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urbanman4
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Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen?
#23352525 - 06/16/16 08:58 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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When on shrooms, I want to break up with my fiancé. Every damn time. Things aren't ideal in general, but when on shrooms, I see things clearly and want to break up. Anyone else experience this? Should I give need to the thoughts I have while in this state?
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: urbanman4]
#23352549 - 06/16/16 09:04 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: Dark_Star]
#23352573 - 06/16/16 09:11 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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You've already had the thoughts. If you are serious. Have a serious conversation with yourself when you come down. Enjoy your trip!
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: urbanman4] 1
#23353705 - 06/17/16 05:59 AM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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As much as it is a part of you coming out, you can access all kinds of thoughts on psychedelics, doesnt mean you*neccesarily* should listen. If this doesnt bleed over into sober life (which actually wouldnt make sense to me), then of course not. If its a real concern, it wouldnt only be on "shrooms"
Talk it out while sober and talk about the feelings you just posted a poll about. Communication is important. With your partner, not the forum or a mushroom
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: urbanman4] 3
#23355079 - 06/17/16 03:10 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Maybe get into couples counseling, talk through this stuff sober. I mean, people have all kinds of ideas while on psychedelics, some are good and some are disastrous. I probably wouldn't do something as big as that based on a drug-whim, BUT you really should explore why this urge comes up. Maybe you'll find that you really do want to split with her, but the sole impetus for that should be something more solid than "the shrooms told me to".
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: urbanman4]
#23356420 - 06/18/16 12:21 AM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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As others have already stated, probably good to approach these feelings when you're not high, psychedelics are powerful substances, and it's probably not wise to make life decisions while under their voodoo.
But if this girl is your fiance, sounds like you're just anxious from what's to come, you know marriage and all, which is totally understandable and normal.
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: Lucis] 1
#23361149 - 06/19/16 03:30 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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You should analyse your experience and try to reflect on it and make sense out of it when you're sober. It's happened to me before. While I trust psychedelics more than I trust my own feelings, always take the time to think things through. There could many reasons why you feel like this; anxiety, doubts, fear and illogical conclusions are but to name a few.
IMO you should probably listen to the shroom's advice, especially if this has happened frequently. Sounds to me when you're sober you are hiding the feelings of leaving while tripping you're exposing yourself to your true self and your true self doesn't sound like he wants to get married with this particular person
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: Rosen_Rot] 1
#23365427 - 06/20/16 11:59 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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OP,
Why not start by explaining some concerns and we can help you walk through them. You're talking about ending things with the person you're planning on spending the rest of your life with...because of a massive build up of thoughts you are keeping to yourself. That's not going to work! You need to talk with her, dude. Sometimes what feels like pushing someone away will bring you two closer than before
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: Black_Sunset]
#23365464 - 06/21/16 12:26 AM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Black_Sunset said: Why not start by explaining some concerns and we can help you walk through them.
This is a really, really good point man.
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: urbanman4]
#23365581 - 06/21/16 01:30 AM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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urbanman4 said: When on shrooms, I want to break up with my fiancé. Every damn time. Things aren't ideal in general, but when on shrooms, I see things clearly and want to break up. Anyone else experience this? Should I give need to the thoughts I have while in this state?
Holy shit man, I thought I was the only one. It's happened to me the last couple of times I've tripped, and it's coupled with this really unpleasant sense of urgency, like I need to do it RIGHT NOW and stop wasting time. Ends up ruining my trip because it takes over and it's all I can think about.
Not sure what to make of it or whether I should pay attention to it. Whether these thoughts are my own thoughts that I've supressed (we've had some problems in the past, and came very close to breaking up) or whether I should ignore them.
When I'm sober I'm not sure what I want.
Edited by jsncrs (06/21/16 01:33 AM)
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: jsncrs] 1
#23365942 - 06/21/16 06:33 AM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Usually* that means something in real life is amiss, but not enough to be a *conscious* problem. One time i was dating someone they cheated on me (didnt know yet), we tripped, it felt so fucking weird. But not everyone opens up while tripping either. Though you may be more likely to
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: urbanman4]
#23369143 - 06/22/16 06:26 AM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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I think you should listen to the only person answerable and qualified to make such a decision, yourself, and preferably when you know you are making sense.
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: Still_tripping] 1
#23371253 - 06/22/16 08:26 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Shroomy you has a different perspective than sober you has, and while it is a valid perspective I wouldn't make any rash decisions based off either. You're always better off talking it out with your partner; She's your fiance. You're going to have to be effective communicators for it to work.
Why does shroomy you want to break up? Marriage is a big commitment and it's okay for you to take your time to get ready. Talk to her buddy
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: urbanman4]
#23371326 - 06/22/16 08:48 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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If it keeps coming up then there's probably a reason why it keeps coming up. Part of you is unhappy. Maybe that part is wrong and irrational and maybe you can safely ignore it. On the other hand, it could be right.
