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May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. * 1
    #23442569 - 07/15/16 12:01 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

About 15 years ago, I was hanging with my two best friends, Matt and Scott. Scott was married. We were hanging outside at a doughnut shop when Matt came up to me really upset calling Scott a fucking idiot. I asked what happened? He said that moments ago, Scott told him that he slept with another girl. Matt was super upset, saying that Scott was ruining the good life he created. I told him to drop it, that it was none of our business, and that I wanted no part of any of it, and he did - it died there.

14 years later, last year, I am with Scott and his wife; I am at their place helping their daughter fix her broken phone. Suddenly they start talking about how they don't like Matt (now married) and his wife. I dont say anything and try to change the subject, but they bring it back to Matt. They ask me, "do you want to know why we dont like them?" Being one to stay out of other peoples rifts, I tell them, 'Actually no, I dont." They proceed to tell me anyways. Scotts wife was with Matts wife in a park with their kids, saying that she was losing weight. Matts wife then brings up that Matt told her Scott had cheated, 14 years ago. They got into a verbal argument, and havent spoken since. In front of everyone, she asks me if I ever knew anything about that, to which I replied, No... even though I remembered exactly that night 15 years ago.

Fastforward to a month or so ago. My wife is pregnant and having a baby shower. We are friends with everyone. So we invite everyone. Scotts wife decides not to come because Matts wife will be there, and vice versa. Other friends closely connected to Scott's wife suddenly are no shows as well. My wife who had nothing to do with it is upset about the whole thing. We specifically asked not to be involved and kind of feel right in the middle of it all, like it was about their drama, and not our baby being born.

So today it came to a head.

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Scott and I are both at our jobs, were having a back and forth because he hates someone in our FF league, and him and his wife are dropping out. He asked that we kick this person, but I refused to do so without a democratic vote, as really the only thing this guy did wrong was piss off scott and his wife by talking trash. Scott tells me that I dont have his back, and that he feels nobody does. This upsets me as I actually have done a lot for him and his family recently. So I tell him I am upset that his rift with Matt caused everyone to miss my wifes baby shower, and that I wanted to stay out of that drama. He says that he was not going to make his wife uncomfortable by being around Matts wife, and says that I did not support him with Matts situation either.

This upsets me more, and I text him, saying that 15 years ago, Matt came up to me and told me that Scott had cheated on his wife. And that I wanted no part of it then, and I want no part of it now. Then silence. Then a phone call.

Scott calls me and is out of his mind angry, he is talking so fast that he isnt taking breaths. He begins accusing me of conspiring against him, and talking about all of this behind his back. He wont even let me get a word in, and when I can, I tell him that I told nobody anything, and I told Bill I didnt want to be involved, just like I told him and his wife a few months ago. I tried telling him that I didnt care what happened, that it was none of my business, but he insisted that I thought he had cheated on his wife this whole time, and that thats all anybody ever thought about. He starts saying that none of us truly have his best interest at heart. I again say to him that I never wanted any part of it from the getgo. He then says that I should have told him immediately when Matt told me, that thats what a true friend would have done. We end the conversation on bad terms. He stops responding to my texts.

Later today a mutual friend calls me, explaining why his wife wasnt able to show up to my wifes baby shower. Scott and his wife apparently called him and are now spreading the news of our text conversation. I dont even know what to do at this point. I dont have time to try and reconcile any of this, and am wondering how I could have made such a monumental mistake of bringing the past up like that.

I know this is a long, and probably boring read. But this is a group of good friends, and I am not sure WTF to do about it. I am thinking just let things settle down. I havent told my wife anything yet, because she is 12 days from delivery, and does not need this shit on her plate.


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH] * 3
    #23442579 - 07/15/16 12:07 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

:thefuckisthis:


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23442580 - 07/15/16 12:07 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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mick said:
I havent told my wife anything yet, because she is 12 days from delivery, and does not need this shit on her plate.



Really good call, as long as you know she isn't likely to find out by other means - it might well be less stressful for her if it comes from you than some unexpected source.

Wish I had better advice, but if I were you I would stay well out of this shit show. Anyone who would do what you've described your mates doing would instantly lose their place in my inner circle and be relegated to the outer realms. Best friends don't do that kinda shit to each other IMO.


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH] * 1
    #23442586 - 07/15/16 12:13 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Your friends sound like they never grew up :cookiemonster:

Stay completely out of it from this point on if its brought up brush it off and change the subject.

People LOVE drama dont feed into anything they throw at you and you will be the better person for it.


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23442593 - 07/15/16 12:17 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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mick said:
I havent told my wife anything yet, because she is 12 days from delivery, and does not need this shit on her plate.



Really good call, as long as you know she isn't likely to find out by other means - it might well be less stressful for her if it comes from you than some unexpected source.

Wish I had better advice, but if I were you I would stay well out of this shit show. Anyone who would do what you've described your mates doing would instantly lose their place in my inner circle and be relegated to the outer realms. Best friends don't do that kinda shit to each other IMO.




I am concerned that she will find out by someone else, but just hope that I can explain the situation to her correctly when it happens, and why I wanted to keep it from her right now.

