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my son may very well be my brother....
#22366433 - 10/12/15 01:11 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: decieved] 1
#22366571 - 10/12/15 02:38 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Damn son... err... I mean, bro.... err... I mean... nvm fuck it. Damn that shits crazy.
I have no idea what to tell you except that murder-suicide is not the answer. I have no idea what I would do about the kid in your situation, but I do know that I would cut your fiance and father out of my life.
Best of luck with whatever decision that you make. Things are always worse before they get better, so keep your head up and your eyes open for opportunities!!
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: decieved]
#22366582 - 10/12/15 02:48 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Dude you seriously need to learn to write, especially at the college level.. I can forgive college dropouts but not this....
Your writing is everywhere in comparison. Your life, both sexually and mentally, is in shambles. If you believe that no girlfriend/son/plans to live will push you to your peak then do it.
Currently I'm stuck following my mother's rules until I graduate with my BS in a year. Still before that, things were not the 'typical' story I've heard so much.
What you need to do is seriously cut your losses, cur her, stop letting her mooch, and grow. That's all. At the end of the road you take responsibility for yourself; nobody else. So grow the fuck up.
And for the love of God, ditch her and your "child". Even though I couldn't read that correctly. Just step the fuck up. Or be a bitch the rest of your life. The choice is yours...
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: Atrium]
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Atrium said: Dude you seriously need to learn to write, especially at the college level.. I can forgive college dropouts but not this....
Your writing is everywhere in comparison. Your life, both sexually and mentally, is in shambles. If you believe that no girlfriend/son/plans to live will push you to your peak then do it.
Currently I'm stuck following my mother's rules until I graduate with my BS in a year. Still before that, things were not the 'typical' story I've heard so much.
What you need to do is seriously cut your losses, cur her, stop letting her mooch, and grow. That's all. At the end of the road you take responsibility for yourself; nobody else. So grow the fuck up.
And for the love of God, ditch her and your "child". Even though I couldn't read that correctly. Just step the fuck up. Or be a bitch the rest of your life. The choice is yours...
This...
Also I would like to add... The harsh reality of the situation is that there is a reason why she slept with him in the first place. With relationships there is definitely a noticeable trend. I know because it happened with an ex of mine as well. Essentially it is them losing their attraction to you for various reasons. It basically results in them not wanting sex and usually is accompanied with emotionalness/arguments or something similar which leads you to believe (and even they believe this too sometimes) that there is something going on in their bodies or minds that is not right and they need time to "recover".
Well in my case it was after the 3 times sex a day thing stopped happening and she stopped wanting it all the time. I started to use different methods to get her to want it but nothing worked... So basically I lost my confidence because I went with this idea that she was too emotional to handle a lot of sex and tried to give her time. But really all that did was make things worse because women lose even more attraction to you because of this. Also the situation is worse when you live together.
I don't know your situation exactly but I would say you need to learn this stuff now because next time you don't want a cheater again do you? You have to know how to make her attracted to you and never WANT to sleep around with someone else (although it is true some women are just cheaters so I cant rule that out).
You do have a lot on your plate and he's right you need to grow the fuck up now. Idk how old you are but it sounds like a lot to handle regardless. Good luck.
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#22366746 - 10/12/15 05:06 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Pay the money ($50-100) for the paternity test and get as far away from your should be Ex and your dead beat father as you can. If the kid turns out to be yours file a paternity action with the court to ensure you get your time with it. If not move on and never look back. Living in a shit hole apartment barely making ends meet would be way more rewarding than even 5 seconds more in your current situation.
Seriously dude get the fuck away from both of them and start over, it is clear that neither of them give a shit about you. It will be hard but you deserve better than living with people who are making you consider suicide...
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: DocShroom]
#22366774 - 10/12/15 05:38 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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That all sounds pretty unforgivable to me. You're being abused, OP. I whole-heartedly second DocShroom's advice.
