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ergoticmandala



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potential fling
#23444001 - 07/15/16 01:39 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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ok so first just let me explain my relationship with this girl.
She will only be here with for a week or so more but she comes every few months to where I am. We know each other from a while and have hung out and had some really deep talks as friends, always throughout this she has had a bf, right. He is back at her home where she is from but she visits where I am every few months as I said. I know her through some ties which need to be maintained kind of meticulously, so if I try to get with her and it goes badly it will kind of be bad for my rep. but not completely destroy it.
So today we are just shooting the breeze and she tells me she only is with her bf cus she can't bring herself to break up with the guy essentially. Then she says she is super into some other guy who dosen't go to her school and I kind of go silent and then there is silence for like a good minute before we start talking again, idk if im looking too deeply tho keep in mind.
-could be me or it could be some random guy, idk how she expresses attraction vs friendship i guess is the thing
I feel like I should have asked who it was but I didn't want that akward situation, like it was already so akward, idk it just wasn't the right time to say something trust me
Its hard to pick up signals I guess, but also i feel like she woulden't want to get with me because that means cheating on her bf, and she talks about him, and I talk about this girl that I had a thing with also, so its just hard to say
so weird cus in the moment I was 99% sure she was talking about me and that she liked me
I think that me going silent maybe made her (in the scenario that she does in fact like me) kind of feel rejected, but it could go the other way and she just felt that I felt that it was me when it wasn't and then she went silent also, idk
so she kind of put herself out there like that i guess and now its i guess up to me, but I don't know how to work into conversation if I was indeed the guy she likes, idk its such a confusing situation
hard asf to catch the vibes, and sense how she feels
it felt so real in the moment tho, i got chills, but maybe im overthinking it
how do i approach this situation, and not just let it pass and she goes home
i guess i needed to post this to get it off my chest
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JohnnieYen
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you are in the friendzone from the sounds of it. You should have joked "is it me?" but that moment has passed. still be her friend but don't be her doormat
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bloodsheen
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JohnnieYen said: you are in the friendzone from the sounds of it. You should have joked "is it me?" but that moment has passed. still be her friend but don't be her doormat
Yup, totally. Sorry mate, no girl would talk to you about her bf like that if she wanted you. I thought a girl was doing this to me as well once, in fact the evidence was way stronger than what you just presented, but turns out shes just a fucking thoughtless fool.
I would avoid the topic at all costs from now on, your physical distance should make it pretty easy to have this as water under the bridge in a relatively short time. But drop it right now or you'll regret it
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ergoticmandala



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that makes sense, i was also pretty high when this happenned so i think i read too deeply into it. thx for the advice
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