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OfflinePatlal
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Are you a social outcast? * 1
    #23360518 - 06/19/16 11:07 AM (7 years, 7 months ago)

I've come to realize this with time and experience. Since I'm not a social guy, I gradually become an bigger and bigger outcast (obviously right?)

Thing is, I've been saying that I don't want to socialize therefore it's my choice. But I've been trying lately and it feels as if the system is rigged against me. I believe that poor social skills is the most discriminated thing out there. It doesn't come easy for some people and only practice can make it better. But when you start trying you sound weird, out of place, disrespectful and whatever else, so other people just run away from you, they label you as an idiot or an asshole or whatever and they try their best not to interact with you. Therefore, you can't practice. You don't learn to play guitar without a guitar right?

I read these stats that 70% of the population accept absolutely everybody. Gay black Muslim in a wheelchair, no problem. Guy with poor social skills, people run away. If only there was that one person that would look past the awkwardness and be like "you know what, I'll take half an hour and see what you're about".

It creates a vicious cycle. People get away from you therefore to cope you convince yourself you want to be alone, so after a while you deliberately become worse at socializing. Some people use drug to cope, which doesn't help and there that very small minority that'll grab a machine gun and kill 100 people. Then we'll hear people wondering what happened for a month and then the usual comes out "he was weird" "he was a loner" etc.

Some of us will think there's something wrong with them and go to the psychiatrist and be given pills. You can't have a conversation with pills... If you do, they'll give you another pill. After a while you lose track of what is in or out in the social world and obviously you can't help but sound weird when you have no idea what's being talked about. The social people are constantly keeping themselves updated of course, without them even realizing it. Then they wonder how it can be that someone can be out of touch. The inevitable result of people not wanting to talk to us.

I don't know why I'm writing this up. I was just taking a walk on this beautiful sunny and my brain just went there. I think I'm on to something. I'm trying to get more social lately. There was a party with pretty much everybody in the store I work in yesterday, I saw all the pics on Facebook and I have realized that everybody was there and I wasn't even told about it. I overheard someone 3 days ago talking about something happening Saturday evening and when I asked he pretended not to know. I didn't think anything of it but now that I see all the pics I kinda think it was a dick move.

Oh well. End rant I guess?


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: Patlal] * 1
    #23360536 - 06/19/16 11:12 AM (7 years, 7 months ago)

I feel you man... it truly fucking sucks.


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: Patlal]
    #23360561 - 06/19/16 11:17 AM (7 years, 7 months ago)

You gotta get past showing your social anxiety and awkwardness, they're feelings that almost all adults feel often, but when you let them overwhelm you and inhibit your social interactions, it's an indication that there's something deeper going on there. That's why people avoid these interactions, it's not because you're awkward and anxious. It's because people know that people who can't deal with those emotions properly have a lot more going on that they don't want to deal with.


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Re: Are you a social outcast? *DELETED* [Re: Rustifer]
    #23360641 - 06/19/16 11:52 AM (7 years, 7 months ago)

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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: trees]
    #23360650 - 06/19/16 11:56 AM (7 years, 7 months ago)

I love the analogy "flowing like wine" :smile:


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: Patlal]
    #23360669 - 06/19/16 12:03 PM (7 years, 7 months ago)

No


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: Patlal]
    #23360672 - 06/19/16 12:04 PM (7 years, 7 months ago)

yeah.


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: Dark_Star]
    #23360681 - 06/19/16 12:06 PM (7 years, 7 months ago)

Absolutely


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: plasma] * 1
    #23360739 - 06/19/16 12:28 PM (7 years, 7 months ago)

Yeah I'm a social outcast do I care tho? Nah I hate people


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OfflineTheMovement
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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: Patlal]
    #23360815 - 06/19/16 01:04 PM (7 years, 7 months ago)

Quote:

Patlal said:
I've come to realize this with time and experience. Since I'm not a social guy, I gradually become an bigger and bigger outcast (obviously right?)

Thing is, I've been saying that I don't want to socialize therefore it's my choice. But I've been trying lately and it feels as if the system is rigged against me. I believe that poor social skills is the most discriminated thing out there. It doesn't come easy for some people and only practice can make it better. But when you start trying you sound weird, out of place, disrespectful and whatever else, so other people just run away from you, they label you as an idiot or an asshole or whatever and they try their best not to interact with you. Therefore, you can't practice. You don't learn to play guitar without a guitar right?

I read these stats that 70% of the population accept absolutely everybody. Gay black Muslim in a wheelchair, no problem. Guy with poor social skills, people run away. If only there was that one person that would look past the awkwardness and be like "you know what, I'll take half an hour and see what you're about".

It creates a vicious cycle. People get away from you therefore to cope you convince yourself you want to be alone, so after a while you deliberately become worse at socializing. Some people use drug to cope, which doesn't help and there that very small minority that'll grab a machine gun and kill 100 people. Then we'll hear people wondering what happened for a month and then the usual comes out "he was weird" "he was a loner" etc.

Some of us will think there's something wrong with them and go to the psychiatrist and be given pills. You can't have a conversation with pills... If you do, they'll give you another pill. After a while you lose track of what is in or out in the social world and obviously you can't help but sound weird when you have no idea what's being talked about. The social people are constantly keeping themselves updated of course, without them even realizing it. Then they wonder how it can be that someone can be out of touch. The inevitable result of people not wanting to talk to us.

I don't know why I'm writing this up. I was just taking a walk on this beautiful sunny and my brain just went there. I think I'm on to something. I'm trying to get more social lately. There was a party with pretty much everybody in the store I work in yesterday, I saw all the pics on Facebook and I have realized that everybody was there and I wasn't even told about it. I overheard someone 3 days ago talking about something happening Saturday evening and when I asked he pretended not to know. I didn't think anything of it but now that I see all the pics I kinda think it was a dick move.

