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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
#23397547 - 06/30/16 01:28 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Wait for another woman? You know there's millions out there right?
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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JohnnieYen
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] 4
#23397647 - 06/30/16 01:50 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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you don't seem like you are taking the actual good advice to heart. so forget all that
buy the biggest diamond ring you can't afford and ask her to marry you in the middle of the office. you cant fail!
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JohnnieYen]
#23397656 - 06/30/16 01:53 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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LOL
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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JustForToday
New Life, New Beginnings


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JohnnieYen]
#23397729 - 06/30/16 02:19 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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JohnnieYen said: you don't seem like you are taking the actual good advice to heart. so forget all that
buy the biggest diamond ring you can't afford and ask her to marry you in the middle of the office. you cant fail!
People are confusing me. In one sentence, what is the advice? Stay away or wait until i'm on my game.
-------------------- Hey Shae, Are you still doing that hand thing? I heard you was doing that hand thing today. Oh God what is that?!
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JohnnieYen
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
#23397908 - 06/30/16 03:40 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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stay away, work on yourself. If you can't be comfortable alone you will ruin every potential relationship you encounter.
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JohnnieYen
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JohnnieYen] 3
#23397914 - 06/30/16 03:44 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Being married and having kids will not solve your problems, in fact it will make things harder. I have 2 kids and going though a separation and divorce. I put my wife on a pedestal and made her the reason for my happiness. I didn't realize it at the time, but i was destroying my relationship with her by living only for her and the kids and not myself.
Hindsight is 20/20 and I would have changed many things if I had the chance to live it again.
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
#23397935 - 06/30/16 03:52 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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JustForToday said: Stay away or AND wait until i'm on my game.
Corrected.
I'll never understand why this shit is like rocket science to some dudes. They're just people too you know. Like you, and all the other people you know. What endears you to a person?
(and when I say 'you' I mean your heart and soul and emotions, NOT your dick)
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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JustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#23398161 - 06/30/16 04:54 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Jokeshopbeard said:
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JustForToday said: Stay away or AND wait until i'm on my game.
Corrected.
I'll never understand why this shit is like rocket science to some dudes. They're just people too you know. Like you, and all the other people you know. What endears you to a person?
(and when I say 'you' I mean your heart and soul and emotions, NOT your dick)
I understand completely but I seek deep companionship.
-------------------- Hey Shae, Are you still doing that hand thing? I heard you was doing that hand thing today. Oh God what is that?!
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] 2
#23398201 - 06/30/16 05:05 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Then find it in yourself first. Be mature.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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JustForToday
New Life, New Beginnings


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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#23398358 - 06/30/16 05:43 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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That my friend seems like an impossible jigsaw puzzle that will never be solved at this rate.
-------------------- Hey Shae, Are you still doing that hand thing? I heard you was doing that hand thing today. Oh God what is that?!
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] 1
#23398381 - 06/30/16 05:49 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Well then perhaps it is better to resign yourself to a life with shitty/no women.
Good things take effort in this life, and you seem to want answers delivered with zero effort from yourself.
In the words of some wise man: 'You get out what you put in'
Deal with it.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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MajickMuffin
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
#23398819 - 06/30/16 07:57 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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JustForToday said: That my friend seems like an impossible jigsaw puzzle that will never be solved at this rate.
You just have to find the strength/need in yourself to confront her in the right way that will show her that you want to get to know her more/spend real time with her. You have to find the courage to confront her in an 'all out' chance, a ballsy move, to ask her.
Its that simple.
If she declines, move on. Whatever.
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Burke Dennings
baby merchant

