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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
#23541474 - 08/14/16 04:50 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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bloodsheen said: I'm apparently just a creep. I saw a girl that I thought was enjoying talking to me literally go out of her way to avoid me yesterday.
Pretty much just want to die
It happens, that's just part of being a man. Most of us play the numbers. What you gonna do?
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
#23541517 - 08/14/16 05:07 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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bloodsheen said: I'm apparently just a creep. I saw a girl that I thought was enjoying talking to me literally go out of her way to avoid me yesterday.
Pretty much just want to die
It happens, that's just part of being a man. Most of us play the numbers. What you gonna do?
As I've stated, die
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
#23541522 - 08/14/16 05:09 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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nailed it!
i wanted to ask this young woman out last month before i left for 31 days, but decided not to. i had previously complimented her when she dyed her hair; got a blushing smile and a "thank you." so today she's working. i asked her if she always gets stuck on nite shift. she made an over-the-top sarcastic reply with a smile. it all seemed right.
so despite her two co-workers standing there, i asked if i could take her out for lunch tomorrow. she turned bright-red, giving a "maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyybe" with a laugh. got her number and plans for tomorrow
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
#23541568 - 08/14/16 05:24 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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bloodsheen said:
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bloodsheen said: I'm apparently just a creep. I saw a girl that I thought was enjoying talking to me literally go out of her way to avoid me yesterday.
Pretty much just want to die
It happens, that's just part of being a man. Most of us play the numbers. What you gonna do?
As I've stated, die
That was a rhetorical question.
Ol' Leroy puts one foot in front of the other. Dying won't free you from the chains of transmigrational consciousness.
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
#23589971 - 08/29/16 12:58 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I know I'm coming in late, so how did this turn out? Are you still feeling like a creep? I don't know you but I would be able to tell you whether you are or not by talking to you for a while. Maybe she's the one with the problem.
As far as your OP, if it were me and there were any possibility that I'd be interested in you, I'd have saved you from a train wreck; if I don't know that you deserve to be embarrassed, I'll do my best to make sure you're feeling confident and relaxed with me. I don't understand why straight males that aren't complete douches feel so much pressure, so much "I've got to do this exactly right or I'm fucked" when talking to females they're interested in. Maybe this is a female problem; do we make it seem like you're supposed to be giving some sort of a performance?
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Alyssa]
#23590311 - 08/29/16 02:46 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I don't understand why straight males that aren't complete douches feel so much pressure, so much "I've got to do this exactly right or I'm fucked" when talking to females they're interested in. Maybe this is a female problem; do we make it seem like you're supposed to be giving some sort of a performance?
In this culture at least, women tend to be difficult, and a lot more shallow than they realize.
Make what you will of that
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
#23590380 - 08/29/16 03:11 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Repertoire89 said: In this culture at least, women tend to be difficult, and a lot more shallow than they realize.
Make what you will of that 
And what do males tend to be?
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Alyssa]
#23590419 - 08/29/16 03:28 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Dumb and ugly
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
#23590460 - 08/29/16 03:38 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Repertoire89 said: Dumb and ugly
Lol, OK.
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Alyssa]
#23590742 - 08/29/16 04:47 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Alyssa said: I know I'm coming in late, so how did this turn out? Are you still feeling like a creep? I don't know you but I would be able to tell you whether you are or not by talking to you for a while. Maybe she's the one with the problem.
As far as your OP, if it were me and there were any possibility that I'd be interested in you, I'd have saved you from a train wreck; if I don't know that you deserve to be embarrassed, I'll do my best to make sure you're feeling confident and relaxed with me. I don't understand why straight males that aren't complete douches feel so much pressure, so much "I've got to do this exactly right or I'm fucked" when talking to females they're interested in. Maybe this is a female problem; do we make it seem like you're supposed to be giving some sort of a performance?
I agree with both things Repertoire said about men and women, just fyi
But I'm very confused about what I think about myself. Monday's creeps are friday's interested glances in my fucked up head. I've been considering the possibility that the reason she turned and ran was just embarrassment. I kinda forgot how weird people can be about stuff. I don't get embarrassed about almost anything, and if its nice embarrassment (like a compliment, which I've given her a few VERY NICE AND NOT SEXUAL ones) I certainly wouldn't run away.
I was talking to a female friend and she told me about being 16 and a guy she liked was coming her way, and she turned to ran and she slipped and hit her head. He like came running over "OMG ARE YOU OK?!" haha talk about embarrassing!
So idk, my friends would say I'm just being hard on myself and my enemies would say I'm probably a creep. Not really sure how to find out, not really possible to go up to a girl and say "Hey am I creepy?"
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
#23590851 - 08/29/16 05:19 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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bloodsheen said: I agree with both things Repertoire said about men and women, just fyi
But I'm very confused about what I think about myself. Monday's creeps are friday's interested glances in my fucked up head. I've been considering the possibility that the reason she turned and ran was just embarrassment. I kinda forgot how weird people can be about stuff. I don't get embarrassed about almost anything, and if its nice embarrassment (like a compliment, which I've given her a few VERY NICE AND NOT SEXUAL ones) I certainly wouldn't run away.
I was talking to a female friend and she told me about being 16 and a guy she liked was coming her way, and she turned to ran and she slipped and hit her head. He like came running over "OMG ARE YOU OK?!" haha talk about embarrassing!
