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I had a fling with a girl
#23409377 - 07/04/16 06:00 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Since I'm so old to be a virgin I thought nothing like this would happen with a girl until I met my soul mate.
Anyways this chick decided that she isn't cool with pot after all and that I "am addicted" and "need it to cope with life"
what a dumb bitch, she's just gonna get a job in finance now and live a passion deadening life of security when she could've pursued a holistic health practice with me
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Anonymous #1
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When she gave me head I wasn't sure if it was a bj or if Shai Hulud was devouring my thumper...
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but damn did she know how to massage... *sigh*
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Anonymous #1
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In short I let myself get fucking hurt and I am the one who was owned
I never want to inflict this pain on anyone, I really just want to meet my soulmate next so I know there wont be a separation
the intimacy with this one made me feel like sex is boring and not even special
but my god. that massage...
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Dark_Star
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She's not your soul mate dude. Keep looking.
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Chakra Shock
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I wish you the best in your quest for love, and know that compatible partners / mates are out there, of course, but even sometimes finding the right one happens at the wrong time, so just keep your heart and mind open! Let go, give, and let love in.
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Anonymous #1
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right person at the wrong time...
fucking *sigh*, man
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Anonymous #2
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Quote:
Anonymous said: Since I'm so old to be a virgin I thought nothing like this would happen with a girl until I met my soul mate.
Anyways this chick decided that she isn't cool with pot after all and that I "am addicted" and "need it to cope with life"
what a dumb bitch, she's just gonna get a job in finance now and live a passion deadening life of security when she could've pursued a holistic health practice with me
well, how much weed do you smoke?
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Anonymous #1
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Why does it matter? Less than 2 grams a day.
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Jokeshopbeard
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What's the question here?
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Anonymous #2
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Quote:
Anonymous said: Why does it matter? Less than 2 grams a day.
because she could be correct? just asking for both sides of the story i guess.
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Anonymous #1
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it was how much do I smoke
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Anonymous #3
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Quote:
Anonymous said: Why does it matter? Less than 2 grams a day.
If you're smoking more than a half gram a day I'd say you're in dependence territory. I smoke a lot of weed too, I simply give no shits what people think of that. That is who you are and if she has a problem with it I say she can fuck off.. Weed is such a comparably mild vice that I've seen compliment and improve so many people's lives. I see more issue in some people's coffee habit than I do in 99% of marijuana users. Plenty of people use coffee to "cope with life" which is a lot healthier and affordable than the needs of some, many of which have nothing to do with these or any substances that envigorate us enough to liven our days. I could argue she copes with life by judging the biases and extremes of people's actions in an attempt to further her own ego. I'll tell you something, I was pissed off earlier, really pissed off. Then I smoked a joint, calmed down, and thought about what, how, and why I was doing it. Psychedelic, dude. I give no shits. I am high. I don't give a fuck what you, I, or anyone else does. That is how I like it.
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Last thing, weed kept my dad alive and happy until the end. Heart attacks, parkinsons. Found out he had 25-30% heart function after an angiogram. He had all sorts of meds but weed was the one thing that would mellow him, make him smile, and bring some colour back to his skin. It kept him from sleeping all the time and made him able to live his life normally. Fuck the haters, cremate my last plant with me.
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Anonymous #1
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well her definition of addict was if I needed it to enjoy things and I could enjoy anything I'm passionate about without it so I am not addicted by her own standard. She actually told me she doesn't care and doesn't want to change me but she wants a break apart from me... there's something about this that just really fucking stings and that is that the life we could have together is so plain and simple for me to see, yet I may have to see her wilt away with the finance degree she told me she "knows for a fact" was the wrong decision for her to pursue
Edited by Anonymous (07/05/16 07:30 PM)
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Anonymous #1
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on fb she was giving me all sorts of reasons why it wouldn't work with us long term and just left me hanging like this early saying she needs a break to be herself...
but her reasons were shit like "I don't think you can support me" (two dates here) when she has a finance degree anyways... my friends thought that one was especially bad.
Edited by Anonymous (07/05/16 10:42 PM)
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Sleepwalker
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She's just not that into you.
