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JustForToday
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Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please)
#23397001 - 06/30/16 10:22 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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So, before I get started. This situation is in my journals.
https://www.shroomery.org/forums/postlist.php/Journal/337407
Woman in question name is Raven.
Anyways, I first met her 4 weeks ago. I was about to leave work, and she was standing outside. I could see the look in her eyes, her body language, and everything else plus our conversation that she was immediately attracted to me. Usually I don't go after it the first time I talk to a girl. The second time I do.
I seen her again finally after 2 weeks. In the cafeteria. We had a short conversation and yet again I could tell she was digging me. Then layla comes into the middle of our conversation, who I now found out is a transgendered woman, and raven walks away.
I've seen her off and on for two weeks now. She acts like she doesn't really wanna talk or anything. Refer to my two recent posts in my journal. I'm pretty sure I fucked it up. But I am thinking about sending her flowers at work with a card. My number and my initials for her to call me. Is this the correct way to pursue this?
-------------------- Hey Shae, Are you still doing that hand thing? I heard you was doing that hand thing today. Oh God what is that?!
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
#23397138 - 06/30/16 11:13 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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No. Don't send her shit man. Seriously.
Just get to know her better when you can. Don't rush. Exude confidence (which is never in a rush by definition).
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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JustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#23397180 - 06/30/16 11:29 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Jokeshopbeard said: No. Don't send her shit man. Seriously.
Just get to know her better when you can. Don't rush. Exude confidence (which is never in a rush by definition).
So it wouldn't work? I mean, she is putting up a wall of defense. And I have not enough calvary to tackle this wall..
-------------------- Hey Shae, Are you still doing that hand thing? I heard you was doing that hand thing today. Oh God what is that?!
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] 1
#23397204 - 06/30/16 11:35 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Just don't send her shit unless you want her to look at you in disgust from here on out. If she aint willing to talk, move on.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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JustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#23397217 - 06/30/16 11:38 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Jokeshopbeard said: Just don't send her shit unless you want her to look at you in disgust from here on out. If she aint willing to talk, move on.
There has to be a plan B. There is always a plan B.
I can't hang my head low and admit defeat. I am winner. I will be victorious.
-------------------- Hey Shae, Are you still doing that hand thing? I heard you was doing that hand thing today. Oh God what is that?!
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] 2
#23397218 - 06/30/16 11:38 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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JSB is giving you solid advice. Don't send her SHIT. Plus you need to work on yourself first, then the woman will come.
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JustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JohnnieYen]
#23397225 - 06/30/16 11:40 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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What am I missing here that you guys understand? Can you break down for me? Doesn't flowers always work?
-------------------- Hey Shae, Are you still doing that hand thing? I heard you was doing that hand thing today. Oh God what is that?!
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
#23397235 - 06/30/16 11:44 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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I wouldnt send her shit.
Shes just going to brush it off and look at you wierd for it.
If you want her go get her. Talk to her or ask her in person. Not with flowers.
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JohnnieYen]
#23397241 - 06/30/16 11:44 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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JohnnieYen said: you need to work on yourself first, then the woman will come.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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JustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: MajickMuffin]
#23397246 - 06/30/16 11:45 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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MajickMuffin said: I wouldnt send her shit.
Shes just going to brush it off and look at you wierd for it.
If you want her go get her. Talk to her or ask her in person. Not with flowers.
Okay, now we are getting somewhere. How should I approach her? Should I lay low for a while?
-------------------- Hey Shae, Are you still doing that hand thing? I heard you was doing that hand thing today. Oh God what is that?!
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MajickMuffin
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
#23397260 - 06/30/16 11:51 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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If a girl was giving me signals id be all over that dude, that hasnt happened to me in 5 years. Just be yourself, if you want something go get it.
Good luck.
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JustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
#23397264 - 06/30/16 11:52 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Anyways, I seen raven today. I kicked a pretty good field goal at fucking this chance up. My desperation to talk to her showed so much. I seen her and right away the words, "We should hang out outside of work." Flew out of my mouth and some other words like, "I got my own place on the water with a boat." I did not mean it to sound that way. It almost sounded like I just wanted to fuck her. While she is very hot, this is not the case. I also walked her out and tried to get her number, and she says, "I don't just give my number out people." WELL DONE SHANE. Very good job. And then I seen her again and got really nervous and the words flew out of my mouth.. "But what I meant was.." And I just stood in a stupor while she walked past me.. She says, "What you meant was?" In a mocking tone and start chuckling.. I got really nervous and that is what fucked up everything up. Maybe I can redeem myself. Send her flowers at work. But maybe not such a good idea. What if she has a boyfriend?? I need to do my research on this before I spend 50 dollars on 2 dozen roses for her and have it delivered with a card with my number on it. I'm not really looking to just fuck, but a serious long term relationship that ends in marriage. It can't go any other way..
-------------------- Hey Shae, Are you still doing that hand thing? I heard you was doing that hand thing today. Oh God what is that?!
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
#23397270 - 06/30/16 11:55 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Stop being nervous and be intimate.
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JustForToday
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: MajickMuffin]
#23397283 - 06/30/16 11:58 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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MajickMuffin said: Stop being nervous and be intimate.
Intimate..?
-------------------- Hey Shae, Are you still doing that hand thing? I heard you was doing that hand thing today. Oh God what is that?!
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday]
#23397285 - 06/30/16 12:00 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Yea take a chance. Fuck.
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: MajickMuffin]
#23397327 - 06/30/16 12:18 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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just chat to her, find a common ground if there is any, ask to go for coffee or a drink or something ? if you cant get a good convo going though then probably not worth pursuing? Lol
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Spellbound] 1
#23397340 - 06/30/16 12:22 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Confidence man, confidence.
If you aint got it, forget women and focus on getting it.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#23397357 - 06/30/16 12:28 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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I usually don't get nervous when talking to girls period. Idk why it happened with her.
So, should I just let it cool off for a while?
-------------------- Hey Shae, Are you still doing that hand thing? I heard you was doing that hand thing today. Oh God what is that?!
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: JustForToday] 1
#23397378 - 06/30/16 12:37 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Whatever. Confidence. Don't make a move until you feel its power.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: Hello y'all. It is JFT. I need help pursuing this woman. (No trolling please) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#23397542 - 06/30/16 01:26 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Jokeshopbeard said: Whatever. Confidence. Don't make a move until you feel its power.
No. You don't understand. How can I approach her when she is always walking past me. Should I wait for the opportunity?
-------------------- Hey Shae, Are you still doing that hand thing? I heard you was doing that hand thing today. Oh God what is that?!
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