Oh well. End rant I guess?


I'm definitely not a social outcast, I can fit in and make conversation with most (open minded/educated) people. 

I think that most people accept social awkwardness at concerts and music festivals.  I know I do and eventually we end up breaking that barrier and it's not as awkward.  Practice makes perfect and such just don't be afraid to say whats on your mind.


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: TheMovement]
    #23360906 - 06/19/16 01:44 PM (7 years, 7 months ago)

it really depends on the environment that i'm in.  the people i'm around.


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: bass head] * 1
    #23360939 - 06/19/16 01:58 PM (7 years, 7 months ago)

Nah, you just gotta own that shit OP, pretend like you belong and you eventually will.


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: TheMovement] * 2
    #23360977 - 06/19/16 02:19 PM (7 years, 7 months ago)

I don't think I'm an outcast. I march to my own beat, and I just always have been a weird one. I am very social, warm, and talkative - I am good at connecting with people, and I really enjoy good conversation - but I'm also very introspective, so I fluctate between being socially vivacious and being completely aloof and I've decided that it's okay for me to not want to socialize. Having me-time, cultivating interests, hobbies, bettering myself and learning more about myself kind of also helps me seek out people and situations that are more inspiring and suited to me - so socializing is much more natural and fun than forcing myself out to places I don't want to be with people I'm indifferent about just to avoid feeling like an anti-social loser. I think that if you just do cool shit, and you just stop giving fucks about social convention but still work towards being a genuinely decent person(just because you stopped giving a fuck doesn't mean you should be a dick) then people will like you just fine and accept you as you are.

Anytime I feel the need to fit certain social conventions that I don't naturally err towards - it's highly uncomfortable.

Most of the people I hang out with are very much the same, but for instance - my sister in law is a wonderful human being who deserves all the success she has worked to get, but going to her bridal shower was agonizing for me because in a crowd of sorority sisters and women who care about things that I really just don't(for lack of better wording, they basic) - I didn't know anyone, my mom is also an artsy blacksheep type, and I just felt really uneasy on the inside even though everyone was super nice and I felt guilty about judging them for being so basic...I was just uncomfortable trying to 'fake it'. And that's okay, it wasn't about me, it was about my SIL celebrating her upcoming marriage with her bridal party and family, and I realized that all these girls were way too excited and focused on their own lives to give any kind of shit about me not 'fitting in', and that it was ok to hang back and not be a social butterfly.


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: Patlal]
    #23361085 - 06/19/16 03:05 PM (7 years, 7 months ago)

I have difficulties at times socializing and currently my social life is in some turmoil, not that it hasn't always been that way on some level, so yes, I am a social outcast in a sense.

I'm also not going to go out and murder anyone over it, not sure why you put that little bit in there


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: 404]
    #23361215 - 06/19/16 03:55 PM (7 years, 7 months ago)

I don't have money to do stuff
all i do is spend it on videogames
that makes shruggin younger girls off feel akward but it's better then wasting time money
but it's true i dont' have any money
and I don't have the emotional quirks to put up with a relationship
so really im just unmotivated to form relationships or pick up old hobbies


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: Konyap] * 1
    #23361304 - 06/19/16 04:32 PM (7 years, 7 months ago)

nah dude i got 243 friends on facebook.


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: dixienormous]
    #23361412 - 06/19/16 05:17 PM (7 years, 7 months ago)

Yeah, I'm an outkast


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: Patlal]
    #23361450 - 06/19/16 05:30 PM (7 years, 7 months ago)

Pat it sounds like you just take some things personally that don't need to be. Everyone does it, it's just a way to understand how a situation or action applies to us, the problem is it doesn't always, so there's no point concerning yourself with a single one of many possible eventualities.. I just go with the flow and if people like me they like me, if they don't they don't, I'm not going to complain if someone doesn't percieve me being compatible with their lifestyle because I'm certainly not going to change the core of who I am. That's how we make friends, if it wasn't the term would be meaningless. That party for instance, dude if you're quiet how can they gauge you? That's not necessarily an issue unless that's your perogative but for all you know they all smoke weed or do drugs and don't want unnecessary drama at work, or maybe you're just older. :shrug:

I don't know dude, all I can say is I like to be alone sometimes but I'm pretty picky with te company I keep. I don't take things personally, so if anyone is a social outcast it would be those I exclude, not the other way around, because I'd be hard pressed for fucks to give about other people's social circles. It's all in your perception, and if you're concerned all the time about how other people percieve you it's hard to focus on addressing how you percieve yourself.


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: larry.fisherman]
    #23361619 - 06/19/16 06:40 PM (7 years, 7 months ago)

I never socialize with coworkers, originally it was by choice, but nowadays, I'm pretty sure it's because they've gotten to know me

Some people are alone by choice, others becuase nobody likes them

Sometimes I think I would like a friend, but then I think about all the drama and baggage that comes with friends and my mind recoils in horror

Honestly, of all the people I know, id rather hang out with my dog...


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Re: Are you a social outcast? [Re: Bigfeely123]
    #23361653 - 06/19/16 06:55 PM (7 years, 7 months ago)

i fit in reasonably well once conversation starts flowing but whenever I go out and start hangin out with a group of people i usually feel really awkward for the first like 10 minutes or so, but then i "break in" and get to talking & laughing like normal

i'm not really a "people person" though. i act friendly to most but if i don't like someone's general way about them then that's usually a permanent opinion unless they randomly turn super cool which usually doesn't happen :haha:


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