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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: shadyy]
#22418323 - 10/22/15 01:25 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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I still often feel like no matter who I'm with there is someone better,More fit,not a pothead. This is due to being cheated on all the time.
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Anyone who has cheated on you has done so out of the coldness of their heart. If they're willing to hurt you like they're not worth it. Period.
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: goldcaphunter]
#22418405 - 10/22/15 01:52 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Usually it's hotness of the loins that does it though.
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Mad_Larkin

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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: shadyy]
#22418420 - 10/22/15 01:56 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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i hate liz said: I've helped someone cheat and experienced similar shit.
I'm probably the last person you'd wanna hear from after hearing that, but it gets better.
All you can do is ask yourself what it is you're doing wrong. Like, why does this girl/guy cheat on you?? Is it...the sex? Your looks? Personality? Gotta narrow it down and fix it.
hell no
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koraks
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: brokentv] 2
#22418435 - 10/22/15 01:59 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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brokentv said: if a person is going to cheat why doesn't that person just end it first.
Emotional attachment. Not wanting to break the status quo. Being afraid to be the one to break it off. Being lured/seduced into cheating. Cheating in a period where the cheater is quite sure it's going to end anyway.
There are so many reasons. No, they're not valid ones, depending on your ethics, but it's just the way things go. The cheater being a slut/player is also one, obviously, but in many cases, cheaters aren't overly promiscuous.
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: koraks]
#22418440 - 10/22/15 02:00 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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loss of security, also
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sudly
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? *DELETED* [Re: koraks]
#22418522 - 10/22/15 02:21 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: sudly]
#22418604 - 10/22/15 02:37 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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I've been cheated on a bunch... It's the worst. I'm really sorry that happened to you man. Keep your chin up.
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: SnowDaze]
#22418613 - 10/22/15 02:38 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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I got a story for you all. I'm not going to go into full detail.
Many, many moons ago when I was younger, dumber, and overly-aggressive I had a significant other who I thought would wind up being a long-term partner. We had only been together for about a year. One day I asked them who they were messaging because they were on their phone non-stop that day (and had been for the past few days), they told me that it was just a friend they had known for years supposedly. I told my S.O. to get off their phone and to not message this person anymore. Then later that week I went on a social networking website and found the person who they were messaging. In short, I told them to not message my S.O. Fast forward later that week, I happen to see the person that my S.O. was messaging and I started a verbal confrontation with them. After under a minute or so of the two of us going back and forth, they punched me in the face in the middle of what I was saying. I beat them without mercy. Now fast forward a week later (after the fight), My S.O. and I had plans to spend that night and weekend together. Last minute they tell me that they somewhere and cannot come over. So later that same evening my S.O. and I were supposed to spend the night and weekend together, I'm driving around, about to meet up with someone I know. I drive to their residence (the person I know). I call them to tell them I'm waiting outside. They respond, "No, I'm not at my place, I'm at so and so's place." So I start driving to so and so's place which happens to be across town. I just happen to take the long way to get there, not for any specific reason. I make a turn on a street that I usually don't go down and guess who I see coming out from the woods? My S.O. and the person I just beat up a week earlier. I get out of the vehicle to confront both of them, spit in their face, yada yada yada... get back in the car and drive off. So If I would've never mistakenly went to my "friend's" (I use that term loosely) residence instead of the place they were at and made the turn on that road I would've never caught them red-handed. If was pure chance. And what would've happened is my S.O. would have came over the very next day like nothing ever happened and everything was completely normal.
I have learned a lot since this incident and also would never fight someone for this reason or any other... except if I was literally being attacked and couldn't flee from my attacker.
Word of advice, don't fight someone over a S.O.
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: sudly]
#22418617 - 10/22/15 02:39 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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sudly said: She made so many promises and told me I was the one she wanted etc. Literally a week later she went of and got fucked by a random tinder fuckboy she didn't even know. Drove to his house, got used, came back to me and said she loved me :'(
The worst part is that I don't even know why she did it.
fuck that. be strong man, im telling you its not worth it in the long run to stay with a known cheater.
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Sheekle
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: Bigfeely123]
#22418630 - 10/22/15 02:43 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Bigfeely123 said: I got a story for you all. I'm not going to go into full detail.
