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Dionili
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Stressed the fuck out. Advice?
#22285414 - 09/24/15 06:36 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Blah.....
For a while i went though a really rough time. parents dying, family, dying. jail, probation ,homelessness, And FINALLY! i'm off probo, doing decent, having big plans in life and actually progessing towards then BAM! some jackass landlord pulled out on the deal at the last minuet leaving me with just a week to find a new place, be accepted, and aquire 2500$ more then i had to previously.
I'm at a brick wall, I dont know what the fuck to do and i have no one i can ask for help.
Shit. /dab.
Fuck. So what do i do? about 1000$ in my pocket and 500$ coming i'm only half way to my move point..
Considering selling my sound studio. Fuck no. Worked to hard to earn that. besides....whats a sound producer with no sounds?
Not getting rid of my grow gear ever...last bits that my father gave me before his passing....
I could probably sell my motorcycle...that i have been working on for 4 months....
I could probably sell my car...screwing my girlfriend out of a way to work cause she cant ride a motorcycle just yet....not to forget how lovely it is to ride a bike in the rain.
Maybe i'm just venting here...i think.
Too much responsibility...people never realise how much stress the things they love will cost them. I love my dogs, i love my girls, i love my crafts things i just wont let go...
I spoke to a real estate agent earlier that told me she wants to help. Said shes gonna keep them from snooping my background too much (blah, charges. withheld adjudication for a felony)
I just gotta figure out how to come up with the cash....how in the fuck....
Stress :stressed:
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WhyDidiDoThis
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Re: Stressed the fuck out. Advice? [Re: Dionili]
#22285443 - 09/24/15 06:40 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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How much jail time did you do? What kept you sane through it? Im looking at possible jail time for some bullshit charges. Im out on bail and its hard to keep my head level. Im stuck in washington and should be home in California, where i dont have a home, but at least its better than here.
Im losing it. Man, this aint no fun.
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Dionili
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TORCUTT said: How much jail time did you do? What kept you sane through it? Im looking at possible jail time for some bullshit charges. Im out on bail and its hard to keep my head level. Im stuck in washington and should be home in California, where i dont have a home, but at least its better than here.
Im losing it. Man, this aint no fun.
You want real advice or some comforting bullshit?
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WhyDidiDoThis
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Re: Stressed the fuck out. Advice? [Re: Dionili] 2
#22285472 - 09/24/15 06:44 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Both i guess /: I literally contemplate suicide rather than going to jail. So anything helps.
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Re: Stressed the fuck out. Advice? [Re: Dionili] 3
#22285494 - 09/24/15 06:47 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Sell your motorcycle man 
You don't seem to be very hardened for someone that's been through the thick of it... Sure the situation sucks but when you've got to come up with money you make it happen, don't just mope because you don't want to get rid of your bike.
The situation sucks, sure. But it's not the end of the world. Just my .02
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Dionili
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Re: Stressed the fuck out. Advice? [Re: WhyDidiDoThis] 1
#22285532 - 09/24/15 06:52 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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TORCUTT said: Both i guess /: I literally contemplate suicide rather than going to jail. So anything helps.
Dont be a bitch its only some years... you get used to it after 3 months.
Read, Books. lots of them. Keep to your self no matter how big and bad you are, DONT do what everyone says and pick a fight with the biggest and baddest, that jackass has 15 of his buddies waiting on idiot like you to try and prove their worth. truth is, they are infact much more afriad of the introvert that shuts the fuck up and keeps to him self.
You have people on the outside? forget em for the most part. I got lucky. my girl actually waited and paid all my fees the day i came up for early term. most people wont be that lucky. dont expect them to write, but they might.
Again, Books, Get lots, boxes upon boxes. Read all the time you get if your not working out too (bad idea, you really should stay in shape)
dont be social. its pointless. most friendships in jail are made out of necessity. you have no need. dont fall into that.
Learn to block things out, stay busy. Read books.
Advice for while you out: Good lawyers give peice of mind. sell all your shit and get one, cool shit is useless when your in jail.
see friends, famillys, make visitation plans (i only ever had my GF come see me ) stay as close as you can. if you impact their lives enough they may still be there for you when you get out.
Enjoy what little time you have left outside. it goes quick. really quick.
No tears. NONE!
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Re: Stressed the fuck out. Advice? [Re: ModestMouse]
#22285546 - 09/24/15 06:54 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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ModestMouse said: Sell your motorcycle man 
You don't seem to be very hardened for someone that's been through the thick of it... Sure the situation sucks but when you've got to come up with money you make it happen, don't just mope because you don't want to get rid of your bike.
The situation sucks, sure. But it's not the end of the world. Just my .02
Mouse is right. Don't sell the stuff you feel has sentimental value to you and just sell the fucking bike.
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WhyDidiDoThis
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Goddamn. My life is wind and sunshine. Love books but the damn county gaurds are crooks themselves. Underfed and everyone uses the damn books as pillows. I hated not having windows. Being able to run. Good call on the socialability aspect. I went in with my street knowledge and i was easily and readily able to read people and their glass foreheads.
