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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: P.Zappatecorum] 4
#22306242 - 09/29/15 01:30 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Make her take a shit with you and if she won't shit at the same time as you get pissed off
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: Alan Watts]
#22306248 - 09/29/15 01:31 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Just by skimming I'm gonna have to say, GTFO now. You're in a tanker truck barreling down hill with no brakes directly towards a factory fire.Quote:
nice1returns said: Make her take a shit with you and if she won't shit at the same time as you get pissed off
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: Shroomslip]
#22306979 - 09/29/15 07:55 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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It sounds like she's pretty abusive about the issue for whatever reason, and the fact that she cries a lot when you're apart is also sign that she has her emotions all fucked up as a habit. The relationship is definitely unhealthy, and you need to set some clear boundaries. Chances are good it won't end in instant gratification, but you should man up and defend yourself when you're being treated unfairly. Allowing this abuse to become a tolerated habit is a REALLY bad idea. It's bad for you, and it's bad for her. If she can't handle these kind of confrontations productively, then she should break up with you (or you with her) because she's not currently ready to be in a good relationship, and a bad relationship is not worth maintaining at such a high expense.
And just to be clear, this isn't about smoking pot. That's a scapegoat.
EDIT: The sex and relationship forum is usually better for this kind of discussion BTW.
Edited by Mr.GuessWork (09/29/15 07:58 AM)
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: Mr.GuessWork]
#22307089 - 09/29/15 08:37 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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smoke weed without here right in front of her face stop being a pussy
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: shroominated]
#22307280 - 09/29/15 09:42 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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shroominated said: smoke weed without here right in front of her face stop being a pussy

Where you at OP, you dumped this crazy yet? Let us know how this pans out.
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: P.Zappatecorum]
#22307558 - 09/29/15 11:03 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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in short, she continues doing it because YOU put up with it
dump the bitch and make her find someone who WILL put up with it, which is no one
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: Envix]
#22307564 - 09/29/15 11:05 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Indeed. If you refuse to law down the law with a female then it will only embolden her to do it more. Allowing her to get away with it is only reinforcing the behavior.
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: Detached]
#22307567 - 09/29/15 11:06 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Detached said: You are right... That is a very long post. I didn't make it after the first paragraph.
But from the title of your post... first world problems.
I legit lol'd
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: Alan Watts] 3
#22307572 - 09/29/15 11:08 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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We need to see naked pictures in order to give an educated response.
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: nicechrisman]
#22307585 - 09/29/15 11:11 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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At this point I'm going to advise you not to show your GF this thread, OP. I don't think it'll help, and she'll probably feel the need only let you post on the shroomery when she's doing it. The SLOTS thread always gets awkward for a while when that stuff happens.
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: Mr.GuessWork] 2
#22307604 - 09/29/15 11:15 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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He needs to listen to his girlfriend and quit smoking without her, he's clearly being an asshole.
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: 1234go]
#22308917 - 09/29/15 03:10 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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everyone's already said it, but I'll reinforce the key points here.
-gtfo, this bitch is crazy and controlling and this is NOT gonna end well
-you're a pussy for letting her walk all over you
-DSHSB
-enjoywho is a player who likes underage girls who just lives a really interesting life
-get out OP.
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: Mr.PhilCybin]
#22308928 - 09/29/15 03:12 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Mr.PhilCybin said: -DSHSB, get out OP.
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: nicechrisman]
#22308935 - 09/29/15 03:13 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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ur gf sux.
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: Mr.PhilCybin]
#22308938 - 09/29/15 03:13 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: Alan Watts]
#22311889 - 09/30/15 12:30 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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This is OPs girlfriend, he's letting me post here on his profile. He showed me the post and the responses, and I do see credit in what everyone's saying. However, he left off quite a major detail that I believe accounts for some of my behavior.
For the last 5 or 6 semester breaks, I have asked him to promise not to smoke weed just for the break. This was to see if he could go for two weeks at home without getting high so I can know that he's not still psychologically 'addicted' to it. Every single time he has broken his promise. Sometimes he tries to lie to me about it. This has really shattered my trust.
He says he just has a rebellious tendency, but he also says that he forgets about the promise in the moment. (He tells me that he felt pressured to make the promise, even if he is being truly sincere about it at the time of making the promise (he wrote this bit).) While busy at university he has many times gone longer than a month or two without touching alcohol or weed (e.g I have a drug test coming up for holiday work, so he has respected my wishes and hasn't smoked weed for about 3 weeks now), but I think he should be able to go for just one holiday break without getting high, even if he thinks it's pointless or controlling.
I'm worried about him, and I'm scared that he will go back to regular weed use and/or alcohol use in the future like he has done in his past. I blow up at him so he will fully understand how important it is to me that he does not become a regular user of any substance (I think it might have a negative impact on both of our lives.)
