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littlechief
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It's 'us' or the weed?
#22281602 - 09/23/15 10:49 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Wasn't exactly sure where to post this one.. But im really wondering about other people's opinions on this? Have you had a similar experience or been on the opposite side of this dilemma?
So here goes: I know everyone out there will say 'You can't be addicted to weed'. BUT... My boyfriend literally has so many bucket bongs from morning 'til night. Now don't get me wrong here, even though I don't smoke pot (it doesn't work with my brain) I'm all for people smoking it. Legalize it. grow it. Make cookies All that jazz. But I feel that there's a difference between using it recreationaly and being heavily reliant/addicted to it. This guy (the love of my life!!) Honestly wakes up, has 2 buckets... goes to work, has a few js at work, comes home and has countless bucket bongs before bed.
It's really impacting our relationship. We live apart and both work full time, so when we do spend time together, I'd rather that he could hold a coherent conversation. Instead it's kind of like talking to a retarded brick wall. I've asked him not to get high around me so much. He tried for a week or so and it was really really refreshing! But now he's just gone back to his old ways.
Anyway, so My lease expires in 2 months and we were planning for me to move in with him. Yay, the next stage in our relationship! But, if I move in with him while he's like this, then isn't that a sign that I'm all cool with it?
Should I give him an ultimatum... or is that too controlling? I don't know. I only know that I will be really sad & resentful if he doesn't change and we live together.
Anywho, thanks for any help or stories of similar situations you've had. I'm really unsure of how to handle this one.
Side note: He also drinks nearly as much as he smokes. And I am actually worried about his health. Is it my place to worry?
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azur
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It doesn't have to be an ultimatum. Sounds like you guys have different outlooks and are going different places. Tell him how you feel, but don't try to change who he is. You know what to do.
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littlechief
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Re: It's 'us' or the weed? [Re: azur]
#22281808 - 09/24/15 12:01 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Thanks Azur, I think you're right that I shouldn't try to control him. It's just sad that our relationship could come to an end over this. We both kind of think of each other as 'the one'... to be cliche.
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azur
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Oh i totally understand. My girlfriend drank a lot when we first started dating. She's since dramatically slowed down. But i had to tell her that I wasn't going to be with someone that drank that much and that if she wanted to drink excessively, it was fine just not for me. It is sad to think someone may choose a high over you. But such is life and in the end you need to look out for yourself because no one else will.
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