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#23374543 - 06/23/16 05:40 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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And getting the 
Has anyone done this sober and maintained a friendship afterward? Its never happened to me but it seems epicly embarrassing, I'm not sure if I could look at the girl again after that.
I'm just curious because a friend I haven't seen in awhile is coming into town next month and I'm thinking about making moves on her (her texts are so borderline flirty but don't quite cross the edge). What do yall think the odds are of a rejection ending up fucking up our friendship?
Also for girls, if you were visiting an old friend in a new town and he made a move would you consider that super offensive? I'm not the player type and this girl knows it, I'm hoping she would understand...
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: bloodsheen] 3
#23374571 - 06/23/16 05:46 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: bloodsheen] 5
#23374624 - 06/23/16 06:02 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Read her body language before leaning in perhaps? It ain't rocket science...
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Jokeshopbeard said: Read her body language before leaning in perhaps? It ain't rocket science...
If it feels right, go for it. You don't wanna regret it later. But if she's obviously not feeling it, it ain't gonna happen.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: bloodsheen] 1
#23374710 - 06/23/16 06:26 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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I've never been rejected in that scenario, but typically if a lady turns me down I lose interest in being friends. There's really no loss, just stop being interested.
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you can always ask you know? like hey you look really nice tonight, i would love to kiss you.
if you are not sure the verbal option gives her a chance to see whats going on and decline avoiding the whole physical thing all together.
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Ask?
Fuck that just whip yer cock out and put it on the table!
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i agree with your approach as well supachopped but he sounds like he is concerned for his friends feelings.
there is some great confidence to pull it out and know they want it, high risk, high reward.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: bloodsheen] 4
#23374785 - 06/23/16 06:47 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Askings lame. Look kid, if theres a pause in the convo and you lock eyes and theres a bit of a sparkle in hers go for it. Thats it.
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Bodhi of Ankou said: Askings lame.
Agree.
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Bodhi of Ankou said: Askings lame. Look kid, if theres a pause in the convo and you lock eyes and theres a bit of a sparkle in hers go for it. Thats it.
The sparkle is imperative
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Repertoire89 said: The sparkle is imperative
This too.
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Asking is not lame. A girl once asked to kiss me and I thought it was a pretty legit move.
I think it's good to ask like if she's down with kissing cause its fun, instead of risking grossing her out.
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Bodhi of Ankou said: Askings lame. Look kid, if theres a pause in the convo and you lock eyes and theres a bit of a sparkle in hers go for it. Thats it.
I'm not going to agree that asking is lame. However everything else he said is spot on. This chick I've been seeing recently we hadn't kissed before today. We were at a park with almost no one there,nice small lake and shady spots. We laughed we had fun and then we had an in depth conversation away from everybody face to face. At one point looked deep into my eyes and smiled and I did the same and went in for the kiss. When we ran out of breath we stopped,all she could say was wow! That was great! I said, yes it was*seductively* and she grabbed me again and we both got into it. Hair pulling, and lots of caressing going on. After, we cuddled until we fell asleep in each other's arms. Damn it was a nice day.
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I had a friend who tried to do this to me 3 times in one night. I didn't think it would have been hard to get the hint the first time. I legit blocked him with my hand and pushed his face away. He was drunk and I let it slide. But we didn't remain friends but only bc we just grew up is all, as we were I'm high school.
So if you do go in for a kiss and she turns or pushes your face away..... maaaayyyybe it means she doesn't want that. And by that I mean she absolutely doesn't.
I think very few friends remain friends only after that. And if you do remain friends, she's probably a good friend.
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It's only awkward if you make it awkward. It's only a kiss, life is bigger than that. If you can't go in for a kiss, cause you legitimately feel something, and still be friends after rejection, than either you were lusting or she wasn't a real friend. Either way win win. Just be honest with yourself and open with her.
