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Re: I'm becoming increasingly socially awkward around women. [Re: Enjoywho]
#22385713 - 10/15/15 09:16 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Smile, make eye contact, stand near
usually what girls do should work for you if they're avail
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TheMovement
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Re: I'm becoming increasingly socially awkward around women. [Re: vandago]
#22387424 - 10/16/15 08:27 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Here is the key-
Say to yourself " I am THE MAN IN THE ROOM" over and over and over again. Does the man in the room shy away from conversation with that lovely lady sitting next to him? No, he initiates conversation because he knows he is worth something. He knows that no matter where he is, he is the most desirable person in the room. He looks like a greek god. He is funny, charismatic, and has value to add to other peoples lives.
This is you. You are the man in the room. Go out there and prove it. Talk to everyone, not just women. I Find that having a good time in general tends to attract women to me. If you make eye contact with a woman, just go up and talk to her. It get's easier with experience.
Fake it til you make it bro. Self-image is one of the most important things.
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Re: I'm becoming increasingly socially awkward around women. [Re: TheMovement]
#22391073 - 10/16/15 10:24 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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TheMovement said: Here is the key-
Say to yourself " I am THE MAN IN THE ROOM" over and over and over again. Does the man in the room shy away from conversation with that lovely lady sitting next to him? No, he initiates conversation because he knows he is worth something. He knows that no matter where he is, he is the most desirable person in the room. He looks like a greek god. He is funny, charismatic, and has value to add to other peoples lives.
This is you. You are the man in the room. Go out there and prove it. Talk to everyone, not just women. I Find that having a good time in general tends to attract women to me. If you make eye contact with a woman, just go up and talk to her. It get's easier with experience.
Fake it til you make it bro. Self-image is one of the most important things.
Yep! Just believe in yourself! All good things come with time.
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Re: I'm becoming increasingly socially awkward around women. [Re: TheMovement]
#22391717 - 10/17/15 02:07 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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TheMovement said: Here is the key-
Say to yourself " I am THE MAN IN THE ROOM" over and over and over again. Does the man in the room shy away from conversation with that lovely lady sitting next to him? No, he initiates conversation because he knows he is worth something. He knows that no matter where he is, he is the most desirable person in the room. He looks like a greek god. He is funny, charismatic, and has value to add to other peoples lives.
This is you. You are the man in the room. Go out there and prove it. Talk to everyone, not just women. I Find that having a good time in general tends to attract women to me. If you make eye contact with a woman, just go up and talk to her. It get's easier with experience.
Fake it til you make it bro. Self-image is one of the most important things.
It's not myself I have to reassure matters and exists. It's love.
I am pretty damn confident. I mean I get on a stage and make fun of myself and the crowd as a passion. It takes a lot of courage to address a whole crowd.
I literally don't believe in love anymore. I think it's made up. I don't even look at my own mother the way I used to. I guess I am bitter.....or right? I deeply miss the company of a female....the smell, soft touches, reassurance when I didn't know I need it, sharing food and moments......but then when that feeling becomes fleeting, and I end up bumfuck alone I wonder why I even bothered in the first place.....even keeping women friends, I just hear about their current male endeavors or their ex's, or other power trip style stuff where I am fully convinced all women hate men for no reason and just use them. I've been told once or five times about the abortion clinic my mom walked out of only because she feared god......I've had the woman lift her gown up shrieking at me "LOOK AT WHAT YOU FUCKING DID TO MY BODY!!!!!"
The first girl I said I love you too instantly broke up with me for weed. Fucking wrecked me someone would leave a person for smoking a plant. Second girl I said it too I ended up leaving for a girl I lusted after.......turned out the girl I lusted after was PAID BY MY MOM TO SNITCH ON ME!!!! I chased this girl for weeks, and she led me on and got TONS of info outta me ( I was 16 )....and I finally found real LSD one day and called her ecstatic....thats when the ball dropped and my mom kicked my door in the following day and ripped my room apart, my whole everything was exposed, she found all my weed and pills and I ate the strip I had left before she found it....so I'm spun and she's crying and I am denying everything.....finally she breaks and tells me shes been paying this girl to tag along with me and report back to her!
I tried love again.....she left me so quick.....pretty much forced the word out of me during sex and then left me.
Then I tried again....this time I thought it was so legit.....we were two peas in a pod....totally free of chains, always off doing our own thing then meeting up and it being amazing......til we started fighting badly.....just knew something was up......she had been cheating on me and doing meth with a lot of people I ended up finding out....this whole relationship went on for 5 years ( I didnt find out about the cheating til the 4th year when someone broke into my car just to leave me a note she had written to a guy she was fucking on my driver seat ).......we tried to work it out.....she ended up leaving me for her college professor......then she was with him for 5 years and cheated on him at a festival......she told him....he drove down to the lake and got black out drunk and driving him hit the guard rail and went into a coma.....when he came out of the coma she put the wedding ring on his chest and told him she was leaving him for the new guy she cheated on him with.....well of course that wrecked him even more so he drove back out to the lake and put a bullet through his heart......she now lives in the house him and her financed together with her new guy and their baby....just heartless.