Many, many moons ago when I was younger, dumber, and overly-aggressive I had a significant other who I thought would wind up being a long-term partner. We had only been together for about a year. One day I asked them who they were messaging because they were on their phone non-stop that day (and had been for the past few days), they told me that it was just a friend they had known for years supposedly. I told my S.O. to get off their phone and to not message this person anymore. Then later that week I went on a social networking website and found the person who they were messaging. In short, I told them to not message my S.O. Fast forward later that week, I happen to see the person that my S.O. was messaging and I started a verbal confrontation with them. After under a minute or so of the two of us going back and forth, they punched me in the face in the middle of what I was saying. I beat them without mercy. Now fast forward a week later (after the fight), My S.O. and I had plans to spend that night and weekend together. Last minute they tell me that they somewhere and cannot come over. So later that same evening my S.O. and I were supposed to spend the night and weekend together, I'm driving around, about to meet up with someone I know. I drive to their residence (the person I know). I call them to tell them I'm waiting outside. They respond, "No, I'm not at my place, I'm at so and so's place." So I start driving to so and so's place which happens to be across town. I just happen to take the long way to get there, not for any specific reason. I make a turn on a street that I usually don't go down and guess who I see coming out from the woods? My S.O. and the person I just beat up a week earlier. I get out of the vehicle to confront both of them, spit in their face, yada yada yada... get back in the car and drive off. So If I would've never mistakenly went to my "friend's" (I use that term loosely) residence instead of the place they were at and made the turn on that road I would've never caught them red-handed. If was pure chance. And what would've happened is my S.O. would have came over the very next day like nothing ever happened and everything was completely normal.
You're sure right about the overly-aggresive part. "Don't text anymore." "Don't talk to my gf anymore." Etc.
but yeah, life has it's ways of making things happen with chance and everything
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: Sheekle]
#22418673 - 10/22/15 02:53 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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This incident was almost a decade ago. I was younger and very aggressive at the time. During this time period of my life I wouldn't hesitate to fight someone over something as petty as them talking about me or a smart comment made. To be fair, my S.O. was pretty obsessive as well. I would catch them going through my phone on multiple occasions-sometimes when I woke up or other times when I was in another room. Overall the relationship just wasn't healthy. There was virtually no trust. Looking back, the relationship was based almost entirely on constant sex. There was no real feeling between the two of us. I hope no one judges my character now based on that story from nearly ten years ago. I'm a changed person.
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: sudly]
#22418742 - 10/22/15 03:08 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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sudly said: She made so many promises and told me I was the one she wanted etc. Literally a week later she went of and got fucked by a random tinder fuckboy she didn't even know. Drove to his house, got used, came back to me and said she loved me :'(
The worst part is that I don't even know why she did it.
Sex, many women like different dicks, it's not something they're going to advertise.
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kakashi68
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: qman]
#22418785 - 10/22/15 03:19 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Still for me it depends... Why through away a relationship and deal with all that pain over a mistake. Like if it was one night and a mistake or jsut something different, we are only human, its natural.
Dont see why society gets so upset over cheating. Humans arnt meant to be monogamous. Its not like she feel in love with someone else. Its sex, its phyiscal, its not emotional.
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: kakashi68] 2
#22418819 - 10/22/15 03:27 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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cause some of us need trust, and once that's broken, very few people can rebuild it.
after my last relationship with a cheater, I'll never put up with that shit again.
it's one thing to be open and be like, "hey, I love you but im feeling drawn to someone else. lets work this out."
and it's totally different to lie, in order to please your own wants at someone else's expense.
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: qman] 1
#22418827 - 10/22/15 03:29 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Just once I tolerated being cheated on. It was shortly after ending a long term relationship and when I found him I thought that I was lucky to have found him because I was damaged goods. He regularly went on business to Japan. Turns out he had a long term side thing there. He told me about her 4 months into us dating because he couldn't handle the "pain" lying to a woman he was falling in love with and wanted to give me the option to get out. I stayed.
I'm not a weak woman mind, body, or spirit, but the next year I almost became the woman I always said I would never be. Then one night while he was out of the country, just as easily as I fell in love, I realized I didn't even miss him. I left a voice message on his home phone simply telling him that I was moving. "Don't try to reach me."
Best decision I ever made. Fuck cheaters.
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: kakashi68] 1
#22419679 - 10/22/15 06:58 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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I would've been fine if she told me she wanted to see other people, we agreed to be honest to eachother and always where (so I thought). Humans and humans and we all get horny but it's no excuse to break promises and lie to those who love you.
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: sudly]
#22419756 - 10/22/15 07:14 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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what more could one expect with promises like that? humans will in fact lie, alot, in order to be/remain happy. circle of life.
doesn't mean it won't hurt, but you shouldn't make those kind of expectations for anyone to not ever hurt you by lying. of course they will lie to you, they're human.
ironically she's probably happier with you, but unfortunately she must be a terrible liar.
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sudly
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: akira_akuma]
#22419829 - 10/22/15 07:33 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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All i expected was honesty, too much I guess.
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Re: How did it feel to be cheated on? [Re: sudly]
#22419840 - 10/22/15 07:36 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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The girl friend I had in my first serious relationship gave my "best friend" head, the day we broke up. Was pretty fucked up...
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