Granted I don't go making moves on all my friends, although I have remained friends with some after rejection. At least in some form. Maybe not as good, but defintely better than aquaintences.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: pachoo]
#23374968 - 06/23/16 07:34 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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pachoo said: I had a friend who tried to do this to me 3 times in one night. I didn't think it would have been hard to get the hint the first time. I legit blocked him with my hand and pushed his face away. He was drunk and I let it slide. But we didn't remain friends but only bc we just grew up is all, as we were I'm high school.
So if you do go in for a kiss and she turns or pushes your face away..... maaaayyyybe it means she doesn't want that. And by that I mean she absolutely doesn't.
I think very few friends remain friends only after that. And if you do remain friends, she's probably a good friend.
I live on the other side of the country now so theres no chance of a relationship, it would have to be friends or nothing.
And there is no level of drunkenness that would cause me to get my face pushed away and not run away in shame (dick move btw but this guy sounds like a tool)
Glad to hear nobody had this happen and it ruined a friendship. I honestly don't care about my friendship with her as much as the girl herself. Its why I want to sleep with her so badly, I've rarely cared about someone as much as her and I think it would make for some very intense and beautiful sex. With no possibility of it turning into more it would just be a fun little tryst
Plus both of us could really use a lay
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: Sanguin3]
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Just go for it... If you're grown ups it will be water under the bridge if you get knocked back, as long as you deal with it gracefully. Whatever you do don't apologise though, that would be saying it's a wrong thing you did. She might have some time to think about it and then decide to make a move on you later.
I've had a stranger come up to me at a party and ask if she could kiss me. We ended up together for about 6 months, she was a riot. Paaaartay animal.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: Sanguin3]
#23375078 - 06/23/16 08:09 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Sanguin3 said: I've been on the receiving end of this situation and honestly I didn't even think about it again after it happened. We were on break at work smoking a bowl together and she just randomly moved in when she went to pass it to me. I was pretty serious with my girl by that point so I just instinctively moved away and gave a wtf kind of look. Was awkward as fuck at the time but we laughed about it later.
wow, you affected some memory recall. hadn't thought about this in years.
i was 16 or 17 and an assistant manager at a store, and the girl, a cashier, was a year younger than myself. just before she was heading up front to clock in and start work, i walked through the stock-room doors and she shoved me against a pallet of paper bags and kissed me fucking hard (physically hard, pushing into my face) and told me she couldn't keep her feelings back any longer. i had just started dating an ex- again and turned her down. between not liking the other cashiers, working with her brother, and being really embarrassed, she quit three days later.
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Idk if I could resist apologizing... interesting point to bring up though. The idea that the sheer shock of it might make her turn away but sticking to your guns makes her second-guess herself... Sounds like a long shot though. I feel like when lips are close to yours nature takes over if you're interested.
Kinda hate you guys for having any girl make any move on you ever. I love having a penis but I kinda wish I was a girl sometimes just so I got to have everything happen for me without ever having to do anything... but I've complained about that particular subject quite enough for a lifetime
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: bloodsheen] 1
#23375118 - 06/23/16 08:20 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Maybe she'll surprise you and make the moves on YOU. Whoa!!!
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bloodsheen said: Idk if I could resist apologizing... interesting point to bring up though. The idea that the sheer shock of it might make her turn away but sticking to your guns makes her second-guess herself... Sounds like a long shot though. I feel like when lips are close to yours nature takes over if you're interested.
Kinda hate you guys for having any girl make any move on you ever. I love having a penis but I kinda wish I was a girl sometimes just so I got to have everything happen for me without ever having to do anything... but I've complained about that particular subject quite enough for a lifetime
i really prefer aggressive women. the only woman i can recall making a move on ended up not working out. we were friends a few years before, and still now, but distance and the differences in our desires, sexually/relation-wise and career would not have made for a stable, healthy result.
otherwise, all the other women i dated made the initial move. and no, i'm not the most handsome/desirable man around
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: demiu5]
#23375150 - 06/23/16 08:32 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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As I've said, kinda hate you
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: pachoo]
#23375154 - 06/23/16 08:33 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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pachoo said: Maybe she'll surprise you and make the moves on YOU. Whoa!!!

