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I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out
    #23473515 - 07/24/16 08:26 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Most of the time I spend a little time coming up with something to say, some clever way of asking a woman out. But this time I found out like 3 hours before the end of my shift that it was this girl's last day that I kind of had a thing for. So I didn't prep at all and OMFG  :derail: .

I started out OK but then I just panicked! Like halfway into the first sentence I suddenly lost all confidence and it was downhill from there.

She seemed to at least be amused by it even if shes not interested lol



Anyone ever either totally fuckin own askin a girl out like a boss or fail spectacularly?


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
    #23473561 - 07/24/16 08:36 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

I've crashed and burned more times than I want to admit lol


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
    #23473567 - 07/24/16 08:37 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

recently, i owned it, but she was married


a woman i'm interested in, but i hesitated last time after a well-received complement, a blush, and a smile.  i hate asking women out while they're at work, though.  i feel it's in poor taste....my own hang up.




had one younger woman a few years back i asked out.  she said she didn't date strangers.  i said, "okay, let's get to know each other first!" then she flatly said, "no"





edit:  here's an odd one:

had a friend come out and help me with some work for a week or so.  she and i had been friends for a few years prior to this.  for a few months up to the point that i picked her up at the airport, we had been in communication almost daily, lots of flirting.  we both knew what was coming.  we kind of planned the week, work-wise, and a trip to town for dinner.  we're hanging out on the deck, getting geared up to go to work, and i grabbed her and kissed her hard.  she was into it, reciprocated.  i told her i really dug her and wanted more than our current friendship.  she said she had similar feelings but her life was scattered (living in CO, unfinalized plans of moving to WA).

anyways, we have a lot of fun for a couple days, no real sexual tension.  we work our asses off.  the 2nd or 3rd nite, we're watching a movie.  she grabs a shower, as she's not used to the dirty lifestyle that is the country.  i crashed while she was showering.  she wakes me up and we fuck for a couple hours, nice, passionate, somewhat rough at times.  she squirts a couple times.  we cuddled and talked for a while afterwards.  the next few days goes on, similarly.  i ask her again, as we're headed back to the airport for her flight, if she'd want to be involved and come live with me/grow with me.  she tells me "this week was amazing, but you're too fucking crazy for me, too intense, work too much."

so it goes
:facepalm:



thankfully we're still friends.  as much as i care about her, it's probably best we're not together


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: demiu5]
    #23473590 - 07/24/16 08:43 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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had one younger woman a few years back i asked out.  she said she didn't date strangers.  i said, "okay, let's get to know each other first!" then she flatly said, "no"


:facepalm:



Aw dude, thats brutal. At least she didn't waste your time


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
    #23473620 - 07/24/16 08:53 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

for sure.  see my edit for another goodie!



so what actually happened with you and the lady?  did you get it out well enough that she had a response?  if so, what was the response?


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: demiu5]
    #23473656 - 07/24/16 09:03 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

You know what though? Your edit was probably a really enlightening experience, even if painful. Interestingly I'm about to have a similar situation with a girl (coming into town briefly and we were friends for years) that I sort of have feelings for and I'm wondering how it'll turn out




Idk about the girl, I've been putting off asking her out because shes so hard to get a read on. I just gave her my phone number (if a girl I ask out is too much of a coward to send the first text I'm not interested anyway) so I suppose the moment of truth will be if she ever contacts me. She didn't have a look of fear or "Oh fuck no why is this happening" so I'll remain optimistic for the moment


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
    #23473676 - 07/24/16 09:05 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Did you get her number as well or did you just give her yours?


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: FruitOfLife]
    #23473686 - 07/24/16 09:11 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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Did you get her number as well or did you just give her yours?



Just gave her mine. I figure if shes interested I'll get a "Hi" at some point. For reasons I'd rather not discuss I try not to give off "creeper" vibes and saying something to the effect of "Could you text me so I have your number?" sounds pretty controlling/creepy to me. Its not like I never once said a word to her, we had a few conversations about random shit. But I've def never asked a girl out that I knew less about than her


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen] * 1
    #23473791 - 07/24/16 09:38 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

at least you had the balls to ask her out


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Konyap]
    #23473913 - 07/24/16 10:20 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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at least you had the balls to ask her out





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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: demiu5]
    #23473919 - 07/24/16 10:24 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

[mod edit: no]


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
    #23474028 - 07/24/16 11:13 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Yeah, I was hanging with this really sexy latina lady, athletic, perfect tits and ass, beautiful.
We're talking and she has her hand running up my leg.

