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Making friends with women
#22477787 - 11/04/15 06:42 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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So how can I go about making friends with women?
Approach a woman on the street in a city, and you're automatically judged as trying to chat them up/get in their pants (I understand why this is). What can you say to make it apparent that your intention is not that of 99% of men that approach them?
Go on a dating website, and you're overlooked if you make it apparent that you're only looking for friendship.
What options remain? How would any of you guys go about it if you only wanted to make friends, not fuck, get into a relationship, etc?
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Why would you even want to be friends with a girl and not date her?
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zappaisgod
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Some of my best friends are women I didn't fuck or want to fuck.
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: zappaisgod]
#22478051 - 11/04/15 07:42 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Yeah but you probably didn't go about looking for a friend who was a female it probably just happened that way.
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: zappaisgod]
#22478055 - 11/04/15 07:42 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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^zappaisgod^ same. I have many best friends that are Women. It is the best. We do not have sex because it will ruin the relationship. The companionship is second to none and we love each other. Don't know how i did it except when you don't have the motivation to 'fuck' her, how you act around her changes, thus making friendship available. Women are smart in social situations and know this stuff before you even know you are doing it. Also remember... She poops...
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: Higher Love]
#22478056 - 11/04/15 07:43 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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I got really mad at a girl and screamed at her one time when she said she "loved" me but didn't want to date me.
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Anonymous #1
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Anonymous said: Why would you even want to be friends with a girl and not date her?
Because women have a sense of perspective which a man cannot provide. The fact that you 'got really mad at a girl and screamed at her one time when she said she "loved" me but didn't want to date me' tells me that you're a little too immature to understand my position anyway, however zappa & HL both know why this is my path right now.
There are great rewards to be had in female friendship, when the complication of sex/relationship is removed. The question is, how to find that friendship?
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Mr.GuessWork
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Making friends with girls is pretty much the deal as making friends with guys. You buddy up with them and talk about stuff while you're stuck together to get something done. The friendship emerges while you spend time together if you click while you communicate about stuff.
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Anonymous #1
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It's the getting 'stuck together' that's the problem. Every aspect of my life is entirely male dominated!
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: zappaisgod]
#22481439 - 11/05/15 02:54 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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zappaisgod said: Some of my best friends are women I didn't fuck or want to fuck.
same. some of my closest friends are women. i have slept with a few of them though. but it's ancient history for all intents and purposes.
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zappaisgod
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Anonymous said: Yeah but you probably didn't go about looking for a friend who was a female it probably just happened that way.
That is exactly right.
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: zappaisgod]
#22486854 - 11/06/15 03:53 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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honestly this sounds like more than a little wierd. Who cold approaches women to get friendships? And why would you go on dating sites to do that? It just seems like youre lying to yourself about your wants.
try meetup.com
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: LackToast]
#22487402 - 11/06/15 05:48 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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LackToast said: honestly this sounds like more than a little wierd. Who cold approaches women to get friendships? And why would you go on dating sites to do that? It just seems like youre lying to yourself about your wants.
try meetup.com
Thank you for the suggestion, I'll have a look now. Although I strongly disagree with your suggestion that I'm lying to myself. The entire sphere of my human interaction is with men (and very masculine men at that) - friends/work/gym/etc. I don't want to get into a relationship with anyone right now, but I do need a little femininity in my life to balance things out. So The question still remains - how could I go about this?
Perhaps it's not ideal that I'm looking for it - after all, I never went out with the intention of finding male friends either but I've always just got on with men as I've always been surrounded by them and my best friends are people I once worked with.
However I don't see why this can't work or why I should refrain from searching for something. As zappa & HL have already mentioned, a friendship with a woman can be very rewarding (as are my friendships with men). It might be a little unusual that I'm doing this, but then I've always been a little unusual anyway. I suppose the most unusual part of all this is that, unlike so many men, I'm looking to meet women without the intention of being able to fuck them as well. I love fucking as much as the next man does, but right now I don't need the complications that come with it - just some company with the opposite sex.
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Tell every girl you meet you're gay.
Boom. Friends
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: bloodsheen]
#22487611 - 11/06/15 06:22 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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I think it's only natural for a man to have female friends. I mean, there are 3.5 billion females on this planet, you cannot possibly want to fuck all of them. So all you gotta do is find the cool ones that you can talk to, but don't want to fuck.
I really enjoy hanging out with and talking to men (I am a female). However it's hard to find the cool and very rare ones who don't want sex. Sometimes I go into the platonic section of craigslist but I kind of get the feeling that the men there are looking for sex, and they just "camouflage" their intentions to get better "results". A bit disappointing, really, because I would dearly love some man-friends in my life.
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: WAN]
#22487692 - 11/06/15 06:38 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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WAN said: I think it's only natural for a man to have female friends. I mean, there are 3.5 billion females on this planet, you cannot possibly want to fuck all of them. So all you gotta do is find the cool ones that you can talk to, but don't want to fuck.
I really enjoy hanging out with and talking to men (I am a female). However it's hard to find the cool and very rare ones who don't want sex. Sometimes I go into the platonic section of craigslist but I kind of get the feeling that the men there are looking for sex, and they just "camouflage" their intentions to get better "results". A bit disappointing, really, because I would dearly love some man-friends in my life.