Not this girl. I'm just really really hoping that she has the same thing on her mind ahead of time. It would be so much easier if she would be like "Jeez, finally, I was wondering when you'd do something!"
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: demiu5]
#23375162 - 06/23/16 08:36 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Grab her butt first. If she giggles that means you can kiss her. If not, just try to play it off like it was an accident or you thought she was someone else.
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Lophosaurus said: Grab her butt first. If she giggles that means you can kiss her. If not, just try to play it off like it was an accident or you thought she was someone else.
I strongly advise against this.
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Even for teh lolz?!
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Lophosaurus said: Grab her butt first. If she giggles that means you can kiss her. If not, just try to play it off like it was an accident or you thought she was someone else.
Fuckin way she goes boys
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Lophosaurus said: Grab her butt first. If she giggles that means you can kiss her. If not, just try to play it off like it was an accident or you thought she was someone else.
There's nothing like the groping predator look to get a girl all wet and steamy.
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Northerner said:
Quote:
Lophosaurus said: Grab her butt first. If she giggles that means you can kiss her. If not, just try to play it off like it was an accident or you thought she was someone else.
There's nothing like the groping predator look to get a girl all wet and steamy.
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Has anyone done this sober and maintained a friendship afterward?
i had a similar moment of embarrassment . had a full on "American pie" like moment except i didn't even get to prematurely ejaculate, i just made her uncomfortable till she got dressed(having been throwing herself at me up till then).
i was a virgin.
it was hella embarrassing.
i just acted like it didn't happen and she didn't mention it and after i lost my virginity we were able to laugh at it n i eventually banged her.
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Bodhi of Ankou said: Askings lame. Look kid, if theres a pause in the convo and you lock eyes and theres a bit of a sparkle in hers go for it. Thats it.
The sparkle is imperative
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I'm gonna go jerk it to internet porn because all you virgins in this thread made me so depressed.
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DSHSB and if that goes well I'm pretty sure you can kiss her?
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Mushrooms really prefer to be kissed so I think this thread has come to an end
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I had a chick pounce on me once with such extreme ferocity that it slammed me into a wall. While she was making out with my face I distinctly remember opening my eyes are looking around the room at the other people who were at the house party and locked eyes with this other chick that was staring in disgust and jealousy and I just rolled my eyes
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If y'all sit down and she intentionally sits close enough to you that you can easily lean over and kiss her, then she probably wants you to. Girls are subtle like that.
Lightly touch her chin and bring her lips into yours. If she resists, then it's an obvious no.
Asking is not lame, you just have to do it right. Depending on the phrasing you can come off as a respectful and intelligent gentleman, or as a nervous and desperate kid.
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I thought you were female!
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If its a good vibe and shes smiling at you and if you guys lock eyes then that's a good moment, you can tell also from her behavior bro.
On the other hand supachopped bro ahhahah has this ever worked fpr you my friend? Ive legit done it once and succeeded , never tried again
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: Broly]
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I've done that unintentionally, bumped into her ass and she turned around all happy. Actually has happened a few times...
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Did she smile like this?
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What is that?
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Thats your future ex-wife.
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One time, I went in for a kiss and she looked like I was about to murder/rape her. Even like 10+ years later, it is still one of the worst memories/experiences/feelings of my life.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: nooneman]
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I can't imagine being traumatized by a look
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Were you though?
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It is not the facial expression that is traumatizing.
It's the feeling of being rejected.
However if we never learn how to deal with those feelings as a person that shit will cause deep underlying issues.
Thats why it's a very special intangible moment. When you lips press softly against someone else's.