Next time I tried again, lasted a few years....but it was just non stop pressure about "getting my shit together" which never ended....no matter what.....I was never doing enough, and I was doing so so so much. It got drug out to the point of move out, move back in, move out, move back in.....
The only time I had really felt connected to someone since her ( 2010 ) was in 2013 with a girl I used to enjoy the hell out of her company.....prior to her being a heroin addict....when I hooked up with her on a more than friend level she revealed to me she had been on the needle a lot since we last talked.....and she was very very fucked up, more so than I remembered.....and I realized I was in love with a person I knew two years ago, not the person that she was then....we had a pregnancy scare and she was immediately about abortion....so I got a dog and she left me.....
Since her it's been fucking hell. I had a prostitute follow me around for a whole summer that I didnt know was a hooker....and then she faked a pregnancy to fuck with my head....and I just collapsed at what a dunce I was.....how I always let my heart win and it always causes everything to crumble.....
Now I talk to women and it's like "what do you want?" and the few women I talk to on a friend level I couldn't fathom it going further than texting because I have all this pent up bitterness.
It hurts my soul to know the most connection I have found to a woman, or the best sex I've had, or the times I've spent with a woman were all just chemical based.....which is all love is? With or without weed....or speed...or alcohol...or acid...or ecstacy.....its just a fake high? And I've been fucked over by so many friends I turned into a total narcissist....I used to be the most generous person I could be....and I actually regret that......regretting being nice hurts my soul.
Like when I broke down months ago about getting an std and was blablabla loads loads loads poor me....there was a lot more than just herpes going on there. Life fucking hurts more and more everyday, even when I feel like I'm letting go....I am just letting my guard down.
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TheMovement
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Re: I'm becoming increasingly socially awkward around women. [Re: vandago]
#22392782 - 10/17/15 10:54 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Love is out there man, its just that sometimes it is temporary. Some times it lasts a few months, sometimes a few weeks. You can't let the transience of love stop you from trying. I know it's hard, but you gotta get back on that horse and give it a shot again and again.
I recently got broken up with by a girl I loved. It was tough because sometimes it comes out of nowhere, but I just threw myself into my schoolwork and started talking to this magical girl I met at a music festival back in May. I think we have a nice little relationship budding, we've hung out a few times and seem to click pretty well.
My point is that you shouldn't give up.
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Re: I'm becoming increasingly socially awkward around women. [Re: TheMovement]
#22396127 - 10/18/15 01:01 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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TheMovement said: Love is out there man, its just that sometimes it is temporary. Some times it lasts a few months, sometimes a few weeks. You can't let the transience of love stop you from trying. I know it's hard, but you gotta get back on that horse and give it a shot again and again.
I recently got broken up with by a girl I loved. It was tough because sometimes it comes out of nowhere, but I just threw myself into my schoolwork and started talking to this magical girl I met at a music festival back in May. I think we have a nice little relationship budding, we've hung out a few times and seem to click pretty well.
My point is that you shouldn't give up.
Doing my best not too. I still maintain friendships with women, and I still talk to my mom....but not in person.....text, facebook, phone.
There's still the 56 year old woman I am a boy toy too that I am weening away from as well. She tried so hard, so I gave in and started a weird situation with her, and just wasn't doing well. She is a sweet lady, but wrong place and time. She and I talk on fb and she comes and gets me and takes me out to dinner occasionally and we trade off on the bills now...I try not to accept any gifts from her so I don't feel like I owe her anything, but she's never asked for anything in return, not even sex, I just feel obligated when someone desires me and helps me like that.
I totally respect women...almost too much. I think at this point I respect them enough to just leave them be lol. I have herpes, no license, and live in a squat house.....I may be handsome and have a job and am semi responsible, but I think a woman I desire for long term deserves better than I post trainwreck.
I really gotta take the advice above and just not take things so seriously all the time. Flirt, chat, forget about sex, go with the flow, remember if I do right things will unfold properly. Gotta stop trying to swim through the rock, and swim around it.
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Re: I'm becoming increasingly socially awkward around women. [Re: vandago]
#22397429 - 10/18/15 12:25 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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vandago said: I have herpes, no license, and live in a squat house.....I may be handsome and have a job and am semi responsible, but I think a woman I desire for long term deserves better than I post trainwreck.
Dude, I hate to be the one who to say this, but you sound completely irrational. You are responsible, but have no license, STDs, and your homeless. What?