There are no easy answers when it comes to relationships. I think the couple's counseling thing is a good idea.
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: nooneman]
#23371401 - 06/22/16 09:08 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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OP still hasn't shared the concerns that arise in his trips. This thread is kinda null and void until he does IMO.
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: urbanman4]
#23373527 - 06/23/16 11:50 AM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: urbanman4]
#23398211 - 06/30/16 05:07 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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You should take psychs with your fiance and talk about it. Psychs have always brought me and my girlfriend closer. Remember to listen as well.
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: ComebackKid]
#23401722 - 07/01/16 04:57 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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OP here.
Thanks for the advice. When shroomy I feel that it puts a magnifying glass on our regular communication challenges. Specifically I feel like her voice has an irritated tone about half of time.
Edited by urbanman4 (07/01/16 05:59 PM)
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: urbanman4]
#23403184 - 07/02/16 06:05 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Did you tell her you posted this thread? Cause thats a good first step, honesty.
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: Fractal420]
#23403195 - 07/02/16 06:19 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Deep inside your heart you already know the answer, you just to have the balls to do it yes or no
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: Citizen X] 1
#23403386 - 07/02/16 08:04 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Always make important life decisions when your on reality altering drugs. Always. You can never lose.
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: urbanman4]
#23403431 - 07/02/16 08:28 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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urbanman4 said: When on shrooms, I want to break up with my fiancé. Every damn time. Things aren't ideal in general, but when on shrooms, I see things clearly and want to break up. Anyone else experience this? Should I give need to the thoughts I have while in this state?
OP, shrooms make you gay. So unless your fiance is the same gender as you, that's probably where all of this is coming from.
* I wouldn't break up with someone over a trip, although its worth considering
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: Repertoire89]
#23403464 - 07/02/16 08:48 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Repertoire89 said:
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urbanman4 said: When on shrooms, I want to break up with my fiancé. Every damn time. Things aren't ideal in general, but when on shrooms, I see things clearly and want to break up. Anyone else experience this? Should I give need to the thoughts I have while in this state?
OP, shrooms make you gay. So unless your fiance is the same gender as you, that's probably where all of this is coming from.
* I wouldn't break up with someone over a trip, although its worth considering

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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: Citizen X]
#23422673 - 07/08/16 07:57 AM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Yeah i think its just cause everytime you take them, you turn gay, and suddenly it just seems like a good idea.
But then youre back to straight, so thats why it is limited to just "shroomy you". Especially if youre eating Penis Envy.
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: urbanman4] 3
#26987266 - 10/15/20 03:07 PM (3 years, 3 months ago) |
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OP here.
Married the girl. She cheated and left in under 2 years. She then used divorce lawyers to take more than her share of the assets.
Shroomy me was right.
Somewhere inside I knew something was deeply wrong from the beginning. Stronger and smarter now. Hope this post helps someone.
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: urbanman4]
#26987275 - 10/15/20 03:12 PM (3 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ah man, that really sucks. My heart goes out to you.
From what you say, it doesn't sound sound like you were married when you wrote OP?
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: urbanman4] 1
#26987841 - 10/16/20 01:06 AM (3 years, 3 months ago) |
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Wow, that's crazy that you remembered to come back to this thread after all that time.
That's shitty, though. Sorry to hear about how it all turned out.
When I take mushrooms, I see things from a different perspective. That's a part of what makes them such a valuable tool, but it's not always the best tool for the job. Last summer, I had a really powerful trip where I realized that I wasn't very satisfied with my life, and I decided I was going to quit my job. I slept on it for a few days, and when the aftereffects wore off, I realized that I actually love my job, and that there was no reason to quit. It turns out that my sense of dissatisfaction with myself had much deeper roots than my job, and that's ultimately the revelation that I found during that experience.
Mushrooms don't show you truth or falsity, they just force you to look at things from a different angle. Sometimes, that angle can give you some pretty screwy information.
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: Nonagon Infinity]
#26988585 - 10/16/20 02:35 PM (3 years, 3 months ago) |
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I will concur with those above, honesty is important for a lasting relationship and nobody here can tell you what is in your heart.
However, I will say how do you know the shrooms are not bringing your own anxieties to light? They could be pointing out your fear of commitment or something. My experience is that often they are not pointing out what we think they are, and it is good to fully process the experience.
That’s just my thoughts and sometimes they stink.
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Re: Shroomy me wants a breakup, should I listen? [Re: Emma Lee Rugburn]
#26989579 - 10/17/20 04:53 AM (3 years, 3 months ago) |
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If you are asking people on the shroomery if you should break up with your fiance, then you could take the advice of going to couple's counseling. But other than MDs I think all white collar professionals are a worthless, trying to get their hand in your wallet. (Other than lawyers if you really need one).
I think a more cost effective solution would be to put your head in vice, and you could at best only squeeze a small amount of your brains out your ears, before you chicken out. This is at least as good an idea as asking people here whether you should break up with her.
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