Yea straight up I wanna fuck everyone. Basically if you have a vagina, weigh less than 150lbs, and can hold a conversation, I will try to have sex with you
I don't understand single people who have no desire to date. Maybe I just don't appreciate how hard good friends are to come by but love feels so much better than watching a stupid movie with someone, no matter how cool they are. I enjoy casual friendships with women but I'm not capable of deep friendship with a woman I'm attracted to. The sexuality gets all mixed up with my feelings for them and it gets too messy
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: bloodsheen]
#22487799 - 11/06/15 06:58 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Why does she have to be less than 150? As long as she isn't that short then 150 sounds about right for a female. I knew a 150 pound girl she looked pretty good. But she was the same height as me, 6'0.
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Stealth1Vampire said: Why does she have to be less than 150? As long as she isn't that short then 150 sounds about right for a female. I knew a 150 pound girl she looked pretty good. But she was the same height as me, 6'0.
Ok obviously I have no chance with a super tall woman. I thought that was understood
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: bloodsheen]
#22489275 - 11/07/15 05:31 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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i don't want to fuck everyone. i may think about it - i am a guy after all - but i tend to not hit on every woman i meet. i think i might like hanging out with girls more than guys, but all of my friends are awesome so it's a wash i guess.
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: millzy] 1
#22493403 - 11/07/15 10:44 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Protip: women do not like being approached by strangers when they are out and about. You look like a creep. You might think you aren't a creep, but she thinks you're a creep. This is fact, and if it bothers you, too bad. Don't let other guys get away with being creeps.
Go to weekly events or join a club, take up a hobby.. one where you meet other people. That's a good way to find female friends without feeling repelled by strangers. You honestly could be a great guy, but when you approach women that way they automatically assume you have shit intentions.
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It's an awful lot like making friends with dudes
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: Ezuma]
#22495524 - 11/08/15 12:41 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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That's the most sound advice BobaJones.
I really have nothing more to contribute. Most guy friends are guys who I have conversations with whilst at work or something. Or I start to see them regularly somewhere, like a library/bookstore/etc. And I've gotten a few good friends from here.
I enjoy having guy friends. Helps me be more level. So I can understand it would be the same for you in that respect OP.
I was also joking to myself that maybe you could find a chick who is obsessed with someone else. Instant friend zone haha. Of course it would be hard if she keeps thinking you're hitting on her. Then you probably shouldn't be her friend anyways. She's probably really shallow.
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: pachoo]
#22497410 - 11/08/15 07:03 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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pachoo said: I was also joking to myself that maybe you could find a chick who is obsessed with someone else .
"Hey pachoo, maybe he could just find some girl whos totally hung up on another guy"
"Hahahaha, yeah pachoo, I bet that'd work. But would he even want to be friends with a girl like that?"
"Pft, Idk pachoo, how should I know?! You're pretty judgmental of this imaginary girl that doesn't even exist."
"Its called a hypothetical bitch! Why you always gotta be this way?"
"Shit, you're right, sorry pachoo."
"Sall good pachoo."
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: bloodsheen]
#22497711 - 11/08/15 08:03 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Haha I actually went into that dialogue shortly after I posted it. You somehow got my back and I got yours.
In my head I was thinking about those girls who always talk about themselves and their problems and constantly nag you about the same theoretical situation without doing anything different or acting on it... I don't know. You know those girls? They want me to advise them all the time. I should have changed that last post.. but now I can't!! Because you said something before I remembered!!
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: pachoo] 1
#22497975 - 11/08/15 08:57 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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pachoo said: Haha I actually went into that dialogue shortly after I posted it. You somehow got my back and I got yours.
In my head I was thinking about those girls who always talk about themselves and their problems and constantly nag you about the same theoretical situation without doing anything different or acting on it... I don't know. You know those girls? They want me to advise them all the time. I should have changed that last post.. but now I can't!! Because you said something before I remembered!!
Yea I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes I think people need a sounding board, but more often than not they just want to hear their own opinions parroted back at them. I hate giving advise. I prefer devil's advocate, forcing people to see the opposite side of a situation normally pisses them off but but its better than inflating their ego and tricking them into believing they're always right
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: bloodsheen]
#22498281 - 11/08/15 10:09 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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I enjoy giving them multiple scenarios. It confuses them but hey, there's multiple paths/choices in life, right?
But I always try to give it to them straight too. Like if they're being a butthead, they are going KNOW they are being a butthead.
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: pachoo] 2
#22504755 - 11/10/15 11:54 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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It's quite easy. Don't give them the impression that you want more. Don't show her your penis. There you have a friendship.
If you find it hard not to do these things with woman, than yes, you are infact lying to yourself.
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If you are trying to become friends with a woman, and then do become friends, and then decide to ask her out, is it okay to stop being friends with her if she says no? Thats what I usually do 95% of the time.
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no you should def still be friends, maybe she'd wanna double date or suck yer cock or somethin
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Re: Making friends with women [Re: Konyap]
#22506326 - 11/10/15 05:57 PM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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If you do that well then you never really wanted to be friends in the first place did you?
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wrong forum lol....or i guess not, it's about relationships, uhmm my 2 cents are be open and friendly when you meet people, the more friendly you are the easier it will be to find girls/guys to talk to and become friends with
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