I am concerned that I went too far saying that to Scott; I did it out of situational emotions, not because it needed to be said. It was a mistake for sure; I should have taken that to the grave with me. But I will consider your advice to just let emotions calm down a bit. Scott is probably the biggest grudgeholder I have ever met, so if we dont reconcile all of this soon, I will imagine he and his family have turned against us.


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: Plain]
    #23442595 - 07/15/16 12:18 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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Stay completely out of it from this point on if its brought up brush it off and change the subject.

People LOVE drama dont feed into anything they throw at you and you will be the better person for it.




thats 2 for staying away, thanks.


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23442639 - 07/15/16 12:48 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

1-888-456-2879

Call this number. The people on the other line will be able to set you up with a man who will sort this all out. 10-15 minutes with him and everything will be 100% better.


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH] * 5
    #23442704 - 07/15/16 01:34 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: Supachopped719]
    #23442732 - 07/15/16 01:43 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

maury wouldnt fix shit. need dr phil on up in herrrrrrrrr


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23442987 - 07/15/16 05:56 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Your friends sound hella lame


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23443071 - 07/15/16 06:53 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Congrats on the baby dude! You don't have time for this shit. Tell them both that if you have to. Just keep your attention to your family and if they are as good of friends as friends of 15 years should be, they will suck it the fuck up and figure it out. Honest opinion though? Scott will lie to his wife to the point of removing you guys from his life. Good luck, I hope everything goes well with your little one!


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: larry.fisherman]
    #23443229 - 07/15/16 08:24 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Thanks man, we are totally stoked on all of this baby stuff :smile:


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23443271 - 07/15/16 08:41 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Matt and his wife are pieces of shit, Scott is also an asshole. You now need to ask yourself why you were ever friends with people like this?


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH] * 1
    #23443599 - 07/15/16 10:46 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Your male friends are acting more like women than the women are. Drama queens. I honestly don't see where you did anything wrong put into that impossible situation. I learned a long time ago that I don't have to apologize for something I didn't say...That is true here. Just keep taking the high road even though it is a lonely one.:sunny::peace:


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23443627 - 07/15/16 10:56 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

I dunno :shrug: sounds like a bunch of retarded drama. I can't really make sense of what is going on or why everyone is so huffy about all of this.

Honestly sounds like something that should've been hashed out 15 years ago one way or another.

Stuff like this makes me glad I don't have a big social circle. Other than I've found people are generally untrustworthy I dislike the drama that usually accompanies people. You always seem to get drug into something you shouldn't have to be getting drug into. Who has time for all that?

I'd say fuck 'em all. They don't want to celebrate with you and your wife, and instead want to drag this ridiculous shit back out of the dark corner it's been in for the past 15 years, let them do it with each other. Focus on your own family and fuck anyone who wants to distract you from that.


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: Shroomslip]
    #23443825 - 07/15/16 12:28 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Just out of curiosity, is Scott denying cheating? Is he mad because he thinks you two were lying about that to people? Or is he just trying to cover his own ass with the misses? Seems pretty ridiculous to get caught up on it 15 years later though.


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: musiclover420] * 1
    #23443842 - 07/15/16 12:36 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

I read the whole thing and have no idea what's going on. Are these people actually adults?


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: Plain]
    #23443847 - 07/15/16 12:37 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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Your friends sound like they never grew up :cookiemonster:

Stay completely out of it from this point on if its brought up brush it off and change the subject.

People LOVE drama dont feed into anything they throw at you and you will be the better person for it.




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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy] * 1
    #23443851 - 07/15/16 12:39 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

They might be over 18/21, they're definitely not adults though :rofl:. That's a long fucking time to hold a grudge over something so ridiculous. Worse than a bunch of teenage girls.


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: Shroomslip]
    #23443922 - 07/15/16 01:11 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

15 years ago, LOL.  Sounds like both their marriages are on the ropes.


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23443978 - 07/15/16 01:31 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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musiclover420 said:
Just out of curiosity, is Scott denying cheating? Is he mad because he thinks you two were lying about that to people? Or is he just trying to cover his own ass with the misses? Seems pretty ridiculous to get caught up on it 15 years later though.




This.

And I'd tell them to both suck a duck and maybe they didn't hear the good news before but you are expecting a baby and right now you could care less of their drama but don't appreciate them making people draw alliances for your lady's baby shower.

Seriously. People didn't show up bc of this shit? It's a tough call on telling your wife tho. Personally I would want to be told. But you know your lady and if you feel it's right not to tell her now, that's probably better.

But congratulations man!!!! Woo!! :heartpump:


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: Shroomslip]
    #23443981 - 07/15/16 01:31 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

As with other folks here congrats on the baby and best concentrate on your own family's life and leave all the drama queens to their own devices.

Your write up is a good script outline but you'll have to beef it up a bit if you want it to become the next reality TV drama show. If you get my drift.


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: pachoo]
    #23444240 - 07/15/16 03:05 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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Still_tripping said:
Your write up is a good script outline but you'll have to beef it up a bit if you want it to become the next reality TV drama show. If you get my drift.




