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Anonymous #1
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#22285063 - 09/24/15 05:39 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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whos done it who is doing it? i know so many girls who just lust for a quick fuck its crazy but then again ... ur in a relationship shit,,,, ur thoughts ?
Edited by Anonymous (09/27/15 12:03 PM)
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Anonymous #2
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Re: fucking outside of relationships - aka infidelity [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22285939 - 09/24/15 08:22 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I've never really been tempted myself, honestly. When I'm not in a relationship, I'm all over the place if the situation allows, but I'm usually just not interested when I know I have someone I can Netflix and chill with AND "Netflix and chill" with.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: fucking outside of relationships - aka infidelity [Re: Anonymous #2]
#22285952 - 09/24/15 08:26 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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never did. although i did fuck some other girls while we were still fucking after we broke up and I didn't tell her about them. She would have been pissed if I had told her. If I told her now she wouldn't care. But we don't talk so.
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Anonymous #4
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Re: fucking outside of relationships - aka infidelity [Re: Anonymous #3]
#22285965 - 09/24/15 08:28 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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#2,, I heard that netflix and chill term on the doctors today.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: fucking outside of relationships - aka infidelity [Re: Anonymous #4]
#22285978 - 09/24/15 08:32 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous #1
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Re: fucking outside of relationships - aka infidelity [Re: Anonymous #2]
#22287041 - 09/25/15 03:47 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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hmmm seems like one pussy cant do it in the long term
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Anonymous #5
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Re: fucking outside of relationships - aka infidelity [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22287096 - 09/25/15 04:42 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I have done it, a few times, and in hindsight it was stupid.
To be fair, the first time wasn't so black and white. I was interested in this girl and she seemed interested in me, but we weren't formally dating or anything, and she was playing women games, like talking about other dudes to me. So when some other chick came along who made it clear what she wanted, I went for it. Although it was a spectacular disaster. The first chick was obviously very hurt by my actions and she only made it clear afterwards that she did want a real relationship, and the second chick really just used me to make her boyfriend jealous so he'd get back together with her. 
Shoulda learned my lesson there, but I didn't. I've cheated on my wife twice. First time we weren't actually together yet, she was moving back to the state and we decided to get back together (we had been engaged for 11 months a couple years prior, ended up breaking it off cuz all we did anymore was fight) but I got supremely fucked up and some chick wanted to have her way with me and I just went along with it. I regretted it the second I sobered up. The next time was during a period when we were getting ready to split up. I had been talking to this chick and getting flirty, and wife ended up finding the IM history on my computer and read it. We basically split up that night and I started fucking around with the other chick.
We got back together though and the thought of cheating never really enters my mind anymore (it had always been there beforehand). I'm lucky to have her back and I'm not going to do anything to jeopardize losing her. It's just really not worth it IMO.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: fucking outside of relationships - aka infidelity [Re: Anonymous #5]
#22287100 - 09/25/15 04:45 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #5 said: I have done it, a few times, and in hindsight it was stupid.
To be fair, the first time wasn't so black and white. I was interested in this girl and she seemed interested in me, but we weren't formally dating or anything, and she was playing women games, like talking about other dudes to me. So when some other chick came along who made it clear what she wanted, I went for it. Although it was a spectacular disaster. The first chick was obviously very hurt by my actions and she only made it clear afterwards that she did want a real relationship, and the second chick really just used me to make her boyfriend jealous so he'd get back together with her. 
Shoulda learned my lesson there, but I didn't. I've cheated on my wife twice. First time we weren't actually together yet, she was moving back to the state and we decided to get back together (we had been engaged for 11 months a couple years prior, ended up breaking it off cuz all we did anymore was fight) but I got supremely fucked up and some chick wanted to have her way with me and I just went along with it. I regretted it the second I sobered up. The next time was during a period when we were getting ready to split up. I had been talking to this chick and getting flirty, and wife ended up finding the IM history on my computer and read it. We basically split up that night and I started fucking around with the other chick.
