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Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them?
#23532025 - 08/11/16 04:17 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I feel like there are 2 kinds of people in this situation. Those who try to stop their intoxicated friends from driving, and those who allow it.
By intoxicated I mean, fucked up or what have you.
Personally, I always end up allowing it, which I understand is bad, but Ive been guilty of driving intoxicated, and every time i did, I was able to stay focused and drive safely. Theres also been times where I decided I was too drunk to drive and chose not to.
Sometimes when in groups, a friend will be relentlessly trying to stop someone from driving, and they look at me and say, "wtf man? You think it's OK for him to drive home like this?" And I'm usually like "probably not, but, I think that he should be the one to judge that " -in this particular situation, the drunk guy ended up driving home, and did so without any consequences.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: trees]
#23532043 - 08/11/16 04:22 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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If someone's clearly too intoxicated to drive, I'm gonna try to stop them. Otherwise, I assume they know their own limits.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: trees]
#23532044 - 08/11/16 04:22 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yea it's their choice and i'm not really into babysitting.
I'll try to suggest that they don't go. maybe even step in front of the door and tell them no but if they start getting violent/angry about it then i'm not going to get in an altercation trying to control what another adult does.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: trees]
#23532070 - 08/11/16 04:28 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Definite no. I've had a DWAI, and they aren't fun. Add to that the risk of hurting people as well. If driving drunk is a habit for some people, it's only a matter of time before they are literally too drunk to drive straight at all and are at a huge risk to themselves and everyone else.
If someone doesn't have the money for a cab on hand, then they are honestly too broke to be drinking anyway. Should always plan shit out if you're going to drink far away from home. Nearly 1/3rd of all vehicular death is caused by drinking at the wheel.
When I went through my alcohol and driving classes for my DWAI, I was always shocked at the people with their 4th and 5th DUIs. It's pathetic, but if you're an alcoholic then you are always drunk and will need to drive eventually so I suppose that's the root of the problem.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: PatrickKn]
#23532086 - 08/11/16 04:34 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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If I were in the situation where a wasted friend wanted to drive, I'd probably say no.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: PatrickKn]
#23532088 - 08/11/16 04:35 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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PatrickKn said:
If someone doesn't have the money for a cab on hand, then they are honestly too broke to be drinking anyway.
Some people are just assholes though and insist on driving because they don't percieve themselves as being unfit to do so.
I've just had so many bad experiences trying to physically restrain drunk people. Usually my brother.
I remember one night i had him pinned down and he was punching me in the head and my friends were like "just choke him out" which i could've but i just couldn't bring myself to do it so i let him tire himself out on my head.
A few months later we got trashed and he wouldn't get out of the drivers seat so i i just rode with him to make sure he didn't die. he was so trashed he was slumped against the door (pulling the wheel with him)and not even really watching the road. i was pulling the wheel to the right to compensate and we managed to make it home after only hitting one other car. 
i seriously think he'd have died or killed someone had he gone alone.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: Apostle]
#23532098 - 08/11/16 04:36 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I've been know to pay for my friends uber rides when they refuse to see reason.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: trees]
#23532195 - 08/11/16 05:01 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I was always designated driver when younger because I wasn't huge into alcohol, would just sit at parties and smoke weed with people, I didn't mind at all.
But if a friend tried to leave who had been drinking a good bit, I would not let them until I could help them, or someone else could help them.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: trees]
#23532220 - 08/11/16 05:07 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Theyre grown ass adults. Ill caution them. Offer them an alternative. If they insist, thats all on them.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: Lucis]
#23532225 - 08/11/16 05:10 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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It depends on how intoxicated they are. I certainly don't take anyone's keys away but I'll definitely discourage friends who are tripping or very drunk from driving.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: Bodhi of Ankou] 2
#23532248 - 08/11/16 05:21 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Bodhi of Ankou said: Theyre grown ass adults. Ill caution them. Offer them an alternative. If they insist, thats all on them.
Can you honestly say you would let a friend (someone you care about, by definition) drive drunk? I would try to stop someone that I didn't know from driving drunk, because it's ethically and legally the right thing to do. I wouldn't "try" and stop a friend from driving drunk, I would just stop them, like a "grown ass adult".
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: falsereality]
#23532259 - 08/11/16 05:24 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I wish mine were pro-stopping me, or not encouraging, I'm on my second DUI charge.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: falsereality]
#23532267 - 08/11/16 05:29 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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On my 20th birthday we were all at my buddys house drinking and I ended up getting hammered and I tried to drive home. My friends ended up taking my keys, but I thought I was sneaky because I had a spare key in wallet. So I went out the front door and walked around to the back all sneaky like but they were waiting for me lol. I kept trying to get to my truck and finally my one buddy was like "Seriously you aren't driving, if you try to go in your truck again I'm knocking you the fuck out" I was drunk and stupid enough to say "do it" and thats all she wrote.
My friend who punched me happened to be a 220lbs body builder so that one punch had me out for a few minutes. I came to on the couch with a bag of frozen corn on my face and after that I just passed back out. When I woke up the next day my friends were super worried I was gonna be pissed, but I actually thanked them for stopping me from driving, even though stopping me required him punching me on my birthday
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: FruitOfLife] 1
#23532273 - 08/11/16 05:34 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I would, and have, stopped people from driving drunk before. To the extent I ended up half way down the road on someone's bonnet before.
As I said in the other thread; one of my best friends brothers was hit by a drink driver and is now brain damaged, permanently disabled, and unable to look after himself. When you've seen that damage with your own eyes you know just how far reaching into so many lives it goes.
If the people I love wanna go out and risk their own lives that's one thing (I do so myself), but if they're risking other peoples wellbeing I'm not gonna stand aside and let it happen.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: trees]
#23532309 - 08/11/16 05:48 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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My friends wouldn't try to drive while intoxicated.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: trees]
#23532382 - 08/11/16 06:14 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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No, i dont, and i never would, and its pretty disappointing to see that people here hide under a guise of "they're an adult" to let their friends put their own lives and the lives of innocent people at risk because they didnt have enough of a spine to stop them, or wouldnt even call a cab or uber.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: falsereality]
#23532383 - 08/11/16 06:14 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Bodhi of Ankou said: Theyre grown ass adults. Ill caution them. Offer them an alternative. If they insist, thats all on them.
Can you honestly say you would let a friend (someone you care about, by definition) drive drunk? I would try to stop someone that I didn't know from driving drunk, because it's ethically and legally the right thing to do. I wouldn't "try" and stop a friend from driving drunk, I would just stop them, like a "grown ass adult".
With all honesty, yes.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: Bodhi of Ankou]
#23532501 - 08/11/16 07:04 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sure I let them drive... they're my ride home
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: trees]
#23532511 - 08/11/16 07:06 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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If they were at the point where they couldn't walk right and really slurring their speech, then I'd try to stop them.
Otherwise, nope.
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Re: Do you let your intoxicated friends drive? Or do you try to stop them? [Re: modern.shaman]
#23532519 - 08/11/16 07:07 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Friends can ALWAYS sleep over with me.
its a habit we got into as trippers, for safety.
I have a guest bedroom with a made bed and I can always put out mattresses.
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