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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23443978 - 07/15/16 01:31 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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musiclover420 said:
Just out of curiosity, is Scott denying cheating? Is he mad because he thinks you two were lying about that to people? Or is he just trying to cover his own ass with the misses? Seems pretty ridiculous to get caught up on it 15 years later though.




This.

And I'd tell them to both suck a duck and maybe they didn't hear the good news before but you are expecting a baby and right now you could care less of their drama but don't appreciate them making people draw alliances for your lady's baby shower.

Seriously. People didn't show up bc of this shit? It's a tough call on telling your wife tho. Personally I would want to be told. But you know your lady and if you feel it's right not to tell her now, that's probably better.

But congratulations man!!!! Woo!! :heartpump:


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: Shroomslip]
    #23443981 - 07/15/16 01:31 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

As with other folks here congrats on the baby and best concentrate on your own family's life and leave all the drama queens to their own devices.

Your write up is a good script outline but you'll have to beef it up a bit if you want it to become the next reality TV drama show. If you get my drift.


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: pachoo]
    #23444240 - 07/15/16 03:05 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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Still_tripping said:
Your write up is a good script outline but you'll have to beef it up a bit if you want it to become the next reality TV drama show. If you get my drift.




^^ agreed. Needs more action scenes, and boobs

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musiclover420 said:
Just out of curiosity, is Scott denying cheating? Is he mad because he thinks you two were lying about that to people? Or is he just trying to cover his own ass with the misses? Seems pretty ridiculous to get caught up on it 15 years later though.




This.

But congratulations man!!!! Woo!! :heartpump:




Thank you :smile: :heart: :sun: :baby: !!!

In answer to the question, he does deny cheating. He accused me over the phone of talking about him cheating to others, which I quickly dismissed. I just repeated that I never mentioned it to anyone, or thought one way or another about his involvement, because it was none of my business. Really I wouldn't have ever thought about it again had he and his wife not insisted on telling me why they hated Matt so much now.

He refused that answer and insisted that I, and everyone else in our group has always thought he had slept with this girl (who used to be a mutual friend of everyone). His wife had lost her mind out of suspicions in the past; even at our wedding, Scott got intoxicated and started sobbing to her about how he was only a man and made a mistake, which he never made clear what that mistake was I suppose. I completely ignored their drunken fight that night and focused on our wedding, but I assume now it had to do with all this. I still don't care one way or another if he did it, and I even understand that he would rather toss every relationship he has than lose his family, even if he was wrong.

If it did happen, I would own up to such a mistake even at the potential cost of my marriage and family. We need to take responsibility for our actions, over our fears of the consequences.


I texted him this today:
"I hope you know I love you, and have always regarded you and L as my close friends. I guess some shit is unavoidable over a long enough period of time, but I've always seen our relationship as being lifelong.

I understand if you need space or whatever for a while. Just know if and
whenever you’re ready to talk I’ll be here."


And am going to leave it at that. He won't respond and I feel I have done all I can or need to, to try and make things right. In retrospect, I think him and his wife are the center for a lot of drama in our group, and have shown little class with their behaviors both at my wedding, and regarding our important events such as the baby shower. I think for the time being, it might be appropriate to just let this relationship go. Sorry for the long post, again. Haha


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23444260 - 07/15/16 03:13 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Jesus...
This thread really makes me feel a lot better about my stupid ass friends..
Thank you:rofl:


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23444265 - 07/15/16 03:14 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

You have nothing to do with this situation. These people are not worth keeping as friends, and you don't have any reason to have apologized to your friend cause you didn't do anything wrong. These people sound like fucking idiots man, Jesus.

Congrats on your baby dude. Can't believe your "friends" would pull this shit on you just weeks before you're expecting a child. Hope these people don't have kids themselves :nonono:


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oh ive cried on drugs

sunshine said:
Tragic.  I told the cop not to do it but he didn't listen.


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23444289 - 07/15/16 03:23 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Sounds like you have done all you can indeed :thumbup: Hopefully he comes around after dealing with whatever exactly is going on between him and his wife.

Making a drunken scene at your wedding and "sabotaging" your baby shower so to speak is incredibly classless, maybe they have some serious issues with their marriage though that doesn't excuse selfish behavior like that. Seems pretty suspicious that he is denying it and being so defensive about it if he sobbed to his wife that he is sorry and "made a mistake" but you never know, they could be unrelated :shrug: Maybe previous tension from something else is why he reacted so dramatically.
:strokebeard:

Anyways I hope you all work things out, 15 years is a long time to throw away over what sounds like some misconception.

Also Congrats on the family :cheers:


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You know how it feels, With the breeze of the sun in your eyes. Not minding that time's passing by

I've got all and more, My smile, just as before. Is all that I carry with me

I talk to myself, I need nobody else. I'm lost and I'm mine, yes I'm free



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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: musiclover420]
    #23444592 - 07/15/16 04:56 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Congrats on the baby btw

Felt like i shoukd toss that in here out of respect


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: musiclover420]
    #23444598 - 07/15/16 04:57 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

I just realized I probably came off as a total dick in that last post. I know it's tough to just ditch friends you've had for decades over some stupid bullshit. Really hope everyone comes to their senses before long.


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oh ive cried on drugs

sunshine said:
Tragic.  I told the cop not to do it but he didn't listen.


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: hex_enduction] * 1
    #23445013 - 07/15/16 07:20 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

To be fairly honest you absolutely aren't at fault for their emotionally-charged reactions. You attempted to be a neutral mediating party to maintain the peace & harmony within the situation between both parties. Their warring & quarrels are the result of an inability to adequately cope with one another's presence within the situation, stemming from choices both made without proper consideration of one another's circumstance, although this is merely a generalized outside perspective gathered from the context of the information shared in your story.

Your best bet is to remain neutral & calm when engaging in interactions with one or the other as well as maintaining as well as asserting your position stance in relation to them; you were there when during they decided to be mad with each other's actions, with any discontent or dissent direted towards you stemming most likely from pentup ngativity towards the other thus they were overreactive unintentional & misdirected. Simply maintain your distance if things get heated up but don't hesitate to step in in order to maintain a peaceful balance in relations between them, You're a good One from what I gather.

Send me a reply PM when you get the chance & absolute congratulations on the baby by the way!


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: voidjester_entheo] * 1
    #23448495 - 07/17/16 01:12 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

just an update. Told my wife today what was up, and it was the best things I could have done. I have been obsessing over this, and after i let her know, she was all in with me, and i felt an amazing shift, not only of having this weight off my shoulders, but having my partner by my side regardless of what happens. Am glad, and we are moving on with our lives together.

Anyways cheers!


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Re: May have lost some close friends today. Not sure what to do. [Re: ManianFH]
    #23448498 - 07/17/16 01:13 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

:cheers:


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