So idk, my friends would say I'm just being hard on myself and my enemies would say I'm probably a creep. Not really sure how to find out, not really possible to go up to a girl and say "Hey am I creepy?" 
You could to me, even in real life. I'm so not easily weirded out. I'd just think "this guy thinks he might be creepy, I wonder why he feels that way, what can I do to help him if he's not?" From what you've said to me so far, I have no reason to think you're a creep. I'd say you're probably right, she was probably embarrassed or shy. People are very insecure, so don't take their avoidance of you personally unless you're conscious of having done something to make them uncomfortable.
I think the fact that you're questioning this means you're very most likely not a creep; creeps don't tend to reflect on themselves. You give the impression that you don't know what you've done wrong, you're just for some unexplained reason getting shafted. Am I wrong? As in, is there something in particular about you or something you've done that's bothering you?
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: bloodsheen]
#23591179 - 08/29/16 06:40 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I agree with both things Repertoire said about men and women, just fyi
I'm not sure if I do
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Repertoire89]
#23592971 - 08/30/16 09:49 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I have no problem asking a girl out.
I end up always rejecting them when they throw themselves at me.
one time we were in my room smoking weed, talking about sex and then nothing happened and she asked me if I was gay before she left.
Second time she told me she was looking for sex and even just a kiss would be nice right now. I did neither and told her I'm into Asian Girls.
huge confidence problem for me.
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Nolan92]
#23593275 - 08/30/16 11:16 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Nolan92 said: I have no problem asking a girl out.
I end up always rejecting them when they throw themselves at me.
one time we were in my room smoking weed, talking about sex and then nothing happened and she asked me if I was gay before she left.
Second time she told me she was looking for sex and even just a kiss would be nice right now. I did neither and told her I'm into Asian Girls.
huge confidence problem for me.
Are you really just into Asian girls or was that an excuse? Are you saying you have a confidence problem when females want something from you sexually?
I do the same thing as you (with the gender roles reversed) when it's a male in question (I'm pansexual). If I like him, I'm totally direct about it. If he wants sex with me, the desire isn't usually reciprocal. It's not a confidence issue for me, just a question of whether I'm attracted to him. With females it's different, if a girl wants sex with me I feel like she's communicating more on my level because she has the same anatomy and physiology, so it's likely to be a yes unless I dislike her. Lesbian sex is amazing, so underrated.
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Alyssa]
#23593431 - 08/30/16 12:02 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Nolan92 said: I have no problem asking a girl out.
I end up always rejecting them when they throw themselves at me.
one time we were in my room smoking weed, talking about sex and then nothing happened and she asked me if I was gay before she left.
Second time she told me she was looking for sex and even just a kiss would be nice right now. I did neither and told her I'm into Asian Girls.
huge confidence problem for me.
Are you really just into Asian girls or was that an excuse? Are you saying you have a confidence problem when females want something from you sexually?
I do the same thing as you (with the gender roles reversed) when it's a male in question (I'm pansexual). If I like him, I'm totally direct about it. If he wants sex with me, the desire isn't usually reciprocal. It's not a confidence issue for me, just a question of whether I'm attracted to him. With females it's different, if a girl wants sex with me I feel like she's communicating more on my level because she has the same anatomy and physiology, so it's likely to be a yes unless I dislike her. Lesbian sex is amazing, so underrated.
I started my sex life with prostitutes, And only had sex for free with 3 women. Mind you when I was 19-20 I was seeing prostitutes at least 3 times a month (was very horny then).
I also have this belief that I do not want to fuck around with my friends.
I was raised around women and have had no father figure.
was really fat in my early teens, so I have no confidence at all. I do not know if I'm good looking or not (only gays call me good looking and it makes me feel like there creeps)
My best friend well my best friend before she betrayed me was a girl and I viewed her like a sister, And now I have another one.
I'm going to see her later, hopefully she found somone so evreything may be better.
I can abstain from sex for most of 2016 (I dont trust european prostitutes) which I may hopefully be able to break next year in Bangkok
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Nolan92]
#23593519 - 08/30/16 12:30 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Nolan92 said: I started my sex life with prostitutes, And only had sex for free with 3 women. Mind you when I was 19-20 I was seeing prostitutes at least 3 times a month (was very horny then).
I also have this belief that I do not want to fuck around with my friends.
I was raised around women and have had no father figure.
was really fat in my early teens, so I have no confidence at all. I do not know if I'm good looking or not (only gays call me good looking and it makes me feel like there creeps)
My best friend well my best friend before she betrayed me was a girl and I viewed her like a sister, And now I have another one.
I'm going to see her later, hopefully she found somone so evreything may be better.
I can abstain from sex for most of 2016 (I dont trust european prostitutes) which I may hopefully be able to break next year in Bangkok 
Most prostitutes, contrary to popular belief, don't want to be having degrading sex for a living. They're forced into it by pimps that threaten them with violence. You're giving money to these pimps, enabling them to continue enslaving their human trafficking victims. It's infuriating to me that people don't realize this, and that the ones who do understand don't care.
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Re: I just fumbled the fuck outta asking a girl out [Re: Alyssa]
#23594006 - 08/30/16 03:03 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Most prostitutes, contrary to popular belief, don't want to be having degrading sex for a living
Why not?
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