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No, it was definitely the facial/whole body expression. That look of pure and utter primal fear in other human being is absolutely scarring. I don't know how someone could legit do something bad to another human being after seeing a look like that. It really gets to you.
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Some people are fucked and actually get off on that shit.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: nooneman]
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I cant imagine being tramatized THAT bad from an awkard kiss 
Did u learn your lesson thou?
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Definitely. Now I'm suuuuuper paranoid about kissing a girl for the first time. Like, way overly paranoid. They probably think it's weird, but I'm making sure that shit is never happening again.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: nooneman]
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Do you think you misread her body language? Or maybe she misread yours? Or both?
Maybe it was your approach? I'm curious how a girl could get so terrified from someone leaning in for a kiss.
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Probably a combination of all 3. I was like 18 or 19 at the time, and had absolutely no idea what I was doing in regard to any of those things. But in my defense, it wasn't like I attacked her or something. I just leaned over towards her (at a perfectly reasonable speed) with my lips pursed, and she freaked. I didn't even touch her.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: nooneman]
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I wouldnt sweat it, it was likely the girl was not into you.
Just watch some romantic comedies, take notes of the "first kiss" scene and try again. Dont let fear control your life, be stronger than that. Its all in your head.
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I would never be the one to go in for the kiss never. To me it seems stereotypical, pretentious and if for whatever reason she flinched things would just be awkward forever. I always let them make the first move especially for things like that.
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This. That way if she rejects you, you can say "well you cant blame me because.."
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What hell why not? That's how you get laid bro... Not girl wants a guy that's too pussy to even attempt to kiss her
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AuroraBorealis88 said: I would never be the one to go in for the kiss never. To me it seems stereotypical, pretentious and if for whatever reason she flinched things would just be awkward forever. I always let them make the first move especially for things like that.
What hell why not? That's how you get laid bro... Not girl wants a guy that's too pussy to even attempt to kiss her
so true
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You're gonna miss out on a lot of opportunities with that mentality.
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You're gonna miss out on a lot of opportunities with that mentality.
Yup!!
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Ya but girls usually like me because I'm a genuine person and am pretty "real" in how I present myself in fact I think my personality is a little too "real" to do something like that. I couldn't take a situation like that seriously. I just can't take a lot of shit like that seriously at all. I don't know I'm not trying to brag or anything but my humor seems to get the girls to go for me before I go for them. I try to make sure a girl is really into me before I even think about trying such a thing but usually by then it's too late and the girl has already gone for it.
I don't see it as being a pussy though and I don't think the girls do either. I think that they think that I perceive it as being too pushy or even "pervy".
I don't feel like it makes me look like a pussy in fact I think it's the other way around. I feel like if I went for the kiss I would be the one coming off as the desperate "pussy" not her. I just don't like to outwardly show my interest in a girl and I feel like the girls prefer that. I'm usually the one the plays hard to get and it's pretty much worked for the most part.
Making the first move just comes off to me as being desperate.
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IME girls don't like guys that come off as even just a little desperate or clingy/pushy. You got to act like you don't care. At least that's what I do.
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I can definitely take control when the time to be a man comes around but generally I don't want to come off as the one who wants it and ime girls find this more attractive and it will just make them want it more.
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Look I know what you're saying you can't come off as desperate and to do that there's a certain level of detachment required. However I feel like this hasn't always worked for you in the past. You know how much of a panty dropper it is to ask about a woman's day? You don't come off as desperate doing that but 9/10 they appreciate it and it turns them on.
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I know I talk about mundane things like that all the time. I'm just talking about getting physical or even just talking about getting physical.
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Yeah, I see what your saying now.That's a whole different story. I've never had to say anything when it comes to sex,except whispering sweet/sexy things into her ear during . Usually for me kissing the neck drives women absolutely crazy and really gets em in the mood.
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Oh also offering to give a neck/back rub works like a charm too. At least for me.
