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OfflineRebelutionsssss
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How do I deal with not knowing who I am
    #22474079 - 11/03/15 11:58 PM (8 years, 2 months ago)

I don't have any identity for myself. I have no idea what I want to do with my life and feel like I lack the skills to go back to school and find something. I was pretty much moved through highschool without learning enough to function properly in this society. I feel like I'm just aimlessly floating through life without any sense of self :frown: I lack a good amount of social skills and have had this uptight nervousness these past few years that has stopped me from relaxing and enjoying myself.

It just feels like I'm in a job interview 24/7, like even around my friends I can't even sit in a relaxed fashion because I have this weight on me. Party's, festivals, even at home theres a lot of times I can't relax. I feel like my life is hopeless. Our whole purpose here is to find our place in life and put all our effort into making ourselves into something we can be proud of right? I have no real skills and no one here for me except for maybe one person and I don't know where to go from here :frown:


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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: Rebelutionsssss] * 1
    #22474156 - 11/04/15 12:32 AM (8 years, 2 months ago)

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Our whole purpose here is to find our place in life and put all our effort into making ourselves into something we can be proud of




Thats a bit subjective dude. I would argue that our only "purpose" in life is to eat, sleep, live, breed (optional), and die.

Everything beyond that is extraordinary, even having a hobby means you have a surplus of supplies and can now pursue greater, albeit unecessary to life, desires such as accomplishment.

You aren't too much of a lost drifter if you have an education and own a phone/computer to access the greatest tool of all man-kind in order to improve yourself!

You are on the right path and doing more than simply living. Believe it or not you do have a plan of action even if it doesn't seem like it. You simply have too much ambition and drive for a better existence :thumbup:


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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: Rebelutionsssss] * 1
    #22474184 - 11/04/15 12:50 AM (8 years, 2 months ago)

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Rebelutionsssss said:
Our whole purpose here is to find our place in life and put all our effort into making ourselves into something we can be proud of right? :frown:




Wrong.

Your whole purpose is being what you already are, i.e., being here now.


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Cut back the proliferating list of people whose opinions can hurt you. Unless they have done or want to do you some good, their views are just not worth tracking.
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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
    #22474199 - 11/04/15 12:56 AM (8 years, 2 months ago)

im sorry to hear this man.:hug: its honestly really touching as i feel the same and its just fucking endless.

i have nobody in my life thew except 2 family members my gran/granddad
and i have my girlfriend but i doubt we will last, shes not a keeper.

You will pull threw i don't know how so i cant give advise on that which im sorry to say man, i feel your pain.

whats life if you cant live it happy,skatty. much love man it wont always be like this.


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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
    #22474217 - 11/04/15 01:05 AM (8 years, 2 months ago)

Quote:

Rebelutionsssss said:
I lack a good amount of social skills and have had this uptight nervousness these past few years that has stopped me from relaxing and enjoying myself.

It just feels like I'm in a job interview 24/7, like even around my friends I can't even sit in a relaxed fashion because I have this weight on me. Party's, festivals, even at home theres a lot of times I can't relax.




What brings up that nervousness? Is it a thinking about future or what others will think of you in your group of friends? Watch when that feeling arises and try to honestly find in yourself the root of it. If it is the insecurity about social skills: socialize more! If you worry about the other type of skills: experiment, search what interest and intrigues you, try new things which are or resemble things you admire.

Deep breathes always help as instant relaxation. Meditation in long run.
It helped me to be more accepting and let go, to find peace and comfort.


Edited by Emacov (11/04/15 01:12 AM)


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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: Emacov]
    #22474224 - 11/04/15 01:09 AM (8 years, 2 months ago)

Thanks for all the replies everyone. It's just my insecurities that bubble up and then I find it extremely hard to just sit back and have fun. This has been happening more and more and even though I try and relax, take deep beathes and all that I just can't shake it :shrug:


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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
    #22474274 - 11/04/15 01:26 AM (8 years, 2 months ago)

Shake it off.  Eat good food and drinks.  Get high and dance.  Have fun.


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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: WhoManBeing] * 2
    #22475286 - 11/04/15 10:04 AM (8 years, 2 months ago)

You cannot find yourself, only create yourself.

Get to work, son.


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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: MoxyOx]
    #22476380 - 11/04/15 12:29 PM (8 years, 2 months ago)

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MoxyOx said:
You cannot find yourself, only create yourself.

Get to work, son.




This sounds good, but it is the road to hell. The truth is: You can't NOT find yourself. You ARE already and it is that ARENESS that is what you are. All you have to do is notice that you already are yourself and you've reached the finish line--spritually speaking.

