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bloodsheen
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Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? 1
#22422754 - 10/23/15 12:38 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Obviously I'm not directly attacking the shroomery or its members as I have thousands of posts
But I often wonder, when somebody on here gives advise, is it likely that person has any wisdom about the average human psyche at all?
Or more simply, is this place an even remotely good sample of the population? Somebody who would spend hours a week/month surfing a website, reading about the lives of complete strangers, and then telling them what they should do? What does that say about the average shroomerite? I would say its an objective fact that the most frequent posters here are at least considered odd by their colleagues if not straight up weirdos. I know I certainly am. What if we have all lost sight of this fact and have gotten so comfortable with each-other we forget that many of these people are socially retarded nutjobs who take waaaaaay too many drugs?
Sometimes strange folk have good insight that your average beer-drinkin Joe never even thinks about, but I think sometimes its likely they are just socially outcst people who aren't qualified to give anyone advise about anything
Thoughts?
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: bloodsheen] 1
#22422794 - 10/23/15 12:48 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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A lot of people on this site have a healthy social life. While forums like this tend to draw in an introverted crowd, it's content is pretty general in who it relates to. So many different kinds of people use drugs, and more importantly psychedelics. When you think about what psychedelics tend to do to a person, it's easy to come to the conclusion that a good proportion of users are 'deep thinkers.' I understand that introversion is nearly synonymous with the term, but I think since it's so conclusive that a personality trait of that kind is irrelevant. What I'm trying to say is that this site is diverse, and I wouldn't be any less analytical of the advice I'm given than I would receiving it in person. Where it benefits beyond that person-to-person interaction would be the aspect of honesty that follows anonymity.
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: bloodsheen]
#22422804 - 10/23/15 12:50 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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I post a lot and would definitely say I'm pretty weird. Most people that know me would never guess though. Only a few pwople know this side of me and thays how i intend to keep it. I think it's kinda lame to label everyone that posts as social outcasts or nutjobs.
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: bloodsheen]
#22423517 - 10/23/15 03:52 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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sure there's some strange folks, but there's strange people in real life too, and if you're any kind of smart it isn't hard to sift through comments and figure out which ones are helpful and considered and which are just knee-jerking or crazy shit
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: bloodsheen] 1
#22424022 - 10/23/15 05:51 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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I like to ask the deepest questions regarding my life to a bunch of drug users, seems legit.
I am only joking, there are some wonderful people on here with a vast array of knowledge regarding all life matters.
Fucking love shroomery.
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: bloodsheen]
#22424274 - 10/23/15 06:57 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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I wouldn't say so, I recommend the pub if you want to bring up the topic of relationships as that's where most people go when shit goes wrong so they usually know what's up.
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: sudly]
#22426364 - 10/24/15 09:31 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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i post while i'm working, so i'm on here quite a bit. mileage varies on the topic and whoever's giving the advice from my experience, and that can really be said for anywhere on or off the internet.
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: millzy]
#22428833 - 10/24/15 07:08 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Define 'introverted' though. It generally refers to someone feeling 'drained' being around lots of people. I probably fall into this category, but I like smaller groups. I see right through the depersonalization and thought patterns that arise in large groups and I always have.
If you mean 'socially awkward' then okay; that's not me. I can act like anyone, get along with anyone and it has proven important in many aspects of life.
I might not care about being a social butterfly; that doesn't reflect on my judgement of character.
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: bloodsheen]
#22428932 - 10/24/15 07:24 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Some people know what they're talking about and some people are loons. It isn't that hard to tell them apart.
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: zappaisgod]
#22428971 - 10/24/15 07:32 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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someone can't be both? :V
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: micro]
#22429032 - 10/24/15 07:42 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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micro said: someone can't be both? :V
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: micro]
#22429221 - 10/24/15 08:15 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Fennario said: I like to ask the deepest questions regarding my life to a bunch of drug users, seems legit.
I am only joking, there are some wonderful people on here with a vast array of knowledge regarding all life matters.
Fucking love shroomery.
Introverts are brilliant and underrated. Recent research has brought this to the media's attention. They can wear many hats, be gifted actors, but can get exhausted from "social simulation" ...just give them their space : )
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: micro]
#22431412 - 10/25/15 11:13 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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micro said: someone can't be both? :V
No.