Doesn't matter the potential future you can imagine if the other person isn't seeing that vision into fruition.
Plus you apparently think shes a dumb bitch so I'd let it go.
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Re: I had a fling with a girl [Re: Sleepwalker]
#23415515 - 07/05/16 11:30 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Idk man she seemed pretty into me when I got her naked in my bedroom on the first date
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Rosen_Rot
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If she's into you as much as you think she is than you wouldn't be posting here for advice or whatever it is you're doing in this thread, rant maybe(?)
If she has that much of a problem with you smoking weed and you don't think so than she can either learn to cope with it or move on. I don't think someone you barely know should have any right in the choices you make in life unless they are serious in the relationship/you have a serious problem
My ex of 5years had a huge problem with my marijuana use but that's because I am dependent on it/addicted and I could see the problem too. I used to take frequent breaks, like 1-2weeks not smoking, she didn't used to buy to help me not become so dependent on it and we would smoke together a few times a month only. We compromised and reached a good balance but me and her were in a serious relationship, not a fling.
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Re: I had a fling with a girl [Re: Rosen_Rot]
#23416224 - 07/06/16 07:55 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Well honestly I realize now that I went a little bit autism on her. I'll own up to it if she lets me but yeah I'll be alright either way
Edited by Anonymous (07/06/16 07:56 AM)
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Anonymous #1
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she knows she's not the one
it's over
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Black_Sunset
Amateur Anesthesiologist


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She has been with more people than you and though those experiences and her other influences has settled on an idealized partner with suitable qualities that match with her needs present and future. You can hear it in her voice: it won't work because future this and that. It won't work because your behaviors do not fit into her mold.
Sure she could have been nicer and more polite about it, beating around the bush, leading you on for weeks while you both suffered - but she didn't. She knows what she wants and you're better off getting hurt because it is real and it makes you think about yourself and that makes you grow and change. Less bullshit more living
But she was into you so there's a lot of great qualities she enjoyed in you, obviously, but she is very future-minded, or maybe her judgments put her off. It's good to be confident about your life and your behaviors etc, but don't disregard what she said. Do you think change is needed in your life? How can you become a better person and lover for next time?
And as for the whole weed thing, she sounds blinded by her idealism and turns that on you to push herself away from you. Don't get so hung up on what she said. Anything you do everyday has big impacts so I always like to examine and see what's actually going on. We all have daily behaviors that aren't serving us well.
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Oh I am so detached from it already... not worrying about shit, feelin' good...
yeah I actually didn't get it in or even cum, all her handies and bj's just tickled. What was the best was her just massaging and holding my balls... and her massage, she was really good at that
but get this she's never had an orgasm
(and yeah my life is fine, I'm a stud)
Edited by Anonymous (07/06/16 09:34 PM)
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It takes your a good portion of your life to find your soul mate
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Rosen_Rot
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some never do and our soul mate does not necessarily have to spend their lives with us. We could just meet them, experience them and we never know. Or so it goes..
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Re: I had a fling with a girl [Re: Rosen_Rot]
#23421565 - 07/07/16 09:15 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Right on OP!
Yeah holding out for a soulmate is pretty delusional. We've all been tricked into it. Yeah it happens to some but love the one you're with as they say. Not that it's easy to do either
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Rosen_Rot
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IMO I think I already met my soulmate and I am through that idea. I just want to love, connect and help another individual in their struggles by joining them and together we fight the world.
I think most people forget themselves while lost in this idealistic fantasy of finding THE ONE. The ONE could be staring you in the face all this time and you missed, the ONE could be you but you never got to know you and so on..
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Re: I had a fling with a girl [Re: Rosen_Rot]
#23423120 - 07/08/16 10:45 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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She got me interested in this book called Brida because it's by Paulo Coelho
yaknow maybe all I need is myself but maybe there also is a woman out there who will move me beyond all doubt
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Rosen_Rot
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No to be rude but if you can't move yourself how can you expect someone else to do it for you?
Just take this as an experience, move on and learn something to better yourself and your perspective
Be grateful for that
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