I get some really bad mud butt brewing in my stomach and have to dip out :lol:
She probably thought I was nervous and panicked, and I was too embarrassed / young to clarify things well

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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23493564 - 07/30/16 07:32 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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Yeah, I was hanging with this really sexy latina lady, athletic, perfect tits and ass, beautiful.
We're talking and she has her hand running up my leg.

I get some really bad mud butt brewing in my stomach and have to dip out :lol:
She probably thought I was nervous and panicked, and I was too embarrassed / young to clarify things well

:shrug:




Bad mud butt brewing in your stomach and you had to dip out? 

Well anyway I was talking about eggplants to the cute checkout girl, not that I was going to ask her out.  She said people are weird and later I realized that likely meant I was weird for talking eggplants.  Nice ass on her but what good would dating a chick who didn't like eggplants or growing them be?


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: LunarEclipse]
    #23493712 - 07/30/16 08:24 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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Bad mud butt brewing in your stomach and you had to dip out? 




Mud butt be the medical term for diarrhea.


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23493733 - 07/30/16 08:37 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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Bad mud butt brewing in your stomach and you had to dip out? 




Mud butt be the medical term for diarrhea.



I don't think that's the "medical" term  :lolsy:


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: FruitOfLife] * 1
    #23493794 - 07/30/16 08:55 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

it's str8 brotha we all fumble sometimes


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Sheekle]
    #23494505 - 07/31/16 03:55 AM (7 years, 5 months ago)

Yesterday at work , this cute girl who tried to socialize with me when I first started (which was a month ago) but I always had my nose in the middle of William Gibson's Neuromancer, I would respond to her & smile but that's about it haha. Anyway the other day she was in the break room alone as I was leaving & decided fuck it! properly introduce yourself to this lady for once.. I did & then awkwardly turned around and left haha. Taking the positives I thought oh well that was a good opportunity to ask her out but ill shoot for it next time, took a peek at her schedule & shes off for 2 weeks vacation. So now i'm contemplating waiting two weeks or going into work Monday to pick up some food (She works cash) & slip her my phone number & let her know to shoot me a text if she wants to grab a beer or some sort of drink some time haha.


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: caman]
    #23494513 - 07/31/16 04:04 AM (7 years, 5 months ago)

Eh, I'd wait.

You lose impact having to approach twice imo  (now + after vacation)


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23494528 - 07/31/16 04:18 AM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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Eh, I'd wait.

You lose impact having to approach twice imo  (now + after vacation)



Girls lose interest rather quickly if you dont act fast enough....


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Kinko]
    #23494535 - 07/31/16 04:26 AM (7 years, 5 months ago)

Yeah I feel you Kinko, infact I had already noticed of late she stopped smiling at me/saying hey & trying to spark conversations (which of course is my own fault for not really showing much interest.) As of right now I think I will go through with my plan on monday , hopefully I will not once again perform the insidious act of "the fumbling ".


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Kinko]
    #23494538 - 07/31/16 04:30 AM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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Eh, I'd wait.

You lose impact having to approach twice imo  (now + after vacation)



Girls lose interest rather quickly if you dont act fast enough....




Not necessarily, but if that were the case she would have plenty of time to forget on vacation
She'll likely be too busy / preoccupied for anything in lieu of leaving

If he's patient and waits, he could line up a date for the same night he asks her out, or sometime sooner than 2 weeks hence :lol:


Also, imo, passing off your phone number is a weak play and should be reserved for when you're short on time


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23494852 - 07/31/16 07:53 AM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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Also, imo, passing off your phone number is a weak play and should be reserved for when you're short on time



I think it depends entirely on the guy. I am just never going to come off as a sexy pimp so I've got to use different strategies. Also I don't ask out cowards, any girl who would be too nervous just to shoot me a text is a girl I'm not really interested in


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
    #23495935 - 07/31/16 02:55 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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Repertoire89 said:

Also, imo, passing off your phone number is a weak play and should be reserved for when you're short on time



I think it depends entirely on the guy. I am just never going to come off as a sexy pimp so I've got to use different strategies. Also I don't ask out cowards, any girl who would be too nervous just to shoot me a text is a girl I'm not really interested in




Well I give out my number, but only if there isn't time to get their number.