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: zappaisgod]
#22431496 - 10/25/15 11:33 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Well I have a GF and a Dog, few close friends...my social life is about to where I like it! Perhaps some folks don't have any close friends to ask, so this is their best remedy...for me...I want to see some commercial shroom grows!
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bloodsheen
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: Davesnothere]
#22431828 - 10/25/15 12:47 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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I guess I didn't really mean that being introverted automatically made you bad at relationships, or maybe I did.
I know that some people on here that talk about their lives make me wonder if they are really being truthful, at least the really frequent posters. When my life is as busy and interesting as some people on here claim theirs are, I rarely if ever visit this website. When I'm bored and nothing much is going on in my life, I'm here all the time. I suppose I assumed that was the way most people are, but maybe not.
I just don't have introvert pride like a lot of you guys do. I envy extremely extroverted people and I do everything I can to emulate them (whenever its not completely opposed to my nature).
I also made a thread about people who date a lot (i.e. a lot of different partners or many long term relationships, whichever), and I wonder what kind of lives they live that expose them to soooo many dating opportunities. Its just hard for me to imagine people like that, people with real experience in relationships, wishing to spend time on the shroomery. But I guess anything is possible
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: bloodsheen]
#22432254 - 10/25/15 02:50 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
bloodsheen said:
I also made a thread about people who date a lot (i.e. a lot of different partners or many long term relationships, whichever), and I wonder what kind of lives they live that expose them to soooo many dating opportunities. Its just hard for me to imagine people like that, people with real experience in relationships, wishing to spend time on the shroomery. But I guess anything is possible
Like you, I spend a lot more time on this website when im bored as fuck. Like those nights when my homework is done and I don't feel like reading or really doing anything at all.
Personally, the way I get exposed to dating opportunities is concerts/music festivals and school related activities. I joined an outing club that goes on hikes, kayaking, spelunking, etc., I joined a Ski and Board club and a horticulture club. These along with going out and living in a college town present me with a lot of opportunities. Of course, all this wouldn't matter if I didn't socialize and get peoples numbers and try to hang with them.
Friends lead to friends of friends and eventually you just know a lot of people. Doesn't prevent me from posting here though lol.
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: TheMovement]
#22432306 - 10/25/15 03:02 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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as long as you don't hurt anybody, labels don't mean shit. they are a social construct. I guess I'am a weirdo because I don't want to engage too much in this productive,materialistic,superficial society.
I'd rather explore the depths of my mind and live an artistic lifestyle . I'm not not an expert in intimate human relationship though.
you can conform to society standarts all you want (though it's not guaranteed to make you happy )
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: Vsnares.Zappa] 1
#22434129 - 10/25/15 11:00 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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I think this forum lets us see what our situations look like from an outside point of view. Its up to yourself to decide whether or not the advice given is applicable to your life. S&R is kind of a release for me.. I can express my problems and feelings to people who are outside of my social situation. Sometimes when Im a complete fucking wreck, the last thing I want to do is go out to my friends and show them how much of a wreck I am. Sometimes I receive good advice, sometimes its total shit, but either way I got it out of my system and I can look back on it and analyze it from another mind state. You are all fine folks and I appreciate the mashup of lifestyles and perceptions that I experience when I open my psyche up in this forum.
Really, you are all pretty fuckin awesome and I hold a fair amount of love and respect for this community.
 
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: empty space]
#22436009 - 10/26/15 01:12 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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empty space said: I think this forum lets us see what our situations look like from an outside point of view. Its up to yourself to decide whether or not the advice given is applicable to your life. S&R is kind of a release for me.. I can express my problems and feelings to people who are outside of my social situation. Sometimes when Im a complete fucking wreck, the last thing I want to do is go out to my friends and show them how much of a wreck I am. Sometimes I receive good advice, sometimes its total shit, but either way I got it out of my system and I can look back on it and analyze it from another mind state. You are all fine folks and I appreciate the mashup of lifestyles and perceptions that I experience when I open my psyche up in this forum.
Really, you are all pretty fuckin awesome and I hold a fair amount of love and respect for this community.
  
I can def agree with this
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Re: Is this really the best place to talk about any relationship issue? [Re: bloodsheen]
#22440232 - 10/27/15 01:23 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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I think there's a great mix of people here with solid experience and insight. If anything at least you can talk about what's bothering you
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