I used to lurk/post here from time to time amoung countless hours of "research" into anxiety and depression. I have learned a lot of great things from all this wasted time, but really I was spinning my tires in the mud.
There is no magic pill, drug, thought, affirmation, idea, meditation technique, philosphy that is going to pull anyone out of their depression or anxiety.
I bet, if you push your own bullshit and excuses aside, you know what it is that you need to do. Most of the time that thing is scary as fuck.
Try asking yourself: what's the first step I need to take to get out of this hole? Before all the bullshit sets in, you're intuition will compile all the data in your head at the speed of light and come up with the answer. It'll probably being something painful that you want to avoid.
For me it was quitting weed. All my friends and family smoked, many of my relationships were built on smoking. But it was looming in the back of my head for a long damn time. I took the plunge last May and haven't had a single puff since. This was after dozens of quit attempts where I lasted only a week, if that. I have zero desire to smoke, it only brings back bad memories and I don't want to go back to that dark place.
Quitting smoking has given me the edge, just a BIT less anxiety and depression, and a BIT more energy and motivation to start martial arts again. This snowballed into me lifting weights in addition to that. To support these habits, I work more hours and play less video games. I also have the mind to make the effort to hang out with friends more.
Sometimes these things suck dick. I never want to smoke, but I don't always want to train or go out. The key here is for me to not fight with myself. There's no use, I already made up my mind.
This is where thinking positive helps. "The secret," the "law of attraction is utter bullshit. Don't ever think for a second you can think yourself out of this. DO think that you have the ABILITY to WORK your way into success. The ONLY differences between a fucking loser and a successful person is that the successful person believed he could do it and then took action.
I know, it hurts and your tired and it's hard to get the ball rolling. I've been there. I've pushed against that ball for YEARS until FINALLY, it budged.
Action, discipline, a "no pain no gain" attitude is what you need. It sounds fucking corny but I've adopted a bit of a warrior mindset. I look at myself like a video-game character, every experience I get experience points allocated to that skill. It's fun this way.
On a darker note...i also accepted the idea that suicide might be nature's way of culling the weak. There are MANY exceptions. I understand people are in legitimate pain and to end it all is your choice, but if i personally were to do it, it would be a culling of the weak. I would of been too weak to handle the pressures of the world.
Fuck I rambled. I just wanted to stop by and say it gets better. Do the work, you know what it is you have to do. Most likely it's sometjing your scared to do, but fantasize about the outcome. For me it's getting clean, healthy and becoming a great boxer amongst other little things I am also doing on the side. *edit*
Also worth noting: my words my very well do nothing for you. Sometimes, nah, MOST of the time it takes hitting rock bottem before you start to move. For me it was realizing I was set to be a loser, to squander any potential I had and to become an embarrassment to myself and my family if I didn't get my shit together. Dark times man...
Edited by Mquire (09/27/15 12:54 AM)
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