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anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness 1
#23501717 - 08/02/16 12:24 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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seems like all good i try to do in the world gets taken of advantage of and used. is there no fucking humanity and love anymore in this world? im honesty shocked when people do the right thing these days.... like returning a wallet or helping someone thats obviously in need. becoming more and more like were separated instead of one group of people trying to get by. just making me sad today, whats everyones opinion?
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#23501729 - 08/02/16 12:29 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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its part of maturing, learning when people are not worth the effort.
i agree there is almost a disbelief when people do the right thing and go out of their way because we are so calloused towards anything suffering that is not our own.
just have to keep on keeping on and not let it stop you from doing it when it is the right situation, just can't be every situation.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#23501730 - 08/02/16 12:30 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yeah, this happens to me a lot I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and offer a helping hand when they're in need, and though some people respect it, many others take advantage of it and walk all over me. People are shitty.
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Rebelutionsssss
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like is it so fucking hard to see that you should help someone in need instead of seeing them as prey because they're down? i believe in karma so im going to continue on my path. i feel everyone should treat others how they would want to be
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#23501752 - 08/02/16 12:39 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Agreed.
It's easier to be nice and care than it is to not give a shit for me.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: impatientguy]
#23501803 - 08/02/16 12:53 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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What did you do? Lol. It's possible that you paved their way to walk over you.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#23502069 - 08/02/16 02:20 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Unfortunately, I do notice the tendency in many people to take advantage of others.. "Others" sometimes includes me. I don't wanna shut people out, but I've been growing ever more jaded
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: The5thBeatle]
#23502090 - 08/02/16 02:27 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Knowing what work means to people. It is work to help people. Just interacting is work. I used to get taken advantage of a lot, then I directed my anger into awareness. Still working on elevating but gotta give up on people.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: goop]
#23502426 - 08/02/16 04:09 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yes reb. All my life. My friends are very protective of me because throughout my life . To give an example. I met a friend of my friends one day and he asked if he could crash on the couch. For 2 weeks he ate all my food and lived there. And that was my parents house . So my friends found out what was happening and kind of yelled at him for taking all this food from me and stuff. Basically a group of 4 friends convinced him to leave because I would NOT kick him out. As long as I had the house to myself. There's dozens more stories like that.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Seriously_trippin]
#23502427 - 08/02/16 04:11 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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i think one requirement for something to be considered kindness is for someone somewhere to take advantage of it. the ability to be taken advantage of is what classifies something as kindness.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#23502455 - 08/02/16 04:18 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Nope but most people are pretty decent in these parts, and I'm a good judge of character besides
also there's a world of difference between being kind and being a doormat
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Ezuma]
#23502519 - 08/02/16 04:39 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yeah sometimes. But I put too much of myself out there since I have trouble with regular social interaction. At least I'm a good host I guess... don't let it get you down OP and definitely never let anyone walk on you even if it's hot pussy.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#23502989 - 08/02/16 06:54 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Its happened to me a bit in my life, yes.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Connoisseur]
#23503094 - 08/02/16 07:23 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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everything in this universe serves a purpose. even a doormat. some doormats are more ok with that than others, but it takes nothing away from their ability to be a doormat. meaning your comfort level with what you are has no impact on how much you are like that... historically someone that's a doormat is more likely to make a statement like "it's not ok to be a doormat"... meaning they're less ok with what they are than just not being ok with others being that. like when's the last time you passed over a rug and thought "it's not ok that you're a rug. it's not ok that people walk on you"... not likely. i would hope. i hope this reaches someone that's a doormat and hasn't accepted it yet. acceptance can transform that which is and always will be.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: bass head]
#23503107 - 08/02/16 07:26 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
bass head said: everything in this universe serves a purpose. even a doormat. some doormats are more ok with that than others, but it takes nothing away from their ability to be a doormat. meaning your comfort level with what you are has no impact on how much you are like that... historically someone that's a doormat is more likely to make a statement like "it's not ok to be a doormat"... meaning they're less ok with what they are than just not being ok with others being that. like when the last time you passed over a rug and thought "it's not ok that you're a rug. it's not ok that people walk on you"... not likely. i would hope. i hope this reaches someone that's a doormat and hasn't accepted it yet. acceptance can transform that which is and always will be.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: PatrickKn]
#23503116 - 08/02/16 07:30 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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decent movie lol
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: bass head]
#23503118 - 08/02/16 07:32 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Good books too
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#23503148 - 08/02/16 07:43 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Read the Good Book. It's all in there.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Great Scott] 1
#23503332 - 08/02/16 08:38 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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No but people mistake my weakness for kindness all the time. Mother fuckers.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#23503379 - 08/02/16 08:49 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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All the time, man. All the time. Actually my job has really taught me a lot about how to handle stuff like this. It used to happen all the time, but now I know how to handle situations like that much better.