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How are you calling yourself genuine if you have to hide your attraction from the opposite sex? You have to be fucking with some immature girls to feel the need to play dumb games like that. Feigning disinterest is for children and is often a red flag that someone has trouble addressing their feelings.
Communication and honesty is key. If you think expressing interest makes you seem like a desperate pussy then you probably aren't going about it correctly.
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You're gonna miss out on a lot of opportunities with that mentality.
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No joke, a few parties back, I was hanging out with a group of my friends who happen to be all girls. And they brought up, some guy who offered them a back rub on the dance floor. They came to a consensus that it wasn't creepy if he was their type, but the second he wasn't perfectly dreamy, it turned it into an incredibly creepy situation.
I thought it was pretty shallow, but then I understood. If your gonna be letting strangers rub all over your sweaty body in public like that, you might as well be picky.
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I'm actually the one who kisses first. But it's usually because I like the shy guys. So there are definitely girls out there who would be willing to make the first move. Mostly you just have to see what kind of girl you're with.... act accordingly.... wait for the connection... stuff like that.
Following this thread you guys are making it seem so difficult to me. making me rethink my whole outlook on kissing.
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Uh ya pretty much. Why would anyone want to come off as cliché? Hell I feel like close to at least half the time girls are out right expecting you to make some kind of move on them. I don't like this. Girls constantly like to flatter themselves and making the first move on them just adds to this which I don't want to do.
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Acaterpillar said: How are you calling yourself genuine if you have to hide your attraction from the opposite sex? You have to be fucking with some immature girls to feel the need to play dumb games like that. Feigning disinterest is for children and is often a red flag that someone has trouble addressing their feelings.
Communication and honesty is key. If you think expressing interest makes you seem like a desperate pussy then you probably aren't going about it correctly.
True I just "come off" as genuine I guess. I'm probably not as open as I present myself but no one can really ever know that. People still take me as being pretty genuine and down to earth. I just feel like doing such things can be a little cheesy and like I said come off as desperate. I mean people can only be sooo "genuine" and open without seeming like a weirdo.
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Yes girls are used to being flattered, so is the way of being human. But making the first move isn't about stroking her ego, it's more a dominance/submissive nature. Most girls like to be submissive/passive in some form in a relationship. They want a dude with enough balls to go out and get what he wants. It's attractive being confident, and making the first move shows confidence.
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I don't think it effects my confidence at all. I'm pretty sure I always come off as very confident. I just act like I'm not that interested in women and this somehow attracts them to me.
Just the way I prefer to do things 
I mostly treat girls like friends and that's it.
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Sounds like insecurity to me, acting instead of being genuine.
If kissing first is being cliche, so are eating and breathing.
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I would definitely not call it acting because it's not like I'm putting up some kind of fake character. I just don't want to be "that guy" or "another guy" who makes a move on her.
At the end of the day all you really need to do is charm a girl which I think I do just fine, just charm a girl and let what happens happen. Part of the reason I see no reason for me to make the first move is because I don't believe I even "have to". I'm put in the situation where she makes a move on me often enough for me to be satisfied anyways.
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So instead you're "that guy" or "another guy" who doesn't make a move? That too is a cliche, an emasculating one.
Funnily enough I used to think the same way, as a justification for being shy. After getting around a bit, that's no longer the case.
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Yes you are. You are acting like you are not into the girl, that is acting. You could also call it pretending, but that's basically what we call children acting.
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I'm definitely not shy lol like I said I just don't want to be another guy who tries to do whatever onto her. If I do then I don't really stick out and I'm not unique, I'm just like the others. I'm sure that's how women think too. A guy just does a certain thing and she throws him in the same bin as all the other guys who have done that to her or around her.
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Maybe I'm explaining this wrong. I'm not "acting like I'm not into her" I'm just not making a damn move on her lol.
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You're going to miss out on some bad ass chick's and potentially ass man , some chick'slove a gup who makes the first move and shows how they feel. I get where you're coming from but dude you may want to switch that tactic up , because of not you will miss out.
