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I love my neighbor if they share there chronic
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hulahoops
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I've always gotten along with my neighbors. I don't think it's that difficult. People don't seem willing to interact with each other on even the simplest level. How hard it has become smile at someone let alone to say "Hello." :/
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: Do you love your neighbor? [Re: hulahoops]
#22339057 - 10/05/15 10:48 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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hulahoops said: How hard it has become smile at someone let alone to say "Hello." :/
I hear that man, I often try and share a smile and it often goes unrequited. I don't think my general image helps much (tattoos, muscles, earrings, long hair and beard) but one would hope that the recipient of a nice smile would overlook such things. Alas! London doesn't seem conducive to such openness...
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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nuentoter
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But the person receiving the smile is apart from you, you can influence (which you did by projecting positive vibes) and hope for it to influence, but you cannot expect anything. Once you have expectations of someone else you should ask yourself if you are acting genuinely out of love which requires nothing in return, it is a one directional projection of positivity. When you expect a smile back it is a hope that your efforts are not wasted, or there will be some reciprocation to yourself. But if you smile and they walk by but later in the day that person smiles to themselves alone because of that silly looking guy with tattoos and looking hair seemed jolly. Then was it wasted? Will you ever know? Does it matter in this scenario? If it matters that you took the actions you did and made the influence you did, does it matter if you ever find out? Or does it simply matter that you tried and were earnest.
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hulahoops
Registered: 09/24/15
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hulahoops said: How hard it has become smile at someone let alone to say "Hello." :/
I hear that man, I often try and share a smile and it often goes unrequited. I don't think my general image helps much (tattoos, muscles, earrings, long hair and beard) but one would hope that the recipient of a nice smile would overlook such things. Alas! London doesn't seem conducive to such openness...
Keep doing what you're doing. I don't think it matters too much regarding one's appearance. I went on a hike last weekend and smiled and said 'hello' to everyone that passed by (for a while). This was met with an abrupt "Hello" back, zero smiles, and strange looks for endeavoring conversation in the first place. I decided to stop all interaction (after encountering this with dozens of people) and kept my eyes on the trail as a bit of a research project to see if anyone would speak to me without my initiatives. I passed a handful of couples, friends walking together, etc., and not one person spoke to me. Eyes averted, human contact avoided at all costs was the reaction I received to my small presence. I don't know. It's weird. Sad, even. I was alone. Normal looking? I think so. I understand the complexities and hardships of life, but if someone smiles at me, I am grateful to be in that fleeting moment of someone's kindness, even the simplest, smallest gesture from a stranger. I understand not everyone thinks like that, but I do. I mean, this wasn't a Monday morning traffic jam where most people are obviously in a bad mood. This was Sunday afternoon spent in the woods. People out and about enjoying nature...
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DisoRDeR
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Re: Do you love your neighbor? [Re: hulahoops]
#22342305 - 10/06/15 07:21 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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hulahoops said:
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Jokeshopbeard said:
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hulahoops said: How hard it has become smile at someone let alone to say "Hello." :/
I hear that man, I often try and share a smile and it often goes unrequited. I don't think my general image helps much (tattoos, muscles, earrings, long hair and beard) but one would hope that the recipient of a nice smile would overlook such things. Alas! London doesn't seem conducive to such openness...
Keep doing what you're doing. I don't think it matters too much regarding one's appearance. I went on a hike last weekend and smiled and said 'hello' to everyone that passed by (for a while). This was met with an abrupt "Hello" back, zero smiles, and strange looks for endeavoring conversation in the first place. I decided to stop all interaction (after encountering this with dozens of people) and kept my eyes on the trail as a bit of a research project to see if anyone would speak to me without my initiatives. I passed a handful of couples, friends walking together, etc., and not one person spoke to me. Eyes averted, human contact avoided at all costs was the reaction I received to my small presence. I don't know. It's weird. Sad, even. I was alone. Normal looking? I think so. I understand the complexities and hardships of life, but if someone smiles at me, I am grateful to be in that fleeting moment of someone's kindness, even the simplest, smallest gesture from a stranger. I understand not everyone thinks like that, but I do. I mean, this wasn't a Monday morning traffic jam where most people are obviously in a bad mood. This was Sunday afternoon spent in the woods. People out and about enjoying nature...
Interesting. In my experience, most people reciprocate greetings and are pleasant when I meet them walking, in the city or out on trails. I'm often with my dog though--she makes quick friends. And I'm in a smallish city in Canada.
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: Do you love your neighbor? [Re: DisoRDeR]
#22342409 - 10/06/15 07:42 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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nuentoter said: Once you have expectations of someone else you should ask yourself if you are acting genuinely out of love which requires nothing in return, it is a one directional projection of positivity.
It's not at all about expectations man. Perhaps I worded it wrong. I do it because I know how nice it is when others do it to me, and I want to spread positive energy in this world. It's more about this:
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hulahoops said: Eyes averted, human contact avoided at all costs was the reaction I received to my small presence. I don't know. It's weird. Sad, even.
I mean, it's hard not be a little saddened by the fact that this is the culture we live in. I'm not about to let it ruin my day, but it does smart a little when one makes an effort only to be stared at like a madman.
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DisoRDeR said: Interesting. In my experience, most people reciprocate greetings and are pleasant when I meet them walking, in the city or out on trails. I'm often with my dog though--she makes quick friends. And I'm in a smallish city in Canada.
It's definitely a location based phenomenon. Big cities are the worst for it, however I've been to may small towns in the UK which are as you describe.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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You should visit Portland, 2.2mil freaks who are so open... I walk down the street and make direct eye contact, stop and chat, that spins my whole day, surprise... am off to a pot luck dinner..... like I was fated to meet this person, or just chaotic serendipity, who knows? You won't experience such phenomenon unless you're open and want to smash through routine, if you're just an ant in a colony it will never happen... More and more I experience people who really get me, those who are just coauthoring reality together.
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Re: Do you love your neighbor? [Re: CosmicJoke]
#22342485 - 10/06/15 07:53 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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CosmicJoke said: You should visit Portland, 2.2mil freaks who are so open...
I will man. I'm intending to come the other side of the cold season!
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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nuentoter
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Mainers are cool and friendly.
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Re: Do you love your neighbor? [Re: nuentoter]
#22348196 - 10/07/15 11:54 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yes, with all my heart!!
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