When it happens now, they immediately know they've made a huge mistake
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: I_was_the_walrus]
#23503387 - 08/02/16 08:51 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I_was_the_walrus said: No but people mistake my weakness for kindness all the time. Mother fuckers.
that was hilarious
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: bass head]
#23503405 - 08/02/16 08:55 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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bass head said:
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I_was_the_walrus said: No but people mistake my weakness for kindness all the time. Mother fuckers.
that was hilarious
i laughed too i guess the world being a place shitty is ok because it shows the good people out there just so clear. once you find people that care for you thats all you need
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#23503429 - 08/02/16 09:01 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Dyslexic you are.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Great Scott]
#23503472 - 08/02/16 09:13 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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PeyoteZen said: Dyslexic you are. 
i love this place
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#23504225 - 08/03/16 01:06 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Today I helped a family friend paint their new house. I've been helping them move for months.
I returned an $800 blackberry I found recently.
I try to do the right thing when it's easy like that. Little things in my life causes me turmoil, though. Using plastics, driving, using toxic chemicals, creating trash, working for a company that generates trash. It pains me to throw away the plastic that wrapped a product. It sounds ludicrous but I know every action is important and I try to make conscious choices.
People are shit though. My fundamental belief in life is that all people are good. It helps me to stay content with life. But people are shit. I held the door open for this woman today and she gave me a bad look. My gf spilt some mustard at a food truck and people got upset instead of helping her. I get cutoff by someone and then they blare their horn when someone takes 2 seconds to go after a green light.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Black_Sunset]
#23504320 - 08/03/16 02:19 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I hate being a pushover but if the other person is then it's game on.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Adden]
#23504457 - 08/03/16 04:49 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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All the time. I quit being kind.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: luvdemboomers]
#23504462 - 08/03/16 04:56 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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If it's happening all the time, it may just be a matter of weakness, and the other person isn't mistaken at all.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#23504474 - 08/03/16 05:10 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rebelutionsssss said: seems like all good i try to do in the world gets taken of advantage of and used. is there no fucking humanity and love anymore in this world? im honesty shocked when people do the right thing these days.... like returning a wallet or helping someone thats obviously in need. becoming more and more like were separated instead of one group of people trying to get by. just making me sad today, whats everyones opinion?
All the time. Look no further than these boards, the way a lot of people treat me here is beyond reason.
I get more backstabs here than Ten Of Swords.

That I login here still has more to do with my undying faith in the good of this community than with how I actually get treated here. In the game of soccer that is forum discussion, I get treated like the ball.
If I ever quit here it wont be because of an overdose in my asshole but because of the overdose of assholes in here.
I don't get this negativity in my offline life or elsewhere online.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Asante]
#23504483 - 08/03/16 05:23 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Just be an asshole. Being kind won't get you anywhere in life.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Burke Dennings]
#23505271 - 08/03/16 11:37 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Burke Dennings said: If it's happening all the time, it may just be a matter of weakness, and the other person isn't mistaken at all.
No, you are mistaken. I dont appreciate such quick judgement when you have no idea the type of shit and people i have to deal with on a daily basis.
Edited by luvdemboomers (08/03/16 11:40 AM)
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: luvdemboomers]
#23505530 - 08/03/16 12:44 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Lol, calm down sparky. No one is judging you. First of all, I didn't say that you are weak, just that you MAY have a weakness IRT allowing people to take advantage of you. That's a parallax view of the situation, an alternative look into what might be happening.
But, for your argument's sake, let's say that I did call you weak (which I did not do, remember). That too is no judgment, but rather an observation. It would be a judgment if I had said something like "you're weak, and that makes you a piece of shit". THEN you'd be right to snap at me for being judgmental.
But that's not the case, and my comment wasn't even meant to be directed at you, but rather as an observation geared at the several people who answered "all the time" to the question in the OP. So I was just thinking out loud, and did not mean to offend you in any way. It's just that if you're constantly finding yourself being taken advantage of, maybe you do have some weakness that people are targeting. Instead of just saying, "I'm too kind", maybe you (and by "you", I mean the generalized other) can reflect on yourself a bit, realize the weakness, and harden it up some.
Good luck, man, I hope you one day get away from all these terrible people you live amongst.
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: Burke Dennings]
#23506017 - 08/03/16 02:45 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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i guess his name doesn't say loner with a boner for nothin
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Re: anyone ever get their kindness taken for weakness [Re: bass head]
#23506039 - 08/03/16 02:51 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Being alone takes and builders strength. I enjoy moderating my social interaction. When I was young I moved next to a buddy I was couch surfing at. These people started coming over wih coke and it wasn't even good coke. They were a bunch of shit bags that respect nothing and no one and have all done prison time. A bunch of my stuff went missing. Got to the point I just stopped going to the door. They were always coming over ready to commit indescriminet felonies.
The morel of the story is to stay away from people that do shitty drugs. Nothing like snorting 90% pure Colombian baby lax!
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