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OfflineJustForToday
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Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please)
    #23397001 - 06/30/16 10:22 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

So, before I get started. This situation is in my journals.

https://www.shroomery.org/forums/postlist.php/Journal/337407

Woman in question name is Raven.

Anyways, I first met her 4 weeks ago. I was about to leave work, and she was standing outside. I could see the look in her eyes, her body language, and everything else plus our conversation that she was immediately attracted to me. Usually I don't go after it the first time I talk to a girl. The second time I do.

I seen her again finally after 2 weeks. In the cafeteria. We had a short conversation and yet again I could tell she was digging me. Then layla comes into the middle of our conversation, who I now found out is a transgendered woman, and raven walks away.

I've seen her off and on for two weeks now. She acts like she doesn't really wanna talk or anything. Refer to my two recent posts in my journal. I'm pretty sure I fucked it up. But I am thinking about sending her flowers at work with a card. My number and my initials for her to call me. Is this the correct way to pursue this?


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
    #23397138 - 06/30/16 11:13 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

No. Don't send her shit man. Seriously.

Just get to know her better when you can. Don't rush. Exude confidence (which is never in a rush by definition).


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Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not.
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OfflineJustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23397180 - 06/30/16 11:29 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Quote:

Jokeshopbeard said:
No. Don't send her shit man. Seriously.

Just get to know her better when you can. Don't rush. Exude confidence (which is never in a rush by definition).




So it wouldn't work? I mean, she is putting up a wall of defense. And I have not enough calvary to tackle this wall..


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] * 1
    #23397204 - 06/30/16 11:35 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Just don't send her shit unless you want her to look at you in disgust from here on out. If she aint willing to talk, move on.


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Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not.
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OfflineJustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23397217 - 06/30/16 11:38 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Quote:

Jokeshopbeard said:
Just don't send her shit unless you want her to look at you in disgust from here on out. If she aint willing to talk, move on.




There has to be a plan B. There is always a plan B.

I can't hang my head low and admit defeat. I am winner. I will be victorious.


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] * 2
    #23397218 - 06/30/16 11:38 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

JSB is giving you solid advice. Don't send her SHIT. Plus you need to work on yourself first, then the woman will come.


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OfflineJustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JohnnieYen]
    #23397225 - 06/30/16 11:40 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

What am I missing here that you guys understand? Can you break down for me? Doesn't flowers always work?


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OfflineMajickMuffin
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
    #23397235 - 06/30/16 11:44 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

I wouldnt send her shit.

Shes just going to brush it off and look at you wierd for it.

If you want her go get her. Talk to her or ask her in person. Not with flowers.


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JohnnieYen]
    #23397241 - 06/30/16 11:44 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Quote:

JohnnieYen said:
you need to work on yourself first, then the woman will come.




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Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not.
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OfflineJustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: MajickMuffin]
    #23397246 - 06/30/16 11:45 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Quote:

MajickMuffin said:
I wouldnt send her shit.

Shes just going to brush it off and look at you wierd for it.

If you want her go get her. Talk to her or ask her in person. Not with flowers.




Okay, now we are getting somewhere. How should I approach her? Should I lay low for a while?


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
    #23397260 - 06/30/16 11:51 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

If a girl was giving me signals id be all over that dude, that hasnt happened to me in 5 years. Just be yourself, if you want something go get it.

Good luck.


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OfflineJustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
    #23397264 - 06/30/16 11:52 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Quote:

Anyways, I seen raven today. I kicked a pretty good field goal at fucking this chance up. My desperation to talk to her showed so much. I seen her and right away the words, "We should hang out outside of work." Flew out of my mouth and some other words like, "I got my own place on the water with a boat." I did not mean it to sound that way. It almost sounded like I just wanted to fuck her. While she is very hot, this is not the case. I also walked her out and tried to get her number, and she says, "I don't just give my number out people." WELL DONE SHANE. :unwanted: Very good job. And then I seen her again and got really nervous and the words flew out of my mouth.. "But what I meant was.." And I just stood in a stupor while she walked past me.. She says, "What you meant was?" In a mocking tone and start chuckling.. I got really nervous and that is what fucked up everything up. Maybe I can redeem myself. Send her flowers at work. But maybe not such a good idea. What if she has a boyfriend?? I need to do my research on this before I spend 50 dollars on 2 dozen roses for her and have it delivered with a card with my number on it. I'm not really looking to just fuck, but a serious long term relationship that ends in marriage. It can't go any other way..




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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
    #23397270 - 06/30/16 11:55 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Stop being nervous and be intimate.


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OfflineJustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: MajickMuffin]
    #23397283 - 06/30/16 11:58 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Quote:

MajickMuffin said:
Stop being nervous and be intimate.




Intimate..?:awesketch:


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
    #23397285 - 06/30/16 12:00 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Yea take a chance. Fuck.