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: DocShroom]
#22366781 - 10/12/15 05:47 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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DocShroom said: Pay the money ($50-100) for the paternity test and get as far away from your should be Ex and your dead beat father as you can.
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: memes] 2
#22366968 - 10/12/15 07:53 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Your father is a piece of shit. I would beat the daylights out of him. Probably wouldn't solve anything, but it'll make you feel better.
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: DocShroom]
#22366979 - 10/12/15 07:56 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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DocShroom said: Pay the money ($50-100) for the paternity test and get as far away from your should be Ex and your dead beat father as you can. If the kid turns out to be yours file a paternity action with the court to ensure you get your time with it. If not move on and never look back. Living in a shit hole apartment barely making ends meet would be way more rewarding than even 5 seconds more in your current situation.
Seriously dude get the fuck away from both of them and start over, it is clear that neither of them give a shit about you. It will be hard but you deserve better than living with people who are making you consider suicide...
Yea exactly what I was going to say. Sometimes when something is this emotionally fucked up, you need to just be a scientist and lawyer about it and just move on.
I don't know why people are so shitty to each other. When I'm done with someone I tell them I'm done and I move on. Not just in relationships, in friendships, family, anything. Doing destructive and cruel things like cheating on them, doing mean things behind their back, etc, just makes both of your lives worse.
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: bloodsheen]
#22367397 - 10/12/15 10:00 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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eye for an eye. its time to do the dirty with your mother. Just kiddin but if your dad has a girlfriend then I would start working on her. But get rid of your girl asap.
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#22367492 - 10/12/15 10:26 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Thank you all for the replies. As for my grammar, i was drunk and most definitly emotionally unstable at the time of the post. Writing an essay a college proffesor would be proud of was the last thing on my mind. Ive decided that no matter what, i love him as if he is my own. My father was never there for me and it wont be any different this time around. He desereves a decent father in his life. He is only a child and is completely innocent in this.
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: Anonymous #2]
#22367497 - 10/12/15 10:27 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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He will get what he deserves. Im sure of it.
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: decieved]
#22368010 - 10/12/15 12:25 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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I'm sorry to hear that man.Get a paternity test as said before and cut your ties with both of them.You can always message me if ya need to vent.
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#22368427 - 10/12/15 02:12 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Take this opportunity and get the fuck out of there. There is literally not one positive thing in that entire story. Leave everything, never look back.
Start over
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: rewind]
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rewind said: Your father is a piece of shit. I would beat the daylights out of him. Probably wouldn't solve anything, but it'll make you feel better.
this..
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: Tripsurfer]
#22368901 - 10/12/15 03:50 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Tripsurfer said: Take this opportunity and get the fuck out of there. There is literally not one positive thing in that entire story. Leave everything, never look back.
Start over
As much as this seems to be the onlything any person of sound mind would do, i still love her. I will always love her no matter what it seems. She was my first love...my first for so many things...i couldnt imagine not having her in my life. Im not sure I'll ever trust her again and the thought of anything sexual with her absolutely repulses me. Unfortunately, this is not the first time she has cheated on me....so i know, these feeling will most likely fade eventually but i refuse to allow myself to blindly trust her ever again. I just want happines in my life. It seems a bleak, unfamilar feeling anymore. Ive decides to stay with her and work this out but idk how to. The only way to get over i can find is time. Go ahead, que the insults. I know im a pathetic loser. I have no one to talk to about this other than her. Shroomery has always been there for me when i needed you guys the most. Thank you.
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: decieved]
#22369008 - 10/12/15 04:10 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Chop dick, remove balls.

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Mr.GuessWork said: Look dude, it would be a total piece of shit move to insult you at a time like this, and that's the wrong attitude to have.
What he said. Dont listen to me.
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: IISkuNkII]
#22369315 - 10/12/15 04:58 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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IISkuNkII said: I'm sorry to hear that man.Get a paternity test as said before and cut your ties with both of them.You can always message me if ya need to vent.