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I don't like to fulfill people's preconceptions and I believe me making the move is probably more often than not a preconception of theirs about me. I like to shake things up that's all.
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Maybe one day when I'm drunk but I think the way I put myself out there now is fine and attracting enough.
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i tried this at a house party after the girl told me she had a boyfriend and got punched in the jaw before i could even release my grip.
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Yeah you have to also remember she wants to be treated like a person too. So making the first move can be a simple as introducing yourself and making her laugh,flirting a bit. Then later comes kissing,then a little later then that relationship/sex either both or one or the other.
Also I literally have had a beautiful woman say that she loved how genuine and straightforward I am in the last 24 hours or else I wouldn't try and give you advice. If that's what your going for though I know how to do it.
One thing I want to mention is someone said women have to like the guy for a semi random massage and that's completely true. I've actually had women come up to me and ask for a backrub because there was a rumor that I took classes (started by me) . I wouldn't suggest this as a first move ever though. The neck and back rubs work for me when I'm in a relationship all ready.
But OP you gotta stop putting pussy on a pedestal.
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Also I literally have had a beautiful woman say that she loved how genuine and straightforward I am in the last 24 hours or else I wouldn't try and give you advice. If that's what your going for though I know how to do it.
Yeah I'm definitely not saying to be genuine you have to hold back on making move I was talking about something else. I treat her like a person, I might make the move on her on the second or third time but I'm just not gonna do it the first.
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Man I am not reading any of those last posts, but I'll tell you one thing:
You boys are getting so fucking mixed up over this. It's natural.
No rocket science, no games, just be fucking you FFS.
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And that's exactly what I do. I don't see what not making the first move on a girl has to do with not being me because that is me.
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You boys are getting so fucking mixed up over this. It's natural.
No rocket science, no games, just be fucking you FFS.
Aaaah, the heady days of youth hey Beardy... Seems so simple now we're old.
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And that's exactly what I do. I don't see what not making the first move on a girl has to do with not being me because that is me.
Nothing wrong with being a bit shy man, some girls like that.
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Exactly it's Because you say you have to a certain way. When I'm being myself and I'm interested I don't make that shit a secret at all. But if you are naturally shy there isn't anything wrong with that. Some chicks love molasses slow relationships.
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Last thing I am is shy.
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Seriously_trippin said: Exactly it's Because you say you have to a certain way. When I'm being myself and I'm interested I don't make that shit a secret at all. But if you are naturally shy there isn't anything wrong with that. Some chicks love molasses slow relationships.
Not making the first move is me being me though. Just because I want to kill someone I don't like doesn't mean I'm gonna do it.
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I will go in for the kiss if someone I'm really attracted to is obviously into me and we're in close proximity/it's not awkwardly timed, but I tend to take a lazy approach to cruising for relationships and hookups, but if I want to kiss someone badly enough then I have no issue going in for the kill(I mean, kiss).
There have been way too many instances of guys who are totally not getting the 'please don't' vibes I'm trying to throw out(scooching away every time they scooch closer, not maintaining eyecontact) I get that not everyone is socially graceful, and I realized prolonging the awkward lead up to an unwanted kiss just makes it worse, so I just got better about shutting people down. It's easy when you can honestly tell someone'look you're not unnattractive and you're a cool dude, but I'm not trying to get with you and I just wanna chill". As long as they're cool and don't take it personally then it's absolutely nothing to sweat and I wouldn't want someone to feel awkward around me for that.
There were a couple times when I was younger where I was totally white girl wasted and an equally wasted guy was trying to kiss me, everytime I was laying on the floor just drunk chilling and my go to move was to kind of 'play dead' until the person slobbering on my face drunkenly wandered away...I have to be super drunk to do that though, past the 'eh, why not' tier of drunk.
