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Divine Love vs. Egoic Love * 2
    #22425505 - 10/24/15 12:51 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

Egoic love means I will tell you, you are special if you tell me I am special. It works wonders for a while then it collapses because it is based on a lie. One false move and the imperfection is revealed and the search continues for the perfection OUT THERE rather than internally.

Once you recognize The Other as Divine, you cannot unrecognize it as in an egoic relationship. The Other need not be or do anything to please you or to add to your power. Their being alone is sufficient unto itself.

In an egoic relationship, The Other must prove to you time and again how worthy they are by boosting your esteem, by bringing you pleasure and novelty. This cannot continue indefinitely. It is an impossibility. At some point, if one cannot find another to take them to the assumed next level of stimulation and personality stroking, they give up and settle. This is the beginning of death.

The alternate path is that of recognizing The Divine in Others. That alone is sufficient. Nothing need be added. No personality quirks or shortcomings can change this because The Other is no longer being judged. Their radiance has been witnessed.

That which has been Seen cannot be unseen. And when one sees The Divine in themselves, they no longer need approach The Other as a beggar. "Kind sir/madam, can you please fill this empty hole inside of me."

No! Only once you are full and complete can you come to The Other seeking neither power nor dominance, but only sharing authentically, honestly and fully.

Do that and ALL questions are answered. Not answered as in cosmic mysteries solved, but as in the questions themselves fall away and are no longer important.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22425522 - 10/24/15 12:57 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

I agree with this perception on love. Nice post


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: MMG]
    #22425525 - 10/24/15 12:59 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

Many members predicted that one day I would cross-over from the skeptic side to the fluffy side. Uh oh!


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22425532 - 10/24/15 01:01 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

Phenomenal post.
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And as a slight tangent, this is why you can either choose women, or you can choose God. But not both.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22425682 - 10/24/15 02:40 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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OrgoneConclusion said:
Egoic love means I will tell you, you are special if you tell me I am special. It works wonders for a while then it collapses because it is based on a lie. One false move and the imperfection is revealed and the search continues for the perfection OUT THERE rather than internally.

Once you recognize The Other as Divine, you cannot unrecognize it as in an egoic relationship. The Other need not be or do anything to please you or to add to your power. Their being alone is sufficient unto itself.

In an egoic relationship, The Other must prove to you time and again how worthy they are by boosting your esteem, by bringing you pleasure and novelty. This cannot continue indefinitely. It is an impossibility. At some point, if one cannot find another to take them to the assumed next level of stimulation and personality stroking, they give up and settle. This is the beginning of death.

The alternate path is that of recognizing The Divine in Others. That alone is sufficient. Nothing need be added. No personality quirks or shortcomings can change this because The Other is no longer being judged. Their radiance has been witnessed.

That which has been Seen cannot be unseen. And when one sees The Divine in themselves, they no longer need approach The Other as a beggar. "Kind sir/madam, can you please fill this empty hole inside of me."

No! Only once you are full and complete can you come to The Other seeking neither power nor dominance, but only sharing authentically, honestly and fully.

Do that and ALL questions are answered. Not answered as in cosmic mysteries solved, but as in the questions themselves fall away and are no longer important.





I have begun to think such a realization is actually a rationalization meant for the ego to protect itself from attachment and to be satisfied with the denial of ID desires.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: TameMe]
    #22426213 - 10/24/15 08:34 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

Love. It's what makes a Subaru a Subaru.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: Dark_Star]
    #22426218 - 10/24/15 08:36 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

You can certainly get better traction with AWD. :yesnod:


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22426356 - 10/24/15 09:27 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)



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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22426478 - 10/24/15 10:10 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

I won't buy a car without it.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22429690 - 10/24/15 09:49 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

Did you write that?


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22429853 - 10/24/15 10:29 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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Egoic love means I will tell you, you are special if you tell me I am special. It works wonders for a while then it collapses because it is based on a lie. One false move and the imperfection is revealed and the search continues for the perfection OUT THERE rather than internally.

Once you recognize The Other as Divine, you cannot unrecognize it as in an egoic relationship. The Other need not be or do anything to please you or to add to your power. Their being alone is sufficient unto itself.

In an egoic relationship, The Other must prove to you time and again how worthy they are by boosting your esteem, by bringing you pleasure and novelty. This cannot continue indefinitely. It is an impossibility. At some point, if one cannot find another to take them to the assumed next level of stimulation and personality stroking, they give up and settle. This is the beginning of death.

The alternate path is that of recognizing The Divine in Others. That alone is sufficient. Nothing need be added. No personality quirks or shortcomings can change this because The Other is no longer being judged. Their radiance has been witnessed.

