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Haleakala


Registered: 10/09/15
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Loc: Australia
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Sexual abuse and suicide attempt *DELETED*
#22357704 - 10/10/15 05:37 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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mustangbob3
Mad Myrmecologist



Registered: 10/15/14
Posts: 1,685
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Re: Sexual abuse and suicide attempt [Re: Haleakala]
#22357711 - 10/10/15 05:49 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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you can only help her if she wants it.
any other action could make more probs.
she needs reliability support and strength from you.
if you act without her say it may be seen as a breech of trust on your part. and wont end well.
she needs have someone she can trust and seems that is you. dont break that imo
instead build her up to confronting the problem herself. be that police of other.
help her make a plan of action to get out of there. seeing her goals met on plan will give extra confidence to break free. and be there to support her when she does.
apart from that you got play it by ear.
help her make sensible decisions towards ending the problem. save money.. make arrangements to move ect.. call police if needed/wanted... leave to safe place... and if not rang police already do it when safe to stop the scum bag trying with others.
but at the end of the day the ball is in her court and she needs to make the serve.
with a plan and achevieing the goals will give her a light at the end of the tunnel and will help confidence and make the final break easier and also the progress towards will help with depression ect as the end will be in sight
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koraks
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Re: Sexual abuse and suicide attempt [Re: mustangbob3]
#22357751 - 10/10/15 06:20 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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IMO she needs to reach to out someone who is physically close and who can offer her a safe place if things get out of hand in any way. I obviously don't know the situation and if there's anyone there who would fit the bill (trusted family member, friend), but in my mind, that would be the best short-term option. Together with that person she can decide what's best for the medium term - seek psychological help, do whatever it takes to get that scumbag off her back, repatriate to her home country, etc. But it seems vital that she has a safe place to go that she can reach quickly and where she can be cared for by someone she can trust completely. Your traveling to the US, while I understand the idea and I think it's very noble, is probably not the best way to go about it. Nevertheless, it may help, depending on your local network, your relationship with this girl etc. But judging from a distance, I think it could just as well complicate matters, so I'd tread carefully.
Is there anyone near she can reach out to?
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Haleakala


Registered: 10/09/15
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Loc: Australia
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Re: Sexual abuse and suicide attempt [Re: Haleakala]
#22357819 - 10/10/15 06:55 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Thank you for your words. I think I will reach out to one of her friends that I trust that could just watch her and make sure nothing horrible happens and I will put the pressure on her to do something, as i do believe mostly her responsibility to take action.
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Haleakala


Registered: 10/09/15
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Loc: Australia
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Re: Sexual abuse and suicide attempt [Re: koraks]
#22357821 - 10/10/15 06:57 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Only really 1 or 2 friends I would actually trust in helping her to be honest.
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