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AuroraBorealis88
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Seriously_trippin said: Exactly it's Because you say you have to a certain way. When I'm being myself and I'm interested I don't make that shit a secret at all. But if you are naturally shy there isn't anything wrong with that. Some chicks love molasses slow relationships.
Not making the first move is me being me though. Just because I want to kill someone I don't like doesn't mean I'm gonna do it.
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pirate-blues


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I will go in for the kiss if someone I'm really attracted to is obviously into me and we're in close proximity/it's not awkwardly timed, but I tend to take a lazy approach to cruising for relationships and hookups, but if I want to kiss someone badly enough then I have no issue going in for the kill(I mean, kiss).
There have been way too many instances of guys who are totally not getting the 'please don't' vibes I'm trying to throw out(scooching away every time they scooch closer, not maintaining eyecontact) I get that not everyone is socially graceful, and I realized prolonging the awkward lead up to an unwanted kiss just makes it worse, so I just got better about shutting people down. It's easy when you can honestly tell someone'look you're not unnattractive and you're a cool dude, but I'm not trying to get with you and I just wanna chill". As long as they're cool and don't take it personally then it's absolutely nothing to sweat and I wouldn't want someone to feel awkward around me for that.
There were a couple times when I was younger where I was totally white girl wasted and an equally wasted guy was trying to kiss me, everytime I was laying on the floor just drunk chilling and my go to move was to kind of 'play dead' until the person slobbering on my face drunkenly wandered away...I have to be super drunk to do that though, past the 'eh, why not' tier of drunk.
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Acaterpillar
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pirate-blues said: There were a couple times when I was younger where I was totally white girl wasted and an equally wasted guy was trying to kiss me, everytime I was laying on the floor just drunk chilling and my go to move was to kind of 'play dead' until the person slobbering on my face drunkenly wandered away...I have to be super drunk to do that though, past the 'eh, why not' tier of drunk.
That paints a pretty funny picture in my head  Could definitely see that backfiring if you made it a habit though.
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Jokeshopbeard said: Man I am not reading any of those last posts, but I'll tell you one thing:
You boys are getting so fucking mixed up over this. It's natural.
No rocket science, no games, just be fucking you FFS.
Aaaah, the heady days of youth hey Beardy... Seems so simple now we're old. 
LOL, you got it bang on there brother!!!
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pirate-blues said: There were a couple times when I was younger where I was totally white girl wasted and an equally wasted guy was trying to kiss me, everytime I was laying on the floor just drunk chilling and my go to move was to kind of 'play dead' until the person slobbering on my face drunkenly wandered away...I have to be super drunk to do that though, past the 'eh, why not' tier of drunk.
That paints a pretty funny picture in my head  Could definitely see that backfiring if you made it a habit though.
yeaaaah lol.
I only did it twice when I was like 18/19 and the guys that kissed me were friends, at a small party where I knew everyone .
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so I just got better about shutting people down. It's easy when you can honestly tell someone'look you're not unnattractive and you're a cool dude, but I'm not trying to get with you and I just wanna chill". As long as they're cool and don't take it personally then it's absolutely nothing to sweat and I wouldn't want someone to feel awkward around me for that.
There were a couple times when I was younger where I was totally white girl wasted and ... 'play dead' until the person slobbering on my face drunkenly wandered away...
Yeah, live and learn.
Come to think it, I have been turned down going in for a kiss. We were really - really drunk and I kissed her, she did nothing, gave no reaction, said nothing. Very awkward, would much prefer a firm shutdown.
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Seriously_trippin
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Seriously_trippin said: Exactly it's Because you say you have to a certain way. When I'm being myself and I'm interested I don't make that shit a secret at all. But if you are naturally shy there isn't anything wrong with that. Some chicks love molasses slow relationships.
Not making the first move is me being me though. Just because I want to kill someone I don't like doesn't mean I'm gonna do it.
Okay I'm going to stop trying to guess what your mind is like. God speed
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yeah lol. I only did it because I was already laying on the floor, the one instance I was on the bathroom floor because I had felt like I was going to puke, but wasn't sick - and the other instance I think I was just like..relaxing with my eyes closed for a sec and the mentality was '..oh..this is awkward. if I pretend to be asleep he'll go away'.