One of my sisters wouldn't call out of principle, some women might just be too lazy to initiate, or their initial interest might be enough to pick up but not to call. If you get their number, imo you're in a much better position.

Anyways this is just my opinion, I didn't go to college for this shit.


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23496602 - 07/31/16 06:39 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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bloodsheen said:
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Repertoire89 said:

Also, imo, passing off your phone number is a weak play and should be reserved for when you're short on time



I think it depends entirely on the guy. I am just never going to come off as a sexy pimp so I've got to use different strategies. Also I don't ask out cowards, any girl who would be too nervous just to shoot me a text is a girl I'm not really interested in




Well I give out my number, but only if there isn't time to get their number.

One of my sisters wouldn't call out of principle, some women might just be too lazy to initiate, or their initial interest might be enough to pick up but not to call. If you get their number, imo you're in a much better position.

Anyways this is just my opinion, I didn't go to college for this shit.



I think you are right most of the time but I unfortunately have this face that I'm stuck with so I have to be careful how I approach women.

Agreeing to give out your phone number is, IMO, pretty much the same as agreeing to go out on a date. But accepting a phone number gives HER the control. Maybe she sits on it for a day or two and thinks "You know, now that I think about it, that guy isn't THAT ugly." Or in a couple weeks maybe shes feeling lonely and shes thinks "What the fuck."

Probably just wishful thinking. But for real, I'm not somebody that anybody wants, I'm not about trying to trick some girl into agreeing to go out with me because she doesn't have time to really decide if shes interested


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
    #23496824 - 07/31/16 07:52 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

They can flake on you even if you call, they're not being mind raped man  :lol:


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23496838 - 07/31/16 07:57 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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They can flake on you even if you call, they're not being mind raped man  :lol:



Its psychological. She has my information but I don't have hers, which gives her total power. I can't send 100 random texts, I can't look her number up online, until she does something I can't do a damn thing to interact with her life

I think you might underestimate the amount of fear women feel from men on a daily basis. I certainly didn't appreciate it until a couple years ago when I had a gender heart-to-heart with a female friend of mine. It was disturbing and eye-opening for sure


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
    #23496892 - 07/31/16 08:18 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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Its psychological. She has my information but I don't have hers, which gives her total power. I can't send 100 random texts, I can't look her number up online, until she does something I can't do a damn thing to interact with her life

I think you might underestimate the amount of fear women feel from men on a daily basis. I certainly didn't appreciate it until a couple years ago when I had a gender heart-to-heart with a female friend of mine. It was disturbing and eye-opening for sure




I don't see how this matters to you, if they agree to give you their number that's all that matters.

Just don't harass or rape anyone  :shrug:


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23496954 - 07/31/16 08:38 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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Its psychological. She has my information but I don't have hers, which gives her total power. I can't send 100 random texts, I can't look her number up online, until she does something I can't do a damn thing to interact with her life

I think you might underestimate the amount of fear women feel from men on a daily basis. I certainly didn't appreciate it until a couple years ago when I had a gender heart-to-heart with a female friend of mine. It was disturbing and eye-opening for sure




I don't see how this matters to you, if they agree to give you their number that's all that matters.

Just don't harass or rape anyone  :shrug:



How could getting a glimpse into the mind of the opposite sex possibly not matter? I'm attempting to set off as few mental alarms in a woman as possible.

Again, if I was super attractive I wouldn't have to worry about all this bullshit. But I'm not so I do


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
    #23496978 - 07/31/16 08:48 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

Honestly I don't understand your concern, if you're covered in prison tats or something that makes sense, but otherwise I don't see the point.


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23497013 - 07/31/16 08:58 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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Honestly I don't understand your concern, if you're covered in prison tats or something that makes sense, but otherwise I don't see the point.



You sound just like me 3 years ago. Idk dude, I didn't grow up as a woman in the city, I don't get it. Women on the whole are afraid of men on the whole. Its just a fact. Fair or not its something we have to deal with


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
    #23497026 - 07/31/16 09:00 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

Its something they have to deal with


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    #23497051 - 07/31/16 09:09 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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Its psychological. She has my information but I don't have hers, which gives her total power. I can't send 100 random texts, I can't look her number up online, until she does something I can't do a damn thing to interact with her life

I think you might underestimate the amount of fear women feel from men on a daily basis. I certainly didn't appreciate it until a couple years ago when I had a gender heart-to-heart with a female friend of mine. It was disturbing and eye-opening for sure




I don't see how this matters to you, if they agree to give you their number that's all that matters.

