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AuroraBorealis88
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I would never be the one to go in for the kiss never. To me it seems stereotypical, pretentious and if for whatever reason she flinched things would just be awkward forever. I always let them make the first move especially for things like that.
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Jokeshopbeard said: Read her body language before leaning in perhaps? It ain't rocket science...
This. That way if she rejects you, you can say "well you cant blame me because.."
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AuroraBorealis88 said: I would never be the one to go in for the kiss never. To me it seems stereotypical, pretentious and if for whatever reason she flinched things would just be awkward forever. I always let them make the first move especially for things like that.
What hell why not? That's how you get laid bro... Not girl wants a guy that's too pussy to even attempt to kiss her
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AuroraBorealis88 said: I would never be the one to go in for the kiss never. To me it seems stereotypical, pretentious and if for whatever reason she flinched things would just be awkward forever. I always let them make the first move especially for things like that.
What hell why not? That's how you get laid bro... Not girl wants a guy that's too pussy to even attempt to kiss her
so true
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AuroraBorealis88 said: I would never be the one to go in for the kiss never. To me it seems stereotypical, pretentious and if for whatever reason she flinched things would just be awkward forever. I always let them make the first move especially for things like that.
You're gonna miss out on a lot of opportunities with that mentality.
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AuroraBorealis88 said: I would never be the one to go in for the kiss never. To me it seems stereotypical, pretentious and if for whatever reason she flinched things would just be awkward forever. I always let them make the first move especially for things like that.
You're gonna miss out on a lot of opportunities with that mentality.
Yup!!
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Rebelutionsssss said: What hell why not? That's how you get laid bro... Not girl wants a guy that's too pussy to even attempt to kiss her
Ya but girls usually like me because I'm a genuine person and am pretty "real" in how I present myself in fact I think my personality is a little too "real" to do something like that. I couldn't take a situation like that seriously. I just can't take a lot of shit like that seriously at all. I don't know I'm not trying to brag or anything but my humor seems to get the girls to go for me before I go for them. I try to make sure a girl is really into me before I even think about trying such a thing but usually by then it's too late and the girl has already gone for it.
I don't see it as being a pussy though and I don't think the girls do either. I think that they think that I perceive it as being too pushy or even "pervy".
I don't feel like it makes me look like a pussy in fact I think it's the other way around. I feel like if I went for the kiss I would be the one coming off as the desperate "pussy" not her. I just don't like to outwardly show my interest in a girl and I feel like the girls prefer that. I'm usually the one the plays hard to get and it's pretty much worked for the most part.
Making the first move just comes off to me as being desperate.
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IME girls don't like guys that come off as even just a little desperate or clingy/pushy. You got to act like you don't care. At least that's what I do.
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Yes, but you also gotta be a man and take control when the time comes. It's a balancing act, like anything else in this life.
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I can definitely take control when the time to be a man comes around but generally I don't want to come off as the one who wants it and ime girls find this more attractive and it will just make them want it more.
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AuroraBorealis88 said: IME girls don't like guys that come off as even just a little desperate or clingy/pushy. You got to act like you don't care. At least that's what I do.
Look I know what you're saying you can't come off as desperate and to do that there's a certain level of detachment required. However I feel like this hasn't always worked for you in the past. You know how much of a panty dropper it is to ask about a woman's day? You don't come off as desperate doing that but 9/10 they appreciate it and it turns them on.
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I know I talk about mundane things like that all the time. I'm just talking about getting physical or even just talking about getting physical.
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Yeah, I see what your saying now.That's a whole different story. I've never had to say anything when it comes to sex,except whispering sweet/sexy things into her ear during . Usually for me kissing the neck drives women absolutely crazy and really gets em in the mood.
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Oh also offering to give a neck/back rub works like a charm too. At least for me.
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AuroraBorealis88 said: IME girls don't like guys that come off as even just a little desperate or clingy/pushy. You got to act like you don't care. At least that's what I do.
How are you calling yourself genuine if you have to hide your attraction from the opposite sex? You have to be fucking with some immature girls to feel the need to play dumb games like that. Feigning disinterest is for children and is often a red flag that someone has trouble addressing their feelings.
Communication and honesty is key. If you think expressing interest makes you seem like a desperate pussy then you probably aren't going about it correctly.
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AuroraBorealis88 said: I would never be the one to go in for the kiss never. To me it seems stereotypical, pretentious and if for whatever reason she flinched things would just be awkward forever. I always let them make the first move especially for things like that.
You're gonna miss out on a lot of opportunities with that mentality.
Yup!!
I don't wanna make moves on a girl because stereotypes guys!!!!
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Seriously_trippin said: Oh also offering to give a neck/back rub works like a charm too. At least for me.
No joke, a few parties back, I was hanging out with a group of my friends who happen to be all girls. And they brought up, some guy who offered them a back rub on the dance floor. They came to a consensus that it wasn't creepy if he was their type, but the second he wasn't perfectly dreamy, it turned it into an incredibly creepy situation.
I thought it was pretty shallow, but then I understood. If your gonna be letting strangers rub all over your sweaty body in public like that, you might as well be picky.
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I'm actually the one who kisses first. But it's usually because I like the shy guys. So there are definitely girls out there who would be willing to make the first move. Mostly you just have to see what kind of girl you're with.... act accordingly.... wait for the connection... stuff like that.
Following this thread you guys are making it seem so difficult to me. making me rethink my whole outlook on kissing.
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Supachopped719 said: I don't wanna make moves on a girl because stereotypes guys!!!!
Uh ya pretty much. Why would anyone want to come off as cliché? Hell I feel like close to at least half the time girls are out right expecting you to make some kind of move on them. I don't like this. Girls constantly like to flatter themselves and making the first move on them just adds to this which I don't want to do.
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Acaterpillar said: How are you calling yourself genuine if you have to hide your attraction from the opposite sex? You have to be fucking with some immature girls to feel the need to play dumb games like that. Feigning disinterest is for children and is often a red flag that someone has trouble addressing their feelings.
Communication and honesty is key. If you think expressing interest makes you seem like a desperate pussy then you probably aren't going about it correctly.
True I just "come off" as genuine I guess. I'm probably not as open as I present myself but no one can really ever know that. People still take me as being pretty genuine and down to earth. I just feel like doing such things can be a little cheesy and like I said come off as desperate. I mean people can only be sooo "genuine" and open without seeming like a weirdo.
Edited by AuroraBorealis88 (06/26/16 01:53 PM)
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Yes girls are used to being flattered, so is the way of being human. But making the first move isn't about stroking her ego, it's more a dominance/submissive nature. Most girls like to be submissive/passive in some form in a relationship. They want a dude with enough balls to go out and get what he wants. It's attractive being confident, and making the first move shows confidence.
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