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Let's talk about awkward people
#22465084 - 11/02/15 12:28 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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i'm super socially awkward tbh and it makes me shy and sad
but then i think it's kind of funny now
lol im just going to b awkward as fuck and laugh about it
Anyway what do you think about awkward people. Is it better to be awkward and outgoing, or to be less awkward but more withdrawn?
Also are you awkward too? How do you cope?
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: evenbreak] 5
#22465134 - 11/02/15 12:49 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Cut a hole in my pockets so I can play with my peepee when I get nervous around people.
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: abltsandwich] 1
#22465137 - 11/02/15 12:50 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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but you're supposed to be female
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: abltsandwich] 5
#22465151 - 11/02/15 12:56 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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I can tolerate awkward people more than I can tolerate lazy people who don't capitalise or use punctuation, and those who type "b" because finding the letter "e" on a keyboard is just too darn hard.
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: Arctic W. Fox] 1
#22465160 - 11/02/15 01:00 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Arctic W. Fox said: I can tolerate awkward people more than I can tolerate lazy people who don't capitalise or use punctuation, and those who type "b" because finding the letter "e" on a keyboard is just too darn hard.
geez.....
-------------------- It has been reported that some victims of torture, during the act, would retreat into a fantasy world from which they could not wake up. In this catatonic state, the victim lived in a world just like their normal one, except they weren’t being tortured. The only way that they realized they needed to wake up was a note they found in their fantasy world. It would tell them about their condition, and tell them to wake up. Even then, it would often take months until they were ready to discard their fantasy world and please wake up.
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: evenbreak]
#22465171 - 11/02/15 01:11 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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I'm a level of socially awkward where I'm included in a conversation, put NOTHING into the Convo and later say something witty and chuckle to myself... Sometimes I'm screaming in my head CONTRIBUTE YOU FUCKER and just nod and say yeah.
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: evenbreak] 3
#22465181 - 11/02/15 01:21 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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I am very socially awkward. I never really built/learned social interaction when I was in school, and eventually I got home schooled and it only made things worse. I suck with small talk and cannot carry on a conversation unless we're actually discussing something I know about and have plenty of knowledge on the subject to share. My co-workers and such assume I'm an asshole and am always pissed off. I am an asshole, but only when I want to be and it's more or less just my sense of humor. I'm almost never pissed off when someone assumes I am. Pretty much every single time I go to my wife's job, as soon as I leave, she gets asked what's wrong with me and why I look so angry.
These days I'm basically a hermit. I don't really put myself out there much to go do things. I really only ever leave the house when I'm working, taking food to my wife or going shopping. If I'm not doing one of those things, there's probably about a 98% chance I'm sitting at home. I don't really mind the life I have (at least in that regard). I'm very comfortable isolating myself from the rest of the world and I don't really wish I was more outgoing.
My dream life is to buy a house on a lot of land out in the middle of nowhere.
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: Shroomslip] 2
#22465255 - 11/02/15 02:33 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Maybe you have resting asshole face.
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: abltsandwich]
#22465263 - 11/02/15 02:43 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Definitely do.
I'm a quiet, reserved person who doesn't like making small talk (because I suck at it) and rarely smile or laugh. I don't wear my emotions on my sleeve like most people seem to. You'll really only know my true current emotional status if I choose to show it to you.
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: Shroomslip] 1
#22465321 - 11/02/15 04:15 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Work in fastfood, especially front register. You get forced to talk to people all day and ull outgrow being awkward. I used to be quiet and stuff at work but it doesnt last because people thrive on talking to you.
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: Chakanooga]
#22465330 - 11/02/15 04:26 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Doesn't help. I worked retail, first as a cashier, then got moved up to management which means the interaction was far more stressful more times than not. I'm not ringing people up, I'm trying to calm them down when they flipped their shit and demanded to talk to a manger. A lot of times it is very hard to maintain your cool. When someone's screaming at you and telling you how they are above over the stupidest shit (like a 50 cent coupon not working) you want to lash out and tell them to fuck off. EDITED to add: We have ways of fixing those problems, if a coupon isn't working right, it's a very simple matter to fix. Have no problem even doing it. I even explain to them the issue and what I'm going to do to resolve it. All of that would take about a minute tops. Instead they start totally uncalled for rants that can last up to 10 minutes. People are just shitty.
