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Girlfriend can't cum???!???!??!
#23430728 - 07/10/16 10:39 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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I can't even begin to understand it. This is the only woman I have ever encountered who I can't make cum. I can make her squirt no problem, I thought squirting=orgasm, but apparently not. This is the most sexual woman I have ever met, one of the most squirmy, ecstatic partners I have ever had, but she claims she has never had an orgasm? I know we have gotten close on multiple occasions, but there is no release, you know? She experiences extreme ecstasy while we play, will soak the beds in her juice, but no release.
It's fucked up. I know we have gotten very, very close, but Idk how to cross that barrier. I've tried slapping her during the peak, biting her neck while peaking, even tried using a vibrator, but still no god damn climax. I don't fucking understand. I just want to make her cum! She has years of sexual energy to release in one penultimate burst
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nooneman


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Re: Girlfriend can't cum???!???!??! [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23430731 - 07/10/16 10:41 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Many women can't cum. It isn't uncommon, and you shouldn't feel bad. It's probably biological.
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Re: Girlfriend can't cum???!???!??! [Re: nooneman] 1
#23430763 - 07/10/16 10:52 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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I will not accept that as an answer 
The first woman I could not make cum? No fucking way in hell. I'll make it happen even if I have to battle Sauron to do so!!
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Re: Girlfriend can't cum???!???!??! [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23430839 - 07/10/16 11:20 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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I'm sure that she'll appreciate all the effort either way
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Re: Girlfriend can't cum???!???!??! [Re: nooneman]
#23430962 - 07/11/16 12:34 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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nooneman said: Many women can't cum. It isn't uncommon, and you shouldn't feel bad. It's probably biological.
QFT. I have had only one partner who had never/could not cum. I've also had a partner who I could make cum 20+ times in a session. All my other partners lie somewhere in between those two ends of the spectrum.
OP, don't let it get at your ego man. It is what it is, we're all built differently.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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CosmicAdventurer
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Its all in her head
Light dose L will do it:D
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Try choking her, perhaps some name calling. Slappings good hair pulling smack her ass maybe even spit on her, suck her feet lick her ass.
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Re: Girlfriend can't cum???!???!??! [Re: BoomerMan420]
#23432109 - 07/11/16 01:27 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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I thought squirt = cum too. Can anybody elaborate on that?
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Jokeshopbeard
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Only girl that I had that was a squirter said it was one of about 4 different types of orgasms she could have. So I was under the impression that a squirt would only be orgasm induced too...
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: Girlfriend can't cum???!???!??! [Re: Jokeshopbeard] 1
#23432403 - 07/11/16 03:26 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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As was I. I mean she is always in extreme ecstasy, even from the slightest touch, so maybe she just is constantly cumming and can't tell the difference? That doesn't make sense though because I can physically feel when someone cums, you know? She clenches up like she's about to, but doesn't release. I'm the first to make her squirt and that shit gets everywhere which is kind of cool, but im about to set up an all day "make her cum" campaign.
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Re: Girlfriend can't cum???!???!??! [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23432656 - 07/11/16 05:30 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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From your last post I wonder if she is actually cumming but just doesn't know her body or her reactions well enough to know what's what. If she's clenching (combined with the squirting) then she's likely cumming IMO. The bit you said about her not releasing doesn't make sense though; one cannot clench forever..
I think we could really do with some female input on this one...
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: Girlfriend can't cum???!???!??! [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23433105 - 07/11/16 08:13 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: I can't even begin to understand it. This is the only woman I have ever encountered who I can't make cum. I can make her squirt no problem, I thought squirting=orgasm, but apparently not. This is the most sexual woman I have ever met, one of the most squirmy, ecstatic partners I have ever had, but she claims she has never had an orgasm? I know we have gotten close on multiple occasions, but there is no release, you know? She experiences extreme ecstasy while we play, will soak the beds in her juice, but no release.
It's fucked up. I know we have gotten very, very close, but Idk how to cross that barrier. I've tried slapping her during the peak, biting her neck while peaking, even tried using a vibrator, but still no god damn climax. I don't fucking understand. I just want to make her cum! She has years of sexual energy to release in one penultimate burst
Get her a hitachi! She'll cum in 30 seconds if that doesn't work realize it isn't u, some women can't cum. Crazy I know but they don't know how to release
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Psychological problem, she's mentally inhibited. Try some drugs with her, benzos and MDMA and if that works she'll most likely learn how to let it happen sober. Sorry about the squirting though, it's mostly piss and you will notice that it's much more unlikely to happen when she visits the toilet first. Does have not much to do with orgasming, despite that some girls can't keep their fluids when cumming
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I had an ex that couldn't cum and she told me it had become a huge turn off when men tried to hard to make her cum. She said when guys like go for the gusto or w/e it just instantly turned her off.
So OP, just be careful about your attitude about it, wanting her to cum is great, but in a way you are setting her up to fail which makes it less fun for her
...Dude, idk, this is the advise I got way back then, I thought it seemed cray cray but apparently its widely accepted as true
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Re: Girlfriend can't cum???!???!??! [Re: bloodsheen]
#23435200 - 07/12/16 03:11 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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bloodsheen said: I had an ex that couldn't cum and she told me it had become a huge turn off when men tried to hard to make her cum. She said when guys like go for the gusto or w/e it just instantly turned her off.
