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PreparationH
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burnout/bum brother
#23395118 - 06/29/16 06:27 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Long story short, my brother's turning 23 and has no education, no real work history other than catering events, and has screwed over every person who has helped him land a job. The latest one was our other brother got him a job at his work, he lasted 3 weeks then quit because his schedule overlapped with a catering gig. Catering pays well but is so infrequent that quitting a job with 30+ hours for that was retarded.
Anyway, my brother isn't stupid he is just really fuckin lazy. He did one semester of college and failed out. Not really sure what to do with him anymore. I tried to get him to look into different trade unions like electrician, plumbing, etc and he said "That looks like too much work to get into."
I am honestly afraid he's going to wake up at 35 with no future and be fucked. We've all tried helping, given him ideas, school and he fucks it up. Anyone have any tips? Should I just kill him?
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ModestMouse
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Let him figure it out He's only 23, there's plenty of time to fuck up and learn from it.
It's no longer your job to secure a future for him
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larry.fisherman
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You should just worry about yourself. Family is family but there's only so much you can do. If murdering siblings was an option I'd have been an only child a long time ago.
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luvdemboomers
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It sounds like there is not much you can do. If your parents are enabling him then that would probably be a start. I was in a similar situation and ended up getting tired of working shit jobs for minimum wage so I got into a trade.
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demiu5
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does he maintain a residence? does he pay rent/bills? does he pay for cell-phone service?
sounds like there's a safety net in place somewhere
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plasma
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Re: burnout/bum brother [Re: demiu5] 2
#23395240 - 06/29/16 07:09 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Kill him and wear his skin over yours so no one knows
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Re: burnout/bum brother [Re: plasma]
#23395243 - 06/29/16 07:10 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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He's probably depressed and needs to figure out what he needs
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theonlysun81
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The crazy thing is, is that life doesn't stop. There isn't something you can "do" with your brother.
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PreparationH
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Re: burnout/bum brother [Re: plasma]
#23395258 - 06/29/16 07:17 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Quote:
luvdemboomers said: It sounds like there is not much you can do. If your parents are enabling him then that would probably be a start. I was in a similar situation and ended up getting tired of working shit jobs for minimum wage so I got into a trade.
What trade are you in if you don't mind me asking?
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demiu5 said: does he maintain a residence? does he pay rent/bills? does he pay for cell-phone service?
sounds like there's a safety net in place somewhere
He has been working at a kennel 3 hours a night minimum wage like 4 nights a week(A job my gf got him). It covers his phone bill and he lives at home with our mom. She is enabling him. Probably something I shouldve included in the OP.
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plasma said: Kill him and wear his skin over yours so no one knows
This has been on my mind for the last year. I think I may do that.
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demiu5
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Quote:
PreparationH said:
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demiu5 said: does he maintain a residence? does he pay rent/bills? does he pay for cell-phone service?
sounds like there's a safety net in place somewhere
He has been working at a kennel 3 hours a night minimum wage like 4 nights a week(A job my gf got him). It covers his phone bill and he lives at home with our mom. She is enabling him. Probably something I shouldve included in the OP.
your mom needs to kick him the fuck out or make him pay rent/bills. preferably the former.
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Re: burnout/bum brother [Re: demiu5]
#23395308 - 06/29/16 07:42 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Yeah your mom needs to get him out. Give him like a month to find a place or a couch to sleep on. 23 is way too old to be living with parents.
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