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36fuckin5
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Am I just old or what?
#23468116 - 07/23/16 12:57 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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I've had some awful trouble meeting girls lately. It seems like every one I meet is not interested, I'm not interested or they're taken. I've been single for over a year now, with my baby's mom (and my kid) living 4 hours away.
I'm in my 30s now and don't go out partying much, which is a lot of the problem, but I feel like I should have met someone who I can stick my dick in at least, even if it doesn't end up in something serious.
Another part is having a lot of bad luck. I had shit on track to own a legal mushroom farm before my baby's mom moved in and wrecked my house. That was 2 years ago and I still haven't gotten on track, be it setbacks from bad roommates or just random life shit coming up.
This is mostly a rant, but any ideas on how to get out of this kinda slump will be considered. I already ate about a mg or so of L and hung out in the woods thinking. It helped minimally.
-------------------- Redd Foxx said: If you're offended I don't give a shit and don't come see me no more. Pat The Bunny said: A punk rock song won't ever change the world, but I can tell you about a couple that changed me. bodhisatta said: i recommend common sense and figuring it out. These are the TEKs I use. They're all as cheap and easy as possible, just like your mom.
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Re: Am I just old or what? [Re: 36fuckin5]
#23468284 - 07/23/16 03:13 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Dude i wish you luck. Just put time on the free dating sites and find yourself a cheap whore that you see once a week take her out to dinner then make love each time. Or.... Ask the girls outs you talk to in everystep of the daily life.
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Re: Am I just old or what? [Re: tump] 1
#23470058 - 07/23/16 05:31 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Yeah as you get older you have to work a little harder for your friendships, relationships, and acquaintances. You have to take the initiative.
The key is hobbies, especially those that bring you into contact with other people. Setting bars, clubs, and the chemical scene aside, here are some ideas:
- Dance classes - Acro Yoga - Meetups (in whatever you like) - Cycling clubs - Jogging clubs - Theater company - Voice and singing classes - Get a f/t or p/t job as a bartender or barista - Take a night class in something that you like - Join your local fire department, Knights of Columbus, Church, Elks club, Jewish society... whatever. In my experience, you'll tend to meet older peeps here, but don't let that stop you. Don't be afraid to become friends with a senior citizen; they can become one of the best friends you'll ever have.
Get involved in any one of these, and you'll soon have a crew to spend time with.
Leave the drugs at home when you go to these events.
Edited by ch1ck3n.s0up (07/23/16 05:33 PM)
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No offense to the poster above, but I wouldn't be caught dead dancing, voice classes or yoga. (That's just me though).
Get a motorcycle. You'll always find chicks who want to ride on the back, it's pretty easy.
Sign up for art/painting/sculpting classes - they are most likely 2-3 weeks into the summer programs, but fall programs start in Sept.
The gym - You can always ask a pretty girl to help spot you. You'll get a good view, and it's not like the woman is picking up all the weight. Tip: Don't try to be a Lou Ferigno and hulk out, be normal. If you try to bench 200lbs and can't - your going to look silly. Know your limitations. Be a normal dude, not a musclehead.
Go to the pool/beach - Woman who wear bathing suits are usually sexy/confident.
Not my scene, but mudding and trucks - there is ALWAYS hotties at these events. I've been to two, and couldn't believe how many hot chicks are at them. I like dirt bikes and ATV's, but I can't stand country music.. at all..
Hippyfests and town community days are cool too, depending on where you live. Nothing easier than sparking up a conversation while sparking up. Plus it might give you a chance to showcase your herbs.
I would highly recommend to not waste your time at the Knights of Columbus (I'm a 3rd Degree, and I'm telling you upfront, there are no women there, and I only did it because my CEO was pushing for community stuff 12 years ago or so.) The JewCom center is OK, but I'm only saying that because they have a gym and spin classes (great place for chicks) and do movie/drink/food nights). Elks club and stuff like that is going to be all olds. Just saying... The only way to get a date from the Knights or Elks would be running into an old dude that has a granddaughter or something.
Also, you could find a community garden, or something that gives back to KIDS - like a sports program or big brothers/sisters - AND WHEN chicks stop by to pick up their kids or something, if the kid raves about you - it's a pretty easy in.
You have to do stuff that would impress a woman, and that doesn't mean money AT ALL. (Sure, I guess having a lambo and a mansion doesn't hurt, but.. that's not the type of woman I can afford to keep on the hook).
I do stand-up comedy as a side-gig, and that pulls chicks almost every night IF you wanted to and were funny. Get 3 chicks who are drinking, and you make them laugh, and they will fight over you if they are single. It shows you have confidence, and are not afraid to make an ass out of yourself.
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ch1ck3n.s0up said: Yeah as you get older you have to work a little harder for your friendships, relationships, and acquaintances. You have to take the initiative.
