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bloodsheen
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Going in for a kiss 1
#23374543 - 06/23/16 05:40 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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And getting the 
Has anyone done this sober and maintained a friendship afterward? Its never happened to me but it seems epicly embarrassing, I'm not sure if I could look at the girl again after that.
I'm just curious because a friend I haven't seen in awhile is coming into town next month and I'm thinking about making moves on her (her texts are so borderline flirty but don't quite cross the edge). What do yall think the odds are of a rejection ending up fucking up our friendship?
Also for girls, if you were visiting an old friend in a new town and he made a move would you consider that super offensive? I'm not the player type and this girl knows it, I'm hoping she would understand...
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: bloodsheen] 3
#23374571 - 06/23/16 05:46 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yolo
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: bloodsheen] 5
#23374624 - 06/23/16 06:02 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Read her body language before leaning in perhaps? It ain't rocket science...
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Jokeshopbeard said: Read her body language before leaning in perhaps? It ain't rocket science...
If it feels right, go for it. You don't wanna regret it later. But if she's obviously not feeling it, it ain't gonna happen.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: bloodsheen] 1
#23374710 - 06/23/16 06:26 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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I've never been rejected in that scenario, but typically if a lady turns me down I lose interest in being friends. There's really no loss, just stop being interested.
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you can always ask you know? like hey you look really nice tonight, i would love to kiss you.
if you are not sure the verbal option gives her a chance to see whats going on and decline avoiding the whole physical thing all together.
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Ask?
Fuck that just whip yer cock out and put it on the table!
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i agree with your approach as well supachopped but he sounds like he is concerned for his friends feelings.
there is some great confidence to pull it out and know they want it, high risk, high reward.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: bloodsheen] 4
#23374785 - 06/23/16 06:47 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Askings lame. Look kid, if theres a pause in the convo and you lock eyes and theres a bit of a sparkle in hers go for it. Thats it.
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Bodhi of Ankou said: Askings lame.
Agree.
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Bodhi of Ankou said: Askings lame. Look kid, if theres a pause in the convo and you lock eyes and theres a bit of a sparkle in hers go for it. Thats it.
The sparkle is imperative
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Repertoire89 said: The sparkle is imperative
This too.
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Asking is not lame. A girl once asked to kiss me and I thought it was a pretty legit move.
I think it's good to ask like if she's down with kissing cause its fun, instead of risking grossing her out.
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Bodhi of Ankou said: Askings lame. Look kid, if theres a pause in the convo and you lock eyes and theres a bit of a sparkle in hers go for it. Thats it.
I'm not going to agree that asking is lame. However everything else he said is spot on. This chick I've been seeing recently we hadn't kissed before today. We were at a park with almost no one there,nice small lake and shady spots. We laughed we had fun and then we had an in depth conversation away from everybody face to face. At one point looked deep into my eyes and smiled and I did the same and went in for the kiss. When we ran out of breath we stopped,all she could say was wow! That was great! I said, yes it was*seductively* and she grabbed me again and we both got into it. Hair pulling, and lots of caressing going on. After, we cuddled until we fell asleep in each other's arms. Damn it was a nice day.
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I had a friend who tried to do this to me 3 times in one night. I didn't think it would have been hard to get the hint the first time. I legit blocked him with my hand and pushed his face away. He was drunk and I let it slide. But we didn't remain friends but only bc we just grew up is all, as we were I'm high school.
So if you do go in for a kiss and she turns or pushes your face away..... maaaayyyybe it means she doesn't want that. And by that I mean she absolutely doesn't.
I think very few friends remain friends only after that. And if you do remain friends, she's probably a good friend.
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It's only awkward if you make it awkward. It's only a kiss, life is bigger than that. If you can't go in for a kiss, cause you legitimately feel something, and still be friends after rejection, than either you were lusting or she wasn't a real friend. Either way win win. Just be honest with yourself and open with her.
Granted I don't go making moves on all my friends, although I have remained friends with some after rejection. At least in some form. Maybe not as good, but defintely better than aquaintences.
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: pachoo]
#23374968 - 06/23/16 07:34 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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pachoo said: I had a friend who tried to do this to me 3 times in one night. I didn't think it would have been hard to get the hint the first time. I legit blocked him with my hand and pushed his face away. He was drunk and I let it slide. But we didn't remain friends but only bc we just grew up is all, as we were I'm high school.
So if you do go in for a kiss and she turns or pushes your face away..... maaaayyyybe it means she doesn't want that. And by that I mean she absolutely doesn't.
I think very few friends remain friends only after that. And if you do remain friends, she's probably a good friend.
I live on the other side of the country now so theres no chance of a relationship, it would have to be friends or nothing.
And there is no level of drunkenness that would cause me to get my face pushed away and not run away in shame (dick move btw but this guy sounds like a tool)
Glad to hear nobody had this happen and it ruined a friendship. I honestly don't care about my friendship with her as much as the girl herself. Its why I want to sleep with her so badly, I've rarely cared about someone as much as her and I think it would make for some very intense and beautiful sex. With no possibility of it turning into more it would just be a fun little tryst
Plus both of us could really use a lay
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Re: Going in for a kiss [Re: Sanguin3]
#23375043 - 06/23/16 07:58 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Just go for it... If you're grown ups it will be water under the bridge if you get knocked back, as long as you deal with it gracefully. Whatever you do don't apologise though, that would be saying it's a wrong thing you did. She might have some time to think about it and then decide to make a move on you later.
I've had a stranger come up to me at a party and ask if she could kiss me. We ended up together for about 6 months, she was a riot. Paaaartay animal.
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