Just don't harass or rape anyone  :shrug:



How could getting a glimpse into the mind of the opposite sex possibly not matter? I'm attempting to set off as few mental alarms in a woman as possible.

Again, if I was super attractive I wouldn't have to worry about all this bullshit. But I'm not so I do



I don't know a whole lot about women but I do know they like confidence more than anything. So you thinking you aren't attractive is only going to hold you back. Act confident and they will think you're attractive!


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23497319 - 07/31/16 11:26 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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Bad mud butt brewing in your stomach and you had to dip out? 




Mud butt be the medical term for diarrhea.




Oh.  I was kind of thinking a chew or some shit don't they call that a dip?


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: LunarEclipse]
    #23501386 - 08/02/16 10:38 AM (7 years, 5 months ago)

Going out with a coworker is probably the worst choice you could make.

In this case she was leaving so wow, sucks for you :V


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    #23504259 - 08/03/16 01:31 AM (7 years, 5 months ago)

Teenage me Sitting by creek feet dipped in water having a great time with super cutie. We been flirting all day but no moves yet. She says "Hey we should go find _____ she's probably worried about us." For some reason I put my arm around her and say "Well, we don't have to go yet"

Awkward bomb on a perfect afternoon.

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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Black_Sunset]
    #23505211 - 08/03/16 11:21 AM (7 years, 5 months ago)

I once asked a girl out by saying ''Fuck, your breasts are huge. Would you like to meet sometime'' and then it spiralled into a year and a half of on again/off again relationship

I empathise though, I'm shit at talking to women. I find myself pretty attractive, I have the viking look going for me but I don't have any confidence, I feel like I have nothing really worth while to offer and I feel like such a shit to just randomly butt-in someone's life like it's no one's business :shrug:


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
    #23530276 - 08/11/16 04:48 AM (7 years, 5 months ago)

Hey man, at least you had the balls to go out on a limb and put yourself out there.  The feeling of not doing anything feels infinitely worse than trying & striking out.


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Rosen_Rot]
    #23530294 - 08/11/16 05:02 AM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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I feel like I have nothing really worth while to offer



I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum. I feel like I have loads to offer, but I just can't be available to women right now cause I'm too busy working on myself.


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23533488 - 08/12/16 01:20 AM (7 years, 5 months ago)

That feeling fluctuates between I have a lot to offer and I have nothing to offer. Some days I feel like women should feel lucky to have me and other days I just wanna crawl in a hole and die due to me being so useless

I think on the whole, I'm pretty unique in comparison to some of the generic basic guys you get here

still dont do shit about it though :lol:


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Rosen_Rot]
    #23541422 - 08/14/16 04:31 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

I'm apparently just a creep. I saw a girl that I thought was enjoying talking to me literally go out of her way to avoid me yesterday.

Pretty much just want to die


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
    #23541474 - 08/14/16 04:50 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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I'm apparently just a creep. I saw a girl that I thought was enjoying talking to me literally go out of her way to avoid me yesterday.

Pretty much just want to die




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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23541517 - 08/14/16 05:07 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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Quote:

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I'm apparently just a creep. I saw a girl that I thought was enjoying talking to me literally go out of her way to avoid me yesterday.

Pretty much just want to die




It happens, that's just part of being a man.
Most of us play the numbers. What you gonna do?



As I've stated, die


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23541522 - 08/14/16 05:09 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

nailed it!

i wanted to ask this young woman out last month before i left for 31 days, but decided not to.  i had previously complimented her when she dyed her hair; got a blushing smile and a "thank you."  so today she's working.  i asked her if she always gets stuck on nite shift.  she made an over-the-top sarcastic reply with a smile.  it all seemed right.

so despite her two co-workers standing there, i asked if i could take her out for lunch tomorrow.  she turned bright-red, giving a "maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyybe" with a laugh.  got her number and plans for tomorrow :grin:


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
    #23541568 - 08/14/16 05:24 PM (7 years, 5 months ago)

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bloodsheen said:
Quote:

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bloodsheen said:
I'm apparently just a creep. I saw a girl that I thought was enjoying talking to me literally go out of her way to avoid me yesterday.

Pretty much just want to die




It happens, that's just part of being a man.
Most of us play the numbers. What you gonna do?



As I've stated, die




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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
    #23589971 - 08/29/16 12:58 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

I know I'm coming in late, so how did this turn out? Are you still feeling like a creep? I don't know you but I would be able to tell you whether you are or not by talking to you for a while. Maybe she's the one with the problem.