I like him to do those substances only with me so I can see how much he's using, and maybe to deter him from using them on his own.
I know this is a bit controlling, but once he can show me he can use weed and alcohol occasionally and responsibly, and keep a promise to me for at least one semester break, I will let up a bit and let him be himself.
I know I have issues, but don't we all?
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: P.Zappatecorum]
#22311907 - 09/30/15 12:36 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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P.Zappatecorum said:
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Alan Watts said: She tells me that she cannot control the way she behaves and she has no idea why she does this. In the end she just ends up telling me that this is what I have to put up with if I want to be with her.
RUN AWAY! NOW! DON'T LOOK BACK!
Seriously though, at the very best she has some serious boundary/codependency issues, at the worst she has borderline personality disorder and will make your life a living hell if you stay with her for too long. If she's not willing to try to change abusive, manipulative and unpleasant behavioral patterns in order to keep you, you need to break up with her immediately and not look back.
This.
Just find a new girlfriend dude. It's my opinion that 98% of 19 and 21 year olds are incapable of actual love anyway. Maybe that's jaded of me, but I thought I was in love several times back then. Turns out I was just an idiotic teenager in love with love.
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: Alan Watts] 1
#22311923 - 09/30/15 12:42 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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You have good intentions but you're not his parent. You need to learn how to let your boyfriend be his own man, not your little love project. If you can't do that, then let him go.
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: Alan Watts]
#22311942 - 09/30/15 12:46 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Alan Watts said: This is OPs girlfriend, he's letting me post here on his profile. He showed me the post and the responses, and I do see credit in what everyone's saying. However, he left off quite a major detail that I believe accounts for some of my behavior.
For the last 5 or 6 semester breaks, I have asked him to promise not to smoke weed just for the break. This was to see if he could go for two weeks at home without getting high so I can know that he's not still psychologically 'addicted' to it. Every single time he has broken his promise. Sometimes he tries to lie to me about it. This has really shattered my trust.
He says he just has a rebellious tendency, but he also says that he forgets about the promise in the moment. (He tells me that he felt pressured to make the promise, even if he is being truly sincere about it at the time of making the promise (he wrote this bit).) While busy at university he has many times gone longer than a month or two without touching alcohol or weed (e.g I have a drug test coming up for holiday work, so he has respected my wishes and hasn't smoked weed for about 3 weeks now), but I think he should be able to go for just one holiday break without getting high, even if he thinks it's pointless or controlling.
I'm worried about him, and I'm scared that he will go back to regular weed use and/or alcohol use in the future like he has done in his past. I blow up at him so he will fully understand how important it is to me that he does not become a regular user of any substance (I think it might have a negative impact on both of our lives.)
I like him to do those substances only with me so I can see how much he's using, and maybe to deter him from using them on his own.
I know this is a bit controlling, but once he can show me he can use weed and alcohol occasionally and responsibly, and keep a promise to me for at least one semester break, I will let up a bit and let him be himself.
I know I have issues, but don't we all?
You can't control other people's drug intake. You. Just. Can't. You can force them to promise to refrain, extort a promise they don't want to make and that they don't really mean, but if they think it is bullshit deep down inside then they'll just say yeah yeah yeah and do it anyway. Better would be to just ask them to be honest about their usage and decide whether or not you find that acceptable to have in your life. If drinking and smoking weed now and then are deal breakers for you, then tell him he can have you or the drugs and let him choose. If they're not, then shut the fuck up and let him make his own choices. If you think he honestly is showing signs of addiction, make a case for it, explain patterns of use you find alarming and show him how his choices negatively effect his life with logic and evidence, otherwise you're just making value judgements against the lifestyle he wants to lead.
If he can go long periods without partying because of work/school than IMO there is no problem. Asking him to stop smoking at precisely the best/most logical time to smoke and relax with his friends is like asking somebody to not have cake on their birthday after months of not eating any junk food because you're worried they have a sweet tooth. What is the point in that beyond just being controlling and seeing if you can make him bow to your irrational whims?
The fact that he showed this post to you and that you've jacked his thread to defend yourself and say you're not a controlling psycho only strengthens the impression that he is a spineless doormat with poor boundaries and you are trying to micromanage his life. You guys have some major codependency issues in your relationship and frankly, I am disgusted with this thread. You fail OP. Peace out.
Edited by P.Zappatecorum (09/30/15 12:49 AM)
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Re: My girlfriend HATES it when I smoke weed without her. Advice needed! [Re: P.Zappatecorum] 1
#22311986 - 09/30/15 12:59 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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^this guy knows what he's talking about, pretty much nailed what I wanted to say, and I tried to tell OP it was a trust issue but he wouldn't listen.
Frankly, OP's girlfriend, the smoking habits you describe do not sound one bit like addiction and your rationale is completely illogical. You're going to be in for a tough time in every relationship you have until you learn to manage your irrational fears.
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