My general appearance did not help things. It was far harder for me to diffuse situations than the other managers.
But yeah, forcing myself into positions where I have to interact with a bunch of people daily, does not change a single thing, not for the better anyways. I was always kind of an asshole and hated people in general. After my time in retail, those factors grew exponentially. Had already seen how shitty people can be at times before retail. Afterwards you come to see how vastly you underestimated how many shitty people there are in the world. I could probably spend an entire day writing about all the bullshit I endured in that job, and I'd probably be doing good to remember half of it.
People suck.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
Edited by Shroomslip (11/02/15 04:32 AM)
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: Shroomslip]
#22465343 - 11/02/15 04:52 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Shroomslip said: I am very socially awkward. I never really built/learned social interaction when I was in school, and eventually I got home schooled and it only made things worse. I suck with small talk and cannot carry on a conversation unless we're actually discussing something I know about and have plenty of knowledge on the subject to share. My co-workers and such assume I'm an asshole and am always pissed off. I am an asshole, but only when I want to be and it's more or less just my sense of humor. I'm almost never pissed off when someone assumes I am. Pretty much every single time I go to my wife's job, as soon as I leave, she gets asked what's wrong with me and why I look so angry.
These days I'm basically a hermit. I don't really put myself out there much to go do things. I really only ever leave the house when I'm working, taking food to my wife or going shopping. If I'm not doing one of those things, there's probably about a 98% chance I'm sitting at home. I don't really mind the life I have (at least in that regard). I'm very comfortable isolating myself from the rest of the world and I don't really wish I was more outgoing.
My dream life is to buy a house on a lot of land out in the middle of nowhere.
you pretty much described me exactly
I've pretty much given up on people though. I'll talk to them and answer questions but I'm not going to start or hold a conversation with them or have any interest in it. Everyone can fuck off. And yeah, everyone thinks I'm always angry. I don't give a shit anymore though.
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Yep that's me. I don't initiate conversations unless it's to ask a question. Short of some subject being brought up that I am passionate about and have knowledge on, I will use the minimal words nessecary to questions or statements other people make to me. I suppose at some point in my life I cared that I never really got much socially based interaction (like "shooting the shit") but I've grown so accustomed to it now, that I'd prefer to minimize it as best as I can. I just really have no interest in it. I literally view it as a waste of time.
I only have a handful of people I interact with on any (even loosely) basis. Even with those people there is a lot of awkward silence, but I can at least bullshit with them some. Everyone else is getting the absolute bare minimum interaction that is required.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: Shroomslip] 1
#22465349 - 11/02/15 05:05 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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3 things I think will make people less socially awkward:
Asking questions and answering questions, from the mundane to the fantastical. However not passing the mic after a while is also a form of awkwardness. Talking too much is just as awkward as not talking at all.
Dungeons and Dragons: Playing this over a few years will help you interact, act, group problem solve, and have even more to talk about as it teaches you how to think in statistics and bell cuves
Acting and improv: This will help you lubing up situations and being a centerpiece to a group in public if the group needs one. Also, it teaches you how to bow out when your time is up, similar to not holding the mic for so long.
Although I don't have too much evidence for this one, ATM, I think video chat rooms are also really good for practice interacting.
These are all tips from someone who used to be socially awkward, but now I can turn on rockstar mode if I need to.
