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Anonymous #1
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Sorry for your loss, card
#22282168 - 09/24/15 05:14 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Recently my boss's nan died. My mother proposed that i buy a card for my boss and have everyone at work sign it.
I tend to be a little closed off emotionally, so perhaps i'm just weird, but i don't feel it's needed. If my boss were a friend then yeah i'd be all for being there to support my friend, but she's not, she's my work associate. If it were me in the same situation, i would feel a little awkward if my associates were to do that for me. I would just not want people to me or talk about it.
What do you all think about this card?
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Anonymous #2
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I tend to stay out of that shit. If it's someone I know and it's brought up I'll say something quick and personal. I'm not really about a big office display, it's not my nature.
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Anonymous #3
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Depends on the person.
When my brother died, my mother died and my grandmother died, I didn't want to hear all the stupid "I'm sorry for your loss" shit. Definitely wouldn't have wanted a card. Just leave me in peace and let me process this shit on my own FFS. It's bad enough when in the early stages you can't stop constantly thinking about it, but a couple weeks in you finally start to forget about it for short periods only to have some asshat run in and remind you of all your pain. It's not comforting, it's not helpful, you're really not obligated to acknowledge it, so stop doing it.
That's just me though. Everyone is not me.
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Anonymous #4
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Agreed, when my mom died, the absolute worst part was having all of these people with whom I didn't have anything resembling a close relationship offering me their condolences. All it did was serve as a reminder.
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Anonymous #1
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Thanks for the help everyone. It seems everyone's pretty well in agreement here, so I'm not going to buy her the card.
Thanks again.
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Anonymous #5
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Depends on the work environment.
I'm the "boss" of seven people. I try to foster a sense of involvement and some closeness. Once a year I host them to a holiday lunch/dinner and try to get people together outside of work socially when possible.
I don't see signing a card as a tremendous emotional burden. I'd do it and appreciate it being done for me.
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Anonymous #6
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Keep in mind, there are alot of males and socially ackward people on the shroomery. Sounds like your boss is female and may appreciate it more, however, your the one who knows her so you'll have to make that judgement call.
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Anonymous #4
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But, don't assume that just because she's a female that she enjoys emotional interaction with people outside her inner circle. It's possible she does, of course, but speaking as a female, that shit always comes off as disingenuous to me.
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Anonymous #6
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Im not assuming anything, thats why I said OP knows her, not me, so they have to make that judgement call. But I feel that females in general appreciate it more then males, and there is alot of masculine energy on the shroomery so take what is said here as a grain of salt.
Not doing it is probably the safest bet, but it might be something that is totally appreciated and earns you major brownie points at work.
Just my $.02
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