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: MajickMuffin]
    #23397327 - 06/30/16 12:18 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

just chat to her, find a common ground if there is any, ask to go for coffee or a drink or something ? :shrug: if you cant get a good convo going though then probably not worth pursuing? Lol


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Spellbound] * 1
    #23397340 - 06/30/16 12:22 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Confidence man, confidence.

If you aint got it, forget women and focus on getting it.


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Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not.
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OfflineJustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23397357 - 06/30/16 12:28 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

I usually don't get nervous when talking to girls period. Idk why it happened with her.

So, should I just let it cool off for a while?


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] * 1
    #23397378 - 06/30/16 12:37 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Whatever. Confidence. Don't make a move until you feel its power.


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Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not.
--Jac O'keeffe


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OfflineJustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23397542 - 06/30/16 01:26 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Quote:

Jokeshopbeard said:
Whatever. Confidence. Don't make a move until you feel its power.




No. You don't understand. How can I approach her when she is always walking past me. Should I wait for the opportunity?


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
    #23397547 - 06/30/16 01:28 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Wait for another woman? You know there's millions out there right?


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Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not.
--Jac O'keeffe


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] * 4
    #23397647 - 06/30/16 01:50 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

you don't seem like you are taking the actual good advice to heart. so forget all that

buy the biggest diamond ring you can't afford and ask her to marry you in the middle of the office.
you cant fail!


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JohnnieYen]
    #23397656 - 06/30/16 01:53 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

LOL


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Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not.
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OfflineJustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JohnnieYen]
    #23397729 - 06/30/16 02:19 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Quote:

JohnnieYen said:
you don't seem like you are taking the actual good advice to heart. so forget all that

buy the biggest diamond ring you can't afford and ask her to marry you in the middle of the office.
you cant fail!




People are confusing me. In one sentence, what is the advice? Stay away or wait until i'm on my game.


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
    #23397908 - 06/30/16 03:40 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

stay away, work on yourself. If you can't be comfortable alone you will ruin every potential relationship you encounter.


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JohnnieYen] * 3
    #23397914 - 06/30/16 03:44 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Being married and having kids will not solve your problems, in fact it will make things harder.
I have 2 kids and going though a separation and divorce. I put my wife on a pedestal and made her the reason for my happiness.
I didn't realize it at the time, but i was destroying my relationship with her by living only for her and the kids and not myself.

Hindsight is 20/20 and I would have changed many things if I had the chance to live it again.


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
    #23397935 - 06/30/16 03:52 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Quote:

JustForToday said:
Stay away or AND wait until i'm on my game.



Corrected.

I'll never understand why this shit is like rocket science to some dudes. They're just people too you know. Like you, and all the other people you know. What endears you to a person?

(and when I say 'you' I mean your heart and soul and emotions, NOT your dick)


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Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not.
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OfflineJustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23398161 - 06/30/16 04:54 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Quote:

Jokeshopbeard said:
Quote:

JustForToday said:
Stay away or AND wait until i'm on my game.



Corrected.

I'll never understand why this shit is like rocket science to some dudes. They're just people too you know. Like you, and all the other people you know. What endears you to a person?

(and when I say 'you' I mean your heart and soul and emotions, NOT your dick)




I understand completely but I seek deep companionship.


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] * 2
    #23398201 - 06/30/16 05:05 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Then find it in yourself first. Be mature.


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Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not.
--Jac O'keeffe


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OfflineJustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23398358 - 06/30/16 05:43 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

That my friend seems like an impossible jigsaw puzzle that will never be solved at this rate.


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] * 1
    #23398381 - 06/30/16 05:49 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Well then perhaps it is better to resign yourself to a life with shitty/no women.

Good things take effort in this life, and you seem to want answers delivered with zero effort from yourself.

In the words of some wise man: 'You get out what you put in'

Deal with it.


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Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not.
--Jac O'keeffe


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
    #23398819 - 06/30/16 07:57 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Quote:

JustForToday said:
That my friend seems like an impossible jigsaw puzzle that will never be solved at this rate.



You just have to find the strength/need in yourself to confront her in the right way that will show her that you want to get to know her more/spend real time with her.
You have to find the courage to confront her in an 'all out' chance, a ballsy move, to ask her.

Its that simple.

If she declines, move on. Whatever.


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] * 4
    #23399190 - 06/30/16 09:46 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Honestly dude, it sounds like she's already shot you down, a couple of times.  Basically, all you can do with this chick now is find creative ways to embarrass yourself.  Move on.

(And by "move on", I mean forget about her, forget about ALL girls for the time being, get yourself into some intensive therapy, work hard on yourself for a good long while.  This advice is tailor-made; I'm pretty familiar with the pertinent background of your situation and know that you're a hot mess of psychological issues and neuroses, and that you're looking for a woman to fix you and make you feel "whole", but the truth is that you'll only get the woman when you take care of all that stuff on your own, for yourself.)

Move on.  Good luck JFT.