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pirate-blues said: There were a couple times when I was younger where I was totally white girl wasted and an equally wasted guy was trying to kiss me, everytime I was laying on the floor just drunk chilling and my go to move was to kind of 'play dead' until the person slobbering on my face drunkenly wandered away...I have to be super drunk to do that though, past the 'eh, why not' tier of drunk.
That paints a pretty funny picture in my head  Could definitely see that backfiring if you made it a habit though.
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Jokeshopbeard said: Man I am not reading any of those last posts, but I'll tell you one thing:
You boys are getting so fucking mixed up over this. It's natural.
No rocket science, no games, just be fucking you FFS.
Aaaah, the heady days of youth hey Beardy... Seems so simple now we're old. 
LOL, you got it bang on there brother!!!
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pirate-blues said: There were a couple times when I was younger where I was totally white girl wasted and an equally wasted guy was trying to kiss me, everytime I was laying on the floor just drunk chilling and my go to move was to kind of 'play dead' until the person slobbering on my face drunkenly wandered away...I have to be super drunk to do that though, past the 'eh, why not' tier of drunk.
That paints a pretty funny picture in my head  Could definitely see that backfiring if you made it a habit though.
yeaaaah lol.
I only did it twice when I was like 18/19 and the guys that kissed me were friends, at a small party where I knew everyone .
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so I just got better about shutting people down. It's easy when you can honestly tell someone'look you're not unnattractive and you're a cool dude, but I'm not trying to get with you and I just wanna chill". As long as they're cool and don't take it personally then it's absolutely nothing to sweat and I wouldn't want someone to feel awkward around me for that.
There were a couple times when I was younger where I was totally white girl wasted and ... 'play dead' until the person slobbering on my face drunkenly wandered away...
Yeah, live and learn.
Come to think it, I have been turned down going in for a kiss. We were really - really drunk and I kissed her, she did nothing, gave no reaction, said nothing. Very awkward, would much prefer a firm shutdown.
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Seriously_trippin said: Exactly it's Because you say you have to a certain way. When I'm being myself and I'm interested I don't make that shit a secret at all. But if you are naturally shy there isn't anything wrong with that. Some chicks love molasses slow relationships.
Not making the first move is me being me though. Just because I want to kill someone I don't like doesn't mean I'm gonna do it.
Okay I'm going to stop trying to guess what your mind is like. God speed
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yeah lol. I only did it because I was already laying on the floor, the one instance I was on the bathroom floor because I had felt like I was going to puke, but wasn't sick - and the other instance I think I was just like..relaxing with my eyes closed for a sec and the mentality was '..oh..this is awkward. if I pretend to be asleep he'll go away'.
If they hadn't have stopped idk what I would've done or when, I was completely wasted and luckily they weren't creepy people.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: pachoo]
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pachoo said: I'm actually the one who kisses first. But it's usually because I like the shy guys. So there are definitely girls out there who would be willing to make the first move. Mostly you just have to see what kind of girl you're with.... act accordingly.... wait for the connection... stuff like that.
Following this thread you guys are making it seem so difficult to me. making me rethink my whole outlook on kissing.
I think if I were to express one thing to girls in general its how fucking much work/thinking we put into this shit. Its our own fault, our who seduction strategy is to look like we don't give a fuck and just thought of doing stuff out of the blue. When I ask a girl out I generally act like I had this totally on-the-spot desire to ask her out, not like I've been planning that shit and waiting for the perfect opportunity for like two weeks.
Trust me, dating is worse for guys (outside of the whole danger thing of course). Girls have no idea
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pirate-blues said: yeah lol. I only did it because I was already laying on the floor, the one instance I was on the bathroom floor because I had felt like I was going to puke, but wasn't sick - and the other instance I think I was just like..relaxing with my eyes closed for a sec and the mentality was '..oh..this is awkward. if I pretend to be asleep he'll go away'.
If they hadn't have stopped idk what I would've done or when, I was completely wasted and luckily they weren't creepy people.