That which has been Seen cannot be unseen. And when one sees The Divine in themselves, they no longer need approach The Other as a beggar. "Kind sir/madam, can you please fill this empty hole inside of me."

No! Only once you are full and complete can you come to The Other seeking neither power nor dominance, but only sharing authentically, honestly and fully.

Do that and ALL questions are answered. Not answered as in cosmic mysteries solved, but as in the questions themselves fall away and are no longer important.




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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: yeah]
    #22429936 - 10/24/15 10:48 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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yeah said:
Did you write that?





I have officially crossed over. :blush:

Blame it on a woman.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22430293 - 10/25/15 01:25 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

Mojo baby!


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22430690 - 10/25/15 06:48 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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Quote:

yeah said:
Did you write that?





I have officially crossed over. :blush:

Blame it on a woman.




I don't think it's her fault, this time.



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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22430793 - 10/25/15 07:34 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

you used to be cool.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: White Beard]
    #22431117 - 10/25/15 09:46 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

:unwanted:


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22431221 - 10/25/15 10:20 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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Quote:

yeah said:
Did you write that?





I have officially crossed over. :blush:

Blame it on a woman.




Is this woman the one we are familiar with or a new one?


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: cez]
    #22431245 - 10/25/15 10:29 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

Same story; new chapter. Available at Amazon.com for $19.95 hardcover edition.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22431262 - 10/25/15 10:33 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

How much signed?


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22431263 - 10/25/15 10:34 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

What does "The Divine" look like?


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: LunarEclipse]
    #22431265 - 10/25/15 10:34 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)



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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22431480 - 10/25/15 11:29 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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Same story; new chapter. Available at Amazon.com for $19.95 hardcover edition.




You finagled your way back into her grace?


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: cez]
    #22431623 - 10/25/15 12:04 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

Maybe.

We spoke briefly the other day on the phone. She was on a 5 minute break from a philosophy class at the community college, so the conversation was quite rushed. This was the first time we talked in three months and it was positive as far as it went. IOW - no restraining order! :cool: She said she was deliberately incommunicado to see how I would deal with my crazy episode and emotional upheaval on my own without leaning on her for support - a very wise woman.

I will know more when she calls back, which will probably not be for a week or two. This woman is very cautious and guarded and likes to take lots of time to process things whereas I blurt out whatever I am feeling at the moment without thinking.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: Jaegar]
    #22431675 - 10/25/15 12:12 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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What does "The Divine" look like?






Seriously though, I cannot explain it. It wasn't like rainbows or auras. It was a complete and total perceptual shift and it sure seemed "real". Either that or I am totally :cuckoo:


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: DividedQuantum]
    #22431682 - 10/25/15 12:14 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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How much signed?




It is hard to sign a book with a straitjacket on. :tongue: If you visit me at The Home, please bring Gummi Bears.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22431736 - 10/25/15 12:26 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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I am totally :cuckoo:




This.

She is likely like any other woman and will likely break your heart again, and maybe take some of your money. You have just built up an ideal in your mind. She is a human being like anyone else, stop thinking she is a god!


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22431747 - 10/25/15 12:29 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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She said she was deliberately incommunicado to see how I would deal with my crazy episode and emotional upheaval on my own without leaning on her for support - a very wise woman.





She's shit testing you.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22431776 - 10/25/15 12:36 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

cool, dude


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: White Beard]
    #22431780 - 10/25/15 12:37 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

are you familiar with how OC feels about her? It could be worse


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22431786 - 10/25/15 12:39 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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Maybe.

We spoke briefly the other day on the phone. She was on a 5 minute break from a philosophy class at the community college, so the conversation was quite rushed. This was the first time we talked in three months and it was positive as far as it went. IOW - no restraining order! :cool: She said she was deliberately incommunicado to see how I would deal with my crazy episode and emotional upheaval on my own without leaning on her for support - a very wise woman.

I will know more when she calls back, which will probably not be for a week or two. This woman is very cautious and guarded and likes to take lots of time to process things whereas I blurt out whatever I am feeling at the moment without thinking.




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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: yeah]
    #22431801 - 10/25/15 12:41 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

Yes I do. He's totally hooked and she's going to train him like a dog. He displays a lot of emotion and instead of showing respect or understanding, she shames him, cuts all contact and disappears for months. Contacts OC out of the blue and he comes running back like the good little doggy he is. She knows he's hooked.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: White Beard]
    #22431823 - 10/25/15 12:46 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

She is likely like any other woman




This is true, of course. It is not that she is special per se, but for whatever reason, she triggered some major change/shift in me as I relaxed totally in her presence. So no, not worship or putting on a pedestal because it is not about appearance or personality. To put it more mystically, there was an instant energy match that I have never before experienced.