Peole who choose to create themselves are opting for an endless journey on a treadmill path. At best they will create an illusion. Anything that can be built, can, and will be, torn down, and utterly so at that.


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Cut back the proliferating list of people whose opinions can hurt you. Unless they have done or want to do you some good, their views are just not worth tracking.
Saul Bellow

“People are just cannibals unless they leave each other alone.” Doris Lessing

Those whom the gods would save, they dower with compassion. Mr. P.  Silocybin


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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: champinhom]
    #22476732 - 11/04/15 02:17 PM (8 years, 2 months ago)

You're not the same you were 2 seconds ago. You're constantly in a state of flux as your cells degenerate and recreate. Shed what you don't need, pursue what you like.

Or you can be like this guy above me and just stand still like a tree all your life.


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No one behind, no one ahead.
The path the ancients cleared has closed.
And the other path, everyone's path,
easy and wide, goes nowhere.
I am alone and find my way.


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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: MoxyOx]
    #22477179 - 11/04/15 04:08 PM (8 years, 2 months ago)

"Life isn't about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself."

- I Don't Remember


Even though I love and believe that quote, it's still extremely hard to follow. We all want to be better at something, but most of us don't want to put in the work. We need someone or something to drive us, you know? For some it's loved ones, others it's a hobby.

Without that drive we're pretty much just Sims going through life without player interference. We'd stay on the computer/watch tv all day, shit, eat, sleep, and repeat. Repeat till a satellite falls from the sky and lands on our heads.


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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: gbeau9080]
    #22477265 - 11/04/15 04:30 PM (8 years, 2 months ago)



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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: gbeau9080]
    #22480512 - 11/05/15 10:29 AM (8 years, 2 months ago)

The drive comes from within. When you really want to do something, you will. Not for an hour everyday, but slowly and surely if you commit a few moments in your week you will improve in that aspect. Such is the way with all things.

You won't become the best pianist, mycologist, singer, writer, fighter, or whatever you choose to appeal your time with; it's the process and the act of learning that holds beauty.


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No one behind, no one ahead.
The path the ancients cleared has closed.
And the other path, everyone's path,
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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: MoxyOx]
    #22480598 - 11/05/15 10:51 AM (8 years, 2 months ago)

i dont know whats wrong with me :sad: i just have no drive.


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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
    #22480868 - 11/05/15 11:59 AM (8 years, 2 months ago)

Grow a pair of balls and go crazy


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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: eehoo]
    #22480883 - 11/05/15 12:03 PM (8 years, 2 months ago)

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eehoo said:
Grow a pair of balls and go crazy




Haha pretty much what I wanted to say. Fuck everyone else and do what makes you happy.


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"It's simple: we, uh, circumcise the Batman."

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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: gbeau9080]
    #22480987 - 11/05/15 12:36 PM (8 years, 2 months ago)

Yeah have you considered not jerking off any more?


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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: eehoo]
    #22481211 - 11/05/15 01:39 PM (8 years, 2 months ago)

There are doors to whole other vistas of perception. It makes hanging around this place and going through the motions of living actually worth it... fortunate for us.


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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: circastes]
    #22481291 - 11/05/15 02:01 PM (8 years, 2 months ago)

You just have to ride it out until you mature enough to not let it present itself as a problem any longer. We are always changing, growing, hiding and playing games with ourselves.

Start picking things out you have a small interest in, do little bits of research here and there - go at your own pace in everything and remember everybody who is alive and has ever been alive has the same predicament. It's just how you chose to go about it.

Some people switch off, some people work hard, some people have children, some people pursue hobbies, some peeople educate, some people invent - list is endless.

I'm 30. Was a smart kid, failed at school due to mass insecurities about life. Kept my head down and earned money whilst failing college three times - I couldn't relax, fit in or communicate properly with people. This year I've decided I'm going to stop working and go back to college and learn. The only way I can do this is after a few years of making an effort to be nice to strangers - smile, chit chat. It helps your confidence and you are the only obstacle to yourself gaining nothing from that so, yes, you will be wasting your life.

Mate, just be a good person and be proud of yourself - anything else is a bonus :flowers:


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Re: How do I deal with not knowing who I am [Re: circastes]
    #22481733 - 11/05/15 04:14 PM (8 years, 2 months ago)

just ride it out deal with it... the government and big corporations must love you sheep. be sure to go check out the next big film. fuck that shit... go out in a flame rock star style and just say fuck the world because thats whats up. fuck society . its immoral what they make kids do


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