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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: zappaisgod]
#22500876 - 11/09/15 03:18 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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yogabunny said: Another one of their theories is that the ideal female is around 23-24 and also never to date an female who has children, or who has "hit the wall". They think the best females only go for alphas and basically spend every waking minute of the day trying to become alpha to attract these females, and they generally refer to human interaction and relationships like the narrator of a nature documentary.
Yeah, that's all bullshit. If what they say is true, the stereotypical "alpha" is going to peak sometime around ages 16-20, and declines in their "alpha" manhood from age 25. (This is actually a legit fact, men decline in testosterone every year once they hit age 25.)
According to these men, women are hypergamous in nature. Yet we find that in modern day society, stereotypical "beta" types make the most money. People like Steve Jobbs, Bill Gates, your typical neurosurgeon or Wall Street investor, they're not stereotypical alpha types.
Your stereotypical alpha is probably going to be bald, with a beer gut, working at a gas station by the time he's in his 30's. He literally has nothing that's attractive to women by the time he's hit age 30.
The whole thing is nonsense. If the whole alpha/beta thing were true, then we'd find that young guys in their teens and early 20's are the most lucky with women, but we often find that these types of young men have the opposite experience and strike out with women time and time again.
Personally, I think believers of this theory took high school social politics a little too personally. High school social politics usually doesn't apply once people venture out into the real world.
I don't think you use the term alpha male the same way other people do. It isn't just about fucking.
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: zappaisgod]
#22501164 - 11/09/15 04:28 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Oh wowwwww okay guys, I really have to share this, because this drama series is just starting to get good. After only 1 date, baby crazy guy has already asked me to move in with him. I made a bet with my friend that this would happen. I told him that all my relationships are so intense and guys always fall for me so hard, and I bet my friend that by the end of this month I would either get a marriage proposal or he would ask me to move in to his place. Pay up buddy, you lost. HAAAAAA!!!
And the ridiculous part is, I might actually just say yes. I'm a very "go with the flow" kind of person. I mean, I DID tell him that I was looking to move to a new location after I came back from Costa Rica, and the city he lives in is one of the locations I was thinking of relocating to. He has his own 2 bedroom apartment so I could have my own bedroom if he started smothering me too much.
Edit: FUCK!!!! I just realized I agreed to move in, and I TOTALLY FORGOT HE ALREADY HAS A KID THAT HE SHARES CUSTODY WITH!!!!! LMFAO!!!!!!! Goddammit why did I do that?!?!?!!??!
My own life is like a drama series that I never cease to be entertained by. I fucking love it. Raising the motherfucking stakes.
Edited by Crystal G (11/09/15 04:41 PM)
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: Crystal G]
#22501356 - 11/09/15 04:58 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Knock yourself out but the second bedroom is for his kid when he has him/her. I don't recall you saying if it's a boy or a girl.
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: Crystal G]
#22501378 - 11/09/15 05:01 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Hurry have unapproved sex and snag this one with a baby

Good luck girl shits hard out there and even being married has its ups and downs
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: zappaisgod]
#22501385 - 11/09/15 05:02 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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zappaisgod said: Knock yourself out but the second bedroom is for his kid when he has him/her. I don't recall you saying if it's a boy or a girl.
5 year old boy. I don't know what difference that makes in the kid world.
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: Crystal G]
#22501755 - 11/09/15 06:06 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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This thread is filled with more fail than I've seen in a long time.
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#22501822 - 11/09/15 06:18 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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I wouldn't know where to start giving you advice. I would say maybe get a pet. You can teach a pet to love but sometimes a pet can teach it to you . Because when you get to be my age everybody you date has a fucking kid, if you're lucky just one.
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: SoloTrip]
#22501953 - 11/09/15 06:40 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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SoloTrip said: I wouldn't know where to start giving you advice. I would say maybe get a pet. You can teach a pet to love but sometimes a pet can teach it to you . Because when you get to be my age everybody you date has a fucking kid, if you're lucky just one.
And how old are you? Because I'm in my 30's, and a majority of people my age are childless and unmarried. In fact, having children or being married is much more rare until you hit at least the mid to late 30's.
