Home | Community | Message Board


This site includes paid links. Please support our sponsors.


Welcome to the Shroomery Message Board! You are experiencing a small sample of what the site has to offer. Please login or register to post messages and view our exclusive members-only content. You'll gain access to additional forums, file attachments, board customizations, encrypted private messages, and much more!

Kraken Kratom Shop: Red Vein Kratom

Jump to first unread post Pages: 1
Anonymous #1

Am I too defensive?
    #22260214 - 09/19/15 01:12 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

In middle school I got picked on, nothing major but it still hadva pretty profound effect so over the years I've developed a take no shit attitude, but sometimes I wonder if I am too defensive over small shit.

A couple examples: Yesterday in one of my classes I was trying to listen to my professor and the dipshit behind me kept rolling his skateboard into my desk with his feet. No big deal I thought, he probably isn't doing it on purpose. Then he pocked my head with his skateboard a few minutes later.

I look at him, slide my desk,backwards towards him, get in his face a tell him very calmly and matter of factly that I will fuck him up. He just kinda gives me this goofy smile and so I told him one last time, don't fuck with me dude. I then moved my desk forward and the dude didn't fuck with me for the rest of class.

Another example would be the other day at Wal-Mart. My friend and I were looking around and these two dudes come up to us and ask which one of us is named Steve. At first I thought he was being serious so I was just like none of us are named Steve. Once I realized I was just being fucked with, the guys were walking away so I just called out "Have a great night, pussies!" And they just stopped and looked at me and didn't say anything. I know, kinda immature of me but I just don't like being fucked with and I get pretty irked when random people try to mess with me while I'm just in my own world all fine and happy.

Do you guys think I get too defensive or are these natural responses?


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #2

Re: Am I too defensive? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #22260246 - 09/19/15 01:24 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

If I was skateboard guy, you would have been on the ground with metal trucks about to smash your teeth in for getting in my face over some petty shit like that. Loosen up & don't take little issues, like someone asking if you're steve, to the butt


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #1

Re: Am I too defensive? [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #22260260 - 09/19/15 01:26 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

Well honestly my education is quite important and the pretentious little bastard was interfering with that.

Gotta let people know you aren't a force to be fucked with.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #2

Re: Am I too defensive? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #22260288 - 09/19/15 01:34 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

Maybe I visualized the situation more innocent on his part then I should have.. Either way lighten up man, no need to come at people so sideways over shit that you'll forget about in a few days time


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #2

Re: Am I too defensive? [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #22260295 - 09/19/15 01:35 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

+ if you have to ask yourself the question "Am I too defensive?" You're probably too defensive.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflinelillFish
Daydreamer
Female User Gallery


Registered: 01/18/09
Posts: 1,347
Loc: Recliner Flag
Last seen: 10 days, 7 hours
Re: Am I too defensive? [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #22260453 - 09/19/15 02:28 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

Maybe you came on a little too strong. People like that feed off of that reaction you give them. If he does it on purpose to annoy you, the best thing you can do is to ignore him.


--------------------
My Wish & Trade list


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineGiftofdeprivation
Discerning Vagrant
Male User Gallery


Registered: 07/20/13
Posts: 3,933
Last seen: 8 years, 28 days
Re: Am I too defensive? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #22260466 - 09/19/15 02:31 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

Yeah, you escalated both of those situations pretty quickly. It's fine that you take all power struggle relations so seriously and you expressed that well, but if you run into another person with the same pathology, it's going to get ugly.

You were picked on a lot (I was too when I was young), so you see confrontation everywhere. Sometimes people are just ignorant and you have to educate them (without completely scaring the shit out of them). "Hey man, I'm trying to listen to the teacher, here and you are very distracting, please stop." Then if he doesn't stop, yeah, explain that he's pissing you off and shit's going to escalate (still probably not as extreme as you presented it) The ideal is to be calm and collected, trust me, that's far scarier and promotes more obedience in a confrontation. Not to mention it definitely won't attract more hostility.

Your mode is ideal for some low income areas and wartime, but idk how far you can get in an academic/occupational setting with intimidation as your "modus operandi".