My best male friend commented that we seemed perfect together and that he had never seen me so happy in the 16 years he has known me and I told him just being with her was the best night of my life.

Who wouldn't want more of that?


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: White Beard]
    #22431830 - 10/25/15 12:47 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

White Beard, I sympathize with your position and OC's, both.  I do not think she is trying to manipulate him.  On the other hand, if you'll remember the Seinfeld episode with George, she has all of the "hand" at this point, which could prove problematic.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22431835 - 10/25/15 12:48 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

Well, most relationships start off picture perfect, yet still devolve into shit for some reason, so I wouldn't expect that feeling to last even if you two do manage to be together.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: White Beard]
    #22431857 - 10/25/15 12:56 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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Yes I do. He's totally hooked and she's going to train him like a dog. He displays a lot of emotion and instead of showing respect or understanding, she shames him, cuts all contact and disappears for months. Contacts OC out of the blue and he comes running back like the good little doggy he is. She knows he's hooked.




That is one perspective - and there may be truth in that as it happens all the time. However, I would likely have rejected her had the situation been reversed as would most sane people.

She cut contact because I came on like an obsessive stalker and scared the hell out of her. I think it quite positive that she is willing to look beyond my outrageous behavior. Trying to protect herself from a crazy man is not what I would deem as manipulative.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22431887 - 10/25/15 01:07 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

Well, I haven't read the outburst but it's hard to judge. However, maybe she shamed you in such a way when you opened up emotionally that it hurt your self-esteem and you started thinking that you are 'crazy' or a 'stalker' and she is being extremely generous by taking you back and you're the unworthy one, when in reality what you said wasn't even that crazy. But like I said, I didn't read it and maybe it was genuinely crazy.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: White Beard]
    #22431889 - 10/25/15 01:07 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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Well, most relationships start off picture perfect, yet still devolve into shit for some reason, so I wouldn't expect that feeling to last even if you two do manage to be together.




Once again, I agree. The honeymoon phase of any relationship will always end, but if the connection is deep enough, then people can more easily weather day-to-day frictions. But then, this is what I am hoping to discover - can I hold onto The Vision or will it dissipate?


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22431894 - 10/25/15 01:09 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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can I hold onto The Vision or will it dissipate?




:shrug: I think everything eventually dissipates.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: DividedQuantum]
    #22431897 - 10/25/15 01:09 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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White Beard, I sympathize with your position and OC's, both.  I do not think she is trying to manipulate him.  On the other hand, if you'll remember the Seinfeld episode with George, she has all of the "hand" at this point, which could prove problematic.




Yes, there is definitely a power imbalance that I will need to address.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: White Beard]
    #22431906 - 10/25/15 01:13 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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Well, I haven't read the outburst but it's hard to judge. However, maybe she shamed you in such a way when you opened up emotionally that it hurt your self-esteem and you started thinking that you are 'crazy' or a 'stalker' and she is being extremely generous by taking you back and you're the unworthy one, when in reality what you said wasn't even that crazy. But like I said, I didn't read it and maybe it was genuinely crazy.




Trust me, it was! :crazy:


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22431914 - 10/25/15 01:14 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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Quote:

White Beard said:
Well, I haven't read the outburst but it's hard to judge. However, maybe she shamed you in such a way when you opened up emotionally that it hurt your self-esteem and you started thinking that you are 'crazy' or a 'stalker' and she is being extremely generous by taking you back and you're the unworthy one, when in reality what you said wasn't even that crazy. But like I said, I didn't read it and maybe it was genuinely crazy.




Trust me, it was! :crazy:




Has anyone given you a second opinion (besides her, of course)?


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: White Beard] * 1
    #22431976 - 10/25/15 01:34 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

My shrink. I was tested after my emotional breakdown and my serotonin levels were so far below normal that I was barely functional. I was experiencing enormous electric shocks going through my body many times a day for weeks along with extreme mood swings, anxiety and crying jags.

Every single issue of rejection and abandonment in my life exploded all at once two days after my meeting with Haley. The doc said I had a (non-technical term) nervous breakdown due to grief and PTSD. I had not dated in 12 years since my exgf's daughter overdosed and died and my gf left me. I had shutdown completely and never fully processed it.