We got back together though and the thought of cheating never really enters my mind anymore (it had always been there beforehand). I'm lucky to have her back and I'm not going to do anything to jeopardize losing her. It's just really not worth it IMO.
damn bro you really made your point, it is never worth it but i guess its part of being a man ???
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Anonymous #5
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Re: fucking outside of relationships - aka infidelity [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22287110 - 09/25/15 04:51 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I think a lot of it has to do with age/wisdom. Every single time I cheated, I was young, dumb and full of cum. The last incident was I dunno how many years ago now. Sex is great and all, but after a certain point you stop fixating on it like you do when you're 18. Then the choice of to cheat or not gets a lot easier. I'd wager if you're cheating when you're 30 or 40, it's probably a sign you're not really happy with the relationship you're in, where as doing it when you're 18 or 20 or something is just the fact that sex is everything to you in that point in your life.
If you really wanna test this theory out and see how wanting to get off makes you do ridiculously stupid things, the next time you have a great idea like going to a hooker or cheating on your current gf/wife, go beat off and then see if you still think it's a good idea That shit works. Actually just do it anytime you have a really stupid idea. You'd be surprised how an accumulation of nut makes us so stupid. I bet Einstein beat off for 10 hours a day.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: fucking outside of relationships - aka infidelity [Re: Anonymous #5]
#22287210 - 09/25/15 06:06 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #5 said: I think a lot of it has to do with age/wisdom. Every single time I cheated, I was young, dumb and full of cum. The last incident was I dunno how many years ago now. Sex is great and all, but after a certain point you stop fixating on it like you do when you're 18. Then the choice of to cheat or not gets a lot easier. I'd wager if you're cheating when you're 30 or 40, it's probably a sign you're not really happy with the relationship you're in, where as doing it when you're 18 or 20 or something is just the fact that sex is everything to you in that point in your life.
If you really wanna test this theory out and see how wanting to get off makes you do ridiculously stupid things, the next time you have a great idea like going to a hooker or cheating on your current gf/wife, go beat off and then see if you still think it's a good idea That shit works. Actually just do it anytime you have a really stupid idea. You'd be surprised how an accumulation of nut makes us so stupid. I bet Einstein beat off for 10 hours a day.
i like your train of thought!
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Anonymous #6
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Re: fucking outside of relationships - aka infidelity [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22297268 - 09/27/15 07:47 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I think it's a contextual thing. First girl I cheated on was because I knew I wasn't going anywhere with her, and she was a fiery bitch so it was a (few) drunken 'fuck it, I'm not marrying her' moments. The second girl I cheated on was a case of the grass appearing greener on the other side, and an attempt of justifying it with the 'not marrying her' excuse again. In hindsight, it was stupid, and I broke the heart of a woman who would have captured the stars for me if I'd asked her so.
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Anonymous #7
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Re: fucking outside of relationships - aka infidelity [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22297271 - 09/27/15 07:50 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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if I dont live with a man and there is no ring on my finger its not serious and I will do as i please.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: fucking outside of relationships - aka infidelity [Re: Anonymous #7]
#22297637 - 09/27/15 09:53 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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For me, it's important to set the expectations of the relationship. I'm pretty easy breezy either way. I was in one relationship with a guy that was very open; he had a main girlfriend that he lived with and I believe was engaged with, but both of them dated outside of the relationship. I guess we were fuck buddies that shared feelings and went on dates. On the flip side, the last guy I dated was also pretty flexible but preferred a monogamous relationship. I was cool with that too, so that's what we did.
So I guess for me, it's not necessarily the 'sleeping with other people' part of infidelity that I really mind at all; that's actually pretty cool because there are a lot of people I'd like to sleep with too, given the opportunity. It's all in betraying the boundaries you set at the beginning. Which, I suppose, is almost the definition of the word 'infidelity.' I guess it's not like it's a decision you make before you get into a relationship. "This will be great, but in a year and a half I think I'll get bored and sleep with someone else."
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