Thanks man. I wanted one at first. I dont anymore. I grew up without a father. He deserves a father in his life. None of this is his fault. I dont want to know. Im almost afraid of how it would affect me if he turned out to not be mine.
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#22369505 - 10/12/15 05:36 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Tripsurfer said: Take this opportunity and get the fuck out of there. There is literally not one positive thing in that entire story. Leave everything, never look back.
Start over
As much as this seems to be the onlything any person of sound mind would do, i still love her. I will always love her no matter what it seems. She was my first love...my first for so many things...i couldnt imagine not having her in my life. Im not sure I'll ever trust her again and the thought of anything sexual with her absolutely repulses me. Unfortunately, this is not the first time she has cheated on me....so i know, these feeling will most likely fade eventually but i refuse to allow myself to blindly trust her ever again. I just want happines in my life. It seems a bleak, unfamilar feeling anymore. Ive decides to stay with her and work this out but idk how to. The only way to get over i can find is time. Go ahead, que the insults. I know im a pathetic loser. I have no one to talk to about this other than her. Shroomery has always been there for me when i needed you guys the most. Thank you.
Look dude, it would be a total piece of shit move to insult you at a time like this, and that's the wrong attitude to have. Honestly, I'm worried that you're not thinking through your situation because you don't know how to or because your emotions are too fucked up right now, and maybe they've been fucked up for too long for you to recognize that you're not being treated like a decent human being right now. You do what you think is right, but please don't make any permanent decisions for at least a few weeks. You can do the right thing for other people without fucking yourself over in the process. Don't make a decision that forces you to suffer through more bullshit like what you posted. You owe that to yourself and to the world.
Normally I play devil's advocate with this stuff so people can get of glimpse of what's going on in the other person's head, but I'm not going to do that here because it would be unfair to you. A girl who is cheating and probably will continue to cheat on you with your dad, who is also clearly a bad guy(I'm holding back out of respect for your feelings), is absolutely somebody that you shouldn't trust to love you back or to give your kid a good life. You owe it to yourself to find a better partner and friend than these people, and if you really want take responsibility for that kid, then you should take the risk and look for somebody to love that can respect you and not put you and what will be your family through that kind of purely selfish abuse. Please take the time to really think about all your options creatively, and take the time to talk with people who won't treat you like shit. You need some more perspective, and you can get it if you patiently take your time. Don't commit to anything for a while, even if other people look like their suffering from your indecision. Make decisions that buy you time to think. Quick impulsive decisions that are made out of desperation in bad situations fuck up lives, man. Keep thinking, and keep talking with people. Please. You're entitled to take the time you need to make a good decision, so don't jump the gun and do something regrettable.
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: decieved]
#22369614 - 10/12/15 05:58 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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OP, you can love her at a distance.... far...far away. But ditch her. She's not in love with you. Over time, after realizing this is unacceptable, you'll hopefully move on.
I agree with other posters... Get a paternity test. If you want the child if he is yours, try to get custody or partial. If your father really is the ...er, father, he most likely might do the same thing to this child as he did to you, but I wouldn't know how to go about that situation right now....
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: DocShroom]
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DocShroom said: Pay the money ($50-100) for the paternity test and get as far away from your should be Ex and your dead beat father as you can. If the kid turns out to be yours file a paternity action with the court to ensure you get your time with it. If not move on and never look back. Living in a shit hole apartment barely making ends meet would be way more rewarding than even 5 seconds more in your current situation.
Seriously dude get the fuck away from both of them and start over, it is clear that neither of them give a shit about you. It will be hard but you deserve better than living with people who are making you consider suicide...
This!
