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Getting to know girls in classes
#22275913 - 09/22/15 07:32 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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How do you go about approaching a girl in one of your classes (general ed, college) who you're just a stranger to?
In all of my classes you just sit down, get lectured, get up and leave.
Is it too creeper to just sit down next to the girl you wanna talk to one day and try to start conversation? Feels like coming on too strong to me for some reason.
There's couple cute brown girls I'd wanna get with if I could but I have no clue what the fuck to do because I'm a loser
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YaMoonSun
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22275935 - 09/22/15 07:36 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Wing it? "Hey Im blah blah, wanna go grab some food?"
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: YaMoonSun]
#22275976 - 09/22/15 07:43 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I would say approach the more ugly ones at first without being noticed by the cute ones. This should boost your confidence in some way. In my experience its better to just get into the swing of communicating effectively with people and being confident than having any one approach.
I mean you could try this with the hotties but if you don't have your game very tight and aren't confident to begin with I think its smarter to at least become comfortable around most females.
And yea it is fine to just sit next to them in class.
And to be honest saying things like I'm a loser wreaks of low self esteem, and that's pretty much the thing women hate the most. They would rather have someone who is abusive than someone with low self esteem most the time... Maybe you should try and figure out why you think your a loser and start working on that while doing what I said in the first place.
2 cents...
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: YaMoonSun] 1
#22275983 - 09/22/15 07:45 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Starting a friendly conversation is not creepy...
Just don't talk about creepy things?
"Hello" generally works as an icebreaker :V
Honestly, you might get nervous and end up sounding like a dork the first few times, but the more you try the more you'll get used to it and you'll get more comfortable and not sound like a dork any more.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: micro]
#22276541 - 09/22/15 09:42 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Just stand in front of them and smile. When they notice you, smile bigger, and say something like "Hi, I'm {name} and when I noticed you, I just had to introduce myself."
If she pepper sprays you, work on your smile in front of a mirror before trying again.
Be prepared for a conversation though before you do this. If she says "Oh? And why is that?" or "Does that line ever work for you?" or "Can you please never talk to me again?" know what you'll say. Work on articulating what attracts you to her - like "Your eyes are captivating. They literally stopped me in my tracks." etc. etc.
Preparedness is key. It'll keep you from being nervous. Also don't be afraid to fail. Laugh about it, and remember that most guys are too backwards to even approach her in the first place.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Srirachi]
#22280005 - 09/23/15 06:20 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Just ask about the hw and shit you do in class.. Maybe we could study together sometime? Here, take my number so we can meet up and talk about the lecture
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy]
#22281745 - 09/23/15 11:31 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Malcolm_Xtasy said: Just ask about the hw and shit you do in class.. Maybe we could study together sometime? Here, take my number so we can meet up and talk about the lecture
Honestly just do this... haha its too easy.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Rainman420] 1
#22284218 - 09/24/15 02:26 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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If you can pull of the study together thing go for that. But genuinely you need to build rapport with someone before straight up asking to hang out after class. Especially if class has been going on for a while and you've never so much as hinted as being interested.
More often then not if you talk to everyone. And I mean everyone, teacher, students, old dude, young guys, old lady that smiles at everyone l. The girl will notice and will smile at you. This is when you smile back and the best part is you don't even have to approach them right away or sometimes at all. They will find a way to talk to you. Provided you talk care of your body and hygiene and look sharp.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#22291412 - 09/26/15 01:01 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Just stroll into class, with your portable speakers or cell phone blasting some Skinny Puppy, approach the nearest, attractive girl, throw yourself down into the chair next to her, swing your feet up on the table, completely ignore her, light a cigarette in the middle of class and then slowly roll your gaze, sideways, to look into her eyes and say, "wanna grab a bite?". Works every time.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Chakra Shock]
#22310477 - 09/29/15 07:29 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
Chakra Shock said: Just stroll into class, with your portable speakers or cell phone blasting some Skinny Puppy, approach the nearest, attractive girl, throw yourself down into the chair next to her, swing your feet up on the table, completely ignore her, light a cigarette in the middle of class and then slowly roll your gaze, sideways, to look into her eyes and say, "wanna grab a bite?". Works every time. 
Thanks.
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: LackToast]
#22310492 - 09/29/15 07:31 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
LackToast said: If you can pull of the study together thing go for that. But genuinely you need to build rapport with someone before straight up asking to hang out after class. Especially if class has been going on for a while and you've never so much as hinted as being interested.
More often then not if you talk to everyone. And I mean everyone, teacher, students, old dude, young guys, old lady that smiles at everyone l. The girl will notice and will smile at you. This is when you smile back and the best part is you don't even have to approach them right away or sometimes at all. They will find a way to talk to you. Provided you talk care of your body and hygiene and look sharp.
JK I'm gonna do this
Tried the other approach, not so forward but definitely not opaque in my intent... glad I haven't done that to every one of them yet haha thanks for real
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22310508 - 09/29/15 07:35 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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except she sits in the back near the door and is up and out like asap... I really don't see how I'll ever get a chance to talk with her if I just don't sit down next to her one day
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22310551 - 09/29/15 07:46 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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How about you don't overthink it?
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#22312545 - 09/30/15 05:57 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Dude you're like one step away from "Missed Connections" on Craigslist being your legit best option if you don't act soon. Some other cat is going to do something you wish you'd have done and after you've built this thing up to a mountain in your mind, you'll wind up watching him and her stroll out of class together and you'll want to die because you didn't act sooner.
Now listen to me man. You need to do something TODAY.
Regret for never having tried hurts longer than rejection. I doubt anyone who looks back on their life ever thinks "Gee, I wish I hadn't gotten rejected" but
they damn sure wish they'd have risked more and tried more things.
DAMNIT MAN, CLAIM HER VAGINA AND PLANT A FLAG! Do it for her. Do it for you. Do it for creepy old fuckers like me who live vicariously through young men like yourself.
I want a report back today, and I want you to have her 'gina juice on your fingers when you type. What's the worst that can happen? She says no? How is that worse than how it feels to have never tried?
Do this, and a whole world you never knew existed will open up before you, a world in which you can ask any girl you want to go out with you without fear. A world in which the self-confidence you begin to build will translate into happiness. A world in which you never again have to feel awkward or out of your element. Isn't it worth pushing yourself out of your comfort zone in order to find genuine happiness?
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Srirachi]
#22313131 - 09/30/15 09:28 AM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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ya
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22314005 - 09/30/15 01:02 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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im 26 at college and i just twiddle my thumbs lol i peaked at 15 im like a weirdo right now without a job too...
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Srirachi]
#22314072 - 09/30/15 01:17 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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alright dude this girl I started talking to last weak said for sure when I said we should hang out because she seems cool
put my # in her phone
what now (she's busy this weekend)
what would be a good thing to do when/if we meet up?
I'm like 9 years older than her lol I don't think she knows
Edited by Anonymous (09/30/15 01:18 PM)
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Anonymous #1] 2
#22314098 - 09/30/15 01:21 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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netflix n chill
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jahrastafareye
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Anonymous #3] 1
#22314117 - 09/30/15 01:29 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ghetto blaster on one shoulder, skateboard on the other. Snapback hats, sunglasses and a leather jacket. If that doesnt get their attention nothing will.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Getting to know girls in classes [Re: Anonymous #3]
#22314651 - 09/30/15 03:12 PM (8 years, 3 months ago) |
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lol idk about that...
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