, literally fought someone every other day or was getting suspended from school or forced therapy sessions and anyone who did know me from that point in my life (including my parents ) can't believe I am who I am today considering who I always was growing up, no one would of ever thought that I'd become a fairly calm person who is pretty passive on most things anymore and fairly responsible even though I was a very selfish and angry person for the majority of my life who barely considered anyone else's feelings or thoughts other then my own. (thanks you drugs for forcing me to think outside of my own perspective )
But in some sense all the meltdowns I did have led me to be the person I am now and realizing all the mistakes I was making, and while that's extremely far from perfect, it's far better then where it was heading, there's still a lot of regret though especially considering I was a complete asshole up until I turned 18-19 or so but the only thing you can do about that is move on and try not to make the same mistakes. So while I try to avoid meltdowns, they can definitely be beneficial depending on the person
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Re: Meltdowns. [Re: 404]
#23546962 - 08/16/16 01:47 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I thought you meant like nervous breakdowns, not fits of rage.
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Re: Meltdowns. [Re: shadyy]
#23546982 - 08/16/16 01:56 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I guess you could lump those in as well, as they can make you aware of something that's not going right somewhere in your life. These are all opportunities for personal growth, not that they will be acted on. There are people that choose not to acknowledge their own faults and continue on like nothing is wrong
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#23547048 - 08/16/16 02:24 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Every meltdown is an opportunity for growth.
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Re: Meltdowns. [Re: koods]
#23547123 - 08/16/16 02:51 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I suck.
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Re: Meltdowns. [Re: 404]
#23552808 - 08/18/16 10:03 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I have need been prone to temper or fits of rage / angry outbursts.
The meltdowns I have had are panic attacks , or issues with overusing a drug, and a psychotic break, or the rare relationship meltdown / blow out fight with my wife.
Anger has always been her issue , anxiety and depression and addiction issues being mine.
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Just make sure you stay healthy during meltdowns or it can go from bad to life threatening worse. Dehydration will fuck you up. I guess I should specify this relates so psychotic/panic/skitzo meltdowns.
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#23553203 - 08/18/16 12:21 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sleep is most important , as soon as a psychotic break is developing sleep is the best antidote , as soon and as long as possible. Using sedatives if needed. Psychosis worsens exponentially with sleep deprivation.
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SirShroomsAlott said: I agree but it will undoubtedly differ depending on the person experiencing the meltdown. For people like you and me and others, we can blow up and then we can look back on it and realize how ridiculous it was to get that mad or find reasons to grow from the experience and handle it better if that situation presents itself in the future because we're introspective enough to process why we felt that way or even consider why it was stupid in the first place or consider the person on the receiving end of our meltdown and their perspective making you question the way you come off to others and want to change it.
Some people don't consider anyone other then themselves or people who they aren't very close with, someone who isn't introspective or think back about their actions and feelings might just keep blowing up and never learn a thing from it, never finding fault in their own behavior or considering why it might of been overboard to get that mad over something in the first place. They just move on from it and don't consider that there may be a better way to handle it or consider the other person or instead of trying to grow from it just try to find reasons to justify that kind of behavior and why they're right to blow up like that (even though there are times when it can be justified IMO)
I don't really have meltdowns too much anymore, or it would take a lot for me to really get mad and freak out about it, got most of it out of my system growing up when I didn't realize how badly I was handling myself and my actions from day to day, literally fought someone every other day or was getting suspended from school or forced therapy sessions and anyone who did know me from that point in my life (including my parents ) can't believe I am who I am today considering who I always was growing up, no one would of ever thought that I'd become a fairly calm person who is pretty passive on most things anymore and fairly responsible even though I was a very selfish and angry person for the majority of my life who barely considered anyone else's feelings or thoughts other then my own. (thanks you drugs for forcing me to think outside of my own perspective )
But in some sense all the meltdowns I did have led me to be the person I am now and realizing all the mistakes I was making, and while that's extremely far from perfect, it's far better then where it was heading, there's still a lot of regret though especially considering I was a complete asshole up until I turned 18-19 or so but the only thing you can do about that is move on and try not to make the same mistakes. So while I try to avoid meltdowns, they can definitely be beneficial depending on the person
Very well said. I agree, I think they can be opportunities for growth, but often aren't... as SSAL mentioned, some people lack the qualities of introspection and insightfulness that it takes to learn from a melt. But I also think that there's a dangerously blurry line between the sort of meltdown that somebody can learn and grow from, and the sort of meltdown that cripples their emotional and psychological health without offering any opportunity for growth at all. I have really mixed feelings about troll culture for those reasons, I think sometimes it's fun, sometimes it's entertaining, sometimes it's constructive. But it can also be mean, degrading and cruel. People kill themselves over trolling. It's something to bear in mind as a reminder to exercise due caution, lest we turn into bullies.
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I feel like I still don't really understand what meltdown means to the OP and others .
Is it just like acting outrageously ? Yelling and screaming ?
Throwing stuff ?
I have known some challenged children to have meltdowns pretty regularly, but I can't really remember any adults doing it in my experience.
People have arguments , get angry, but "'meltdown"?
I can't think of anyone I know ever having an episode I would use that word to describe.
Anything can be an opportunity for growth , but I imagine regular meltdowns is more a sign that you NEED personal growth.
Just like getting sick is an opportunity to get healthy, but more a sign you weren't taking care of your health to begin with.
Obviously melt downs, barring extreme circumstances , indicates some kind of problem, be it mental health issues, anger management problems, unhealthy relationships etc .
I think it's safe to say that under normal conditions, a healthy, mature, well adjusted adult would not normally melt down but would find other ways to cope with, express or respond to their feelings and circumstances.
When children have melt downs it's because they haven't yet leaned to control themselves in a mature way.
If an adult is still doing so , especially often or repeatedly, it would seem to suggest either mental health issues or immaturity , or extreme stress and unbearable circumstances.
Assuming I understand what is mean by melt down , which I am still not sure that I do.
I'm not trying to put anyone down by saying that, just to say that from my perspective having melt downs implies you need to change something or work on something . An opportunity for growth absolutely, but it would always be better to start working on those underlying causes before the meltdown.
There is no reason you need to wait for a meltdown to work on yourself and your life, but if you have one it's a clear sign there is a problem to be addressed.
Maybe you hate your job and need a new one, maybe your girlfriend and you have a toxic relationship, maybe you need anger management , regular exercise, therapy or meditation, maybe you drink too much etc etc...
If no problems like this exist, why else would melt downs occur ?
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Re: Meltdowns. [Re: 404]
#23553267 - 08/18/16 12:58 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I just don't feel anger almost ever. It's just a rare emotion for me. Instead I tend to feel annoyed, frustrated, anxious, stressed, depressed, etc. in situations that most people might feel angry.
For example, some guy does something really stupid on the freeway and almost crashes into me. For most people I think that would make them angry. I would mainly get stressed and anxious. If someone yelled a bunch of insults at me, I'd mainly feel anxiety and depression. If someone really tore into me over and over and really tried to melt me on the shroomery, I'd mainly feel depressed.
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