So OP, just be careful about your attitude about it, wanting her to cum is great, but in a way you are setting her up to fail which makes it less fun for her
Very true. One must be very careful about making her feel in any way pressured in this situation. It WILL have the opposite of the desired effect. Ensuring she feels as relaxed as possible is the key here.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Either stop trying or keep trying
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Re: Girlfriend can't cum???!???!??! [Re: basqueshaman]
#23436926 - 07/13/16 04:18 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Stop trying to make her cum and just enjoy it.
I bet you'll be pleasantly surprised once you stop giving a fuck
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Re: Girlfriend can't cum???!???!??! [Re: Rosen_Rot]
#23437017 - 07/13/16 05:49 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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My father was 18 in 1968 and well, he wasn't prudent and so weren't the times he grew up in. During his eleven years of studying medicine he reported to have slept with somewhere between 3 and 4 hundred women as it was pretty much all he did besides university and even that got him pussy. However, to quote him "there are vast difference in ability to climax. Some curl up in ecstasy at the touch of a fingertip and for some, orgasms are something they've heard of in their girlfriends stories" He said that in his experience the latter is true for about 1/4 of the girls he had.
I can relate. Even exactly 3-4 of 12 girls I had were downright unable to orgasm (one faker, my father commented on this only after we broke up because he heard her fake screaming), while the other were crazily multiorgasmic - with nothing in between, two extremes.
With being used to girls that are able to climax, I couldn't help myself to feel bad about the somewhat defective ones. It was always the same, total lack of nonverbal feedback, just as their clits were ordinary pieces of skin. I could always tell from first penetration. The good ones go "woah!" if you pick a good moment they don't exactly expect and the others just give close to no reaction. It is a physical thing as well, 3 outta those 4 were majorly insensitive and 3 of them also had the softest and most loose vaginal tissue. I'd only expect two of them to be really mentally blocked.
However, I always ended it shortly after finding out. Not so much because of a climax fixation but because of the nonexistent feedback. Told my father once and he said I shouldn't mind, if they get wet and seem to enjoy it overall. They all did, but more than me, and ended up wanting to have more sex than myself.
Can't help myself. I just want to see their eyes roll back in ecstasy and I wanna be able to make them beg for a cease-fuckery after 10+ little deaths, instead of them just getting bored.
It's definitely a deal breaker to me (if it weren't perfect otherwise) because there are more than enough somewhat sexually defective males they'd fit much better
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Jokeshopbeard said: From your last post I wonder if she is actually cumming but just doesn't know her body or her reactions well enough to know what's what. If she's clenching (combined with the squirting) then she's likely cumming IMO. The bit you said about her not releasing doesn't make sense though; one cannot clench forever..
I think we could really do with some female input on this one...
No way, I disagree. When you have an orgasm for the first time, you KNOW. No ifs ands or buts about it.
Apparently 30% of women out there just can't have an orgasm, so it's really not that uncommon.
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Murzelpfrumpft said: Psychological problem, she's mentally inhibited. Try some drugs with her, benzos and MDMA and if that works she'll most likely learn how to let it happen sober. Sorry about the squirting though, it's mostly piss and you will notice that it's much more unlikely to happen when she visits the toilet first. Does have not much to do with orgasming, despite that some girls can't keep their fluids when cumming
I always have a harder time cumming on drugs. I can't think of a single drug where it comes easier for me to cum. Better orgasms maybe, but it still takes infinitely longer and I have to try much harder.
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Re: Girlfriend can't cum???!???!??! [Re: Crystal G]
#23437763 - 07/13/16 12:22 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Crystal G said: No way, I disagree. When you have an orgasm for the first time, you KNOW. No ifs ands or buts about it.
Fair do's. Man, I'm glad you come around this sub CG, we need more female opinion here!!
Like I said earlier, one of my partners was in that 30% you mentioned, but what throws me here is the clenching and squirting OP describes. My partner that never had orgasm certainly did none of that.
It just really sounds like OP's partner has the physical signs of having one, but doesn't feel she is.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: Girlfriend can't cum???!???!??! [Re: Crystal G]
#23438199 - 07/13/16 04:05 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Crystal G said:
I always have a harder time cumming on drugs. I can't think of a single drug where it comes easier for me to cum. Better orgasms maybe, but it still takes infinitely longer and I have to try much harder.
I have a friend who once believed she could only climax on MDMA. Turns out she just had shitty sex.
My gf is another example of drugged orgasmic goodness, I once rubbed her to orgasm in literally 3-5 seconds while in a crowded bar on GBL. I just intended to get her a little horny but she went off like a booby trap
Edited by Murzelpfrumpft (07/13/16 04:23 PM)
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Murzelpfrumpft
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Jokeshopbeard said:
It just really sounds like OP's partner has the physical signs of having one, but doesn't feel she is.
That actually reminds me of another story my father told me about one of the few women he kept around for a longer while. In the seventies the hunt for the female orgasm was on, as it became publicly known that females could orgasm, too (no shit). He said he would try everything with Helena, just to learn that she had been having orgasms all the time, just not realizing it.
@GC: I don't understand how you argue against that, as I can quote you from memory: "some people just seem to have weak ass orgasms" That may very well be the case here.
From time to time I will have weird orgasms being unsure if I really came, and I'd have to ask my gf if it feels like it : D
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Woman are strange when it comes to that . Ive been with woman that can only make themselves cum . Ive also been with woman who always cum . So it depends on each individually
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