The key is hobbies, especially those that bring you into contact with other people. Setting bars, clubs, and the chemical scene aside, here are some ideas:
- Dance classes - Acro Yoga - Meetups (in whatever you like) - Cycling clubs - Jogging clubs - Theater company - Voice and singing classes - Get a f/t or p/t job as a bartender or barista - Take a night class in something that you like - Join your local fire department, Knights of Columbus, Church, Elks club, Jewish society... whatever. In my experience, you'll tend to meet older peeps here, but don't let that stop you. Don't be afraid to become friends with a senior citizen; they can become one of the best friends you'll ever have.
Get involved in any one of these, and you'll soon have a crew to spend time with.
Leave the drugs at home when you go to these events.

This is an awesome post.
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Tinder worked well for me while I was using it. If you are marginally funny and look somewhat better than a leper; you will find girls willing to date you there.
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Re: Am I just old or what? [Re: Nalim]
#23501417 - 08/02/16 10:50 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Where are you going to actually meet people?
Doing acid in the woods alone won't help you, unless you are into humping forest creatures.
If you are meeting people and just have no luck, with girls it is probably your lack of self-confidence more than anything.
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Re: Am I just old or what? [Re: micro]
#23501881 - 08/02/16 01:16 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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That's a lot of the problem. I don't go out. I used to go to shows all the time. I moved to this town cause it had a bunch of jam bands and hippies doing outdoor stuff. Now everybody moved or got into heroin and metal.
I didn't expect tripping in the woods to help me meet anyone. I expected it to help put things in perspective.
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Re: Am I just old or what? [Re: 36fuckin5]
#23501997 - 08/02/16 01:59 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'd suggest going online. It's a lot easier to screen the absolute deal breakers there.
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Re: Am I just old or what? [Re: badchad]
#23503656 - 08/02/16 10:09 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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much.. harder? to screen people in person
yeah, no
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Re: Am I just old or what? [Re: micro]
#23504232 - 08/03/16 01:09 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I read your other thread. It's hard to attract a partner when you are not happy with your life. People can read that if you let them.
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I'm 25 have been single, sexless and had absolute 0 interactions with a female for over 6months.
I am not very sociable and much like you, I don't attend parties and I literally live on party island so I'm constantly feeling like I'm missing out. I've tried to talk to a girl, went and met her and just never really did anything about it. I'm not great at talking to women either, generally I haven't met someone interesting.
I trip out in the woods on shrooms very often as well, for the same reasons, to help gain some navigation in my life and my stupid head.
My friends don't help either. They are more anti-social than me, smoke pot all day, play hearthstone and just stay indoors. I've recently got the courage to kick the weed, so I'm fresh outta friends.
My life right now is work/sleep/eat/shit rinse and repeat.
I'm going to try and attend archery again, not to meet women but I need to do something outside. Maybe the practice will give me some insight
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Re: Am I just old or what? [Re: micro]
#23505418 - 08/03/16 12:13 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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micro said: much.. harder? to screen people in person
yeah, no
Depends. OP is 30 with a kid. Plenty of women in their mid-20s would see that as a deal breaker. Some people wouldn't dream of dating someone religious, or vegan etc. etc. You can actually filter these things online.
I think thats much easier.
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Re: Am I just old or what? [Re: badchad]
#23507905 - 08/03/16 11:19 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Also its a numbers game on the internet you have sites that you can messege 55 people a day. Then another its 119 people a day. With about 50% coss over of people still equal 100+ women a day to messege. Only 10 will respound and 5 of those are bangable first date. No way to do that in person
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Re: Am I just old or what? [Re: tump]
#23509337 - 08/04/16 11:59 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sometimes you got to bang a broad below your standards to get your mojo up. women can tell if you are getting laid or not subconciously like a 6th sense and if you are not, they wont want you, unless its some weird subconcious thing in the male psychi from recently bangin confidence, which females pick up on, im not sure which. Either way you need to bang a ugly broad to get your mojo up to step up to finer women. Thats the way to come out the dugout, and get back in the game.
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This all day. Slumpbuster ftw
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rickpsfuckyou said: women can tell if you are getting laid or not subconciously like a 6th sense and if you are not, they wont want you
QFT
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Re: Am I just old or what? [Re: micro]
#23510905 - 08/04/16 08:31 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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micro said: unless you are into humping forest creatures.
That's my fetish.
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Re: Am I just old or what? [Re: Lucis]
#23519149 - 08/07/16 02:24 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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So I wanna say thanks for all the advice. I won't use it all, cause some doesn't quite suit me but I appreciate the try.
I actually have gone out a little more lately. And I've got a couple girls that I'm flirting with. Nothing serious, no hookups yet but whatever. It's fun.
That made me realize that a girlfriend isn't what I need as much as I need my kid more in my life. I ld definitely be happier with a girlfriend or something similar but it's not the main cause of my sorrow.
I talked to some friends and later this week and I'm getting a free class to be certified for a job that pays 45K+ per year on the low end. So that'll help my finances which will make it much easier to fix the rest of my problems. Don't wanna go into what it is on a drug website, but it seems to be very easy to get work once you have a certification.
I've also realized that alcohol isn't good for me anymore. I'm making efforts to stop. Or at least limit to times when normal people drink (shows and parties and such) instead of doing it out of boredom or when I can't sleep.
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