...wait, a guy that kissed you on the bathroom floor ISN'T creepy? Man you've got a high thresh hold for weird. If a guy totally unexpectedly kissed a girl who was stone sober and sitting up most girls would freak the fuck out
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pirate-blues said: yeah lol. I only did it because I was already laying on the floor, the one instance I was on the bathroom floor because I had felt like I was going to puke, but wasn't sick - and the other instance I think I was just like..relaxing with my eyes closed for a sec and the mentality was '..oh..this is awkward. if I pretend to be asleep he'll go away'.
If they hadn't have stopped idk what I would've done or when, I was completely wasted and luckily they weren't creepy people.
Play dead as in look like really dead? I feel like I'd call an ambulance
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It's all about the underlying energy.
I've gotten away with some bold behavior by acting intuitively.
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The old play dead strategy.... waaahahahah!
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Acaterpillar said: Yes girls are used to being flattered, so is the way of being human. But making the first move isn't about stroking her ego, it's more a dominance/submissive nature. Most girls like to be submissive/passive in some form in a relationship. They want a dude with enough balls to go out and get what he wants. It's attractive being confident, and making the first move shows confidence.
So true. I find it attractive when a woman makes the first move in a sly way, or at least "sets herself up" for a kiss.
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Sets herself up is a weird way to put it but when they make it easy for both of you it's really nice.
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pirate-blues said: yeah lol. I only did it because I was already laying on the floor, the one instance I was on the bathroom floor because I had felt like I was going to puke, but wasn't sick - and the other instance I think I was just like..relaxing with my eyes closed for a sec and the mentality was '..oh..this is awkward. if I pretend to be asleep he'll go away'.
If they hadn't have stopped idk what I would've done or when, I was completely wasted and luckily they weren't creepy people.
...wait, a guy that kissed you on the bathroom floor ISN'T creepy? Man you've got a high thresh hold for weird. If a guy totally unexpectedly kissed a girl who was stone sober and sitting up most girls would freak the fuck out
yeah lol. I was pancaked on the floor with the spins, but he was super wasted too and sitting on the floor with me and he was mostly into dudes.
The first instance with the other guy(two separate people, and parties) was creepier because he told another guy there he was planning on banging me. Other guy later told he purposefully crashed next to me on the floor that night because apparently he was really weirded out. Ended up dating that one instead.
@srslytrippin
play dead as in pretend to be asleep. I don't know if it was convincing, but it worked and I was drunk enough that it seemed like the logical thing to do
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play dead as in pretend to be asleep. I don't know if it was convincing, but it worked and I was drunk enough that it seemed like the logical thing to do 
Alternatively, one could begin screeching and howling like a chimpanzee, throw coconuts at the suitor
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I like to try and de-escalate before I escalate. Like I said, they stopped, it wasn't no thang, certainly not the creepiest or pushiest ones I've encountered.
Now that I'm not an 18 year old that can't hold their liquor I don't have the time or the fucks to give and I know most mature adults would rather someone just be calmly upfront about things.
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i went in for a kiss once, got rejected, took her to get pizza then smoked and fucked for like six hours
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: thelanzii]
#23386280 - 06/27/16 01:00 AM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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The tried and tested Italian food date, never fails. 
this thread seriously cracks me up...
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: thelanzii]
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Had this coworker. Short blonde Israeli bad-girl from NY with a huge ass and seductive blue eyes. Long story short, 3am rolling balls after a Shpongle show I lean in to kiss her at her place. About an inch from her face I notice she froze up so sensing her discomfort I then ask if I can kiss her. Says she didn't date coworkers and I pulled away. Wasn't awkward though after that
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That's rough dude, all the jewish girls I've been with are freaks in the sheets.
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nothing like choking out and pretty much beating up a bratty bitchy jewish girl and having her beg for more
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: thelanzii]
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I don't mean that kind of freak.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: thelanzii]
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That sounds wonderful.
Them hoes just want to see my savage side.
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