If they hadn't have stopped idk what I would've done or when, I was completely wasted and luckily they weren't creepy people.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: pachoo]
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pachoo said: I'm actually the one who kisses first. But it's usually because I like the shy guys. So there are definitely girls out there who would be willing to make the first move. Mostly you just have to see what kind of girl you're with.... act accordingly.... wait for the connection... stuff like that.
Following this thread you guys are making it seem so difficult to me. making me rethink my whole outlook on kissing.
I think if I were to express one thing to girls in general its how fucking much work/thinking we put into this shit. Its our own fault, our who seduction strategy is to look like we don't give a fuck and just thought of doing stuff out of the blue. When I ask a girl out I generally act like I had this totally on-the-spot desire to ask her out, not like I've been planning that shit and waiting for the perfect opportunity for like two weeks.
Trust me, dating is worse for guys (outside of the whole danger thing of course). Girls have no idea
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pirate-blues said: yeah lol. I only did it because I was already laying on the floor, the one instance I was on the bathroom floor because I had felt like I was going to puke, but wasn't sick - and the other instance I think I was just like..relaxing with my eyes closed for a sec and the mentality was '..oh..this is awkward. if I pretend to be asleep he'll go away'.
If they hadn't have stopped idk what I would've done or when, I was completely wasted and luckily they weren't creepy people.
...wait, a guy that kissed you on the bathroom floor ISN'T creepy? Man you've got a high thresh hold for weird. If a guy totally unexpectedly kissed a girl who was stone sober and sitting up most girls would freak the fuck out
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pirate-blues said: yeah lol. I only did it because I was already laying on the floor, the one instance I was on the bathroom floor because I had felt like I was going to puke, but wasn't sick - and the other instance I think I was just like..relaxing with my eyes closed for a sec and the mentality was '..oh..this is awkward. if I pretend to be asleep he'll go away'.
If they hadn't have stopped idk what I would've done or when, I was completely wasted and luckily they weren't creepy people.
Play dead as in look like really dead? I feel like I'd call an ambulance
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It's all about the underlying energy.
I've gotten away with some bold behavior by acting intuitively.
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The old play dead strategy.... waaahahahah!
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Acaterpillar said: Yes girls are used to being flattered, so is the way of being human. But making the first move isn't about stroking her ego, it's more a dominance/submissive nature. Most girls like to be submissive/passive in some form in a relationship. They want a dude with enough balls to go out and get what he wants. It's attractive being confident, and making the first move shows confidence.
So true. I find it attractive when a woman makes the first move in a sly way, or at least "sets herself up" for a kiss.
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Sets herself up is a weird way to put it but when they make it easy for both of you it's really nice.
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pirate-blues said: yeah lol. I only did it because I was already laying on the floor, the one instance I was on the bathroom floor because I had felt like I was going to puke, but wasn't sick - and the other instance I think I was just like..relaxing with my eyes closed for a sec and the mentality was '..oh..this is awkward. if I pretend to be asleep he'll go away'.
If they hadn't have stopped idk what I would've done or when, I was completely wasted and luckily they weren't creepy people.
...wait, a guy that kissed you on the bathroom floor ISN'T creepy? Man you've got a high thresh hold for weird. If a guy totally unexpectedly kissed a girl who was stone sober and sitting up most girls would freak the fuck out
yeah lol. I was pancaked on the floor with the spins, but he was super wasted too and sitting on the floor with me and he was mostly into dudes.
The first instance with the other guy(two separate people, and parties) was creepier because he told another guy there he was planning on banging me. Other guy later told he purposefully crashed next to me on the floor that night because apparently he was really weirded out. Ended up dating that one instead.
@srslytrippin
play dead as in pretend to be asleep. I don't know if it was convincing, but it worked and I was drunk enough that it seemed like the logical thing to do
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play dead as in pretend to be asleep. I don't know if it was convincing, but it worked and I was drunk enough that it seemed like the logical thing to do 
Alternatively, one could begin screeching and howling like a chimpanzee, throw coconuts at the suitor
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I like to try and de-escalate before I escalate. Like I said, they stopped, it wasn't no thang, certainly not the creepiest or pushiest ones I've encountered.
Now that I'm not an 18 year old that can't hold their liquor I don't have the time or the fucks to give and I know most mature adults would rather someone just be calmly upfront about things.
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i went in for a kiss once, got rejected, took her to get pizza then smoked and fucked for like six hours
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: thelanzii]
#23386280 - 06/27/16 01:00 AM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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The tried and tested Italian food date, never fails. 
this thread seriously cracks me up...
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