--------------------

Looking for recipes? Have some recipes to share?
Please post what you have in the official cooking thread for Pubbers!
HERE!
Shoutout to Azur's Official cooking thread for OTDers!
Posters Beware!


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineMs Eva
Human
Female


Registered: 05/14/15
Posts: 24
Last seen: 8 years, 1 month
Re: Am I too defensive? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #22263031 - 09/20/15 12:38 AM (8 years, 4 months ago)

It's hard to say whether you're too sensitive. I think most people would feel annoyed in either scenario (especially with the skateboard guy). But I would say you might be a little more defensive than you need to be.

It makes sense that you would need to swing the pendulum the opposite way for a while, given what you experienced in middle school. Hopefully over time and with experience you'll find a middle-ground. :heart:

I like to kill em with kindness when possible. :wink:


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
InvisibleDoctor Sponge
He's off on a tangent
Male User Gallery


Registered: 05/03/12
Posts: 11,795
Loc: the desert Flag
Re: Am I too defensive? [Re: Ms Eva]
    #22266150 - 09/20/15 05:49 PM (8 years, 4 months ago)

no skate board dude is an idiot i woulda checked him if his board or feet touched me let alone my head i woulda slapped the shit outta him and walmart dudes i wpulda told em to go fuck their mothers


--------------------


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Offlinebrokentv
 User Gallery
Registered: 03/02/12
Posts: 2,417
Last seen: 6 years, 8 months
Re: Am I too defensive? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #22277240 - 09/23/15 01:10 AM (8 years, 4 months ago)

I would say that yeah your reaction to these two examples is a bit overboard, but I can imagine how irritating these situations can be. I kind of admire being able to get right in someones face when they are bothering you, wish I had it in me to do that sometimes. I do think though that going about a situation like this could easily backfire. The guy in your class probably didn't have a clue of what he was doing. Instead of getting hostile, being direct with him about what he was doing would have been enough. I imagine as grown as he may have looked he's still just a kid trying to fit in probably not even sure whys he is even in school.
The people in the second scenario remind me of the types that are going out looking to start trouble, and depending on who these people are, that could have turned into a real situation at best resulting in charges and worse somebody getting really hurt or where i'm from shot.
Like a poster above said unless you have to say something just ignore the trivial bullshit of these kinds of people otherwise your just feeding them. Be compassionate. Its weird but it makes you the bigger man and you will actually start to realize how sad these sorts of people are.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Jump to top Pages: 1

Kraken Kratom Shop: Red Vein Kratom


Similar ThreadsPosterViewsRepliesLast post
* Skateboarding dutchmasterr 1,058 18 01/05/10 09:15 PM
by SeanAH
* longboard skateboards, dog harness, dog, leash machination 1,178 1 01/09/08 02:20 PM
by Lion
* Am I Becoming Schizophrenic?
( 1 2 all )
PsychedelicGinge 1,383 21 04/15/14 12:46 AM
by circastes
* do u think this kid's gonne be a rapist? i kinda do
( 1 2 all )
Sheekle 2,640 24 01/08/12 11:17 PM
by withoutawire
* Tips and/or advice on how to get out of a deep depression.
( 1 2 all )
Anonymous 3,155 33 11/27/15 10:09 PM
by foodsgoodtoo
* alcohol kills again
( 1 2 all )
cronicrFacebook 1,915 29 07/19/14 12:35 PM
by ManianFH
* To help those in need Achuma 514 4 07/22/14 05:32 PM
by Spacerific
* I need some fucking help guys(cant sleep)
( 1 2 3 all )
mrgibblet 8,411 59 05/14/12 09:04 AM
by LuSiD9

Extra information
You cannot start new topics / You cannot reply to topics
HTML is disabled / BBCode is enabled
Moderator: CherryBom, Rose, mndfreeze, yogabunny, feevers, CookieCrumbs, Northerner
614 topic views. 0 members, 0 guests and 1 web crawlers are browsing this forum.
[ Show Images Only | Sort by Score | Print Topic ]
Search this thread:

Copyright 1997-2024 Mind Media. Some rights reserved.

Generated in 0.028 seconds spending 0.006 seconds on 15 queries.