I wouldnt wish it on anyone to live with people who treat you like shit dragging you down with them
Get out, dont murder your deadbeat dad dont throw away your life. Get away from them! cut them out Also do the dna test, but get away from those 2 scumbags
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: Mr.GuessWork]
#22371424 - 10/12/15 11:52 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Either way, you're related to the kid. Love him and respect him like any adult should a child, and of course be a role model. But honestly get the hell out of this situation. Leave it all behind. You can still be a good role model to the child but get out of this for your own sanity and hopefully happiness.
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: decieved]
#22371586 - 10/13/15 01:08 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Move overseas, start a new life, meet new people, build your own family, or join a new one, start a new career path that'll take you places. Forget your shit, drop everything at the door, walk through and never look back.
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: nuds] 1
#22371679 - 10/13/15 02:13 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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She has cuckholded you. This is a sexual strategy in which the female will fuck one man, and get provisioning from another. Essentially she views you as a tool to get resources for her child. She can only do this because she doesn't view you as a human. She was in fact turned on more by the fact that she was fucking you over and holding a huge amount of power, by having this trump card, more than she was by actually fucking your dad. She never loved you
You have abandonment issues, caused by this guy who knocked up your mom. He's not now nor was he ever yoyr father... you need to recognize that and then leave this situation, and these people. You are not them, they are both sick, and until you address this feeling of inadequatecy you will attract sick people who will use you.
My guess is you're around my age 25, and your not seeing the light at the end of the tunnel if you love this woman, you only love the idea of someone treating you like the garbage you "think" you are because if you weren't how come your own father could abandon and deceive you...
And to top it off everybody in your family has fucked you over huh? You enjoy being fucked over, it's self fulfilling.
Get away learn to love yourself, it sounds like you didn't snap, and honestly that's pretty amazing. Instead of being down about how something like this could happen to you, you should be glad that you're handling it better than most men ever could.
There's standard advice when a man's world crumbles. Rebuild a better one. Fix your underlining mental issues, meditate, eat healthy. Lift weights, move away, build a career, learn new skills, and find good friends, ones who cherish you. They're the people you need. Use this as motivation to become someone great in life because the the deeper you fall the higher you can rise. Good luck man, you deserve good things.
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336 said: Holy shit OP, that's fucking terrible. To be honest if that was me I would probably just leave all of them and move as far away as I could and start a new life somewhere.
Also I would definitely have a hard time keeping myself from killing my father and my fiance if they did that... Though I obviously don't recommend that as it would destroy your life even more so...
So if I were you I'd leave them all and move far far away.
I never got the whole *kill the man who banged my lying bitch* routine
My mothe had this friend in toledo, shitty couple, crazy. Well she divorced him cause he was a sociopathic dude who fought an beat her all the time She finds a new man
He breaks into her home kills her new bf and then shoot himself in the head Broken family
Sick twisted fuck
Reminded me of my family but a tad worse
Dont be that kinda guy OP Just get out an live your own life away from those broken people
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: SunnyD]
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AddyZomeD said: I never got the whole *kill the man who banged my lying bitch* routine
Normally, I don't understand it. Especially if the dude is unaware that the chick is taken.
In this instance however, it's the dude's own father who is banging his chick. Seems a little more understandable. Still not recommendable though.
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AddyZomeD said: I never got the whole *kill the man who banged my lying bitch* routine
Normally, I don't understand it. Especially if the dude is unaware that the chick is taken.
In this instance however, it's the dude's own father who is banging his chick. Seems a little more understandable. Still not recommendable though.
Not at all,
leave them to there own unhappiness and misery of lying and deceit
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Re: my son may very well be my brother.... [Re: decieved]
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You seem like a nice guy, decieved. I'm sorry to hear about it, really, I wish you the best. It is understandable to not be able to hold in the niceness, the forgiveness anymore, he obviously deserves much worse and I am sure will receive his karma.
Evil parenting makes me sick to my stomach, if only we could break the cycle of the darkness our own blood bestows on us.
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If it is his kid, you are free and can walk away. As horrible as it sounds this is the best case scenario.
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I'd take a trip to Van Nuys if it were me..
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