As far as your OP, if it were me and there were any possibility that I'd be interested in you, I'd have saved you from a train wreck; if I don't know that you deserve to be embarrassed, I'll do my best to make sure you're feeling confident and relaxed with me. I don't understand why straight males that aren't complete douches feel so much pressure, so much "I've got to do this exactly right or I'm fucked" when talking to females they're interested in. Maybe this is a female problem; do we make it seem like you're supposed to be giving some sort of a performance?


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Alyssa]
    #23590311 - 08/29/16 02:46 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

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I don't understand why straight males that aren't complete douches feel so much pressure, so much "I've got to do this exactly right or I'm fucked" when talking to females they're interested in. Maybe this is a female problem; do we make it seem like you're supposed to be giving some sort of a performance?




In this culture at least, women tend to be difficult, and a lot more shallow than they realize.

Make what you will of that  :shrug:


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23590380 - 08/29/16 03:11 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

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In this culture at least, women tend to be difficult, and a lot more shallow than they realize.

Make what you will of that  :shrug:



And what do males tend to be?


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    #23590419 - 08/29/16 03:28 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

Dumb and ugly


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23590460 - 08/29/16 03:38 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

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Dumb and ugly



Lol, OK.


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Alyssa]
    #23590742 - 08/29/16 04:47 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

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I know I'm coming in late, so how did this turn out? Are you still feeling like a creep? I don't know you but I would be able to tell you whether you are or not by talking to you for a while. Maybe she's the one with the problem.

As far as your OP, if it were me and there were any possibility that I'd be interested in you, I'd have saved you from a train wreck; if I don't know that you deserve to be embarrassed, I'll do my best to make sure you're feeling confident and relaxed with me. I don't understand why straight males that aren't complete douches feel so much pressure, so much "I've got to do this exactly right or I'm fucked" when talking to females they're interested in. Maybe this is a female problem; do we make it seem like you're supposed to be giving some sort of a performance?



I agree with both things Repertoire said about men and women, just fyi

But I'm very confused about what I think about myself. Monday's creeps are friday's interested glances in my fucked up head. I've been considering the possibility that the reason she turned and ran was just embarrassment. I kinda forgot how weird people can be about stuff. I don't get embarrassed about almost anything, and if its nice embarrassment (like a compliment, which I've given her a few VERY NICE AND NOT SEXUAL ones) I certainly wouldn't run away.

I was talking to a female friend and she told me about being 16 and a guy she liked was coming her way, and she turned to ran and she slipped and hit her head. He like came running over "OMG ARE YOU OK?!" haha talk about embarrassing!

So idk, my friends would say I'm just being hard on myself and my enemies would say I'm probably a creep. Not really sure how to find out, not really possible to go up to a girl and say "Hey am I creepy?" :foreveralone:


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
    #23590851 - 08/29/16 05:19 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

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I agree with both things Repertoire said about men and women, just fyi

But I'm very confused about what I think about myself. Monday's creeps are friday's interested glances in my fucked up head. I've been considering the possibility that the reason she turned and ran was just embarrassment. I kinda forgot how weird people can be about stuff. I don't get embarrassed about almost anything, and if its nice embarrassment (like a compliment, which I've given her a few VERY NICE AND NOT SEXUAL ones) I certainly wouldn't run away.

I was talking to a female friend and she told me about being 16 and a guy she liked was coming her way, and she turned to ran and she slipped and hit her head. He like came running over "OMG ARE YOU OK?!" haha talk about embarrassing!

So idk, my friends would say I'm just being hard on myself and my enemies would say I'm probably a creep. Not really sure how to find out, not really possible to go up to a girl and say "Hey am I creepy?" :foreveralone:



You could to me, even in real life. I'm so not easily weirded out. I'd just think "this guy thinks he might be creepy, I wonder why he feels that way, what can I do to help him if he's not?" From what you've said to me so far, I have no reason to think you're a creep. I'd say you're probably right, she was probably embarrassed or shy. People are very insecure, so don't take their avoidance of you personally unless you're conscious of having done something to make them uncomfortable.

I think the fact that you're questioning this means you're very most likely not a creep; creeps don't tend to reflect on themselves. You give the impression that you don't know what you've done wrong, you're just for some unexplained reason getting shafted. Am I wrong? As in, is there something in particular about you or something you've done that's bothering you?