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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] 4
#23399190 - 06/30/16 09:46 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Honestly dude, it sounds like she's already shot you down, a couple of times. Basically, all you can do with this chick now is find creative ways to embarrass yourself. Move on.
(And by "move on", I mean forget about her, forget about ALL girls for the time being, get yourself into some intensive therapy, work hard on yourself for a good long while. This advice is tailor-made; I'm pretty familiar with the pertinent background of your situation and know that you're a hot mess of psychological issues and neuroses, and that you're looking for a woman to fix you and make you feel "whole", but the truth is that you'll only get the woman when you take care of all that stuff on your own, for yourself.)
Move on. Good luck JFT.
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Seriously_trippin
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Burke Dennings]
#23399707 - 07/01/16 01:24 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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I kind of hate OP and he blocked me but for god sake tell him that he's going to get his heart smashed again if he sends her flowers at work also it will invade the shit out of her privacy. He fucked it up and needs to move I before both of them get hurt. I may hate the guy but I don't want him to get a restraining order over this
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Seriously_trippin
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Burke Dennings]
#23399708 - 07/01/16 01:25 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Seriously_trippin said: I kind of hate OP and he blocked me but for god sake tell him that he's going to get his heart smashed again if he sends her flowers at work also it will invade the shit out of her privacy. He fucked it up and needs to move I before both of them get hurt. I may hate the guy but I don't want him to get a restraining order over this
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Burke Dennings said: Honestly dude, it sounds like she's already shot you down, a couple of times. Basically, all you can do with this chick now is find creative ways to embarrass yourself. Move on.
(And by "move on", I mean forget about her, forget about ALL girls for the time being, get yourself into some intensive therapy, work hard on yourself for a good long while. This advice is tailor-made; I'm pretty familiar with the pertinent background of your situation and know that you're a hot mess of psychological issues and neuroses, and that you're looking for a woman to fix you and make you feel "whole", but the truth is that you'll only get the woman when you take care of all that stuff on your own, for yourself.)
Move on. Good luck JFT.
Nvm Burke got it
-------------------- R.I.P Zombi3, Blue Helix Modest Mouse Zappa Slothie That Kid With The face ShLong Le Canard split_by_nine & Big Worm Forever Etched in the sands of time in the shroomery and ever so beloved and deeply missed by many
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Rosen_Rot
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#23399857 - 07/01/16 03:02 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Jokeshopbeard said: Just don't send her shit unless you want her to look at you in disgust from here on out. If she aint willing to talk, move on.
Is it okay to give a girl I like, whom I don't talk to, a jaw bone necklace I made? I don't really care what happens afterwards
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Rosen_Rot]
#23399884 - 07/01/16 03:20 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Burke Dennings said: the truth is that you'll only get the woman when you take care of all that stuff on your own, for yourself.
Absolutely. Spot on BD.
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Rosen_Rot said: Is it okay to give a girl I like, whom I don't talk to, a jaw bone necklace I made? I don't really care what happens afterwards
I cannot see any reason to to do so. It just makes you look creepy if you do so without getting to know her first IMO.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Thayendanegea
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] 1
#23400333 - 07/01/16 08:24 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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JFT said:I'm not really looking to just fuck, but a serious long term relationship that ends in marriage. It can't go any other way..
C'mon friend,you're getting way way up in your head here, aren't you kind of getting ahead of yourself? What ever happened to "A day at a time" or "Just for Today" like your screen name suggests? I get it, this girl triggered something in you that set the wheels in motion...you really dig her. But, the reality is that you know nothing about this girl or who she is other than what she looks like and how she walks.
There has been some great advice here and the common theme is that JFT needs to work on JFT a little bit...you just proved this by pretty much scaring this girl off with your nervous confidence, if there is such a thing. You gotta find peace between your ears before you can exude the quiet confidence that girls admire. You gotta be at peace with yourself, which I don't read you as being there.
There are steps to help you with this but some of us need more than that, we need professional help....this is nothing to be ashamed of. You are young and attractive and have a whole life in front of you with all the trimmings but the only thing you have control over is today....take care of that and the rest will follow. You are looking for instant results just like the drugs you used to take gave you...don't forget you will always be an addict and this instant gratification shit doesn't necessarily go away when you stop using...it takes years sometimes.
IM me if you wanna chat or call me...you have my number.
-------------------- Look Deep Into Nature,and Then You Will Understand Everything Better. Albert Einstein
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JustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Thayendanegea]
#23402013 - 07/01/16 06:41 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Refer to my recent journal here.
https://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/23401844
BTW, it's all becoming clear the end times will be here soon and I will die alone. I'm racing against the clock to make this happen
-------------------- Hey Shae, Are you still doing that hand thing? I heard you was doing that hand thing today. Oh God what is that?!
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) *DELETED* [Re: JustForToday]
#23406452 - 07/03/16 09:32 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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