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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22315199 - 09/30/15 04:57 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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YESSS! All you other guys who have been laid fewer times than most eggs I know take note. This guy took action and is about to get some. 
From my understanding of the female mind, "busy this weekend" but took your number means she's thinking you might be someone she'd date, but she's unwilling to commit to an actual date until she gets to know you better. This is good, because she's probably not nuts if she's taking it slow. The sex won't be as good if she's not insane, but the relationship overall will be better.
I think you need to go to lunch with her and get to know her / let her get to know you so she can decide to do an actual weekend date. Maybe coffee or something... or, something with a definite end time so she knows that if it doesn't work for her it'll only be awkward for a while. Like say, "hey, I have a class I gotta be at by 2 today, but if you don't mind me being rude and leaving right at 1:30, I'll buy lunch if you wanna eat and hang out for an hour on Tuesday."
That's low pressure for her, and she can determine that you're not a murderer who wants to roofie her and stuff parts of her body in mailboxes all across the tri-state area.
From here man it's all you. If you really want to make a good impression I'd think about what makes you, You, and think about how to talk about that in an interesting way. Like I print t-shirts. I can tell a chick all the details about how to select the proper screen mesh to run a process color job on dark shirts but that's boring as fuck. Telling her about the time I did shirts for Rikishi and he took me out to BW3 after he did an exhibition match is more interesting. So think about how to talk about you without it being boring.
Then, don't talk about you until she asks, and as a general rule: when you think you've said enough, you have talked for 2 minutes too long. Give her a little info, wait to see if she asks questions. If not, you said enough. If she does, then you're on an interesting subject for her.
Spend most of the time getting her to talk about herself and listen for cues about what kinds of things are important to her.
Above all man just try not to overthink it. The hard part is over, you've gotten to talk with her and even given her your number. Now all you have to do is see if you two like each other. If not, no big deal - because the next time you do this it'll be easier.
DAMN MAN YOU MADE MY DAY. You just... went and did it. If you weren't anon I'd +5 ya.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Srirachi]
#22315269 - 09/30/15 05:15 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Maybe without the leather jacket, if u did all of that and acted silly enough you probably actually would pull some cuties.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: empty space]
#22317198 - 10/01/15 01:52 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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I wear shit like that minus the sun glasses and the ghetto blaster. Have this super fly long board though. I get approached and across the room smiles and stares from most girls but I dress in multiple ways. I also attract the intelligent girls or at the very least who find that attractive when I speak up.
Physically I'm probably just above average or so. I just am very passionate about things. More often than not I don't go after them though. For the most part I have a problem with unintelligent, unattractive girls.
And I have a pretty interesting spectrum on what attractive is. They just need to have their passions be powerful and be like a 5 and don't be so judgemental about how I go from snapbacks to bandanas.
I'll tell you OP, know what kind of girl you're going for. If she's interested enough she will even come after you. There's this one in literally every one of my classes that I find fucking titillating and I catch her staring at me in most classes. I'll find a way to fuck up, don't worry
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Atrium]
#22317292 - 10/01/15 02:45 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Awesome OP, well done.
One little tip though: next time take her number instead of giving her yours.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Srirachi]
#22321333 - 10/01/15 09:34 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Talk to her, Atrium. Don't make me go Shia on you.
Goldeneye: I did ask for hers and she said okay but gave me her phone and I didn't want to be pushy about it since I'll keep seeing her
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Alright, I approached another girl and found out she has a boyfriend. She sits in a part of the class that I don't like to sit at because I have to keep my head turned to look at the instructor as well as it's the side of the room that the fluorescent lights are left on and the shit fucks up my eyes
but damn that athletic body though...
Like, 
What can I do?
Edited by Anonymous (10/01/15 09:36 PM)
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22321373 - 10/01/15 09:47 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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What i did in college was purposely forget a writing utencil. Sit next to the cutest girl who had a seat open next to her and ask if ahe had an extra one i can borrow. Girls generally do. Then from there id introduce myself and its all banter from there. Its a great ice breaker and gives you a reason to break it in the first place. Try it out.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22322292 - 10/02/15 06:19 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Get involved with some kind of social activities on campus. That way you can meet people and still pay attention to your professors.
Seriously, the #1 mistake most traditional age college students make is focusing too much on the social aspects of campus life and fucking off on the academic side of things. If you're not doing your absolute best in college, you're wasting enormous amounts of time and money. Take it from someone who took 11 years to finally nail down a degree: Don't fuck around! It's not worth it when you're 30 years old making less than people five years younger than you.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: sun_spots]
#22322619 - 10/02/15 08:38 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Goldeneye: I did ask for hers and she said okay but gave me her phone and I didn't want to be pushy about it since I'll keep seeing her.
Makes sense. But that is also when you dial your own number and let it ring a couple of times.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: sun_spots]
#22322637 - 10/02/15 08:46 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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sun_spots said: Get involved with some kind of social activities on campus. That way you can meet people and still pay attention to your professors.
Seriously, the #1 mistake most traditional age college students make is focusing too much on the social aspects of campus life and fucking off on the academic side of things. If you're not doing your absolute best in college, you're wasting enormous amounts of time and money. Take it from someone who took 11 years to finally nail down a degree: Don't fuck around! It's not worth it when you're 30 years old making less than people five years younger than you.
