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    #23449297 - 07/17/16 09:36 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Why oh why, can't we all see the light? Help others to help you, yourself, and I think we would all get along :sun:


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: trendal]
    #23449345 - 07/17/16 09:50 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

you silly hippie


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: saythatagain]
    #23449370 - 07/17/16 09:58 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Can I get a hypothetical example?
How do you help others to help you?

Do you mean that helping others helps you?
As in; help others and you will benefit personally?

If so I find that to be true.


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: Tmethyl]
    #23449397 - 07/17/16 10:10 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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Do you mean that helping others helps you?
As in; help others and you will benefit personally?




Yes! That's it pretty much exactly!

If I want an easier time of things...I better make sure everyone around me is also having an easier time :wink:


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: trendal]
    #23449442 - 07/17/16 10:24 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Need help with anything Trendal? :awesomenod:
If not, than you're quite awesome and appreciated and loved. :heart:

:nodofunderstanding:


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: Tmethyl]
    #23449473 - 07/17/16 10:33 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

No, I'm just peachy :heart:


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: trendal] * 1
    #23449932 - 07/17/16 01:38 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

It has definitely helped me to help other people in the past.  I intend to help others in the future.  You have to be wise about who you chose to help, and how, but it can come around many fold.  The idea is to help people purely out of the joy it gives you to do so, not for the hopes that you'll get something in return from it.


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: idiotek]
    #23450392 - 07/17/16 04:11 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Isn't that the same thing? If you feel good for doing it, and do it because it makes you feel good, then aren't you getting something back from it?


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: trendal]
    #23450469 - 07/17/16 04:44 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

I use favors and compliments to manipulate people.


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: trendal]
    #23450516 - 07/17/16 05:03 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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trendal said:
Isn't that the same thing? If you feel good for doing it, and do it because it makes you feel good, then aren't you getting something back from it?




yep.  i suppose you're right.  i should help people more often.


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: idiotek]
    #23450720 - 07/17/16 06:26 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

I tried to help someone help themselves the other day. A girl was looking for school supplies for her kids and I told her where to get free ones. Her response was cool, can you call them and set everything up for me (I don't know this girl at all)... Idk if it was the horrible, stressful day I had or what but I was kind of a bitch and said somethings along the lines of... no, I gave you the info, be an adult and help yourself... You really do have to choose who you help or you end up doing a ton of unappreciated things for people who don't deserve it.... Still feel bad for that one though, I could've worded that better :frown:


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: chicksgrowtoo]
    #23451611 - 07/18/16 12:06 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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chicksgrowtoo said:
I told her where to get free ones. Her response was cool, can you call them and set everything up for me (I don't know this girl at all)... Idk if it was the horrible, stressful day I had or what but I was kind of a bitch and said somethings along the lines of... no, I gave you the info, be an adult and help yourself... You really do have to choose who you help or you end up doing a ton of unappreciated things for people who don't deserve it.... Still feel bad for that one though, I could've worded that better :frown:




You gave her the information she asked for, so in no way were you being a bitch by refusing to let her take advantage of you. Way too many people refuse to take responsibility for their lives and personal situations, and guess what? That's their tough shit, not yours. You did more than enough, hon.

I do enjoy helping others freely, asking nothing in return, but more than anything, I'm hoping that whatever knowledge or insight I share with them, whatever it is that they take from me, hopefully that empowers them and will somehow be passed on to someone else, thus creating a ripple effect of positivity. :awesomenod:


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: shadyy]
    #23451635 - 07/18/16 12:22 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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i hate liz said:
I use favors and compliments to manipulate people.



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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: Ezuma]
    #23451643 - 07/18/16 12:31 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Are we talking;

Helping others to help you (receive help)?

or

Helping others to help you (give help)?


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: Jokeshopbeard] * 1
    #23451909 - 07/18/16 05:53 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

The opportunity to help other people can present itself in myriads of ways.  Helping someone find a place on a map by pointing to it directly, or telling them the general location so that they can find it for themselves.. sometimes there's a fine line.

I like to give people hints and help finding cool places to hike, but I don't like to spoil the fact that there's always a splendid overlook or waterfall, so I omit that detail and give them directions to a trail head or something.  I try to at least drop enough hints so that they know it's "worth the hassle".

A fellow Shroomerite was having a really, really difficult, dark time in his life and I bought him a train ticket out of the place where he was stuck (literally stuck in the middle of nowhere having been ejected from a passenger train for being drunk).  I helped him help himself.  I didn't make him get up and go to the bus station at 5 AM when it was supposed to leave.  I just kept giving him the help he needed in the form of moral support until the present, a few months down the road, and he's working multiple jobs to support his kid, and doing much better.

In the end, did I get anything out of it?  Nothing I wouldn't be willing to give up and still be willing to help the guy.  He's a good person.  I got a good feeling out of helping him and that's all I needed.  Did I do the helping for the good feeling or was it just an unintended consequence?


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: idiotek]
    #23451970 - 07/18/16 06:52 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Seeing other people happy/well makes me happy and helping others is a massive boost to my self worth overall - but there are times when it can spread you to thin and one of the things I have learned is that if a person is unwilling to help themselves or change, you can't do that for them, and trying to help is probably going to be very frustrating at best and horrifically sad at worst.


I also realized, more recently that you have to take care of your own needs first and make sure you are well in order to effectively help other people, especially a friend or someone you know in a bad spot - if they're in a rut, they're going to have to be the one to dig themselves out - you can give them whatever you can to help, a shovel, encouragement, moral support - but it's so important to make sure you are happy and healthy in your own life, misery loves company and sometimes it can feel cold to keep moving and living while someone you care about is suffering, but it's so important to remain a positive and functional force and influence in the life of someone you want to help and sometimes that means you've got to step back and focus on yourself.


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: shadyy]
    #23452177 - 07/18/16 08:19 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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trendal said:
Why oh why, can't we all see the light? Help others to help you, yourself, and I think we would all get along :sun:





"See yourself in others, then whom can you hurt?  What harm can you do?

He who seeks happiness, by hurting those who seek happiness, will never find happiness.

For your brother is like you, he wants to be happy.  Never harm him, and when you leave this life you too will find happiness."

-Gautama Buddha

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i hate liz said:
I use favors and compliments to manipulate people.





I have known numerous people like this throughout my life, their Machiavellian behavior spawns greed, obsession with power, hate and malice, and people like this only care about themselves, truly deplorable behavior.


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: trendal] * 1
    #23452237 - 07/18/16 08:50 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

That requires interacting with others and i can barely tolerate myself.


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Re: Helping People Help You [Re: Apostle]
    #23452567 - 07/18/16 11:13 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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Apostle said:
That requires interacting with others and i can barely tolerate myself.



I.
Know.
Them.
Feels.
Man.

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