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Burke Dennings]
    #23399707 - 07/01/16 01:24 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

I kind of hate OP and he blocked me but for god sake tell him that he's going to get his heart smashed again if he sends her flowers at work also it will invade the shit out of her privacy. He fucked it up and needs to move I before both of them get hurt. I may hate the guy but I don't want him to get a restraining order over this


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Burke Dennings]
    #23399708 - 07/01/16 01:25 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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Seriously_trippin said:
I kind of hate OP and he blocked me but for god sake tell him that he's going to get his heart smashed again if he sends her flowers at work also it will invade the shit out of her privacy. He fucked it up and needs to move I before both of them get hurt. I may hate the guy but I don't want him to get a restraining order over this



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Burke Dennings said:
Honestly dude, it sounds like she's already shot you down, a couple of times.  Basically, all you can do with this chick now is find creative ways to embarrass yourself.  Move on.

(And by "move on", I mean forget about her, forget about ALL girls for the time being, get yourself into some intensive therapy, work hard on yourself for a good long while.  This advice is tailor-made; I'm pretty familiar with the pertinent background of your situation and know that you're a hot mess of psychological issues and neuroses, and that you're looking for a woman to fix you and make you feel "whole", but the truth is that you'll only get the woman when you take care of all that stuff on your own, for yourself.)

Move on.  Good luck JFT.



Nvm Burke got it


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23399857 - 07/01/16 03:02 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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Jokeshopbeard said:
Just don't send her shit unless you want her to look at you in disgust from here on out. If she aint willing to talk, move on.




Is it okay to give a girl I like, whom I don't talk to, a jaw bone necklace I made? I don't really care what happens afterwards


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Rosen_Rot]
    #23399884 - 07/01/16 03:20 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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Burke Dennings said:
the truth is that you'll only get the woman when you take care of all that stuff on your own, for yourself.



Absolutely. Spot on BD.


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Rosen_Rot said:
Is it okay to give a girl I like, whom I don't talk to, a jaw bone necklace I made? I don't really care what happens afterwards



I cannot see any reason to to do so. It just makes you look creepy if you do so without getting to know her first IMO.


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] * 1
    #23400333 - 07/01/16 08:24 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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JFT said:I'm not really looking to just fuck, but a serious long term relationship that ends in marriage. It can't go any other way..




C'mon friend,you're getting way way up in your head here, aren't you kind of getting ahead of yourself? What ever happened to "A day at a time" or "Just for Today" like your screen name suggests? I get it, this girl triggered something in you that set the wheels in motion...you really dig her. But, the reality is that you know nothing about this girl or who she is other than what she looks like and how she walks.

There has been some great advice here and the common theme is that JFT needs to work on JFT a little bit...you just proved this by pretty much scaring this girl off with your nervous confidence, if there is such a thing. You gotta find peace between your ears before you can exude the quiet confidence that girls admire. You gotta be at peace with yourself, which I don't read you as being there.

There are steps to help you with this but some of us need more than that, we need professional help....this is nothing to be ashamed of. You are young and attractive and have a whole life in front of you with all the trimmings but the only thing you have control over is today....take care of that and the rest will follow. You are looking for instant results just like the drugs you used to take gave you...don't forget you will always be an addict and this instant gratification shit doesn't necessarily go away when you stop using...it takes years sometimes.

IM me if you wanna chat or call me...you have my number.:sunny::peace:


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Thayendanegea]
    #23402013 - 07/01/16 06:41 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Refer to my recent journal here.

https://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/23401844

BTW, it's all becoming clear the end times will be here soon and I will die alone. I'm racing against the clock to make this happen


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    #23406452 - 07/03/16 09:32 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) *DELETED* [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #23419752 - 07/07/16 10:12 AM (7 years, 6 months ago)

I've actually been making alot of progress when it comes to Raven lately. Not going to go into detail, it's in my journals. I am acting like I don't really care and that seems to be attracting her.:grin:


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) *DELETED* [Re: JustForToday] * 1
    #23459683 - 07/20/16 01:31 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

Well. I'm honestly done thinking about women right now. I haven't even been masturbating at all i've been so fucked. God is forcing me to work on myself and I have no choice at this point.. I'm falling apart physically, mentally, emotionally. No woman can fix this. Only God and doctors. Raven doesn't work there anymore I don't think but I honestly could give two fucks. My obsession with having a woman has made me ignore all of my issues and they've gotten so bad to the point of where i'm missing work...


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
    #23460206 - 07/20/16 05:26 PM (7 years, 6 months ago)

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JustForToday said:
Well. I'm honestly done thinking about women right now. I haven't even been masturbating at all i've been so fucked. God is forcing me to work on myself and I have no choice at this point.. I'm falling apart physically, mentally, emotionally. No woman can fix this. Only God and doctors. Raven doesn't work there anymore I don't think but I honestly could give two fucks. My obsession with having a woman has made me ignore all of my issues and they've gotten so bad to the point of where i'm missing work...



That's the wisest thing I've ever heard you say.

IME, only in the devastation of the collapse of self can a new self arise, like a phoenix from the ashes. Refer to my signature quote, and be strong man. The ride is hard but infinitely worth it.


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