But, I live in a very liberal and expensive state, in a middle-upper class area. I know that people get married and have children much earlier in rural areas.
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: Crystal G]
#22501955 - 11/09/15 06:40 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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zappaisgod said: Knock yourself out but the second bedroom is for his kid when he has him/her. I don't recall you saying if it's a boy or a girl.
5 year old boy. I don't know what difference that makes in the kid world.
A lot
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#22501962 - 11/09/15 06:41 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Jokeshopbeard said: This thread is filled with more fail than I've seen in a long time.
You must be new here.
I dont know if he can accept you for you and him for him shit can work itself out one way or another.
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: zappaisgod]
#22501965 - 11/09/15 06:41 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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zappaisgod said: Knock yourself out but the second bedroom is for his kid when he has him/her. I don't recall you saying if it's a boy or a girl.
5 year old boy. I don't know what difference that makes in the kid world.
A lot
Tell me more. Seriously. Shed me some insight, you have experience raising boys and girls. Which is better to have when you're dating a single dad? And why?
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: Crystal G]
#22502026 - 11/09/15 06:52 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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If you're in your thirties, then I'm less than 10 years older . But you should know by now that time moves pretty fast and you'll be right where I am before not too long.
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: Crystal G]
#22502117 - 11/09/15 07:08 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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zappaisgod said: Knock yourself out but the second bedroom is for his kid when he has him/her. I don't recall you saying if it's a boy or a girl.
5 year old boy. I don't know what difference that makes in the kid world.
A lot
Tell me more. Seriously. Shed me some insight, you have experience raising boys and girls. Which is better to have when you're dating a single dad? And why?
Boys are assholes. Not at his age but by the time he starts high school he will be a complete asshole. We all were. Girls have other issues but boys are way worse. Aggressive and needy is a bad combo. The girls aren't aggressive.
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: zappaisgod]
#22502140 - 11/09/15 07:11 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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It would be a major faux pais to get in bed with his teenage kid right?
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: Crystal G]
#22502301 - 11/09/15 07:43 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Crystal G said: It would be a major faux pais to get in bed with his teenage kid right? 
5 is not teenage. If by the time he is a teenager you guys are in cuddle mode and you can keep your perv hands off his wee widdler then it is no problem
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: Crystal G] 2
#22502352 - 11/09/15 07:53 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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um what happened to the guy you married last year?
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: Crystal G] 1
#22502367 - 11/09/15 07:55 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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zappaisgod said: Knock yourself out but the second bedroom is for his kid when he has him/her. I don't recall you saying if it's a boy or a girl.
5 year old boy. I don't know what difference that makes in the kid world.
IF you get them under 10 you have a chance. If you're going to get involved with a man who has a teenager, its pretty much hopeless. especially if its a male teen, he'll end up crushing on you causing all sorts of problems.
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: sprinkles]
#22502556 - 11/09/15 08:39 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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IF you get them under 10 you have a chance. If you're going to get involved with a man who has a teenager, its pretty much hopeless. especially if its a male teen, he'll end up crushing on you causing all sorts of problems.
Honestly, that has been my dream come true.
Not even lying, I've had fantasies about fucking my own (hypothetical) teenage son and all his friends. It's the main reason I dreamt about having a son, actually, when I was a high schooler.
Is that weird? Cause I've probably only had that fantasy because I didn't grow up with any men in the household. Come to think of it, I didn't really have any male relatives growing up. So I don't really know what it's like to have nonsexual, family type feelings for a male.
I'm sure if I actually had a son, I would be repelled and disturbed at the thought of actually doing this.
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: Crystal G]
#22502635 - 11/09/15 08:59 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Guys can't have that fantasy our penis' look like foreign invaders to other people
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Re: Had the Most Amazing Date Tonight--But He Has a Child (Dealbreaker for Me). What to do? [Re: Konyap]
#22503295 - 11/10/15 01:30 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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I used to be happy to have girls fall for me. I'm actually realizing as I grow older that most people are fucking stupid and do shit like you've just mentioned, moving in together at 1 month of knowing a person.
Don't take advice from me though. I've had countless amazing girls fall for me and I'm nearly emotionless from the shit I have went through.
I don't follow TRP either, just thought it was fitting.
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