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Psilosopherr
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The most wonderful thing just happened. 5
#22507753 - 11/11/15 01:01 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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There's this really cute/smart girl I've been keeping my eye on for a number of years now. She just randomly messaged me today and ended up asking me out.
I haven't so much as met a new girl my age in what feels like over a year, possibly longer. Now this. I keep checking my hand to see if I'm dreaming, but nope, I am AWAKE!

Only drawback is she's currently out of the state. (asking me out over internet chat AND while out of state cute) But this means I have quite a while to plan what to do with her the first time we hang out. I have never dated. I have had a long term girlfriend, but have never dated, flirted, that kind of thing. Therefore I'm rather nervous about this first meeting in over 2-3 years and want to plan something special/interesting to be doing.
I just need something to be doing that can easily keep conversation flowing. Just sitting face to face at a table with someone is more challenging. I suppose I can chat her up in the coming weeks to find out what she's into doing.
I'm just so happy, I had to tell somebody. I have such respect for this women I don't even let myself masturbate to the thought of her. And to think she had the same feelings for me is just fucking life affirming. We've spoken so little, but we just connect, and she see's it too
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: Psilosopherr] 10
#22507777 - 11/11/15 01:13 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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How old is she?
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: Psilosopherr]
#22507866 - 11/11/15 02:21 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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rbalzer said:
I just need something to be doing that can easily keep conversation flowing.

What never fails me, and I am giving away my only dating secret here, is ask her questions about herself. Instead of randomly trying to talk about current events, ask her questions. You get to know her, everything flows, and she sees you are interested. I do this with all females even the just friends ones and it always works. I do it to my hot friend, and she knows I do it, and she still falls for it. I never have uncomfortable silences. Rarely ever do they say at the end "but you didn't tell me anything about yourself" because they don't fucking care. They like to talk about themselves and you become the good guy listener. After that you are on your own, just don't get friend zoned.
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: my3rdeye]
#22508175 - 11/11/15 07:16 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Thats great to hear man!!! Good things always happen when u need them. If i had some advice it would be to play it cool.
I am kind of in the same situation as u in that i have never dated but i have had a lomg term gf but i had to move away from her so now im just waiting for someone new but i might have to go on some dates.
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: ergoticmandala]
#22508182 - 11/11/15 07:20 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Wait do u guys have anything in mind that u wanna do when u guys hang out? What did she hv in mind?
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: ergoticmandala] 1
#22508184 - 11/11/15 07:21 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Awesome man. I hope everything works out for you.
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: Sade] 14
#22508191 - 11/11/15 07:24 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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I have such respect for this women I don't even let myself masturbate to the thought of her.
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Psilosopherr
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Giftofdeprivation said: How old is she?
don't worry she is my age if not a tad older.
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: Psilosopherr]
#22508542 - 11/11/15 09:30 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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I have never dated. I have had a long term girlfriend, but have never dated, flirted, that kind of thing.
Can you explain this statement?
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: my3rdeye]
#22508546 - 11/11/15 09:31 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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my3rdeye said:
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rbalzer said:
I just need something to be doing that can easily keep conversation flowing.

What never fails me, and I am giving away my only dating secret here, is ask her questions about herself. Instead of randomly trying to talk about current events, ask her questions. You get to know her, everything flows, and she sees you are interested. I do this with all females even the just friends ones and it always works. I do it to my hot friend, and she knows I do it, and she still falls for it. I never have uncomfortable silences. Rarely ever do they say at the end "but you didn't tell me anything about yourself" because they don't fucking care. They like to talk about themselves and you become the good guy listener. After that you are on your own, just don't get friend zoned.
now thats some solid simple advice. I've never really taken this approach. Was hanging out with this one girl ages ago and she keeps asking me to ask about her, and I just have no idea what I'd want to know about her.
She's actually been living a life she can talk about so that'll be easy to get her talking about...me on the other hand. God I hope she doesn't ask what I've been doing since graduation
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: ergoticmandala]
#22508550 - 11/11/15 09:33 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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ergoticmandala said: Wait do u guys have anything in mind that u wanna do when u guys hang out? What did she hv in mind?
she didn't mention anything specific. I don't really know that much about her to be honest.
I know that she's pretty nerdy which is great. She definitely likes videogames but I'm hoping she's the kind of nerdy that can get into D&D and boffering.
She also likes skiing...what else what else. Yeah I'm definitely going to need to get some info out of her before she comes back to town.
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: my3rdeye] 2
#22508557 - 11/11/15 09:35 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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my3rdeye said:
What never fails me, and I am giving away my only dating secret here, is ask her questions about herself. Instead of randomly trying to talk about current events, ask her questions. You get to know her, everything flows, and she sees you are interested. I do this with all females even the just friends ones and it always works. I do it to my hot friend, and she knows I do it, and she still falls for it. I never have uncomfortable silences. Rarely ever do they say at the end "but you didn't tell me anything about yourself" because they don't fucking care. They like to talk about themselves and you become the good guy listener.
Lol truth
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy] 2
#22508563 - 11/11/15 09:36 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Malcolm_Xtasy said:
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I have never dated. I have had a long term girlfriend, but have never dated, flirted, that kind of thing.
Can you explain this statement?
Well being really shy, all of my girlfriends have always fallen into my lap. They decide they like me and just like that we're fuckbuddies/bf-gf. No dating involved
I've never hit on, been hit on, flirted. I don't talk to girls my age except my friends girlfriend.
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: Psilosopherr]
#22508573 - 11/11/15 09:39 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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well that must be nice 
How do you know this chick? I might have missed it in the OP. It just sounds like you know absolutely nothing about her. Did you guys go to school together or something? Regardless, good luck. My3rdeye gave some pretty killer advice
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: Psilosopherr] 2
#22508576 - 11/11/15 09:41 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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rbalzer said: I don't talk to girls my age.
We knew that already
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: SirShroomsAlott] 1
#22508583 - 11/11/15 09:41 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Didn't wanna be the first to say it
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: Psilosopherr] 2
#22508624 - 11/11/15 09:53 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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OP bring her to a concert and party like it's 1969
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: Sheekle] 7
#22508645 - 11/11/15 09:59 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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^ The blind leading the blind
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Re: The most wonderful thing just happened. [Re: koods]
#22508779 - 11/11/15 10:44 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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man i would be too nervous to go on a date with a girl
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