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goldcaphunter
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I don't know what to do with my feelings
#22302142 - 09/28/15 10:32 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Long story short I've always been depressed but my girlfriend left me a couple weeks ago and it still hurts, a lot. I knew I loved her but I thought she loved me but she's already fooling around with another guy.
The pain of that mixed with years of suppressed depression just came flooding back. I wake up after laying in bed for hours thinking about the same shitty situations and it's really hard for me to find the motivation to take care of my responsibilities. I just hurt all the time now. What is happening with my feelings , how do I make this go away I don't have anyone to turn to it feels like
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thebitterbuffalo26
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: goldcaphunter]
#22302180 - 09/28/15 10:43 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah man, everybody goes through this. That's what all those songs are about.
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goldcaphunter
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Yeah but it all accumulated you know. I've felt like this before basically my whole life but I've always had meds for it now I'm all lost and stuff
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: goldcaphunter]
#22302369 - 09/28/15 11:26 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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It may be a good idea to re-up your meds. I know where you're coming from as I have suffered from lifelong severe depression. Thanks to Zoloft, I'm a new person. Keep us posted on your doings, friend.
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: goldcaphunter]
#22302513 - 09/28/15 12:00 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Figure out something, maybe multiple things, where you can put your energy into. Whether it's art, music, exercise, documenting, collecting, or coming up with ideas for a business and putting them into play. These things take time. That's ok. But ruminating and putting your energy into negative thoughts, especially things outside your control, will just continue to create more feelings of helplessness and despair.
I highly suggest exercise. It creates endorphins (natural pain relievers) and teaches that the body is stronger than the mind sometimes gives it credit for.
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thebitterbuffalo26 said: Yeah man, everybody goes through this. That's what all those songs are about.

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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: goldcaphunter]
#22307303 - 09/29/15 09:48 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I know this sounds typical and cliche but, if you download this app called smiling minds, you may build a solid foundation for your road to recovery. Hope it helps you the same way it helped me
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: Milofski] 1
#22308690 - 09/29/15 02:29 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Time for some tough love.
Fuck your feelings. Move, do something constructive. Your feelings are there because you experienced something shitty. Go and create better experiences for yourself.
Erase all traces of her from your life. It's over, no use in thinking about it anymore ever. It will hurt from time to time, but as time goes on and you move on with your life it will get better.
She's out there diddling some other guy and your here wallowing in self pity? A man acknowledgedes his pain, his fear, his emotions, and acts appropriately anyway.
If my girl left me for another guy you know what Id do? I'd be devastated. It would hurt so fucking bad. Id probably throw up, maybe even shed a tear! I'd probably feel that way for a while.
But that night Id have all traces of her gone out of my life. She left me, it's over. That night I'd be at the gym, then at my friend's house. The next day I'd figure out what when and where things went wrong, and I'd tackle that shit.
I'd make her miss me. Whether she wants me back or not doesn't matter, she fucked up and she doesn't get another shot with me. I have self-respect. She should've talked to me if she wasn't happy.
You can be sad, hurt, angry. But do something about. You know what you do with your feelings? Take them to the gym. It's all energy man, use it wisely. Do that shit that you always wanted to do but couldn't because you were too scared or your girl held you back.
Fuck your meds. Your sad so you do drugs? Your sad so you cover your sadness up instead of using that pain to fufill a higher purpose? Pain is there to make you change man. That is the biological reason for pain. Pain isn't there to be drugged away.
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22311871 - 09/30/15 12:22 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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What Anon #1 is saying is probably one way to tackle it, if you want to be that sort of person (respectable I guess...)
Personally I would listen to Mad Season and chill out with a cigarette.
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: circastes]
#22312503 - 09/30/15 05:29 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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get a book called "how to eat move and be healthy" by paul chek and also seek his e-book called the "last 4 doctors you will ever need" his youtube channel is well worth a visit also. Start with the basics that are in your control, sleep(bed before 1030 for hormone production and physical repair) breathing (deeeeep 2/3s belly 1/3 chest) hydration (.03 x your body weight (Kgs) in Liters per day) eating right for your metabolic type( tests are in the book or maybe online) moving (anything you enjoy but enough to get the body pumping fluids) thinking (positively, picture your perfect day in as much detail as possible and work towards that)
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: circastes]
#22313558 - 09/30/15 11:36 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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circastes said: What Anon #1 is saying is probably one way to tackle it, if you want to be that sort of person (respectable I guess...)
Personally I would listen to Mad Season and chill out with a cigarette.
And then what do you do when the song is over and the cigarette is spent? Light up another one and hit replay?
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: Penelope_Tree]
#22313712 - 09/30/15 12:06 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: Le_Canard]
#22314021 - 09/30/15 01:05 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Le_Canard said: It may be a good idea to re-up your meds. I know where you're coming from as I have suffered from lifelong severe depression. Thanks to Zoloft, I'm a new person. Keep us posted on your doings, friend.
Hope I don't derail the thread terribly much, but would you care to elaborate? I'm in a similar boat as OP and am beginning to see depression as a life sentence. I almost never hear about people getting through their depression and enjoying life again and this is horrifying to me. Do SSRIs really make that much difference for you?
Wish I had some advice to give you OP but I'm dealing with the same shit right now. At least my girlfriend and I are together, but besides that it seems things are just getting worse and worse with each fucking day.
Browsing this forum seems to be helping me a bit, at least I'm not alone with this bullshit.
Hang in there OP, you gotta at least hope that things will look up some day soon.
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: goldcaphunter]
#22315430 - 09/30/15 05:53 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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How is the difficult part for you to practice.
What do do however, detach yourself from her emotionally and come to accept that it is over. Have the self respect to know when to move on, if you can't do that you'll be walked on throughout your life.
You have to be the focus of your life. However soppy or cheesy it sounds it's true.
It's like dieting, we all know how to do it we're just scared to try.
It's also important to remember that what someone else does does not mean you are any less capable. A great thing to do is to always remember what you are capable of so that if you don't live up to it one time, at least you know you can.
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: sudly]
#22318044 - 10/01/15 09:13 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Agreeing with sudly
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: circastes]
#22320728 - 10/01/15 07:30 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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circastes said: What Anon #1 is saying is probably one way to tackle it, if you want to be that sort of person (respectable I guess...)
Personally I would listen to Mad Season and chill out with a cigarette.
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: Le_Canard]
#22321775 - 10/01/15 11:51 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Le_Canard said: It may be a good idea to re-up your meds. I know where you're coming from as I have suffered from lifelong severe depression. Thanks to Zoloft, I'm a new person. Keep us posted on your doings, friend.
i seriously don't see how it could work.
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: goldcaphunter]
#22321790 - 10/01/15 11:59 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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depression is the pits. have you tried medication? that would be a good start.
are you using? that contributes majorly.
I dont know how to cure being depressed. It's basically the normal for me after turning into an adult. The combination of relationships and my drug use has made it so.
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: sprinkles]
#22321814 - 10/02/15 12:21 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: I don't know what to do with my feelings [Re: sprinkles]
#22321981 - 10/02/15 01:43 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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SSRI's have shitty side effects for a lot of people, so do benzos but I personally reckon they work better.
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