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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: akira_akuma]
    #22283256 - 09/24/15 11:01 AM (8 years, 4 months ago)

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I don't have that. To be fair, I'm not really concerned with sex as much as I was when I was younger. Sex still happens, it's just not as important to me as it used to be. These days all I really care about is being near her. I don't want to be apart from her. When I had to go out of state to work for a week, it sucked. I just wanted to be back home with her.

At this point I feel so joined to her, that we might as well be one person. The connection/bond is so deep that I cannot live without her.


true love is rare, so i'm happy for you dawg.



true that man. i hope you guys live a long happy life :heart: its hard to find a relationship like that these days


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Envix]
    #22283275 - 09/24/15 11:07 AM (8 years, 4 months ago)

Relationships are always kinda iffy. You can't really pin it down one certain reason it failed. Statistically speaking, they just don't generally last long. Not only do both parties have to understand and accept each other, but they also have to grow a bond. Odds are always against you.

I got lucky I guess. I found the one person willing to stick by me even through all my bullshit. When most people would have ran screaming, she was there telling me it was okay. :shrug: Maybe there really is always someone out there meant for you. I honestly cannot picture anyone else staying married to me. I've had at least a few GFs say "you can tell me anything and I won't judge you".. And they all did. She's the only one who never has.

Pretty much accepted me for who I am. There were rough patches in the first couple of years, but for the most part, she's never tried to change me. I can be exactly who I want/am meant to be. I don't have to pretend to be something I'm not, and I don't have to worry she's going to walk away from me for doing it.


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I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear.


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
    #22283290 - 09/24/15 11:10 AM (8 years, 4 months ago)

NO relationship is ever perfect. No matter how good it may look from the outside looking in.
There is always going to be trials and tribulations or struggles or fights in even the "best" of relationships. It always takes work.
The difference lies in couples being able to put up with each other for who they are and work through and overcome the challenges while having mutual respect.
Even if you love someone to the deepest depths that doesn't mean you are going to be compatible forever, the shit takes work to keep the fire alive. A bit of give and take.


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Shroomism]
    #22283329 - 09/24/15 11:18 AM (8 years, 4 months ago)

if there is such a thing as unconditional love, it should only be there and exist for you to love yourself.

you absolutely can NOT rely on other people to unconditionally love you. you can love yourself and you can even choose to love others unconditionally. but the moment you start expecting it back from others is the moment you will start to lose sight of yourself

it's a dangerous game and it can cause real psychological barriers


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Envix]
    #22283350 - 09/24/15 11:23 AM (8 years, 4 months ago)

I don't really agree with that. My wife knows all my dirty secrets and believe me, they are bad. She's never paused or questioned any of it. No matter what fucked up thing I tell her or what fucked up thing I do, she loves me. I'd say it's as close to unconditional love as anyone is ever going to get (including the unconditional love you give someone else). It's safe for me to expect it. If there were anything I could to make her leave me, she'd of been gone long ago.


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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way.
I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today.
Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear.
I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear.


You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being
With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Shroomslip]
    #22283366 - 09/24/15 11:25 AM (8 years, 4 months ago)

:crazy: congrats brother! I'm really hoping I can find that kind of understanding in a women I care about. Until then I'm working on myself!


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Shroomslip]
    #22283378 - 09/24/15 11:27 AM (8 years, 4 months ago)

i didn't catch how long you said you've been keeping it going if you mentioned it but if it's still like that after +10 years or whatever then kudos to you & her :thumbup:


my point still remains


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Envix]
    #22283391 - 09/24/15 11:31 AM (8 years, 4 months ago)

Been too long and I started losing track (husbands suck with anniversaries :lol:) But I think we're coming up on year 12 in January.


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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way.
I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today.
Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear.
I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear.


You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being
With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Severo Blizzard]
    #22283690 - 09/24/15 12:35 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

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sex is very important to me because no matter what we're arguing about, after sex, it all goes away and we can find a solution.

the drive is not same anymore though, that's why I think my relationship will fail in the future one way or the other.

but sex is very important to me.



you mean dopamine is very important to you.

yeah if i'm having an argument and i smoke a joint, same effect.


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: akira_akuma]
    #22283782 - 09/24/15 12:53 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

No man, not dopamine. Sex, making love, making your woman feel desired, and wanted, and hot.

it's not the same as smoking a joint because smoking a joint don't solve anything, but after you make your woman cum (at least for me) I know that we can work through any problem.


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Severo Blizzard] * 2
    #22283786 - 09/24/15 12:54 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

and what does cumming do? release dopamine. i was making a point, it's ok, you don't have to agree with me.

my point is everything is solved when there is enough Dopamine involved.


shit, that rhymed.


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: akira_akuma]
    #22283833 - 09/24/15 01:02 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

i believe you man. it's just that for me sex is very important (as opposed to some of my friends). You're right, making her cum releases dopamine in her brain. for me, more so than the pleasure i feel, it gives me a sense of security that she won't fuck someone else.

i know i may be wrong for thinking that, but everybody needs some ya know? i feel like the least i can do in my relationship is make my woman cum.


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Severo Blizzard]
    #22283865 - 09/24/15 01:08 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

sure, i guess that makes sense.  :woah:


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: akira_akuma]
    #22283883 - 09/24/15 01:11 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

it's getting harder and harder though, cuz the longer we stay together, the more i can see sex becoming a chore rather than something we both crave like when we were younger.

i still want to fuck other women, and that's a problem.


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Severo Blizzard]
    #22283894 - 09/24/15 01:13 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

an above average release in vasopressin has been linked to infidelity. do you smoke? look for ways to avoid distractions.


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: OhMrJohnson]
    #22283902 - 09/24/15 01:15 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

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people make everything either about sex or about love; but yet in this world you can't have it both ways.



Wrong.

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Envix said:
All relationships are a form of attachment which is totally unhealthy to your sense of self worth in the long run.

If you cant be happy alone its impossible to be truly happy with anyone else






That's a pretty broad assumption. As if everyone happy in a relationship has never been alone. :lol:

In fact, your response is going two places at once. That means you're being subconsciously defensive.

You say you need to know how to be happy alone, you need to know how broad of a generalization you are making to learn anything.


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: akira_akuma] * 1
    #22283908 - 09/24/15 01:16 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

fuck yea, science!


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: akira_akuma]
    #22283912 - 09/24/15 01:17 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

i smoke pot only, no tobacco.

i don't seek cheating as much as i used to during my past relationships (because i really value my current relationship in my own terms), but sometimes i can't resist when a beautiful woman shows me signs of interest, and then i lose sight, and the seduction starts until it leads to cheating and then i feel like utter shit because my acts are not in tune with my conscience


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: larry.fisherman]
    #22283917 - 09/24/15 01:18 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

it's like damn if you're single and damn if you're not. neither status keeps me ever satisfied but there is beauty in both being single and in a relationship as well as pain in both sometimes


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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: larry.fisherman]
    #22283919 - 09/24/15 01:18 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

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XLCaps said:
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OhMrJohnson said:
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Envix said:
All relationships are a form of attachment which is totally unhealthy to your sense of self worth in the long run.

If you cant be happy alone its impossible to be truly happy with anyone else






That's a pretty broad assumption. As if everyone happy in a relationship has never been alone. :lol:

In fact, your response is going two places at once. That means you're being subconsciously defensive.

You say you need to know how to be happy alone, you need to know how broad of a generalization you are making to learn anything.




wait, what? i don't understand which part you're saying is wrong. I know the first part i said is a bit broad and controversial but i'm pretty sure the second part is pretty true and can relate to all cases about anything


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