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AuroraBorealis88
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I don't think it effects my confidence at all. I'm pretty sure I always come off as very confident. I just act like I'm not that interested in women and this somehow attracts them to me.
Just the way I prefer to do things 
I mostly treat girls like friends and that's it.
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Repertoire89
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Sounds like insecurity to me, acting instead of being genuine.
If kissing first is being cliche, so are eating and breathing.
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I would definitely not call it acting because it's not like I'm putting up some kind of fake character. I just don't want to be "that guy" or "another guy" who makes a move on her.
At the end of the day all you really need to do is charm a girl which I think I do just fine, just charm a girl and let what happens happen. Part of the reason I see no reason for me to make the first move is because I don't believe I even "have to". I'm put in the situation where she makes a move on me often enough for me to be satisfied anyways.
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Repertoire89
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So instead you're "that guy" or "another guy" who doesn't make a move? That too is a cliche, an emasculating one.
Funnily enough I used to think the same way, as a justification for being shy. After getting around a bit, that's no longer the case.
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AuroraBorealis88 said: I would definitely not call it acting because it's not like I'm putting up some kind of fake character.
Yes you are. You are acting like you are not into the girl, that is acting. You could also call it pretending, but that's basically what we call children acting.
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Repertoire89 said: Funnily enough I used to think the same way, as a justification for being shy. After getting around a bit, that's no longer the case.
I'm definitely not shy lol like I said I just don't want to be another guy who tries to do whatever onto her. If I do then I don't really stick out and I'm not unique, I'm just like the others. I'm sure that's how women think too. A guy just does a certain thing and she throws him in the same bin as all the other guys who have done that to her or around her.
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Acaterpillar said: Yes you are. You are acting like you are not into the girl, that is acting. You could also call it pretending, but that's basically what we call children acting.
Maybe I'm explaining this wrong. I'm not "acting like I'm not into her" I'm just not making a damn move on her lol.
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You're going to miss out on some bad ass chick's and potentially ass man , some chick'slove a gup who makes the first move and shows how they feel. I get where you're coming from but dude you may want to switch that tactic up , because of not you will miss out.
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I don't like to fulfill people's preconceptions and I believe me making the move is probably more often than not a preconception of theirs about me. I like to shake things up that's all.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: Broly]
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Broly said: You're going to miss out on some bad ass chick's and potentially ass man , some chick'slove a gup who makes the first move and shows how they feel. I get where you're coming from but dude you may want to switch that tactic up , because of not you will miss out.
Maybe one day when I'm drunk but I think the way I put myself out there now is fine and attracting enough.
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Lophosaurus said: Grab her butt first.
i tried this at a house party after the girl told me she had a boyfriend and got punched in the jaw before i could even release my grip.
Admirable quality tbh.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: Apostle]
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before i could even release my grip.
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Yeah you have to also remember she wants to be treated like a person too. So making the first move can be a simple as introducing yourself and making her laugh,flirting a bit. Then later comes kissing,then a little later then that relationship/sex either both or one or the other.
Also I literally have had a beautiful woman say that she loved how genuine and straightforward I am in the last 24 hours or else I wouldn't try and give you advice. If that's what your going for though I know how to do it.
One thing I want to mention is someone said women have to like the guy for a semi random massage and that's completely true. I've actually had women come up to me and ask for a backrub because there was a rumor that I took classes (started by me) . I wouldn't suggest this as a first move ever though. The neck and back rubs work for me when I'm in a relationship all ready.
But OP you gotta stop putting pussy on a pedestal.
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Seriously_trippin said: Yeah you have to also remember she wants to be treated like a person too. So making the first move can be a simple as introducing yourself and making her laugh,flirting a bit. Then later comes kissing,then a little later then that relationship/sex either both or one or the other.
Also I literally have had a beautiful woman say that she loved how genuine and straightforward I am in the last 24 hours or else I wouldn't try and give you advice. If that's what your going for though I know how to do it.
Yeah I'm definitely not saying to be genuine you have to hold back on making move I was talking about something else. I treat her like a person, I might make the move on her on the second or third time but I'm just not gonna do it the first.
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Man I am not reading any of those last posts, but I'll tell you one thing:
You boys are getting so fucking mixed up over this. It's natural.
No rocket science, no games, just be fucking you FFS.
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Jokeshopbeard said: just be fucking you
And that's exactly what I do. I don't see what not making the first move on a girl has to do with not being me because that is me.
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Jokeshopbeard said: Man I am not reading any of those last posts, but I'll tell you one thing:
You boys are getting so fucking mixed up over this. It's natural.
No rocket science, no games, just be fucking you FFS.
Aaaah, the heady days of youth hey Beardy... Seems so simple now we're old.
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Jokeshopbeard said: just be fucking you
And that's exactly what I do. I don't see what not making the first move on a girl has to do with not being me because that is me.
Nothing wrong with being a bit shy man, some girls like that.
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Exactly it's Because you say you have to a certain way. When I'm being myself and I'm interested I don't make that shit a secret at all. But if you are naturally shy there isn't anything wrong with that. Some chicks love molasses slow relationships.
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Yea alot of times girls will cuddle up with me after fucking them silly and tell me about how some adorable shy guy stuttered somethin to them at Barnes&Noble.
Yall are definitely appreciated.
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Northerner said: Nothing wrong with being a bit shy man, some girls like that.
Last thing I am is shy.
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