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    #23591179 - 08/29/16 06:40 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

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I agree with both things Repertoire said about men and women, just fyi




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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23592971 - 08/30/16 09:49 AM (7 years, 4 months ago)

I have no problem asking a girl out.

I end up always rejecting them when they throw themselves at me.

one time we were in my room smoking weed, talking about sex and then nothing happened and she asked me if I was gay before she left.

Second time she told me she was looking for sex and even just a kiss would be nice right now. I did neither and told her I'm into Asian Girls.

huge confidence problem for me.


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Nolan92]
    #23593275 - 08/30/16 11:16 AM (7 years, 4 months ago)

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I have no problem asking a girl out.

I end up always rejecting them when they throw themselves at me.

one time we were in my room smoking weed, talking about sex and then nothing happened and she asked me if I was gay before she left.

Second time she told me she was looking for sex and even just a kiss would be nice right now. I did neither and told her I'm into Asian Girls.

huge confidence problem for me.



Are you really just into Asian girls or was that an excuse? Are you saying you have a confidence problem when females want something from you sexually?

I do the same thing as you (with the gender roles reversed) when it's a male in question (I'm pansexual). If I like him, I'm totally direct about it. If he wants sex with me, the desire isn't usually reciprocal. It's not a confidence issue for me, just a question of whether I'm attracted to him. With females it's different, if a girl wants sex with me I feel like she's communicating more on my level because she has the same anatomy and physiology, so it's likely to be a yes unless I dislike her. Lesbian sex is amazing, so underrated.


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    #23593431 - 08/30/16 12:02 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

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Quote:

Nolan92 said:
I have no problem asking a girl out.

I end up always rejecting them when they throw themselves at me.

one time we were in my room smoking weed, talking about sex and then nothing happened and she asked me if I was gay before she left.

Second time she told me she was looking for sex and even just a kiss would be nice right now. I did neither and told her I'm into Asian Girls.

huge confidence problem for me.



Are you really just into Asian girls or was that an excuse? Are you saying you have a confidence problem when females want something from you sexually?

I do the same thing as you (with the gender roles reversed) when it's a male in question (I'm pansexual). If I like him, I'm totally direct about it. If he wants sex with me, the desire isn't usually reciprocal. It's not a confidence issue for me, just a question of whether I'm attracted to him. With females it's different, if a girl wants sex with me I feel like she's communicating more on my level because she has the same anatomy and physiology, so it's likely to be a yes unless I dislike her. Lesbian sex is amazing, so underrated.




I started my sex life with prostitutes, And only had sex for free with 3 women. Mind you when I was 19-20 I was seeing prostitutes at least 3 times a month (was very horny then).

I also have this belief that I do not want to fuck around with my friends.

I was raised around women and have had no father figure.

was really fat in my early teens, so I have no confidence at all. I do not know if I'm good looking or not (only gays call me good looking and it makes me feel like there creeps)

My best friend well my best friend before she betrayed me was a girl and I viewed her like a sister, And now I have another one.

I'm going to see her later, hopefully she found somone so evreything may be better.

I can abstain from sex for most of 2016 (I dont trust european prostitutes) which I may hopefully be able to break next year in Bangkok :eek:


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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Nolan92]
    #23593519 - 08/30/16 12:30 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

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I started my sex life with prostitutes, And only had sex for free with 3 women. Mind you when I was 19-20 I was seeing prostitutes at least 3 times a month (was very horny then).

I also have this belief that I do not want to fuck around with my friends.

I was raised around women and have had no father figure.

was really fat in my early teens, so I have no confidence at all. I do not know if I'm good looking or not (only gays call me good looking and it makes me feel like there creeps)

My best friend well my best friend before she betrayed me was a girl and I viewed her like a sister, And now I have another one.

I'm going to see her later, hopefully she found somone so evreything may be better.

I can abstain from sex for most of 2016 (I dont trust european prostitutes) which I may hopefully be able to break next year in Bangkok :eek:



Most prostitutes, contrary to popular belief, don't want to be having degrading sex for a living. They're forced into it by pimps that threaten them with violence. You're giving money to these pimps, enabling them to continue enslaving their human trafficking victims. It's infuriating to me that people don't realize this, and that the ones who do understand don't care.


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    #23594006 - 08/30/16 03:03 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

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Most prostitutes, contrary to popular belief, don't want to be having degrading sex for a living




Why not?  :confused:


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