I first told Haley that it was too much and that I wanted nothing to do with her because I would not allow myself to be vulnerable again, then the next day I told her I loved her and practically asked her to marry me after only 8 hours together. Crazy enough?

Here is the deal though. Everything I went through was necessary to clear my past and make me ready for a real relationship - even if it is not with her. It was a total nightmare and the most painful thing I have ever experienced, yet I am in a much better space now than maybe I ever have been.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22431984 - 10/25/15 01:36 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

well good for you. Maybe it will work out well for you. But remember, shrinks make money off of you being crazy so of course they'll think you're crazy. I recommend getting a friend's opinion on the matter.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22432116 - 10/25/15 02:19 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

sounds good to me OC :smile: i'm happy to hear that this has precipitated positive changes in your life :smile: best wishes! :sun:


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: deff]
    #22432248 - 10/25/15 02:49 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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sounds good to me OC :smile: i'm happy to hear that this has precipitated positive changes in your life :smile: best wishes! :sun:




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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: DividedQuantum]
    #22432369 - 10/25/15 03:20 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)
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The mystery of it all - an OC original.


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22432398 - 10/25/15 03:30 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

I like that a lot!  Here's a poem of mine that's on topic: 


Robotic Love


Who loves not love?
The poet inquires
It goes to the loftiest heights!
What bad ever comes
A full life requires
Someone having it there in their sights!

Though others are not
So rosy about it
I've heard it called 'romantic fog'
Or else just at best
Temporary, so quit
All this chatter 'bout kissing a frog

And then it goes farther
Harsh, blunt, is it truth?
An amalgam of sex and sentimentality
I'm not so sure
It isn't forsooth
But I've never been one for banality

When one has seen love
Go as haywire as I
Have seen it go far in the past
One wonders a bit
And then thinks by an by
It's just a mechanism, but vast

But I have to suppose
That in my good conscience
I couldn't dismiss such sublime
Thoughts and emotions
There isn't a science
Of love, as there isn't of rhyme


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: DividedQuantum]
    #22432424 - 10/25/15 03:38 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

Nice. :congrats:

Thanks for sharing!


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: White Beard]
    #22432453 - 10/25/15 03:44 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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Well, I haven't read the outburst but it's hard to judge. However, maybe she shamed you in such a way when you opened up emotionally that it hurt your self-esteem and you started thinking that you are 'crazy' or a 'stalker' and she is being extremely generous by taking you back and you're the unworthy one, when in reality what you said wasn't even that crazy. But like I said, I didn't read it and maybe it was genuinely crazy.




Oh, it was crazy.






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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: LunarEclipse]
    #22432526 - 10/25/15 04:08 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

"Where do they teach you to talk like this? In some Panama City sailor wana hump hump bar or is this getaway day, and your last shot at his whiskey. Sell crazy someplace else, we're all stocked up here." ~ Jack Nicholson


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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22444517 - 10/28/15 11:43 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22446079 - 10/28/15 06:27 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

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My shrink. I was tested after my emotional breakdown and my serotonin levels were so far below normal that I was barely functional. I was experiencing enormous electric shocks going through my body many times a day for weeks along with extreme mood swings, anxiety and crying jags.

Every single issue of rejection and abandonment in my life exploded all at once two days after my meeting with Haley. The doc said I had a (non-technical term) nervous breakdown due to grief and PTSD. I had not dated in 12 years since my exgf's daughter overdosed and died and my gf left me. I had shutdown completely and never fully processed it.

I first told Haley that it was too much and that I wanted nothing to do with her because I would not allow myself to be vulnerable again, then the next day I told her I loved her and practically asked her to marry me after only 8 hours together. Crazy enough?

Here is the deal though. Everything I went through was necessary to clear my past and make me ready for a real relationship - even if it is not with her. It was a total nightmare and the most painful thing I have ever experienced, yet I am in a much better space now than maybe I ever have been.




Out of a morbid sense of curiousness, did your shrink suggest you contact your "Divine Love" interest again, or to stay away?  Either way, what was their rationale?

TIA.



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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #22446291 - 10/28/15 07:31 PM (8 years, 3 months ago)

Your truth will set you free.... seems you've made great strides in being whole again.  Staying open, vulnerable, connecting, yanno, anyone you can do that with is your family....  having some around really helps with feeling isolated.


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Everything is better than it was the last time.  I'm good.

If we could look into each others hearts, and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care.

It takes a lot of courage to go out there and radiate your essence.

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Re: Divine Love vs. Egoic Love [Re: CosmicJoke]
    #22448060 - 10/29/15 07:17 AM (8 years, 3 months ago)

1000 drummers are better than 1 drummer.



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