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Anonymous #1
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codependence = stupidity
#22348885 - 10/08/15 07:05 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Hi i for one dont know a person who is codependent that is not a complete moron...
I think it has something to do with intelligence, the more intelligent you are the less likely you will have low self esteem and the less likely you will fall for codependent behaviour,
all codependent abused people i know of are really stupid and low in intelligence...
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koraks
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A lack of confidence and a poor image of on3les3lf is in my experience just as common among smart people as it is among the less intelligent. YMMV.
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Mr.GuessWork
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I know two reasonably smart people who are codependent on each other. I think it's an emotionally driven thing, and it depends more on emotional intelligence and having the right skills to handle weird feelings. Calling somebody a complete moron is really more of an insult than an explanation for their behavior. It is frustrating to watch codependent bullshit happen though. It's like seeing somebody trying to jam the square peg in the round hole while they insist that it's your fault that it's not working.
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Atrium
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My ex was a 4.0 suma cum loudly ( ) laude perfect ACT/SAT and had full rides to every school she applied to. She was also on multiple anti psychotics and such. She showed me she had to take something like 10+ pills (prescriptions) a day. Many twice or more.
And strangely, she was the most intelligent, interesting person I had ever met. Unfortunately she was what you would call codependent. She was unable to go 1 week without seeing me, 1 week after she broke up with me she fucked multiple people. 2 months later she starts dating my closest friend.
In my opinion the world is just fucked.
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Lucis
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If you say everyone that are in codependent relationships are dumb, then you must not know that many people. I know some families where the children are made to be codependent on either the father or mother, this is very common in families where divorce has taken place. The thought process behind why single parents do this is simple, they don't want to be alone. The trauma of divorce has made them seek out a solid relationship in anyway they can, which often leads them to creating an environment for their children that keeps the kids around, this also stunts the child's development and can lead to failure later in life as the child gets old enough to strike out on their own.
Parents/partners who form codependent bonds often times do so with manipulation, they will help someone over and over again, then when the person who is being manipulated wants to move on, they're reminded how much help they were given and how they owe the manipulator their companionship.
My ex was codependent on her mom, she knew she was as well, she was not an idiot in anyway. What you're saying is subjective, and not always the case.
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Anonymous said: I think it has something to do with intelligence, the more intelligent you are the less likely you will have low self esteem and the less likely you will fall for codependent behaviour
This has got to be one of the stupidest things I've ever read. A lot of very intelligent people have low self esteem and are incredibly depressed. They perceive and are able to understand the world in a way that very few others can and are often misunderstood as a result. Codependence has nothing to do with someone being intelligent or not.
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