^^ agreed. Needs more action scenes, and boobs

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musiclover420 said:
Just out of curiosity, is Scott denying cheating? Is he mad because he thinks you two were lying about that to people? Or is he just trying to cover his own ass with the misses? Seems pretty ridiculous to get caught up on it 15 years later though.




This.

But congratulations man!!!! Woo!! :heartpump:




Thank you :smile: :heart: :sun: :baby: !!!

In answer to the question, he does deny cheating. He accused me over the phone of talking about him cheating to others, which I quickly dismissed. I just repeated that I never mentioned it to anyone, or thought one way or another about his involvement, because it was none of my business. Really I wouldn't have ever thought about it again had he and his wife not insisted on telling me why they hated Matt so much now.

He refused that answer and insisted that I, and everyone else in our group has always thought he had slept with this girl (who used to be a mutual friend of everyone). His wife had lost her mind out of suspicions in the past; even at our wedding, Scott got intoxicated and started sobbing to her about how he was only a man and made a mistake, which he never made clear what that mistake was I suppose. I completely ignored their drunken fight that night and focused on our wedding, but I assume now it had to do with all this. I still don't care one way or another if he did it, and I even understand that he would rather toss every relationship he has than lose his family, even if he was wrong.

If it did happen, I would own up to such a mistake even at the potential cost of my marriage and family. We need to take responsibility for our actions, over our fears of the consequences.


I texted him this today:
"I hope you know I love you, and have always regarded you and L as my close friends. I guess some shit is unavoidable over a long enough period of time, but I've always seen our relationship as being lifelong.

I understand if you need space or whatever for a while. Just know if and
whenever you’re ready to talk I’ll be here."


And am going to leave it at that. He won't respond and I feel I have done all I can or need to, to try and make things right. In retrospect, I think him and his wife are the center for a lot of drama in our group, and have shown little class with their behaviors both at my wedding, and regarding our important events such as the baby shower. I think for the time being, it might be appropriate to just let this relationship go. Sorry for the long post, again. Haha


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23444260 - 07/15/16 03:13 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Jesus...
This thread really makes me feel a lot better about my stupid ass friends..
Thank you:rofl:


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23444265 - 07/15/16 03:14 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

You have nothing to do with this situation. These people are not worth keeping as friends, and you don't have any reason to have apologized to your friend cause you didn't do anything wrong. These people sound like fucking idiots man, Jesus.

Congrats on your baby dude. Can't believe your "friends" would pull this shit on you just weeks before you're expecting a child. Hope these people don't have kids themselves :nonono:


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23444289 - 07/15/16 03:23 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Sounds like you have done all you can indeed :thumbup: Hopefully he comes around after dealing with whatever exactly is going on between him and his wife.

Making a drunken scene at your wedding and "sabotaging" your baby shower so to speak is incredibly classless, maybe they have some serious issues with their marriage though that doesn't excuse selfish behavior like that. Seems pretty suspicious that he is denying it and being so defensive about it if he sobbed to his wife that he is sorry and "made a mistake" but you never know, they could be unrelated :shrug: Maybe previous tension from something else is why he reacted so dramatically.
:strokebeard:

Anyways I hope you all work things out, 15 years is a long time to throw away over what sounds like some misconception.

Also Congrats on the family :cheers:


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: musiclover420]
    #23444592 - 07/15/16 04:56 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Congrats on the baby btw

Felt like i shoukd toss that in here out of respect


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: musiclover420]
    #23444598 - 07/15/16 04:57 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

I just realized I probably came off as a total dick in that last post. I know it's tough to just ditch friends you've had for decades over some stupid bullshit. Really hope everyone comes to their senses before long.


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Connoisseur said:
oh ive cried on drugs

sunshine said:
Tragic.  I told the cop not to do it but he didn't listen.


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: hex_enduction] * 1
    #23445013 - 07/15/16 07:20 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

To be fairly honest you absolutely aren't at fault for their emotionally-charged reactions. You attempted to be a neutral mediating party to maintain the peace & harmony within the situation between both parties. Their warring & quarrels are the result of an inability to adequately cope with one another's presence within the situation, stemming from choices both made without proper consideration of one another's circumstance, although this is merely a generalized outside perspective gathered from the context of the information shared in your story.

Your best bet is to remain neutral & calm when engaging in interactions with one or the other as well as maintaining as well as asserting your position stance in relation to them; you were there when during they decided to be mad with each other's actions, with any discontent or dissent direted towards you stemming most likely from pentup ngativity towards the other thus they were overreactive unintentional & misdirected. Simply maintain your distance if things get heated up but don't hesitate to step in in order to maintain a peaceful balance in relations between them, You're a good One from what I gather.

Send me a reply PM when you get the chance & absolute congratulations on the baby by the way!


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    #23448495 - 07/17/16 01:12 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

just an update. Told my wife today what was up, and it was the best things I could have done. I have been obsessing over this, and after i let her know, she was all in with me, and i felt an amazing shift, not only of having this weight off my shoulders, but having my partner by my side regardless of what happens. Am glad, and we are moving on with our lives together.

Anyways cheers!


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23448498 - 07/17/16 01:13 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

:cheers:


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