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chevy66driver
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Single Dad's Thread
#23417309 - 07/06/16 03:20 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Hi everyone.
I have been having a hard time lately with life and being a single dad. I have a two year old with a woman/girl who says she never loved me, even though we told each other we did every day for two years...(?) I was wondering if there was an active single dad's thread somewhere? I have felt the need to find some solidarity/hope/let my story out with some understanding souls and can't find the right forum to let my feelings out. My single friends don't really understand the struggle, and I feel bad dumping on them the rare chance I actually get to go out with them. If there isn't a thread out there, maybe this can be a new hangout for some of us..
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There are many of us around here.
Vent my friend. How often do you see your child?
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Re: Single Dad's Thread [Re: Masked]
#23418986 - 07/07/16 01:08 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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I'm a single dad.
I lost my virginity to a girl who claimed she couldn't get pregnant due to a past medical condition so we didn't need to use condoms. I fell for it like the fool I am/was and got stuck with a kid when I really planned on going through life without one ever because I'm not to fond of this world to begin with and that outlook has only gotten worse since having a kid. What the fuck did I bring them into.
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So, I hope you pulled the big boy pants up and are supporting said in child in some way or another?
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Re: Single Dad's Thread [Re: Masked]
#23419013 - 07/07/16 01:38 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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For the most part, besides the couple stints of homelessness I've had over the last few years. Those were the only times I couldn't help or see him at all. Who knows if/when that'll happen again and for how long next time.
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chevy66driver
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Re: Single Dad's Thread [Re: Masked]
#23419612 - 07/07/16 09:23 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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I see my daughter quite often. It is mostly getting over what happened with her mother that I am having trouble with. The pregnancy was unplanned and very early into the relationship. Over the course of the next two years, we moved in together in a house we bought and got engaged. Last November, she went on vacation with her parents as I stayed home for work (because she didn't bother to coordinate the trip with my schedule). She came home without the ring and told me I could move out two days later. Although I asked her if she cheated on me and she said no, I accidentally found a photo of her and my daughter with another man whom she told a friend she had met while in Key West. It basically looked like a fucking family photo of the three of them. My daughter right in the middle... So although we had small disagreements and day to day petty bickering, I had no idea she would leave me on vacation for someone else. I am a few years older and know that serious relationships can be a bit trying and take some work. I am basically struggling with the fact that it's bullshit how she found someone new to kiss and fuck and text and cry about her problems to while I'm just over here dumbfounded about what happened, wondering how I can afford child support, single with no time to date, and hurt and pissed off. I just wish I could pound the son of a bitches face in next time I knew he was at the house we used to live in. In fact, I stopped by the garage to pick something up less than a month after we broke up on Christmas Eve, and the prick's crappy 80's motorcycle was in the garage. The dude lives in Nashville and he drove all the way to Missouri to hang out with my ex and my daughter on Xmas eve. What kind of man doesn't have family to see on Christmas Eve? I feel like that was pretty traumatic for me. If we didn't have a kid together, I would just tell her off, call her a cunt bitch and forget about her. Maybe even go crazy and beat her new boyfriend. But now I have to deal with this heartbreak the rest of my life. And I can't go caveman because the court will fuck me forever if I do.
So if you read that, thanks. It does help to vent. I wish I could just call her out on facebook and make her look like the fool she is in front of everyone we know, but I know that's not a good idea.
Anywho, hope all the single dads out there stay strong and don't go all caveman on anyone else today. Because I feel sorry for the poor sap who might be on the business end of that frustration.
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Eh, I wouldn't blame the guy in this situation, your girl is really the one to blame. Regardless, I hope everything works out for you man. You seem like a good dude
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chevy66driver
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I definitely don't blame him. What lonely single guy wouldn't jump on an easy piece of rebound tail? It's just that I would really like to punch something sometimes and his face would be more enjoyable and forgiving to hit than a wall.
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chevy66driver
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So, what are some ways to make the best of being a single dad? I certainly cherish the time with my child, and do everything in my power to be a good father and teach her things, but what about making a higher living for us as individuals? I'm sure none of us planned for things to work out this way, but are we simply to submit to the fact that we now have someone else to dedicate our lives to, or as Cher would put it..is there "life after love?"
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Shit dude, there is a ton of life to live and you get to share it with a beautiful, unmolded piece of unicorn clay. Little girls are the best...they love their daddies.
The first and most important thing to do is make sure you get in writing your custody agreement that guarantees you a specified amount of time with your daughter. This is really important because it will guarantee you at least that specified amount of time and don't forget holidays....You should ask for alternating holidays with your ex.
Also, you need to get over the hostilities with your ex.... this will only bring you down and help to keep you there. There are a shit ton of single mothers out there that are in the same predicament as you...it's fun to do stuff with others that have little ones too...helps bring out the kid in us.
Do fun stuff with your little girl...maybe you have a brother or sister that has kids and you can get together with them on weekends you have yours. Things rarely pan out the way we envision them, but there are lots of confirmed..."blessings in disguise" problem is...you don't recognize them until they're behind you.
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Yes, I have been consumed a bit by negative thinking lately. However, we have finally come to an agreement on all the legal hooplah so I feel like there isn't really anything for us to argue about anymore. Theyendangea, I know you are right about the blessings in disguise, so I guess I just need to keep my head down and keep chopping my legs until I can look back and see clearly. Think I'm going to waste some time listening to music and changing my sig. Although I will always appreciate her, a naked Roxy Deville is starting to seem a bit juvenile to me lately...Bye Felicia!
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Anyone else want a sig? If you have any ideas, pm me and I'll see what I can do! I'm no expert, but I like doing it and hope to get better at it.
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Just do the best u can,ppl have been having kids raised in divorce homes forever,always try to give meaningful advice to your kid,excercise impulse control when thinking about other mates of your ex,not worth it getting locked up
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Tuning in for future conversations. I've got some experiences to share with you guys here.
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chevy66driver
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Re: Single Dad's Thread [Re: azur]
#23516606 - 08/06/16 05:37 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Hiya big poppas. Hows everyone doing? Im cooking up some fire African peanut stew tonight and think everyone should try it for themselves sometime! Great to cook. While high!
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