And somehow I have a hard time believing a handsome man was trolling for pussy on craiglist, and has such a low self esteem they have trouble talking to woman.
Everything you say is riddled with contradictions and bizarre behavior.
But I digress, this might not be what you want to hear, but you honestly might want to forget about woman for the time being while you work on yourself. Do good stuff for yourself, whether thats finishing that degree you started, lifting weights, getting a job, getting off drugs, starting a new hobby, any and everything. Woman will gravitate towards you once you figure shit out. You will be an all around happier person. Quit stressing over it and focus on yourself.
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Re: I'm becoming increasingly socially awkward around women. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#22398265 - 10/18/15 03:20 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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The trick is to not talk to girls as if they're goddesses who control your reproductive destiny. Talk to them like they're dudes, with some limitations of course...talk to them like they're really sensitive, effeminate dudes. You wouldn't feel intimidated talking to a gay man would you? You could care less about what guys think of you right? Pretend to care less about what women think and they'll see that you don't care, and they'll make you want to care. Women are easy as fuck.
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Re: I'm becoming increasingly socially awkward around women. [Re: vandago]
#22400798 - 10/18/15 11:46 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Just make eye contact and keep it real. If you can't make 100% eye contact who gives a shit. I'd suggest getting a hobby or hanging out at the local bar.
Make friends, ie.....female friends.
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Re: I'm becoming increasingly socially awkward around women. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#22416100 - 10/21/15 11:04 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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vandago said: I have herpes, no license, and live in a squat house.....I may be handsome and have a job and am semi responsible, but I think a woman I desire for long term deserves better than I post trainwreck.
Dude, I hate to be the one who to say this, but you sound completely irrational. You are responsible, but have no license, STDs, and your homeless. What?
And somehow I have a hard time believing a handsome man was trolling for pussy on craiglist, and has such a low self esteem they have trouble talking to woman.
Everything you say is riddled with contradictions and bizarre behavior.
But I digress, this might not be what you want to hear, but you honestly might want to forget about woman for the time being while you work on yourself. Do good stuff for yourself, whether thats finishing that degree you started, lifting weights, getting a job, getting off drugs, starting a new hobby, any and everything. Woman will gravitate towards you once you figure shit out. You will be an all around happier person. Quit stressing over it and focus on yourself.
Thanks anon. Get at me when they cure that STD, and I'll just say fuck a social life for 3 years due to lack of license. I'm not homeless either? I'm living in a huge ass house I only pay utilities on, by choice, I have money to go rent a place but I'm riding this out until I have more of an understanding of where I am going to want to get a place.
2 jobs, house, car, dogs, food in fridge, money in wallet, living my passions to boot. There's no ultimate goal in life, I'm happy, I am working with what I have. I'll always have herpes. I won't have a license til may of 2018. I'm "homeless" to the effect I have extra money to actually do things. I guess different strokes for different folks. If you are/were a woman, you would be the type of woman that's helping me avoid the rest.
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Re: I'm becoming increasingly socially awkward around women. [Re: vandago]
#22417675 - 10/22/15 11:04 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Look man, sorry if I offended you; however, I felt like this is stuff you needed to hear. Its cool if you wan't to justify and explain everything, but thats all they are- justifications. You're a walking contradiction and you sound like youre a mess right now. I know you defend your life, but it sounds like from the first post you are just going through the motions and don't really feel this way.
Good luck to you regardless, I won't say anymore because you obviously aren't receptive to constructive criticism and taking a good hard look at yourself and the way you perceive life.
Peace
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Re: I'm becoming increasingly socially awkward around women. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#22420475 - 10/22/15 09:39 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Look man, sorry if I offended you; however, I felt like this is stuff you needed to hear. Its cool if you wan't to justify and explain everything, but thats all they are- justifications. You're a walking contradiction and you sound like youre a mess right now. I know you defend your life, but it sounds like from the first post you are just going through the motions and don't really feel this way.
Good luck to you regardless, I won't say anymore because you obviously aren't receptive to constructive criticism and taking a good hard look at yourself and the way you perceive life.
Peace
You brought up things that can't be changed though? I deserve to be alone because I don't have a license, herpes, and don't have to pay rent? Why is being in debt and having more bills a "mess". Herpes isn't going anywhere, sure would love it if they would. These are not justifications, they are things I currently have to deal with.
There's no time in my life for hobbies.....I already play drums, play bass, and I regularly do stand up comedy. There's down time at home where I am relaxing watching a movie, or playing a video game.....on my days off I go into the woods and spend it with my dogs....it'd be nice to have someone to spend it with.
I'm not entirely sure I want to go to college. I am also not entirely sure where I want to either sign a lease, or buy a home at.....so why would I jump the gun on those things?
I'm really confused why I would be happy with where I am, and look for someone who has expectations of me? I have everything I need and then some. Just me should be enough?
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