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some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship
#22283059 - 09/24/15 10:17 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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like a few of my friends have been dating 8-9 years and they still look at each other like its the first day they've met and have just fallen in love. i cant even keep that alive for a year those of you who have been in a really long term relationship how do you guys keep things fresh without getting tired of each other?
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22283116 - 09/24/15 10:28 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Here's a good article on relationships:
Is it Love or Projecting?
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Sham87]
#22283142 - 09/24/15 10:34 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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don't fall in pattern traps stay creative never give up learn to love everything even the flaws compromise always be honest that's the main points to focus its all about sacrifices
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Rebelutionsssss] 2
#22283166 - 09/24/15 10:39 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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We don't. Been married over 10 years. I'm there for her and she's there for me. Neither of us act like we just started dating, nor would I expect either of us to. We both give each other a sense of stability we'd never experience otherwise. I prefer things the way they are now, back in the early years, there was a lot of fighting and wondering if we were really even going to be able to coexist.
I know plenty of people, tv shows and movies act like once you stop being the new couple, that the marriage is over, but it's really not. It's a transcendence to a new state that is arguably better than the previous state. When you're together and sex and self gratification aren't the front running qualifier, the relationship grows intensely. The bond becomes MUCH stronger. You're not with that person because you need your dick wet or need to get off, you're with them because you truly understand love. Lust is sex, love is something entirely different.
This is just IMO though.
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22283177 - 09/24/15 10:43 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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i bet in private it is much more real. many people will not let anything slip in public. as for making it last, it either does or doesn't, many people are forcing a relationship that should have died years ago because they don't like being alone or are financially tied.
im a bitter bitch when it comes to love though
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akira_akuma
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: ReposadoXochipilli]
#22283179 - 09/24/15 10:45 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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trust me OP, they're just as regretful as anybody.
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Rebelutionsssss]
#22283181 - 09/24/15 10:45 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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been with my girl for 4 years man, and also as shroomslip said we fought the most during the first couple of years of our relationship.
I love her dearly man, but the feeling of wanting to have sex with other women hasn't gone away, so it's a constant struggle for me to want to remain faithful.
that's why I think we're gonna end up breaking up at some point anyway, but I love her dearly.
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akira_akuma
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Severo Blizzard]
#22283184 - 09/24/15 10:46 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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people's resistance to being human is shocking.
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: akira_akuma]
#22283187 - 09/24/15 10:47 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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what do you mean
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: akira_akuma]
#22283193 - 09/24/15 10:48 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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ive found that most relationships die in the 2-4 year range.
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akira_akuma
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Severo Blizzard]
#22283198 - 09/24/15 10:49 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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people make everything either about sex or about love; but yet in this world you can't have it both ways.
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: akira_akuma]
#22283209 - 09/24/15 10:52 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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All relationships are a form of attachment which is totally unhealthy to your sense of self worth in the long run.
If you cant be happy alone its impossible to be truly happy with anyone else
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Envix]
#22283215 - 09/24/15 10:53 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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what a pain in the dick, really.
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Severo Blizzard]
#22283219 - 09/24/15 10:53 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I don't have that. To be fair, I'm not really concerned with sex as much as I was when I was younger. Sex still happens, it's just not as important to me as it used to be. These days all I really care about is being near her. I don't want to be apart from her. When I had to go out of state to work for a week, it sucked. I just wanted to be back home with her.
At this point I feel so joined to her, that we might as well be one person. The connection/bond is so deep that I cannot live without her.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: akira_akuma]
#22283220 - 09/24/15 10:54 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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i never really understood an open relationship were you can fuck whoever you want until my relationship with someone who i was head over heels for died. the following relationship romantically fizzled after about a year and yea... open relationships make a lot more sense now.
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Shroomslip] 1
#22283230 - 09/24/15 10:55 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Shroomslip said: I don't have that. To be fair, I'm not really concerned with sex as much as I was when I was younger. Sex still happens, it's just not as important to me as it used to be. These days all I really care about is being near her. I don't want to be apart from her. When I had to go out of state to work for a week, it sucked. I just wanted to be back home with her.
At this point I feel so joined to her, that we might as well be one person. The connection/bond is so deep that I cannot live without her.
true love is rare, so i'm happy for you dawg.
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: akira_akuma]
#22283240 - 09/24/15 10:58 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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i never was concerned much about sex and i think thats why my previous relationships failed
also shroomslip what you just described is called anxious attachment
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Envix]
#22283247 - 09/24/15 11:00 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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puppy love.
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Envix]
#22283252 - 09/24/15 11:01 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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sex is very important to me because no matter what we're arguing about, after sex, it all goes away and we can find a solution.
the drive is not same anymore though, that's why I think my relationship will fail in the future one way or the other.
but sex is very important to me.
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Re: some people just have what seems like the most perfect relationship [Re: Envix]
#22283253 - 09/24/15 11:01 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Envix said: All relationships are a form of attachment which is totally unhealthy to your sense of self worth in the long run.
If you cant be happy alone its impossible to be truly happy with anyone else
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Diminish the sub-principle and leave its toxic trace.. Once and for all!
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