It sucks to see a handful of innocents in there. I swear though, years? Im not that kinda person. You're good. Ima be hoppin borders ready to eat some cyanide if that happens. Real.
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I would count my blessings and do w/e it takes to keep what is most precious to you, a studio can be rebuilt, there will be more bikes, you need to realize what you can't lose and what you can't live without,Do whatever it takes to get yourself stable. When you leave this world you won't take any material things with you remember that. When you feel life getting to you just stop and focus on your breathing, take a moment to meditate, after you calmed yourself through meditation then think logically and realistically what needs to be done. You can look for advice in every corner but only you can figure out what must be done for your life.
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Dionili
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Re: Stressed the fuck out. Advice? [Re: ModestMouse]
#22286149 - 09/24/15 09:19 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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ModestMouse said: Sell your motorcycle man 
You don't seem to be very hardened for someone that's been through the thick of it... Sure the situation sucks but when you've got to come up with money you make it happen, don't just mope because you don't want to get rid of your bike.
The situation sucks, sure. But it's not the end of the world. Just my .02
Not that simple. if you had any idea of the plethora of other shit i'm dealing with you'd understand.
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Dionili
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Re: Stressed the fuck out. Advice? [Re: ShroomBound]
#22286154 - 09/24/15 09:20 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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ShroomBound said: I would count my blessings and do w/e it takes to keep what is most precious to you, a studio can be rebuilt, there will be more bikes, you need to realize what you can't lose and what you can't live without,Do whatever it takes to get yourself stable. When you leave this world you won't take any material things with you remember that. When you feel life getting to you just stop and focus on your breathing, take a moment to meditate, after you calmed yourself through meditation then think logically and realistically what needs to be done. You can look for advice in every corner but only you can figure out what must be done for your life.
That bike is sentimental...i dont own junk. to sell my equipment is like quiting my job with out it i am broke.
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Re: Stressed the fuck out. Advice? [Re: Dionili]
#22286263 - 09/24/15 09:55 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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God i hope i never go to jail for an extended period of time. Especially over drugs.
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Re: Stressed the fuck out. Advice? [Re: xbloodwhipx]
#22286573 - 09/24/15 11:19 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Op I would get rid of thigs that do not hold a sentimental attachment. I am sorry you lost your parents and all this bad shit is happening. I really hope things work out for you bro.
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Re: Stressed the fuck out. Advice? [Re: Dionili]
#22286601 - 09/24/15 11:30 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Long time no see man.
I always admired your mycology skills.
As far as the finances i cant give any solid advice in that department but for stress i know one thing that has always helped me...
Work out. Push ups jogging, whatever. It doesnt have to be anything crazy intense and it will do wonders for your mental state.
I know it can be tempting to just be lazy( not saying you are but I AM) but the hardest part is just starting that first set or mile etc...
once its started youll feel good and by the time you finish you feel GREAT.
I know its common advice and nothing earth shattering but thats my two cents. Also drink alot of water.
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Dionili
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Re: Stressed the fuck out. Advice? [Re: Apostle]
#22291946 - 09/26/15 06:20 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I have it figured out. and sorry for not posting sooner. damn comcast took 2 days to turn my internet back on.
my best friends father agreed to lend me a third of what i needed. i have a third on me and another third coming in a few days.
Should be all right.
But i will keep you guys updated. hopefully with pictures of my new cultivation room.Quote:
Apostle said: Long time no see man.
I always admired your mycology skills.
As far as the finances i cant give any solid advice in that department but for stress i know one thing that has always helped me...
Work out. Push ups jogging, whatever. It doesnt have to be anything crazy intense and it will do wonders for your mental state.
I know it can be tempting to just be lazy( not saying you are but I AM) but the hardest part is just starting that first set or mile etc...
once its started youll feel good and by the time you finish you feel GREAT.
I know its common advice and nothing earth shattering but thats my two cents. Also drink alot of water.
Damn brotha, how ya doing?
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Re: Stressed the fuck out. Advice? [Re: Dionili]
#22292548 - 09/26/15 09:55 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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You want some real advice?
Well, first off all stop with all drugs. I mean it, so you can mentally balance yourself back to normal. It's true that drugs don't work to make you feel good when you have nothing but shit in your life. Do drugs when you're feeling good and confident in life. The second start solliciting for jobs. Any jobs, take what job you can get. Don't feel to proud to scrub toilets,...
You'll learn eventually how to coop with money. And responsibilty's are part of becoming an adult, you can't hide from it. You need a job, you need a roof over your head, you need to pay all your bills,...,etc.
I have been through some very rough times myself, jail, asylum because I tried to kill myself several times. Just take up your responsibilty's and everything in your life will fall into its place.
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Re: Stressed the fuck out. Advice? [Re: Dionili]
#22295162 - 09/26/15 07:05 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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you will make it. did you ever kcik the H?
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