11 years? WTF? You better have a degree in fucking aerospace engineering or something similar
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
#22322839 - 10/02/15 09:54 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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That is a long ass time in college. I'm taking 5 to get a BS in Psychology though that's mostly from moving so much that I had to wait a year to get in state residency and financial aid.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Atrium]
#22322866 - 10/02/15 10:02 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Thats a long time to just end up delivering pizzas.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
#22323114 - 10/02/15 11:12 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Malcolm_Xtasy said: Thats a long time to just end up delivering pizzas.
Wow I actually agree with you.
Yeah every friend that I have who majored in psychology or philosophy now works a service job and is wondering what the fuck they are doing with their lives.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: empty space]
#22325386 - 10/02/15 07:27 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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I'm actually working on music with multiple producers around the country and use my knowledge from the classroom to go deeper into my music. It's very heavily influenced by Psychology/Philosophy/Religion/Spirituality. I'd understand nearly every other person's experience but remember some of us weren't meant to be you in the end anyways.
I don't know if you've done any time before but I will be going in for a bit, about 30 days. Nothing too rough, but it will be a huge setback when my college goes by quarters and so I'll basically fail 3 classes. I look at it this way though. Somebody in there needs my help, even if it's myself.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22325427 - 10/02/15 07:32 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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What are you gonna do about it? I'll smash that chick just for you now.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Enjoywho]
#22326577 - 10/03/15 12:42 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Enjoywho said: What i did in college was purposely forget a writing utencil. Sit next to the cutest girl who had a seat open next to her and ask if ahe had an extra one i can borrow. Girls generally do. Then from there id introduce myself and its all banter from there. Its a great ice breaker and gives you a reason to break it in the first place. Try it out.
Im going to quote myself here as it seems to have blown over theconversation. im tellin you op try it. What else do you have to lose you have to ask the internet how to be social. And damn it works good. Unless your a pussy and all and cant take the challenge.
Recently we were short on people in my department. I grabbed 2 people and trained them. One was this chill guy but he's a hard worker and knew he'd handle shit. The other was this really pretty girl. Now i had a reason to break the ice. When itold the my department boss why i chose her she said i know exactly what your doing. Laughing as were smoking on break. turns out she's dating the head bosses step son. Fuck. Ah well we're good homies now. I like talking to pretty girls who cares if we dont hook up can never have too many friends.
Pretty girls generally know other pretty girls.
Talk to them op grow a pair. Theyre not another species and there's a lot of chill as fuck people of both genders. Who cares just do it.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Enjoywho]
#22327452 - 10/03/15 10:04 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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But I did :P
I went up to her before the seats started filling in and asked some bullshit question then made small talk and asked if it was cool if I could sit by her (the fit chick)
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: empty space]
#22327464 - 10/03/15 10:07 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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empty space said:
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Malcolm_Xtasy said: Thats a long time to just end up delivering pizzas.
Wow I actually agree with you.
Yeah every friend that I have who majored in psychology or philosophy now works a service job and is wondering what the fuck they are doing with their lives.
Haha see man I'm not so bad
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Atrium]
#22327496 - 10/03/15 10:15 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Atrium said: I'm actually working on music with multiple producers around the country and use my knowledge from the classroom to go deeper into my music. It's very heavily influenced by Psychology/Philosophy/Religion/Spirituality. I'd understand nearly every other person's experience but remember some of us weren't meant to be you in the end anyways.
I don't know if you've done any time before but I will be going in for a bit, about 30 days. Nothing too rough, but it will be a huge setback when my college goes by quarters and so I'll basically fail 3 classes. I look at it this way though. Somebody in there needs my help, even if it's myself.
Something tells me in 5 years you'll be broke and homeless, wishing you'd gotten a better degree. Could be totally wrong though. Why are you wasting time and money in college when you're so successful in music?
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
#22327987 - 10/03/15 12:30 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Hmm well this may not apply to atrium but I am a well connected musician and I'm going back to school. Why? I got a grant. I'm going to get paid to go to school and although it does take time, its a lot less time than I was spending working with people that I don't want to work with on jobs that I don't want to work. Almost all of my friends who are incredibly successful made a fuck ton of music when the gov/their parents were paying for their rent and then gradually moved into getting paid to play around the world. They're living the dream while I'm struggling with drug addiction-- looks like I shoulda listened to mom a long time ago.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: empty space]
#22328108 - 10/03/15 01:02 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Because it was a promise to my father that I'd be the first in our family to get a Bachelor's before he died of cancer a few years ago. His eldest dying three days before that. I'm his youngest.
I've already received my AA this year and am now in an accelerated program to be done basically once I'm done with probation, on the understanding I literally don't fuck up again, this one I just did is going to haunt me more so than my Felony charges.
But yeah, I also was getting paid to get my AA, about $2,000 a semester. I'm going to a free university (through all my grants) but otherwise, I'm sort of fucked for a real job.
Not that I ever had much interest in a lot of this stuff in the first place but I've learned a lot of myself and met some amazing people.
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