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: Shroomslip]
#22465392 - 11/02/15 05:37 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Shroomslip said: Doesn't help. I worked retail, first as a cashier, then got moved up to management which means the interaction was far more stressful more times than not. I'm not ringing people up, I'm trying to calm them down when they flipped their shit and demanded to talk to a manger. A lot of times it is very hard to maintain your cool. When someone's screaming at you and telling you how they are above over the stupidest shit (like a 50 cent coupon not working) you want to lash out and tell them to fuck off. EDITED to add: We have ways of fixing those problems, if a coupon isn't working right, it's a very simple matter to fix. Have no problem even doing it. I even explain to them the issue and what I'm going to do to resolve it. All of that would take about a minute tops. Instead they start totally uncalled for rants that can last up to 10 minutes. People are just shitty.
My general appearance did not help things. It was far harder for me to diffuse situations than the other managers.
But yeah, forcing myself into positions where I have to interact with a bunch of people daily, does not change a single thing, not for the better anyways. I was always kind of an asshole and hated people in general. After my time in retail, those factors grew exponentially. Had already seen how shitty people can be at times before retail. Afterwards you come to see how vastly you underestimated how many shitty people there are in the world. I could probably spend an entire day writing about all the bullshit I endured in that job, and I'd probably be doing good to remember half of it.
People suck.
whoooaaa dude idk I never worked in that kinda stuff, what Im talking about to talking to customers and coworkers having actual conversations with them not deal with raging cunts trying to ruin your day..
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: Chakanooga] 1
#22465487 - 11/02/15 06:42 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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When I worked on the building site these guys said "bet you're a dog owner" I said no why and they said "cuz you don't talk" thing is I do talk just not about small talk, I'm not some 90 year old lady that mumbles just for the sake of hearing my own voice
Later on they nail gunned my skateboard to the cieling. pricks
You ever meet those people who don't stop talking about shit, mainly theirselves and you walk away needing to sleep for a day cuz your so drained with all their fuckin BS STFU!!!
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: nice1returns]
#22465513 - 11/02/15 06:54 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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nice1returns said: You ever meet those people who don't stop talking about shit, mainly theirselves and you walk away needing to sleep for a day cuz your so drained with all their fuckin BS STFU!!! 
Dude, you're just like me!
BFF's???
seriously though, I hardly ever talk to random people, they're like cancers with their constant prattle, or maybe I am just a dick.
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: abltsandwich]
#22465515 - 11/02/15 06:55 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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abltsandwich said: Maybe you have resting asshole face.
I am guilty of this.
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: nice1returns]
#22465519 - 11/02/15 06:56 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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nice1returns said: When I worked on the building site these guys said "bet you're a dog owner" I said no why and they said "cuz you don't talk" thing is I do talk just not about small talk, I'm not some 90 year old lady that mumbles just for the sake of hearing my own voice
Later on they nail gunned my skateboard to the cieling. pricks
Thats a odd connection for them to make, and an odd ending, were you working with satanists? wtf
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Re: Let's talk about awkward people [Re: Shroomslip]
#22465527 - 11/02/15 06:59 AM (8 years, 2 months ago) |
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Shroomslip said: I am very socially awkward. I never really built/learned social interaction when I was in school, and eventually I got home schooled and it only made things worse. I suck with small talk and cannot carry on a conversation unless we're actually discussing something I know about and have plenty of knowledge on the subject to share. My co-workers and such assume I'm an asshole and am always pissed off. I am an asshole, but only when I want to be and it's more or less just my sense of humor. I'm almost never pissed off when someone assumes I am. Pretty much every single time I go to my wife's job, as soon as I leave, she gets asked what's wrong with me and why I look so angry.
These days I'm basically a hermit. I don't really put myself out there much to go do things. I really only ever leave the house when I'm working, taking food to my wife or going shopping. If I'm not doing one of those things, there's probably about a 98% chance I'm sitting at home. I don't really mind the life I have (at least in that regard). I'm very comfortable isolating myself from the rest of the world and I don't really wish I was more outgoing.
My dream life is to buy a house on a lot of land out in the middle of nowhere.
you are married being socially awkward does not effect you...... single people who are socially awkward are the ones suffering
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